Parents need to know that this book is a gem. Without violence, bad language, or sex, this story honestly explores the journey -- both physical and emotional -- made by three girls to visit their estranged mother. Delphine and her sisters are thoughtful, delightful characters. Cecile (the mother) abandoned her three daughters when they were infants and
makes no apology for it -- she doesn't want them to visit her and she
barely cares for them. But there is more to Cecile's character than just
being a deadbeat mom, as she represents changing times in America. The story is set in Oakland 1968, and as such, civil action and unrest are part of the story, but are subtle and informational rather than direct and preachy.
Educational value:The author seamlessly weaves information about life in 1968 Oakland into the story. Readers learn about the changing social times, how people in California verses New York experienced racism, the Black Panther movement, and the general climate of freedom fighting. Details about change are subtle: Idlewild Airport becomes JFK, "negro" becomes "black," Cassius Clay becomes Muhammad Ali, "ma'am" becomes "sister or "brother."
Positive messages:A multitude of positive mesages in this book, including responsibility, loyalty, overcoming one's past, moving through stereotypes, being open to change, making one's own decisions, making good decisions, respect, and both personal and societal freedom.
Positive role models:Delphine, the main character, is a good role model. She is responsible for her sisters, makes difficult and quick decisions, knows how to read prickly situations and people very well, she is kind and smart, and open to growing beyond her own understanding. Big Ma and Pa are strong role models for their devotion to the kids and their values of respect and responsibility. Cecile is not a good role model, as she abandoned her kids to pursue her life of poetry and to be free, but she does represent behavior which contributed to changing roles for women. Many good kid and adult characters exist in this story.
Violence:A minor character's father was arrested for his political beliefs, and the police knocked down his door at dinner time in front of the kids. Cecile was arrested but there was no violence about it.
Language:"Jesus," "Negro," "China boy," and "shut up."
Consumerism:The author mentions products and TV shows as a way to place the story into a time period, including Get Smart,Captain Kangaroo, Flipper, Mike Douglas Show, I Spy, Mission: Impossible, Timex, Ajax, Pine-Sol, Safeway, Candy Land, Disneyland, and Magic Markers.
LOVE It! it teaches kids about segrigation and black and white ppl being apart but the smoking wont be a good role model when i read it to my kids in the future
This book is a very good book and it teaches people how to deal with certain situations. The book is something i can relate to because i was taken from my mother and at times wish i can try to get back in touch w/ her but i am not sure if that is what my mother wants. Maybe if parents read this book they will realize that what they have is a good thing and that they should never give up and just keep pushing forward. I know there are parents out there who are very good to there kids and i want to say keep it that way. But for the parents out there who are not good to their kids need to try to be good to their kids because one day your kids will despise you and not want anything to do with you.