Everybody's Fine (PG-13, 2009)

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De Niro's dysfunctional family drama is touching but mature.


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What parents need to know

Parents need to know that this holiday drama starring Robert De Niro deals with some heavy themes that aren't age-appropriate for young children. Of the main character's four grown-up children, one (mostly unseen) is a jailed substance abuser, and the others are grappling with issues including sexuality, divorce, and single parenthood. There's quite a bit of swearing for a PG-13 movie, especially during a comical scene between a grandfather and grandson ("f--k," "s--t"). There's also a lot of lying, and one character dies (off screen), while another ends up in the hospital after being mugged. Still, in the end, the movie aims to send a positive message about acceptance and honesty between parents and their adult children.

Positive messages: The grown-up children all lie to their father about incredibly important aspects of their lives, including pregnancy, babies, divorce, and sexuality. But ultimately they make amends and start to relate to him better.
Positive role models: Frank's grown-up children send an iffy message to younger audiences about how to deal with parents. Amy, Robert, and Rosie all lie to their father and keep important details about their lives from him. Although they eventually start confiding in their father and telling him the truth, it comes too late to prevent some negative consequences.
Violence: Frank is mugged by a young homeless man. The man stomps on Frank's prescription medicine, and Frank ends up in the hospital. A character, unseen but spoken about often, dies off camera.
Sex: Amy flirts with a man who's not her husband. Rosie and Amy are shown with their significant others. A woman who is obviously a prostitute jokingly asks Frank if he wants to see "her leg." Rosie (shown as a young girl) says that she likes "girls."
Language: Fairly strong language, including "f--k," "s--t," exclamations of "oh my God," "Christ!" and "Jesus!," "damn," "hell," etc.
Consumerism: Brands featured include Audi, BMW, and McDonald's.
Drinking, drugs, & smoking: Robert smokes a cigarette, then says he's quitting, then smokes another cigarette. One character who's mostly unseen (but talked about often) is an imprisoned substance abuser.

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Talk to your kids
  • Families can talk about the movie's lesson about parent-child relationships. Which of Frank's children seems to have the healthiest relationship with him? What about his grandson, Jack? How do secrets and lies affect Frank and his kids?
  • How does this film compare to other holiday family movies? Why do holiday movies often seem to feature families in distress or with relationship problems?
  • How does the movie portray sibling relationships? Is it believable that Frank's children would keep such important aspects of their lives a secret from him but not each other?

What's the story?

What's the story?
A remake of the Italian film Stanno Tutti Bene, EVERYBODY'S FINE chronicles the cross-country journey that widower Frank (Robert De Niro) embarks on when none of his four adult children is able to visit him for Christmas. A proud blue-collar retiree, Frank is alarmed at how evasive and tight-lipped his kids are, even though he knows they used to confide in his late wife. His artist son, David (Austin Lysy), is nowhere to be found when Frank stops in New York; when he arrives at his advertising-executive daughter Amy's (Kate Beckinsale) manse in Chicago, he reconnects with his tween grandson but is disappointed when Amy says they're too busy to host him for a long stay. So it's on to Robert (Sam Rockwell), whom Frank thinks is an orchestra conductor -- but he's in fact a percussionist who claims that he's about to leave on tour, so he passes his dad off to the baby of the family, Rosie (Drew Barrymore), supposedly a Las Vegas dancer. During each of Frank's awkward visits with his kids, it becomes painfully clear that something is amiss with each -- and that there's a disturbing reason that David wasn't home. But tragedy could lead to opportunity for Frank and his family.

Is it any good?

Is it any good?
 

Director Kirk Jones' adaptation is surprisingly affecting, given how overly sentimental, predictable, and downright ridiculous it sometimes is. For all of the plot's maudlin trappings, any parent in the audience will be able to relate to the way that Frank repeatedly sees each of his grown-up kids as the children they once were (each is played by a child actor several times throughout the film) -- even as they speak like adults. It's a sappy gimmick, but it still gets you -- how widower Frank is trying really hard to relate to his kids as the independent adults that they are even as he desperately wants them to need his guidance and protection the way they did when they were younger. The conceit is most effective in a dream-like sequence in which Frank confronts the younger versions of his kids with the truths he's gleaned from his trip but didn't have the courage to bring up in real life.

De Niro is believable enough as a curmudgeonly retiree who expects the best from the kids he worked so hard to support, and Barrymore is especially radiant as Rosie, who's obviously the closest to her dad. Rockwell's segment feels rushed, but it includes most of the movie's humor, as does the bits between Frank and his grandson Jack (Lucian Maisel), who's a far better golfer than his swearing grandpa. The irony that Frank spent his entire career protecting wires that help people communicate when he seems to have such trouble communicating with his family isn't exactly subtle. But just when you're is sick of all the wire imagery, a painting David made in tribute to his father makes them all worth suffering through -- be warned, a Kleenex could come in handy.

Movie themes & details

Movie Details
Studio: Miramax
Director: Kirk Jones
Cast: Drew Barrymore, Kate Beckinsale, Robert De Niro, Sam Rockwell
Genre: Drama
Run time: 95 minutes
Theatrical release: December 4, 2009
DVD release: February 23, 2010
MPAA Rating: PG-13
MPAA explanation: thematic elements and brief strong language
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I was so disappointed in this movie. The trailer made it seem to be a light family comedy, but the language was vulgar and it was very depressing, especially when the father learned too late that his children lied to him about another son who died in a Mexican prison after ingesting drugs to avoid being caught with them. There are also veiled references to lesbianism, and one daughter is shown at the end of the movie celebrating Christmas with her dad, siblings, daughter and female partner. All in all, there was nothing redeeming about this movie in my book. I probably won't ever see it again.

katiemay017
teen, 17 years old
 
Great Movie 13+
I loved this movie even though it is VERY sad. plus the fact that it has Drew Barrymore and Kate Beckinsale as well as Robert De Niro make it even more enjoyable. There is talk of drugs and some talk of being a lesbian, but it a great movie, with a great soundtrack as well as a great cast.

maryegg25
kid, 13 years old
 
Mature issues fro tweens alot of sadness as well
This movie other than some breif swearing could be a great movie for all. Its the sadness that they did not talk about in the reveiw that really makes this an iffy movie for tweens. You get connected to the Frank the lead grandfather and you see him get siack and have him ripped apart when he is told his son has died. It also has mature issue in it such as drug and achohal use, His daughter becoming pregnant and not telling him, testing your sexuality.

KunmingMom
parent of 8 and 10 year old
 
Real people, real lives.
This is a movie about a man and his grown children. They have good will toward each other, but also hurts to resolve, and a secret to hide. It's the themes of the movie that are mature, rather than what is actually shown on-screen. Drugs, death, bearing and raising a child outside of marriage, homosexuality, illness, deceit. These are realities that kids are going to become aware of as they grow older. This story about ordinary people living ordinary (not picture-perfect) lives treats the issues without sensationalism, and tells us the truth: Parents can't force their kids into a mold; and kids can't force themselves into their parents' mold. But they can choose to love each other and accept each other in the midst of everything. This one is worth watching.

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