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All parent reviews for The Secret Life of the American Teenager

Age
13
Average rating based on 74 parent reviews:
  • 46% say sexual content is an issue
Adult
July 21, 2009
 
Terrible show with mixed messages, not good for anybody
To be honest, I have only seen a few episodes of this show because it's so unspeakably bad I have to leave the room rather to refrain from speaking my mind while my sister (a fan) watches the show. First, let me comment on the quality of the TV show. To say the acting is bad is a gross understatement. I can't even think of a comparison to how bad the acting is. It's just that bad. To be fair, any actor would have a hard time working with the inconsistent, unrealistic, practically nonsensical drivel that passes for dialog in this show. Watch one episode (without the kids) and ask yourself how many people actually talk like that? The story is contrived, predictable and uninspired. The character development is disgraceful. Just when you get to know a character, he or she says something completely out of character just to drive home some "point" or put someone in their place. Characters who at first were kind turn out to be just as mean and petty as everyone else. The two characters who use people the most both turn out to have unresolved "daddy issues." The writers treat the characters like they're all the same person raised in different circumstances. The writers must have absolutely no knowledge of biology, psychology, or basic human nature. This show is too bad even to laugh at. It's just that awful. Now on to the messages. Many people give this show credit for having dialog about sex. Having an honest, open, and complete dialog about sex is one thing. Filling dialog with people talking about sex is quite another. All anyone ever talks about is sex. Yes, teens will sometimes talk about sex, but not nearly to this extent, and not in this manner. The phony sex "dialog" is not my biggest complaint, however. The cruelty and immaturity of all the characters (including the adults) goes to Desperate Housewives levels. All they ever think about are their immediate needs and wants, unless they're having a conveniently placed worry about the future that's forgotten by the next scene. Worst of all, the show gives mixed messages. At the end of the show the actors say "It might seem like everyone is having sex, but they're not..." but EVERYONE ON THE SHOW IS DOING IT!!! That's as bad as if Michael Vick said "It's bad to hurt dogs" after each bloody dogfight. The hypocrisy is repulsive! The last statistic I read said that half of all teenagers have not had sex by the time they graduate high school. If this steaming pile of a show was an example, 95% of teens would be having sex, and having it in contrived, stupid circumstances. Finally, let me address the issue of teen pregnancy. Even though it's a subject in every episode, it's dealt with so superficially as to be practically useless. Maybe I missed too many episodes, but that girl had one easy pregnancy, and oh, how quickly her body returned to a size 0. How unfortunate that her baby only stops crying when Daddy is near. Could the writers not think of even one REAL health issue that afflicts babies? How unbelievably stupid! The bottom line is this show is absolutely awful in every respect. It's too inconsistent and hypocritical to be a positive influence, and it's too stupid and poorly made to be entertaining. If you want a good show about teen pregnancy, watch Juno. If you have extremely low standards and limit your activities to staring at glowing rectangles with moving images on them, watch Secret Life. No. Don't. Battlefield Earth is better than Secret Life of an American Teenager.

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Adult
April 11, 2011
 
Not how teen pregnancy really is
So unrealistic, I was pregnant in highschool and it was nothing like this show made it out to be....happy, happy....cute little babies. On the other hand maybe thats how it is when u have rich parents

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Adult
July 13, 2009
 
I'm not a prude, but you've got to be kidding. I honestly cannot understand why ABC FAMILY would air this show. The YOUNG teens and adults ALL not only exhibit irresponsible sexual behavior, they talk about it ALL the time. Take Grace for example - who started out by proudly declaring her Christian values. She asks for birth control pills (just to have them) , her mother gets them for her (just in case), then she tells everyone in school. This season she not only has sex with her boyfriend Jack, but she declares it's the BEST experience of her life. Even her minister states sometimes sex before marriage is okay. The dialogue is unrealistic, sexually explicit and laughable. Here's the scary thing teenagers relate to these clean cut, nice looking, middle class youth which makes it a more dangerous program than Rock of Love.

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Parent of 16 year old
January 28, 2010
 
Watch this show with your teens
I watch this show with my daughter, who is a sophomore in HS. While some of the dialogue is weak, and I don't like the way the counselors (they're on the third one now) and some of the Christians are portayed on the show, it provokes some interesting conversations with my daughter. I remember being her age, all those years ago, and most of what we talked about and thought about was sex. Not much has changed in a lot of ways. I did think the last show about masturbation was over the top, and so did my daughter. But if parents think this show is giving kids ideas that they wouldn't have otherwise, wake up. Kids my daughter knows were having sex, including oral sex, in 8th grade; by their sophomore year many have had multiple partners, and are also drinking and smoking weed. And these are the "good" kids from middle-class intact families. I think this show pretty realistically portrays how teens act and talk, and it's a good conversation starter. We talk about what kids she knows are like which characters, what does she think of the choice a character made, etc.

