Standing Up to Cyberbullying

Maybe it was a joke -- with a little too much of an edge. Or maybe it was an outright attack. When it comes to cyberbullying, you know it when you see it. And if your kid is the target, you'll want to do everything in your power to make it better. But as parents, teachers, school administrators, and even law enforcement officials wrestle with how to deal with cyberbullying, it's been hard to get concrete advice on what to do if it happens to your kid.

Everyone can agree that you don't want to make it worse. And while your kid may want to defend himself, it's best not to engage. The steps below can help kids defuse the situation, protect themselves, and hopefully put a stop to cyberbullying. 

Stay-Safe Tips

Sign off the computer. It's best to ignore attacks and walk away from the cyberbully.

Don't respond or retaliate. If you're angry and reply, then you might say nasty things. Cyberbullies often just want to get a reaction out of you, so don't let them know that their plan has worked.

Block the bully. If you get mean messages through IM or a social networking site, take the person off your buddy or friends list. You can also delete messages from bullies without reading them.

Save and print out bullying messages. If the harassment continues, save the evidence. This could be important proof to show parents or teachers if the bullying doesn't stop.

Talk to a friend. When someone makes you feel bad, sometimes it can help to talk the situation over with a friend.

Tell a trusted adult. A trusted adult is someone you believe will listen and who has the skills, desire, and authority to help you. Telling someone who fits that descriptions what's going on isn't tattling -- it's standing up for yourself. And even if the bullying occurs at home, your school probably has rules against it.

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CSM Screen name... 04.07.2012
this is a very important rule!
04.14.2012
i am in 4th grade and bullying has happend to me except with a phone because i am not aloud to have one until 5th grade and i think that is because my parents are trying to keep me safe.
04.14.2012
hi my name is madison i was bullyed at school and i feel sad and that didnt feel good at all so i told my mom she called the school and the bullise said that they would punch me i was scaryed so when my mom did that she talked to the gidaese teacher and she told all of us to go to her office and we all talk about it i told the bullise that i feeled sad so after we did that we all became friends THE END I WAS HAPPY WE WERE ALL FRIEND thanks for reading my story and hope u dont get bulled like i did ..................................
04.16.2012
Hi my name is Evan T. my school made T-shirts and a group for bullying to stop. i like it because it is grate they are trying to make a change.
04.21.2012
im in 5th grade and have been bullied by i girl in my class by txt message and at school but not like touching me at all she just says mean things after my mom told her mom she stopped picking on me and hurt one of my friends phsicly and our principal has a no bulling tolerance which makes me very happy on the other hand no one likes the bully because if they do for a week os so she starts to get mean then they dont like her so i feel bad
04.21.2012
hello i am 12 years old and my name is josh and i am in 6th grade and i used to get bullyed a lot and got called names a lot and i had no friends and i never wanted to go to school ever again but one day there was a new kid who moved to my school and he dident have any friends nether and so one day i walked up to him and talked to him and we talked for a couple more weeks and sat together at lunch and we started to become friends and and in a month we became best friends and we both never feel alone and now he is my best friend and I HOPE ANYBODY WHO READS THIS MAKES A CHANGE AND ACTS RIGHT SOO THANK U SOO MUCH
04.21.2012
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Jordybuglove 04.22.2012
I am in 8th grade right now and cybur bullying is really important my friend her lil sis and i are really close and my friend and her lil sis were getting cyburbullied because of some things that were happening to the 3 of us and when we went to school we all started getting bulllied the school wont stop it or do anything about the kids and keeps telling our parents they stopped the problem but they havent done anything !!! does anyone have any advice ?
04.23.2012
Hi, everyone. I'm only twelve, and I came to a new school in September of 2011, and a few months after I started going there, I was bullied for the first time. I felt horrible and I let those words get to me. Well, a couple of months after THAT, I was bullied again. And you know why I was bullied? Because I wasn't popular enough or pretty enough or because I was in Band. Band is a talent, not a flaw. I may not be pretty or popular, but I am who I am, God made me this way, and no need in changing it. :)
04.23.2012
I have advice for ya, girl. I don't particularly know you, but the same thing happened to me. I'm twelve and in the 7th grade, and I have been cyberbullied twice since I moved to a new school in September of 2011. My advice is, when they make fun of you or call you names, don't take it seriously (not saying you do), just say "Thanks. And I'm proud of it."