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Is Jon & Kate Still OK for Kids?


We all get surprised when the media teaches our kids something we don't want them to know yet. Marital infidelity is a mature topic that can cause confusion -- and real grief -- in little kids who count on mom and dad to always be there for them.

Jon & Kate Plus 8 started as a wholesome show chronicling the realities of raising twins and sextuplets. We saw them going on vacation. We saw Kate getting her hair done. We saw a million diaper changes. All of which was fine fare for kids 7 and older.

But, the new season starts off with Jon and Kate accusing each other of infidelity. For little kids who don't understand the concept of cheating, this is not the way you want to introduce the subject, and certainly not the age to do so.

As kids begin separating more from their parents around the early teen years, they gain the maturity to understand that each parent -- and child -- operates independently from each other. Relationships are complex -- which is partly why Jon and Kate are interesting to watch. But do you really want a TV show to introduce your kids to mature relationship issues before they're ready? Tell us what you think: Is it OK for kids to watch Jon & Kate this season?

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Is it OK for kids to watch Jon & Kate this season?

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Hermione710
Posted by Hermione710 on 11/4/2009 (kid contributor, age 10)

I watch this a lot. THIS IS MY FAV SHOW!!!!!! I think that it's appropriate, and everyone should like it. But don't blame Kate, blame Jon!

Hermione710
Posted by Hermione710 on 11/4/2009 (kid contributor, age 10)

I watch this a lot. THIS IS MY FAV SHOW!!!!!! I think that it's appropriate, and everyone should like it. But don't blame Kate, blame Jon!

FreedomFromCensorship
Posted by FreedomFromCensorship on 10/19/2009 (adult contributor)

Do kids even really want to watch this at all? I don't really see what a kid who could probably be watching something like Spongebob instead find so interesting in a "reality show" like this. Even my younger brother found the show boring, and went back to gaming shortly after. The only real audience I see this marketing to is parents of young children. There's plenty out there that's better for a kid's entertainment anyway.

Posted by shmulik98 on 07/27/2009 (kid contributor, age 11)

Ok, about 4,00 dollars per episode, 25 episodes per season, 5 seasons.

THEY ARE FREAKIN RICH DIVORCED OR NOT!

Posted by popscifan1 on 07/26/2009 (teen contributor, age 16)

Of course they were getting paid, to pass up on this opportunity would have been irresponsible because they had 10 mouths to feed and eventually put through college. The kids weren't being exploited, they were being provided for.

DBarto
Posted by DBarto on 07/25/2009 (adult contributor)

To answer this, I will just re post the review I did for Jon & Kate Plus 8

Not anymore the wholesome family we came to know and love

This is a tough review for me, because I come from a dysfunctional family where my dad was always sick (he would later pass away when I was 14), my grandparents hated my guts, I was disowned by my dad's family for speaking of politics at the dinner table, so I naturally loved this show because I would think to myself, "So this is what a real family is like." But now finding out this show (not the early episodes but the later ones) are scripted is almost like a slap to the face for someone who just wanted to see what a normal family is like. Now with this whole controversial "divorce" going on, I have no idea what to think of the show anymore. I use to take time out of my day to watch this show, but not anymore. I use to think of Jon and Kate as a roll model for parents, I even bought their book, but now I wouldn't think of even picking that book up to glance at. Enough of my dislikes for the "cast", the show does attempt to show a "normal" family (that is if that family had 8 kids), but now there is no point of even turning it on because TLC had exploited them to the point that it has turned two loving parents against themselves to the point where they are getting a divorce. My big question is, how could two parents exploit there kids like Jon and Kate have? It was disappointing to find out that they were getting paid this whole time. Since they split up Jon was looking for an apartment at Trump Towers. This show shows negative roll models, and the messages it sends across are mixed. 1 out of 5
In conclusion, I feel that it is no longer appropriate for kids

Posted by xavier12345 on 07/25/2009 (adult contributor)

The internet is buzzing over Jon Gosselin's girlfriend. The reason as to why anyone wants to know anything about Jon Gosselin's girlfriend or the Gosselins in general is because they might not have enough time on their hands, but at any rate, he is already dating again, a 22 year old named Hailey Glassman, and a lot of people are consequently looking for a Hailey Glassman mugshot, as few pictures of her are out there.

Posted by kaytopian on 07/24/2009 (kid contributor, age 11)

I acctually tihnk its sad. i mean the family was a loving, caring and cute family. i think the money has turned them into two different people. at first john seemed as though he was a loving and nurturing father but it turns out her parties with 22 year old women at bars! some role model.

