5 Tips to Make Family Movie Night a Success

Connect as a family and help kids with media literacy, too!
Sierra Filucci Executive Editor, Parenting Content | Mom of two Categories: Screen Time
Executive Editor, Parenting Content | Mom of two

We say this a lot, but we think it's worth repeating: It's important to get involved in your kids media lives -– and your kids will love it too (within reason!). But helping them become critical media consumers can be easier said than done. What’s a sure-fire way to stay involved with your kids' media picks and create an opportunity to discuss them? Host a family movie night!

Some tips for making it work:

Schedule it. Make it a regular date and time and don't break it. Turn off cell phones and ban multitasking during the show.

Take turns choosing the movie. If you've got little kids, pre-select a group to choose from (to avoid watching Care Bears IV over and over again). If you've got teens, tell them you'll watch anything they choose as long as they return the favor when it's your turn. Enforce a "no complaining" rule.

Location, location, location. Hang a sheet in the backyard, rent a projector, and sit on beach chairs to celebrate a classic like The Wizard of Oz. Or take family movie night on the road during vacations or at the grandparents’ house (Singin' in the Rain, perhaps?).

Make it a theme night. This can be simple or elaborate. Eat popsicles with March of the Penguins or make food art with Cloudy with a Chance of Meatballs 2. Dress in costume for A Princess Bride, or learn a few magic tricks before Harry Potter.

Talk about it. When credits roll or the next day, make time to chat about what you watched. Kids might be interested in learning more about animation or Hollywood history. Visit the library to follow up on interests piqued by the movie. Talking with kids about how movie characters handled fictional situations can be a subtle way to reinforce your family's values or get kids to open up about their lives.

Check out our reviews for conversation starters in the "Families can talk about" section. And here's a list of great family movie picks.

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About Sierra Filucci

Sierra has been writing and editing professionally for more than a decade, with a special interest in women's and family subjects. She has a master’s degree in journalism from the University of California at Berkeley,... Read more

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Comments (14)

Kid, 10 years old

This is what the article should have been. Hang a sheet in the backyard, rent a projector, and sit on beach chairs, oh, and I hope you like mosquitoes, because they're gonna be all over you. Make it a theme night!? The last thing a kid is going to want to do, is make food art...they're trying to watch a movie...
Adult written by hazzaboy

i clicked this article because i wanted to know what it would be like to have "family movie night" we would rarely watch films together and it was exiting when we did, i remember we watched blues brothers w hen i was 7 and toy story 2 soon after. but mostly i would watch movies on megashare in my room because our family weren't very together. and talking about the film afterwards? thanks for making me realise how weird our family is, i really wish our family was closer because this sounds a lot of fun
Parent of a 10 and 15 year old written by Peppers68

The tip about taking turns choosing the movie is a MUST! We tried the "lets all decide what to watch" and that did not go well at all. But, if everyone takes a turn weekly, movie night goes a lot smoother. The "No Complaining" rule ROCKS!!!
Adult written by apackage

I loved this piece. Just a nice, warmhearted set of tips. Our kids, who are 6, 10 and 12, are hard to choose for (in the sense that their age span makes it difficult to choose a movie we all like), but they love the experience of being with us and everyone focussing together in the dark, cuddled on couches with popcorn, that I think they really don't care that much what the movie is.
Parent of a 12 and 14 year old written by Philip24

Kid, 12 years old makes some good points and I certainly respect the effort made to warn us about the potential problems with Ms. Filucci's suggestions. However, I have a 13 year old and a 15 year old, and we have been successfully having Family Movie Night every Friday since they were 4 and 6. There has been complaining, even sometimes outright fights, but generally the process of learning how to compromise, discussing our taste in movies and respecting each other's choices, has been good for everyone. We have never had anyone multi-tasking and never will--never even an issue. I wholeheartedly agree that most people of any age will want to talk about the film when they have processed it a bit. Forcing a conversation at any time other than when the person is interested is a bad idea. That said, we have very stimulating conversations about movies in our family, mostly at the dinner table the next day. Finally, I would bet "Kid 12 year old" that your parents are waiting with great eagerness for you to move through this cynical phase in your life. With your taste in movies...you will be really fun to talk to about them!
Kid, 12 years old

I thank you for your compliments on the article, but the tips I gave on the discussion and movies were more along the lines of a family with multiple children of different ages. Your children are allowed to watch films along the same lines, so I see these movie nights as going along better. I know a lot of people who have trouble with multitasking, so I was addressing those issues mainly. I notice that the average families that I've met who use sites like this have more troubles with multitasking and stuff, so I addressed that issue in the families I've seen. I picture your movie nights as going better since your children can watch films along the same lines, and familes that I observe have problems with this too. However, I thank you for your compliments, just thought I'd make clear the kind of things I saw as happening that I didn't quite make clear in my last essay, I mean comment.
Kid, 12 years old

What will actually happen: Tip 1- Teens will find a way to sneak a phone in, and if caught will complain regardless of what Tip 2 suggests. Will most likely ruin family experience, and people will be extremely annoyed the whole time Tip 2- Your kid will be entertained regardless if under the age of 10, brains for entertainment don't develop quite until then (it actually depends on the IQ, I'm 12 and my favorite movies are Goodfellas, Taxi Driver, and Saving Private Ryan, while my friends' picks are The Avengers, Transformers, and whichever PG-13 horror film was cranked out that weekend). In the situation of your teen, he will point out that you don't let him watch everything, and will most likely make you sit through something like Saw or whatever. Complaining will happen regardless. Tip 3- If you put it outside, you will most likely spend upwards of 100$, and is it really worth it based on the scenario that will most likely happen? Grandparents' house might work, but it will be much easier for a teen to sneak out or something. Tip 4- Eat popsicles, they'll melt. Exotic cheese? It'll be so exspensive that each person gets a very small amount, teens complain, kids annoyed mildly. Magic tricks? Kids will be bored throughout, guarantee it. Just get on with the movie. Tip 5- Kids won't be interested in talking about it. They'll just sit around the whole time, teens will also ask to leave. It'll be one very awkward moment, and will result in a lot of annoyance.
written by Peacewashere

Tip one and two are bound to fail and mildly oppressive. Magic tricks ARE dumb. But otherwise you just are looking for ways these suggestions could go wrong. I've had movie night for years with my grandparents and I know what is and is not appropriate to watch with my family. Popsicles can be put into bowls and eaten happily, cheese has also got a great record with us and is delicious. Good cheese is not as expensive as one might think. Discussion is worth while but don't force or schedule it.