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Adult
April 9, 2008
 
NOT for Tweens!
I watched the first episode with my 13yo daughter. Teen sex is all the show is about. The main character, a young 15yo who gets pregnant after the first time she "thinks she did it" is well acted.You feel sorry for her and feel how scared this young girl is. But other than that the show suffers from a lack of creativity or realism. The creators chose to take an easy way out by stereotyping the Christian girl - a Susie-Sunshine fanatic, "promise ring" and all. They missed the opportunity to show the real aspect of church youth groups which are often a place where teens have their values supported, where they talk about all the issues they are faced with (including sex, drugs, relationships etc..) and are taught about giving back and doing service for others less fortunate. The Guidance Counselor is made out to be someone who is annoyed by these kids rather than as someone they could look up to and really go to for guidance. It's just another show that assaults morality and portrays sex to young teens as no big deal and what it's all about. After the first half of the show my daughter looked at me and said, "This is so stupid...no one at school talks about sex like this all the time. It's not what we talk about in front of our lockers...we talk about what tests we have and what homework we have." The show made her uncomfortable and when I asked if she wanted to watch the next episode (we had them on the DVR) she said no.I personally don't feel this is a show for anyone younger than 16yo, but even for them it's a time waster. If you want your older teen to watch a good show that portrays teens realistically, have them watch Friday Night Lights instead!

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Adult
January 26, 2010
 
terrible for young teens
I'm nineteen and I completely fear for those who are in jr. high and even up to tenth grade who watch this and think that this is an acceptable way to behave and think. All it talks about is how every person wants to have sex always and how its completely normal for young teens to be having sex. Did they not learn from the one who had a baby that they are not ready for this? I first thought this would be positive and teach kids why not to engage in such activity but have instead been outraged.

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Adult
January 10, 2010
 
Good for middle schoolers, unrealistic and negative messages for high schoolers
The characters on this show are immensely immature. That being said, I think it's a great show for middle schoolers as a way to learn about sex. It is very informative, open, and honest. The characters speak about sex in a way uncommon to high schoolers (ie without all the bravado). The sexual topics addressed are relatively tame as well. Again though, this makes the show unrealistic for high school viewers. As a high schooler, I feel there is an extremely poor portrayal of what sex is really like. The students are immature with regards to sex and almost appear comical. Instead of just demonizing sex, the show should tell more about safe sex and some of the benefits. If it is healthy emotionally and physically (for the right reasons) there should be nothing wrong with sex between high schoolers. Finally, the pregnant girl is an extremely poor role model. She is being selfish to keep her child and consistently make childish choices when it comes to parenting.

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Adult
January 4, 2010
 
Ridiculous
This show is plain ridiculous. I have counted the word sex used in one show at least 50 times. Not to mention oral sex, masturbation. The kids and parents constantly discuss who is having sex with who. My kids unfortanetely love this show. I am banning it from my housel.

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Adult
February 21, 2011
 
Don't invite sex into your home
Completely inappropritate storylines for children that would be awake to watch this show. There is no purpose in exposure to these topics. Over time, a person, will become numb to the offense and not even notice that sex was mentioned over and over. When did engaging, or even disussing, sex become a middle school/high school appropriate issue?

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Parent of 7, 12, and 12 year old
January 30, 2011
 
Perfect for older teenagers, but not for tweens or young teens!
i think this is totally inappropriate for tweens and early teens! I think it is fine for the older teenage crowds. I have a 12 yearold and caught her watching this and feel it sends messages at too early of an age. While these may be issues that go on in a highschool, I dont feel junior high kids need to be exposed.

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Parent of 14 year old
June 7, 2010
 
My daughter likes this show and I have watched it with her but every season after the first 2 episodes we lose interest, and thank goodness. I feel uncomfortable watching it with her. Its not sending a message that having sex to young is bad, its sending the message that you should have sex, babies, oral sex.. Sheesh! I'm disappointed in the makers of this show.. it has turned into a Rated R for T.V, and on ABC Family too?

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Adult
August 12, 2009
 
anyone whose mature would like it but not with ur parents around
dont watch it with ur family its quite Awkward bcuz they say sex in about every sentence or they something dirty and its just awkward...

