Gray Matters (PG-13, 2007)

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Forgettable coming-out comedy for older teens.


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What parents need to know

Parents need to know that while this might seem like a run-of-the-mill romantic comedy, it's more about Gray's serious realization that she's gay. Bridget Moynahan, who plays the object of Gray's affection, spends most of the film clad in a lace bra and thong panties. The two women share a long, passionate, tequila-fueled kiss, but only Gray remembers it. Despite the film's lighthearted feel, there are plenty of adult themes -- pretending to be straight, coming to terms with homosexuality, making impulsive decisions to marry, etc. The movie is best for older teens who have some perspective on these subjects.

Positive messages: Protagonist discovers it's better for her to admit that she's gay than live a lonely, unhappy life pretending to be straight. Her friends and family accept her after she comes out. Some jealousy and competitiveness between adult siblings.
Violence: Not applicable.
Sex: Several on-screen kisses, including a prolonged scene of two drunk women kissing on a bed. Two women take a bath (no direct nudity, though it's obvious that Charlie isn't wearing anything). A woman clearly invites another woman to her place for sex. Charlie spends many of her scenes in a bra and thong. A woman's sexual identity and history are frequently discussed.
Language: Occasional language like "screw," "ass," "s--t," and one "f--k."
Consumerism: Unless you consider obvious New York City and Las Vegas landmarks a "brand," no overt product placements.
Drinking, drugs, & smoking: People drink socially at home, a dinner party, and a bar. Two characters drink so much that one can't remember anything about a significant night.

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Talk to your kids
Families can talk about how Gray decided to come out. Ask your kids how they feel about her fears that she'll never get married, have kids, or be able to publicly display affection because she's gay. Parents and kids can also discuss Gray and Sam's sibling relationship. Why did someone assume they were a couple? What were the pros and cons of their constant togetherness? If your kids have siblings, ask them how they think their relationships will change as they get older.

What's the story?

What's the story?
Ad exec Gray (Heather Graham) lives in Manhattan life with her heart-surgeon brother Sam (Tom Cavanagh) – siblings so close that strangers sometimes assume they're a couple. When they decide to look for people for each other to date, Gray finds Sam a gorgeous zoologist named Charlie (Bridget Moynahan); exactly one date later, Sam and Charlie get engaged. The hitch is that -- as Sam, Charlie, and Gray head to Las Vegas for the elopement -- Gray finds herself more and more attracted to Charlie. After the ladies end up clinched in a deep girl-on-girl kiss (not that the intoxicated Charlie can remember it), Gray has a life-changing panic attack. When she returns home, Gray retreats but must ultimately deal with her confusion.

Is it any good?

Is it any good?
 
Graham and Cavanagh have built their acting careers on their irresistible charm. But even these two paragons of cute can't save screenwriter Sue Kramer's predictable directorial debut from being a sometimes-amusing but mostly confused mess.

As Gray retreats into her overanalyzing personality, she seems like a character from a very sub-par Woody Allen script. Eventually she accepts herself as a lesbian, but only after a hysterical confrontation with Sam about how she'll never be able to hold hands with her lover or have a wedding or children – meanwhile, she lives in one of the most gay-friendly cities in the world. Bottom line? Even in the limited genre of coming-out comedies, Gray Matters matters not.

Movie themes & details

Movie Details
Studio: Yari Film Group
Director: Sue Kramer
Cast: Bridget Moynahan, Heather Graham, Tom Cavanagh
Genre: Comedy
Run time: 92 minutes
Theatrical release: February 22, 2007
DVD release: June 19, 2007
MPAA Rating: PG-13
MPAA explanation: some mature thematic material, sexual content and language.
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This review was written by Sandie Angulo Chen
 
 

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Kass
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I admit that I went into this movie without expecting it to be at all good. Nevertheless, despite being quite unrealistic and at times cloying, it has in its defense a lot of charm. Heather Graham and Tom Cavanagh are winning; Alan Cumming's character doesn't seem to have much of a place in this film, but he manages to be a whimsical addition just the same. However, parents should be warned that there's heavy drinking, some swearing, and sexual content, making this a picture better suited- as CSM suggests- for elder teens.

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