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By Carrie Kingsley, Common Sense Media Reviewer

age 4+

Powerful picture book about girl who's told she's too big.

Big book cover: Black girl in a tutu holding the letter "i" in the title

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age 14+

Based on 1 parent review

age 14+

Is It Any Good?

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The softly colored illustrations have a big impact in this compelling picture book, conveying the big feelings triggered by hurtful language, and the effect of helpful and healing words. Big has few words on each page, but the moody pastel palette reveals deep emotions: happiness, confusion, sadness, strength. There's a lot of social-emotional learning here, as readers see how deeply words and actions can impact a child, especially as she learns to take up her own space in the world. Readers see the difference between meaningful actions and empty gestures, as well as the value of speaking up. The sophisticated concepts of adultification and anti-fat bias are portrayed in age-appropriate ways. This lovely picture book provides adults with a means to discuss important topics with young readers.

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