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All parent reviews for How I Live Now

Age
13
Parent of 13 and 15 year old
June 29, 2009
 
A worthwhile but haunting high school book with difficult themes.
First of all, this book does contain non-explicit descriptions of a sexual relationship between two young (14 and 15) first cousins. Although this is described as incestuous in the main review, it is, in fact, legal in many states (including Georgia) and marriage between first cousins is common throughout history. The sexual affair is not dealt with in a tawdry way, and I did not feel that it was graphic or glamorized. The ramifications of the affair are dealt with, and the two characters are irrevocably bonded - with a fidelity that transcends war, distance, time, and trauma. The novel does contain some graphic descriptions a fictional future war that are all the more horrifying because the reader feels that the events in the novel could potentially happen. The fact that the violence is realistic and plausible could give more sensitive readers feelings of fear or anxiety and parents/educators should be sensitive to the potential. The book handles many difficult issues in a way that I felt gave a very positive message. The main character, Daisy, responds with courage and strength in the face of horrific circumstances after a series of terrorist attacks leave the country in chaos. In the absence of adults, she protects her young cousin and survives by living off the countryside and learning map/navigational skills. She is anorexic at the start of the novel, but realizes the selfishness of intentionally starving after living through a genuine crisis. Daisy and her cousin Edmund have an intense emotional and sexual affair in the face of what could be the end of the world. As mentioned previously, they are faithful to one another through the most horrible events, distance, and trauma - Daisy stays with Edmund as an adult even after he is horribly scarred by the war. The lack of consequences (pregnancy) is explained by Daisy's ammenorrea. While some may feel that any sexual behavior by teens is inappropriate, I felt that this novel dealt with sexuality in a way that was fair and not-glamorized. There is one scene where the girls accidently eat bad mushrooms while foraging for food to survive and hallucinate. The depiction of the night is horrific and it is a clearly negative view of a drug experience. Positive messages in the novel surround themes of fidelity, self-sacrifice, survival, and self-reliance. There is a strong message of self-sustainable life choices at the end. Proponents of am ecological, back-to-the earth, sustainable farming/living vision will find much to admire. I would not hesitate to recommend this novel to high school students and would not have any qualms about my children reading it in 9th-12th grade.

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Adult
April 9, 2008
 
Awesome awesome book!
I loved this book. I love how Meg Rosoff wrote it with an indescribably amusing slang. If you really pay attention you'll notice she doesn't use any quotations marks at all. :)

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Adult
April 9, 2008
 
an exceptional piece of literature - teen/adult book
This is one of my favourite books, the author creates a magic from the first sentence. It is incredibly romantic (especially because of the theme of telepathy) with a voice that betters even that of Cassandra in "I Capture The Castle". There is something very laid back about the novel and evokes the sense of just one lazy summer afternoon- even thought it deals with strong issues. Slightly incestuous but seeing as it is legal to marry one's cousin it is not incredibly shocking. Issues that in many other teen books are analysed and wrote about to death are mentioned with just a few sentences, such as Daisy's anorexia and underage sex. Perhaps this adds to the magical value and the way that the children seem detached from the rest of the world. As does the fact that the reader has no idea what time the story is set or why there is a war. But the way that the story is written means that you don't really feel the need to know details like this which would be important in any other novel. It is astonishingly awe-inspiring and beautifully written.

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Adult
April 9, 2008
 
Hmm...
I cannot deny that this book was an extreme page turner. I read it in one day. I think that this author is one of the bravest people I know, whatwith portraying incest, underage sex, smoking, and anorexia in a not so negative light. This book should definatly NOT be read by anyone under the age of 14 in my opinion. On the cover it says that the narrator, Daisy, is "witty", and I agree with that. I am not so sure however, about the book being "magical". This is probably the last book in the universe I would call "magical." It is extremely heavy, in some parts very graphic, and not a good book for very impressionable people. I have extremely mixed feelings for this book. I think it is a good wakeup call---not to teens, but to parents, well written, and creative. But I also think that it is disturbing, a little too brave, and the fact that I think that people should be warned before reading this is not good. This is an extremely edgy book.

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Parent of 7, 10, and 12 year old
January 22, 2010
 

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Adult
December 6, 2009
 
well- written novel, perfect for kids at the age of 12+
I have read this novel in class and i must say, that i enjoiyed reading it. The main character, Daisy, experiences first love, to care for somebody, war, and how to stay alive during the war. There are a lot of feelings in this novel. When i've read "How I Live Now" i really thought about life. That its not a matter of course that we have peace and freedom in our country. I thought about how it would be like to starv because of food rareness and armed soldiers around me. All in all i think it was a good book, I read it with pleasure and I woul definately recommend it.

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Adult
December 7, 2009
 
THE BOOK IS AWSOME!!!!! KIDS SHOULD READ THIS
OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!! I loved the book!!!!!!!! i cried at end poor edmund!!!!!!!!!!!! but the book was very good !!!!!! I LOVE IT !!!!! I WISH SHE WOULD RIGHT A 2ND BOOK TO THIS ONE !!!!!!!!!!! I LOVE HOW I LIVE NOW !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This book helps you understand what true and first love feels like! I also helps to understand what life is like when your in a war. Then ur lover is seperted for a 6 year time ! but he is so messed up he was diffrent!!! im so sad for him even though it is just a book !!!!!!!!!!!

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Parent of 15 and 16 year old
May 11, 2010
 
Who Gives a Book Like This an Award? Ugh!
I think this book is entirely inappropriate for teens. There are no positive authority figures. (The father is described in derisive language and the aunt is distant and uninvolved in her many children's lives.) The anorexia is defended by the protagonist and it vanishes when she is forced to care for a young cousin in a war zone. The incest between a 14 and a 15 year old is portrayed as a positive relationship. The violence and gore is included with the intent of being "shocking" and cutting edge, but the overall descriptions of the war and the protagonist's response to it are completely unrealistic. The people who give these kind of books awards and push them towards librarians for teens do not have teens themselves, or if they do, they have lost all conscience and have no desire to maintain the power of childhood, but view it as a vacuum to fill with "REALITY", i.e. the worst this world contains, as soon as possible.

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Parent of 3 year old
February 18, 2009
 

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Parent of 2 year old
January 18, 2009
 

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Adult
January 11, 2009
 

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Parent of 4 year old
January 8, 2009
 

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Parent of 8 and 10 year old
January 7, 2009
 
A great story for teenage girls. The cousin romance plot gives a unique perspective on love.

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Parent of 5, 9, and 10 year old
January 5, 2009
 

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Parent of 13, 18, and 21 year old
January 5, 2009
 
A beautiful and sad little book. There is no incest in this book. Marriage between cousins is legal in most countries. Besides, to call the love between Daisy and Edmond incest is downright hateful.

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Parent of 7, 11, 14, and 17 year old
January 4, 2009
 

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Adult
April 9, 2008
 

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