iPhones, Apps, and Preschoolers

Stranded by a thunderstorm, I sat in Dulles airport last week and watched how the little kids (under 5) coped with waiting. Of the seven in my immediate vicinity, two napped, one threw a prolonged temper tantrum, and three played with their parents' (or at least I hope they were their parents') iPhones. (The seventh just sat staring into space.)

There are no reliable statistics on how many toddlers and preschoolers play with phone apps. But I'm willing to bet that my unscientific survey (close to 50%) probably reflects a common reality. After all, 100% of the app-playing children were quiet and had relaxed-looking parents.

Since all media has an impact -- both positive and not so positive -- it helps to consider the pros and cons before letting your youngest children loose with your $200 dollar piece of electronics (OK, $99 if you let them have your old one...). Here are a few recommendations:

1. There are better teething devices than electronics. If your kids start to put your phone in their mouth, they're too young to use it. Find something else for them to chew, shake, or throw.

2. Pay attention to what they're doing. Make sure you download age-appropriate apps -- there are lots of them. Check out the apps before your kids do to make sure the subject matter is right for their age. Can they understand the words? Can they manipulate the game? Really young kids are still developing their fine motor skills, so unless you want a frustrated child on your hands, make sure that a game doesn't require lots of coordination to play.

3. Don't make phones a habit. Remember that kids quickly develop routines. If they associate going to restaurants or driving in a car with playing games on your phone, it will be difficult to transition out of the behavior.

4. Balance coping skills. Ultimately, we want kids who can amuse themselves without batteries. Make sure that your kids are equally comfortable with board books, music, and that old faithful -- the crayon.

5. Keep an eye on the phone. They can get dropped -- on the floor, in a toilet -- wedged in a seat, left in a seat pocket, etc. These things are expensive!

-- Liz Perle, Editor in Chief

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Steffauri516 03.12.2012
Personally, I think that ANY parent who finds a reason to give a child a 500+ dollar piece of technology is a bad parent who is just too lazy to deal with their children. My mother is an elementary school teacher, she instructs 3rd grade. These little kids are 8 and 9 years old. My mother only recently bought her first "advanced" phone, the iPhone 4, she has a class of 21 children and according to her, 7 of them have the latest iPhone and 3 have personal, unrestricted laptops! That is DISGUSTING! Let kids be kids! What happened to giving a kid a doll or an action figure or a boardgame and having them be happy with age-appropriate things? But now you can't even do that, even little girls' dolls are dressed like sluts. (Bratz are a fine example...) I have also personally been to restaurants where I've seen families bring small children with them, and when the child begins to grow impatient, instead of making ANY attempt to correct the child's behaviour, the parent will immediately hand over their iPhone or iPad to silence them, and move on with their adult conversations. Am I honestly the only one who finds this sad and sick?! I'm 29, and a mother of an 8 year old daughter an 1 year old son, and it will be a LONG time before either of them see their first cellphone. I can't believe the idiocy of people today. Yes, technology is a necessary, progressive part of everyday life now, but that's no reason to shove it down toddlers' throats! Another thing that everyone seems to overlook is that certain people wonder why childhood obesity is becoming such a widespread problem when they're the ones handing their kids unlimited games, laptops, iPads loaded with appealing apps, etc. What child is going to want to go out and run around when they've got all that garbage right at hand? Like I said, I'm all for technology and a modern lifestyle, but like it or not, my kids aren't getting cellphones until they're in high school (as I did) and they won't have a laptop until it's needed for college (as I did) or when they can get a job and purchase it in high school. I actually want to listen to my kids when they cry, or have a tantrum, or get impatient, and stop the bad behaviour with reasoning and words, rather than shoving a piece of technology at them and hoping they'll shut up.