Dear John (PG-13, 2010)

common sense media says

Teens will swoon for far-fetched, syrupy romance.


parents & educators say
  • 67% say there are positive role models
  • 58% say there are positive messages

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that this Channing Tatum/Amanda Seyfried romantic drama based on Nicholas Sparks' best-selling novel includes some non-graphic sexuality and wartime violence (including one scene in which two soldiers are shot) but is otherwise a pretty tame romance that's age appropriate for teens. The lead couple (who are college-age when they meet) share many intense kisses and spend one night together, but there's no nudity. Language includes a few uses of "s--t" and some exclamations like "oh my God." Two supporting characters -- one young and one adult -- are autistic, and their conditions are discussed several times. Positive messages include the importance of service and the many ways that people can help others in need.

Positive messages: The movie has several positive messages. Savannah doesn't judge John for being less wealthy or having a spotty past. John selflessly volunteers to re-enlist in the Army despite the fact it will keep him and Savannah away from each other. Savannah makes an enormous sacrifice to help others in need. 
Positive role models: Savannah and John are both admirable characters. Savannah spends the bulk of her spring break doing charitable work. She also graciously spends time with her neighbor's autistic son and John's autistic father. John is brave and loyal and takes his duty to his country seriously, extending his enlistment even though he could have been spending time with Savannah instead.
Violence: John is shot while deployed in the Middle East; another soldier is killed. There are a few war scenes, but nothing is too graphic or bloody. John angrily punches a couple of men, giving one a black eye.
Sex: Flirting turns to passionate kissing and one non-graphic love scene (only bare shoulders and backs are shown).
Language: A few uses of "s--t," plus exclamations such as "hell," "ass," "son of a bitch," "goddamn," "Jesus," and "oh my God."
Consumerism: Chevrolet and Volkswagen, but otherwise no overt product placement.
Drinking, drugs, & smoking: Adults drink beer at a beach party and wine at dinner.

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  • Families can talk about Savannah and John's romance. Does it seem believable? How does it compare to real-life teen relationships?
  • Do Savannah's choices resonate with you? What do you think about her decision to put her love for John second to her sense of obligation to others?

What's the story?

What's the story?
Based on Nicholas Sparks' best-selling novel, DEAR JOHN follows college student Savannah (Amanda Seyfried), who meets special ops soldier John (Channing Tatum) while visiting her family's Charleston beach house for spring break. After they "meet cute" (he jumps into the ocean to rescue her purse), they quickly become inseparable and fall in love after just two weeks. When John is redeployed for his final year of service, the two write dozens of letters to each other. But in the aftermath of the 9/11 attacks, John breaks the news to Savannah that his entire unit is voluntarily extending their enlistment -- thereby postponing his reunion with her for another two years. But as time marches forward, John notices that Savannah's letters have slowed. ...

Is it any good?

Is it any good?
 

Tatum and Seyfried manage to conjure a comfortable chemistry, but their characters are simply too good to seem real. Seyfried's Savannah is selfless to a fault, and her willingness to help others even at the expense of her own happiness is over the top. Anyone familiar with Sparks' novels (or the many movies based on them) knows that there are always several obstacles to keep his star-crossed lovers apart, and Dear John is no exception; but the "twist" here is so far-fetched that it borders on infuriating.

Still, those looking for a weepy love story may forgive that Dear John stops making sense halfway through. Director Lasse Hallstrom knows how to manipulate audiences into crying for his characters, and there's plenty of Kleenex-worthy material toward the movie's end. One subplot that's genuinely affecting is John's relationship with his autistic father (Richard Jenkins); one of the movie's most touching scenes is when John reads his hospitalized father a letter. While Dear John ranks nowhere near the scorching romance that Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams created in The Notebook, it's slightly better than several other bland films based on Sparks' books.

Movie themes & details

Movie Details
Studio: Screen Gems
Director: Lasse Hallstrom
Cast: Amanda Seyfried, Channing Tatum, Henry Thomas
Genre: Drama
Run time: 108 minutes
Theatrical release: February 5, 2010
DVD release: May 25, 2010
MPAA Rating: PG-13
MPAA explanation: some sensuality and violence
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What parents & educators say

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Based on 12 parent & educator reviews:
  • 67% say there are positive role models
  • 58% say there are positive messages
  • 33% say sexual content is an issue

Most useful reviews by all members

chase14
kid, 11 years old
 
For kids 10 and up
I really loved this movie!!! But there was one scene were channing tatum and amanda seyfrieds shoulders were bare but NOTHING to inapropriate besides that iffy scene for romace...... for violence John (channing tatum) was in the war and near the end he is shot and wouned but nothing bad.

 
Teens
I liked the movie a lot. It was sad and it was a lot about love. It had a great story to it.

hulagal
teen, 15 years old
 
Good book and great movie!
I think it was a good book and great movie!

