I find it strange that this is iffy but the first an third (the 3rd was much more violent, anyway) are on. I believe that this movie is appropriate for anyone who has read the book, which starts and ends differently than the film. Yes, it is violent, but there's not much blood and gore and the battles are for a good cause. Note that there are times where supposedly characters die but this is just a misunderstanding or they survive; these typically don't happen in the book. The scale of the final battle is shown as dark (at night) and rainy, so very little is seen, and it involves a lot of crazy stunts that makes it really enjoyable to watch. But the messages highlighted in the CSM review are all present and the characters are very moral, though Faramir, one of the most beloved characters in the book, acts very differently and has moral conflictions but understands what's right and the end. I love how Tolkien (and Jackson) emphasized how the role of women (like Eowyn, who wants to prove herself and doesn't like being told she is a girl and must stay out of battle) and those who are younger (like Merry and Pippin or hobbits in general, who also carry out valiant deeds and prove themselves) were often underestimated, even in medieval settings. Anyway, there's also a brief kissing scene in a dream between Aragorn and Arwen--whose character is very built up in the movies--but nothing too extensive.