Posted by k8nadamsmommy on 07/23/2009 (adult contributor)

will never watch this show again. In the beginning, I could relate as a parent of a demanding toddler... they have six for goodness sake! It gave me hope that I could make it through the day with my one demanding toddler. Watching them struggle to make it through the day with their busy, normal lives was inspiring. I even used to defend Kate when I heard people say critical things... after all, every army needs a general, right? I know that I am the general around my house, for sure! However, I used to hear the way Kate spoke to Jon and pray that I never spoke to my kind, sweet husband like that! They used to be like every family on the block... worrying about how to stretch a dollar at the grocery store and how to sneak out of the house to squeeze errands into the 2 hour nap window of freedom.

Slowly, but surely, the dynamics of the show/their lives changed, and I decided not to watch any more shortly before they moved to the latest house. Watching the show evolve into TLC-sponsored field trips got to be a little difficult to tolerate. Listening to the arguing and sniping got to be too much to take. They became totally unrelatable to me. Perhaps there is some demographic out there in tv land that will appreciate watching this new phase of their lives, but it is not me.

Now, it is no longer a show about a family struggling to make it in the face of overwhelming circumstances... it has become a show about a family who sold their collective souls to the network. It is no longer inspirational, it is heartbreaking! I have no desire to see their struggles with the photographers camped outside their sprawling estate. I do not wish to see how they deal with this divorce, new relationships, sharing a house during this estrangement... this is nothing but a trainwreck.

How can they possibly think that filming this is going to do any good for their children? They need to get the cameras out of their house and move on to other projects that will afford them a lifestyle that will insulate their children from the cameras that they imposed on them throughout their childhoods.

Posted by ezral5 on 06/16/2009 (adult contributor)

I watched this show with my kids (5 boys) from the start. We all loved it because it showed another large family and they loved to watch and see that there was indeed some chaos in other homes too!! After the end of the last season - the way Jon and Kate were hardly talking on the couch and things were awkward I wasn't sure it would even come back. When the media hype started I really wasn't sure what to think as there are always two sides to every story so when the 5th season started I wasn't really sure what to do as the kids were begging to watch it. We made a deal and taped it and watched it that way in case I thought it wasn't really going in a good direction (infidelity talk, etc) so we all sat down to watch and it was off within 15 minutes. The show is just not the same those two are not the same and it's not something I will watch again or let the kids watch. Now I just have to figure out how to get them to stop asking every time they see a pic of Jon or Kate somewhere...which these days is everywhere....UGH They should just take it off the air no one wants to watch that train wreck.

Posted by mahouston69 on 06/16/2009 (parent contributor)

My children are all adults and it is NOT appropriate for them to watch. It advocates discord, infedlity, and verbal abuse. All while putting the childrens needs after the adults. No thanks. I am not watching it anymore and my five sons aren't either.

Posted by jennifer125 on 06/16/2009 (parent contributor)

I hate to see a couple that has been threw as much as the two of them have been threw be in a situation like this. And the media rack them over the coals. I have faith that they will get threw this. as fas as is this season ok for kids to watch this is reality and weather you as a parent want to face it or not you cannot shield you children from it forever. If you belive that your kids should not watch it then dont let them but to bash the gosslins all over the internet shows you what kind of people you really are!!

Posted by Barbara110 on 06/16/2009 (adult contributor)

I have watched this show since it started, and enjoyed it very much. I do not like the negative comments made about the children or parents. What anyone would do in there past and present situation is hard to decide. I do believe that Kate and Jon have done very well by the children considering what they had when they started. No one has forced anyone to give them anything, if someone wants to give them something it is their choice and Jon and Kate's to accept. I feel, unfortunately, that marriage problems in today's world is reality, and given their pressures problems are bound to happen of all types. I sincerely do hope that monies from the show are being put in a trust fund to continue to help the children with their future, as well as the parents now. I hope they can continue to grow together and remember the love they had for each other and especially the children.

Posted by joschmo on 06/16/2009 (adult contributor)

My 13 year old daughter used to watch it and thought the kids were adorable. Now she's turned off to it and I told her frankly I don't want her to watch it anyway. She's 15 and I still monitor what she watches, not just for the rating, but for how it taints her innocent mind. I think this show is toxic. I puts me in a bad mood and it can't be good for her. I stopped watching it. I think if TLC had any integrity, they would pull it.

Posted by xoSPRINKLESxo on 06/16/2009 (parent contributor)

My boys ages 10 & 6 thinks they are getting divorced because Jon didn't use a coupon. So this is their take. What I thought was an innocent show for them to watch is no more. They always ask me if the show is "real". I have told them not anymore it isn't. We do not watch anymore because my kids have brought to my attention many things like why does Kate smack Jon and why do they think it is funny.

