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For kids who are interested in the physical details of what it takes for a kid like Nathaniel to get through the day there are lots of descriptions of trach suctioning, feeding by g-tube, surgery prep and the like. For kids who want to know about what it feels like to walk in Nathaniel's shoes, his strong acceptance of himself is eye-opening. His family's emotional journey is described by his mother in frank detail.
Having a positive attitude can help turn a situation around to get the best possible outcome. Being normal means different things to different people. Be kind and change someone's life. It's important to admit that sometimes a person's reactions to you might be outside of your control -- the best we can do is to manage the situation with grace. One book or movie can change how people treat other people. Try to see through identities to the person inside.
Positive Role Models
Nathaniel's approach to his differences is to completely accept himself the way he is. He doesn't add a lot of drama to his life, because he knows he's lucky to be able to do simple things like breathe. His mom admits to her own struggles in accepting her son. She's very honest about her experiences and owns them, knowing that she's not perfect. Nathaniel's dad is more outwardly emotional, but he does a lot of the physical caregiving for Nathaniel, including carrying his son into every operation and holding him on his lap until he falls asleep from the anesthesia.
Violence & Scariness
Graphic descriptions of medical procedures can be jarring: suctioning a trach tube 10 to 70 times a day, excruciating pain because of screws that are tightened in the skin, blood trickling down Nathaniel's face because of screws going through his skin, description of Nathaniel barfing through a trach tube after he nearly suffocates from the vomit, his mother putting her knees on his infant hands while she's helping him, and her vomiting before and afterwards, eyes and jaws sewn shut after surgery. Nathaniel's dad threatens to punch a neighbor. A dog dies.
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Products & Purchases
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Parents Need to Know
Parents need to know that Normal: One Kid's Extraordinary Journey is a memoir about a boy named Nathaniel Newman who has Treacher Collin's syndrome -- which causes craniofacial differences like the main character in Wonder has -- and has to endure many surgeries to help him with basic functions like breathing and eating. These functions are described in graphic detail, such as the cleaning his trach tube many times a day (for a dozen years) lest he suffocate. Nathaniel's fed through a tube in his stomach, called a g-tube, which allows him to have food and nutrients put directly into his body. His eyes are sewn shut for a few days after a surgery and his jaws sewn shut for four months. Over his lifetime, he has trouble eating, and there are many descriptions of him vomiting through his mouth or trach tube. He has to wear a halo that has "screws that need to be tightened daily to slowly expand my bones." The tightening causes him intense pain, and he bleeds from the screw insertion points. All of this is to say that the medical aspect of the story is graphically rendered, and it's meant to illustrate what Nathaniel has had to go through in order to physically function better. His mother also describes her own health issues, which include details of her battles against cancer. There are near-death experiences and a beloved dog dies.
Is It Any Good?
This is a fascinating and graphic memoir of a family's struggle to live with a child's severe craniofacial impairments. Normal: One Kid's Extraordinary Journey is really two stories -- Nathaniel's almost impish account of his life to date, and a survival story told by his mother, Magda. There are flashbacks to her childhood in Poland and also her struggle with cancer. These sidelines are interesting, but they aren't always relevant to Nathaniel's story or his personal experience.
One of the things that makes Nathaniel's story incredible is his ability to accept his situation for what it is. He speaks about not knowing anything other than life as he's lived it. His mother's narrative serves to show how much labor has gone into raising a child with severe challenges. Her point of view is graphically detailed. She's brutally honest with herself and challenges those who don't show compassion. Whether her side of the story is really compelling to kids is questionable. But as real-life superheroes go, Nathaniel has definitely earned his status.
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