Arsgirl
kid, 13 years old
 
Not very good at all!
this movie was not as good as you would think! it didnt end right. they either should have cut 10 minutes off or added 10 minutes!

moviesarecoolxx
teen, 15 years old
 
Sparks never fails (:
such a good movie! so cute! it's fine for anyone over 12, there is only one love scene, and no sensitive parts are shown see it! :] I cried throughout

brina409
teen, 14 years old
 
ok
It was a sad movie, it's wasn't the best but it was ok, watched it with my friends and we all cried none of us liked the ending but that was why the movie was called dear john.

THE MOVIE MAN
teen, 17 years old
 
Movie Man on Dear John
Dear John is absolouly a movie for a date night. Some people will love it and cry at the end but some people might get a little bored. Younger teens might not find this movie the ecxiting. It is kind of long for a romantic drama. This movie probably only targets older teens. Thats why they might of had so much content that younger kids shouldn't see. There is kissing which turns into something but nothing is shown. The main character, John, gets into a fight and he is in the army and in some scenes there is a lot of shooting.In one scene someone gets shot and wounded. There is some drinking and talking about people being mental. There is also some laungage. This movie is going to bore younger crowds but older people will enjoy it but still it is appropriate for teens ages 13 and up.

Jellybeanfrosting
kid, 12 years old
 
A Lovey-Dovey Romance
Dear John is one of the romance movies that can make boys say "yuck!" To be honest that is kind of true. There are many kissing scenes including where they have a scene in bed (if you know what I mean). And it is visible that he takes of her bra. It was a little disturbing (my mom called it "a very special moment."). Really to be on the good side, it's about this girl who got her purse accidentally thrown into the ocean and this man named John goes and saves it. Then they just get to know each other more. Also though, John has to go into the army while the girl has college. Really why this movie is called Dear John because the man is named John and they write letters to each other. And then it get's quite sad. It's a movie that is really meant for teens. Because tweens might not be ready for that kind of mature movie yet. -

KC4
adult
 
Nearly clean romance
A few scenes of passionate making out and leading to sex. A couple scenes with bare back/side of lead female. One scene lead female shown in bra. Male lead without shirt many times.

livvy314
teen, 15 years old
 
Great movie for 13 or even 12+
really good movie! the plot is amazing and the actors who play their characters just shine in the roles, sad but heartfelt and leaves you feeling fulfilled. only a couple kissing scenes, like I said 12 should be the youngest age they can watch it. they only spend one night together and the sex scene is not graphic and very short. great overall movie!

RiRiApple24
kid, 13 years old
 
Dear John
This movie has a great story. Tweens should see it with an adult and discuss it afterward. NOT of for kids 10 & under. This tear-jerker with a twisting plot is a trully amazing movie.

Softballlover
teen, 14 years old
 
Ok?
Read the book didnt like it. Watched the movie didnt like it and wasnt inerested.

SumBO
kid, 13 years old
 
Tweens
This is an Amazing movie, The actors played their parts Perfectly, Nicholas Sparks Shines again in Dear John a MUST see

 
dear john is a love movie that's perfect for teens that can handle love and relationships the movie has some mild violence also there's only one brief sex scene but only bare shoulders and backs are shown there's also some language used Adults drink beer at a beach party and wine at dinner there's several great positive message in this film for example John selflessly volunteers to re-enlist in the Army despite the fact it will keep him and Savannah away from each other and Savannah makes an enormous sacrifice to help others in need.

bbrriitttaaannnyy
teen, 15 years old
 
I absolutley loved the movie! It showed what true love really means.

taylorswift13
kid, 13 years old
 

nawnaw22
teen, 14 years old
 
Little dodgy, but with a good heart
It had some dodgy romance scenes, but the characters are good role models. There are good disabled characters.

TeenPerspective
teen, 17 years old
 
Great movie for Pre-Teens and Teens.
This movie was really good. I read the book and the ending changed but I liked it better as a movie. The main characters are good role models. There are a lot of ups and downs. I cried during one part but the rest was really enjoyable. There is one scene where Savannah and John have sex but it's not obscene and its a very short part in the movie. This movie is a perfect example of real life and it was refreshing to watch a movie so real.

fishsticks
teen, 15 years old
 
Really sad story... Great movie... good for older kids and teens
I think its a great movie for more older kids and teenagers as all the romance sorta stuff... but other than that i found it a really great movie and it's sad.... but in a crying kinda way (for all the ones out there who didnt cry and object its not my fault that i did :P) yeah... a very sad romanticky movie that im pretty sure lots of people would like... :D unless of course... you dont like romance :P

bananalover
teen, 16 years old
 
romance and violent drama is good but not the best
i love this movie and this book but the book is way better than the movie.

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