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Adult
February 22, 2009
 
Unbelievable!
But believable that ABC Family would have this show on at primetime for any child to view. Your children are watching this online and downloading. Eleven year olds are watching this. I agree that this program does NOT communicate what high school is all about. Who is having sex with who tonight, and who is going to adopt the baby..with the teens making the decision, and the parents getting a divorce, and mom making appetizers for teens talking calmly about who will adopt the baby when born. Give Me A Break. This is another attempt to gather the masses of teenage brains and basically brainwash them into thinking this is what you have to look forward to in high school. Molly Ringwald should be ashamed; she must be desperate for work@

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Parent of 13 and 14 year old
March 20, 2010
 
My household NOT watching !
I've only heard about it from friends and seen commercials. My daughters, 12 and 11...have not watched it nor will be allowed. With the most recent commercials touting another girl may be pregnant, it proves that no one learned from the first "accident". While not necessarily glorifying kids having sex, it surely doesn't condemn it. I'm not naive, I know middle school kids who are having sex, and oral sex is as common as a back rub these days. However, the product of sex has not changed in 1000 years, it can still create another person!! Talking about sex and keeping your kids well informed is great. Letting them watch a show that makes having sex a normal part of teenage years, is not.

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Parent of 14 and 16 year old
January 6, 2010
 
I am having a hard time using this as the tool I did in the beginning. This season is all about sex, sex and oral sex. Masturbation as well. The school "tramp" is idolized if you ask me. My daughter is 14 and I think it is sending out the wrong message. I am not an overprotective or closed minded or blind parent but this is getting to be a bit much. I just don't know if I can really stop her from continuing to watch it after I o.k.ed two seasons ago.

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Adult
June 12, 2009
 
Wake up People!
Anytime you show or tell children about some choice that could have a serious negative consequence and then you don't follow it up with the really bad consequence, you indirectly tell them that it might turn out okay. That is a lie. Getting pregnant, doing drugs, being in an abusive relationship, etc. all of these choices will result in a negative consequence and TV shows will never be able to depict the extent of the suffering and unhappiness caused: not even a reality show. This is because the TV show is a "event" not a lifetime. I know a girl who was pregnant in high school and married the father. Fifty years later she is still married (oh isn't that happy) to an abusive alcoholic. Will the TV show follow this family around for the next 20 years so we can see the long-term impact of this girl's decisions. And will we ever really experience internally, since these are two-dimensional characters on a TV screen that we just happen to let into our living room periodically for our "entertainment." Yes, you can truly experience internally the heartache and troubles that come with teenage pregnancey when your daughter comes home, tells you she's pregnant and hopes that you will be as understanding as the mom on this show.

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Adult
August 16, 2010
 
What I think
I watch this show every week and what I dont really see appropriate is the language some of them use. When the first season started, I thought it would be a good show describing the negative and positive consequences of having sex out of wedlock or just too early. But what I have noticed in the 2nd and 3rd seasons, they are just sugar coating everything. They are making it look simple, easy, and like there is nothing wrong with having a baby at FIFTEEN (15), but I'm sorry there kinda is. I don't think that they really showed what it actually takes to be a teen mother, and if any of you are thinking I am a teen mom NONONO, one Im 13 and two I have morals, which is something I think some of the "kids" on this show should have. Grace was a great kid, a little annoying, but a really good role model, until her and Jack got together, and just to keep him, that might be realistic, but not very much. I just think Brenda Hamp needs to look at the script and really think it through again.

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Adult
September 5, 2009
 
Worst show on tv
Every single scene in this show has someone talking about sex. The kids are disrespectful little brats and the parents let them be. They make the parents so stupid on this show. ABC Family should be ashamed to put this on television. My 8 and 10 year olds were subjected to this crap. It teaches nothing but it's ok to have sex as a young child!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Adult
June 9, 2009
 
Terrible acting and message!
This is a horrible show! It sends out the message that it's okay for kids to have sex and that it's just a part of being a teenager. What ever happened to purity? At the beginning of the show, they had only one character saying she was going to wait until marriage to have sex. But by the end of the season, she was taking birth control pills. Besides the awful message, the acting is atrocious. They literally say the word "sex" in every sentence. I'm a teenager myself and we DON'T talk about sex so excessively. Parents, don't allow your kids to watch this!

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Adult
March 8, 2010
 
Bad
I hate this show all its saying is that if you get pregnant that your parents will help you and you can make people do what ever you want and make them feel sorry for you and plus this show has to many rumors about everyone and braggs to much about the sex lives this show is not even funny of dramatic its stupid for any age

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