this book is not for everyone in the sense that the mood is dark and some may not like it. elena gilbert may do what she needs to get what she wants, but she is a troubled teen that severely feels like an outsider while she is the most popular girl in school. she is loyal to her friends and town, though, especially when she died for them. yes, the main character lies, all teens do or else they wouldn't be teenagers. the violence isn't that bad, not graphic, though it wont give kids nightmares, and if they're over the age of 9, probably have seen far worse. now these guys are vampires, so they obviously dont feel remorse ore regret,and it wouldn't be a true (good) vampire book if the vampires were sparkling ballerinas. elena, the main character, is indeed a virgin (mentioned in 6th book), although sex is implied, they dont actually do it. the worst sex is in the 5th book when elenas past friend has sex for attention and ends up pregnant. yeah, a guy gets drunk once, a heck lot of teens do. the role models might not be that good, but they aren't the kind of characters anyone would want to be like.