Author Emily Bazelon Explains Why Anti-Cyberbullying Methods Fail -- and What Really Works

Cyberbullying persists as one of the most destructive -- and intractable -- behaviors of the online world. Maybe that's because we've been going about it all wrong. By Caroline Knorr

Bullying is nothing new. But cyberbullying is relatively new -- and no one seems to know how to make it stop. In her groundbreaking book, Sticks and Stones: Defeating the Culture of Bullying and Rediscovering the Power of Character and Empathy, author Emily Bazelon provides an in-depth look at why standard-issue anti-cyberbullying messages don't resonate with kids.

Most importantly, she offers guidance on what might work. Bazelon puts it this way: "We don't need to preach at kids about bullying. We need to give them more opportunities to think through the social difficulties and realities that they're grappling with every day, on line and off."

With the publication of the paperback version of her book, plus a teacher's guide for educators to use in the classroom, Bazelon offers kids -- and adults -- real ways to talk through the problems kids are facing. 

Watch Bazelon and Common Sense Media's founder Jim Steyer discuss why it's more important than ever to engage kids thoughtfully and meaningfully to make a change.

About Caroline Knorr

As Common Sense Media's parenting editor, Caroline helps parents make sense of what’s going on in their kids' media lives. From games to cell phones to movies and more, if you're wondering "what’s the right age for…?"... Read more

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Parent written by yellowskirting

Thanks for sharing this article. Yes, cyberbullying has been rampant these days. We may notice that this kind of harassment among young people via internet is one of the common problems by everyone since it becomes destructive and threatening. I agree with you that to deal with it, we must help the kids to be aware of bullying and give them guidance of what works positively to make it stop.
Adult written by chrijeff50

Your kid will have to deal with bullies (bosses, landlords, bureaucracies) when she grows up, and they'll have a lot more power over her than cyberbullies do. It's better she learns early how to deal with such people, just as she should learn how to use money and credit responsibly.
Parent written by Westwick

The basic method to prevent cyberbullying is to be friendly with your kids and make them share their every problem and events with you so that they can not fall into the circumstances like cyberbullying.


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