Posted by summerfun on 06/16/2009 (adult contributor)

The principle is very simple. What comes from your mouth lives in your heart. Kate has no respect for her marriage or her husband. It seems that she enjoys being in the limelight over saving her family and marriage. On the show Jon and Kate have both expressed that they "will do whatever it takes to be there for their children". Never do they mention or show respect for their marriage. Sick sick.... I cringe when I see them in the tabloids and it nauseates me to watch their show.

Posted by smore1 on 06/16/2009 (parent contributor)

We do not watch this show anymore.It would not be possible with that many family members working on 1 income to afford the things they have. Also my daughter never liked the way Kate talked to or about Jon. She does it in front of the kids and anybody else who is there. It is demoralizing to him and does not show the children how to talk effectively without insult.

Posted by Taishar68 on 06/12/2009 (adult contributor)

Simply put, if you watch this show, at all, you lack the necessary intelligence sufficient to raise a child anyway.

Seriously...reality TV? This form of...entertainment...is simply bottom-feeder mentality at its worst, or, in another context, its best; the buzz surrounding the show has surely increased ratings and ad rates. We as a society have forsaken art in our entertainment for shock value and cheap drama; in essence all TV is now soap operas, just with non-actors playing the parts. Who is fascinated by watching people get their nails done? Or a visit to a tire store?

Want to provide real, quality information and entertainment to your children, and yourselves? Read. Watch movies and shows that treat their audiences with enough respect to assume they can understand its content. Good luck.

Posted by aginghippie43 on 06/12/2009 (adult contributor)

I don't think anyone shouold be watching. This show has outlived its value--educational and entertainment. These are not very nice--or mature--adults. Are they modeling behaviors you would want your children to see--including Kate's well-documented lack of respect for Jon,and often her children? Why support their lifestyle by watching?

Posted by Ubentus1984 on 06/11/2009 (adult contributor)

Jon & Kate used to be an interesting show about a large family and how they dealt with normal peoples' struggles. But now that they have moved from their $250K house-neighborhood to their $1.250M house and are living large, they are not normal anymore! Their vacations to all over the country, Kate's FREE tummy tuck, Jon's hair transplants, and GAP unlimited shopping sprees demonstrate how NOT normal they are. They have become darlings of the media and are exploiting their kids for the money and wrecking their own home in the process. In addition, the parents ill-behavior has garnered more attention than necessary, and is doing their own kids more harm than good, let alone anyone watching the show. I, personally, no longer watch the show, and would not recommend it to anyone. They have become just another statistic and give decent Christian families a bad name. Get a little money, and everybody's worst side comes out. Ugh! Their promises to stay together no matter what, that they will work out their problems because "they've been through so much already" ring extremely hollow and a bad joke given Jon's and Kate's most recently reported behavior. They are the epitomy of what NOT to become. I am very disappointed and angry that TLC continues to air the show, presumably for the ratings and damn the image that is conveyed. TLC shows very low regard for their viewing audience by continuing to air the show.

Posted by TimothyX on 06/9/2009 (adult contributor)

For me kids should not be expose to the tv program that are not suitable at their young age. They might absorb the wrong values such as( infidelity) on the program that they are watching. It is much better if parents will encourage them to watch documentary film or something that is informative. Expose your kids to something, which they will enjoy like concert. Recently they had John Legend and Green Day perform, with the Jonas Brothers, Jamie Foxx, and the cast of Hair set to perform later on in the month. Good Morning America concerts are usually quite the event, and many people flock to Central Park to see them, though you might need a small cash advance for tickets through gmaconcerts.com.

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Posted by TimothyX on 06/9/2009 (adult contributor)

For me kids should not be expose to the tv program that are not suitable at their young age. They might absorb the wrong values such as( infidelity) on the program that they are watching. It is much better if parents will encourage them to watch documentary film or something that is informative. Expose your kids to something, which they will enjoy like concert. Recently they had John Legend and Green Day perform, with the Jonas Brothers, Jamie Foxx, and the cast of Hair set to perform later on in the month. Good Morning America concerts are usually quite the event, and many people flock to Central Park to see them, though you might need a small cash advance for tickets through gmaconcerts.com.

lkjhb1
Posted by lkjhb1 on 06/2/2009 (kid contributor, age 11)

i think that they should stop the show i think jon and kate had enough

Posted by MommyX3 on 06/2/2009 (adult contributor)

My 10 year old Daughter had been watching this with me until now. I watched the new season myself and no longer want her watching this, the topics and problems they are experiencing now are not child friendly

Posted by Twilightfan30987 on 05/31/2009 (teen contributor, age 13)

I think Jon and Kate need to relax and ignore the media and the pressure it is putting on them. I mean sure it is easy to understand why they are so stressed out because they have never had papparazzi following them, but they should have known when they signed on to do this show that is was going to get popular sometimes. As for the real question, I think Jon and Kate is fine for little kids to watch if you are ok with that. Most little kids don't even understand it but some might and are very sensitive about their mother and fathers' relationship. So it really depends on the parents decision and the kid's knowledge.

Posted by brettbee on 05/29/2009 (parent contributor)

Jon could have worked a real job to support his family. They could have accepted the MANY donations of money, gifts in-kind, and help with the children from family, friends, and even strangers that didn't involve putting their children's lives on display on national TV.

They may be "supporting and taking care of" their children, but they're doing it by using their children to make money for themselves. The children aren't being compensated - they're merely receiving the support and care they should get if they weren't on TV. This is *definition* of economic exploitation.

The stress they find themselves under has been almost entirely of their own making. Jon & Kate invited the world into their lives - any celebrity can tell you that once you do that, you give up control over what parts of your life are public and which parts are private.

Posted by monkeykayla22 on 05/29/2009 (parent contributor)

I have been watching the show from the beginning with my daughter, who is now eight. With me only having two kids and sometimes having a rough time at it. It is nice to see other parents dealing with more. But I can understand the stress that having eight kids and the media has put on Jon and Kate's marriage. They do have to remember that they did the TV show for the kids, because without the show there would be no new house or proudly donated clothes (they also both on occasion are home with there kids). There family could possible be on welfare. So "NO" I do not believe that Jon & Kate are exploiting there kids. They are supporting and taking care of them. And I pray they find there way through this tough time not only for there kids but there self.

Posted by decool912 on 05/29/2009 (adult contributor)

I am an avid viewer of Jon & Kate or now I should say maybe was an avid viewer. I enjoyed watching the interaction of the children. I believe what has happened here shows the power of the media. Many years ago with "I love Lucy" one never saw Lucy & Ricky in bed. Now unfortunately that's common place on television. We would have never heard OMG on television now people look past that. I hope and pray that Jon & Kate will continue to value their God given marriage and stand up for what they believe and say enough is enough...yes, my family is important to me and good-bye tv show.

Posted by Judy5cents on 05/29/2009 (parent contributor)

We got rid of our cable four years ago so I've never seen "Jon & Kate Plus 8," and I have no desire to see it, let alone let my daughter watch it. I disapprove of this show for a lot of reasons. Their six healthy sextuplets give people the idea that quadruplets and quintuplets resulting from assisted fertility treatments will turn out just fine, when in reality these are very medically fragile children who can have lifelong disabilities. (Two of the McCaughey septuplets have cerebral palsy). I have no doubt "Octo-mom" Nadya Suelman had this show in mind when she went forward with her pregancy.

This show also encourages kids to conclude that they can have their own reality tv shows and become rich and famous too. Jon & Kate have received a great deal of money, merchandise and attention to do what the rest of us do for free--raise our families.

Posted by brettbee on 05/28/2009 (parent contributor)

This show was *never* appropriate for kids to watch.

They didn't need to watch the sextuplets taking dumps or being treated to a night on the laundry room floor when they had the pukes.

They didn't need to see parents exploiting their children for personal gain -- children that couldn't cover up their product-placed, uh, I mean "donated" clothes when they were doing messy art projects. Children who have been manipulated into shilling whatever freebies Kate could wrangle.

They didn't need to see hypocritical Kate admonishing her children, "We don't hit!" then proceeding to smack Jon.

The problems with the behaviors modeled in this show are many, but there are also ethical considerations. Watching this show supports Jon & Kate - NOT the children. Jon & Kate get the money. The children should have been getting their fair share placed in a trust. Watching this show supports televising the lives of children who aren't capable of making a reasoned choice for themselves. When it became clear to me that Jon & Kate were not acting in their children's best interests, I stopped watching. (I never let my daughter watch.)

Posted by LuLu_Pippin on 05/28/2009 (teen contributor, age 13)

I just think it's kinda bad how all the kids LOVE this show, and think they're great parents, but honestly, if you had 8 kids, would you decide for them that they now are famous? So wherever they go, people will know them and want autographs? And I bet in ten years those kids will be all over the People and OK magazines. Very nice of those parents to deem them to that life, I think. It just bothers me that all my friends think that's all fine and dandy. Poor kids.

Posted by grumpyjenn on 05/28/2009 (teen contributor, age 21)

My 6yo already watched the season premiere with me. SHe was concerned that Kate seemed sad, and worked out for herself that "Kate thought Jon wanted to marry someone else". Since we are a divroced and remarried family, she understands that this happens, but her own spin is pretty innocent.

Posted by mrichme on 05/28/2009 (adult contributor)

Given the issues being brought up this season, I will DVR each episode so I can preview it before letting my children watch the episode so I can let them watch the favorite parts of the show and skip over the topics that my children won't understand.

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