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What's the right age for parents to get their kids a cell phone?

The right age to give kids their first cell phone is really up to you. Age isn't as important as your kid's maturity level, ability to follow home (and schools') rules, their sense of responsibility, and your own family's needs. Getting your kid their first phone is a very personal and individual decision, but lots of kids start asking for them (and receiving them) as early as elementary school. That kind of peer pressure makes it tougher for parents who want to hold off delay the inevitable, but stand firm! When you hand your children cell phones, you're giving them powerful communication and media-production tools. They can create text, images, and videos that can be widely distributed and uploaded to websites instantly. Parents really need to consider whether their kids are ready to use their phones responsibly and respectfully.

If you think your kids' technological savvy is greater than their ability to use it wisely, pay attention to the gap. You may need to say, "No, not yet."

Here are some questions to consider:

  • Do your kids show a sense of responsibility, such as letting you know when they leave the house? Do they show up when they say they will?
  • Do your kids tend to lose things, such as backpacks or homework folders? If so, expect they might lose an (expensive!) phone, too.
  • Do your kids need to be in touch for safety reasons?
  • Would having easy access to friends benefit them for social reasons?
  • Do you think they'll use cell phones responsibly -- for example, not texting during class or disturbing others with their phone conversations?
  • Can they adhere to limits you set for minutes talked and apps downloaded?
  • Will they use text, photo, and video functions responsibly and not to embarrass or harass others?

Adding a kid to your service plan can get expensive. For your kids' first phone, consider these options:

  • A pre-paid phone that doesn't lock you into a long-term contract. 
  • A "feature" phone with large icons and a limited range of functions such as the Nokia 3310.
  • A flip-phone like the Jitterbug Flip which is designed for seniors but great for kids due to large numbers and GPS tracking.
  • A service plan with built-in limits for screen time, content-filtering and more. Check out Verizon's Just Kids plan.
  • Low-cost, pre-paid carriers such as Twigby, Tello, Boost, and Cricket.



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Teen, 16 years old written by Ashley_benoist2

I'm 16 and it's terrible not having a phone. I have no outside connections to friends other than recess and lunch and I have no friends in the majority of classes. My gran who I live with is entirely old school (she's 56) and has absolutely no trust in me to have a phone and shes never even bothered to give a hint to how I could "earn" her trust. I'm disconnected from everyone at school, maintaining friendships and making them stronger is impossible. My friend's lives are too busy to organise me coming over because id have to go back and forth between school and my gran just to organise it and that easily takes and she never can understand why I'm so grumpy. She thinks its all-cause I'm a "teenager". oh and she tells me i should make plans with friends as if i do have a phone, wth. Help me.
Kid, 10 years old

(Almost) all my friends have a phone but I don't. My mom and dad say that "I'm too young." Yes, I am young, but that doesn't mean I'm not responsible. I am responsible enough to get a phone, and it's not like I will never stop using the phone.
Teen, 17 years old written by Rinrin0

I'm turning 18 this year..but i Haven't own a phone still..sometimes i feel like frustrated but it's manageable..
Kid, 10 years old

I have been begging my parents for a phone for a while. All of my friends have one and I feel left out whenever they talk about them. I feel like my parents are being too overprotective of me. They think that there could find inappropriate stuff on the internet. They also don't trust me to look after one. I hope I am able to get one soon because I really want to be able to keep in touch with my friends during COVID-19.
Teen, 13 years old written by 1274892w

I got an iPhone 7 on my bday this year. I think it was a good idea and I have had phones in the past but iPods/bad androids. However, my cousins don’t get an iPhone until they are fifteen.
Teen, 13 years old written by sumrandomlildude

Im 13 years old and have never gotten a phone in my life. I feel like the age of your child doesn't really matter, but maturity does. No matter what I suggest I'm not allowed to do it because I have no way to contact them, yet they refuse to get me any type of phone, flip or smart. I'm not dying without one but I feel like since i like doing extracurricular activities after school, but it would be much easier to pop over a text saying to pick me up at blah blah o' clock. I feel like I'm being slightly controlled as I'm not allowed to do anything without them for the pure reason that i can't contact either of them. So it's more of the parent's choice, but if your child has an actual reason to get one but you don't think that they're ready for a smart phone, get a flip phone for them.
Teen, 17 years old written by hehehoho

I have never gotten a phone in my life but I am grateful for it, I am going to MIT next year. but I think parents should get their kids a phone at the age of 14-16
Teen, 13 years old written by EsotericUsername

I got my first real phone at the age of 12. It was a prepaid Samsung J3 that had to be loaded with minutes and data every month. But to me, it was freedom from the heavy hand of my parents on the computer. Admittedly, I may have pulled an Icarus and gotten drunk with freedom, but it lasted only six months before I lost my phone. It took a few days for me to notice, but I had lost my phone, presumably when I was running home from my friend's house. It wasn't a huge loss, but my parents were disappointed in me. Consider this. If you think your child is ready to have a cell phone, think about getting a cheap smartphone or a flip phone, not an expensive iPhone right off the bat. If you deem your child worthy of having an expensive, long-term phone, talk to them and say that this phone must be treated well, as they won't get a new one if it breaks or gets lost. Also, children like me aren't stupid. Technology isn't new anymore and it is very easy to block you, parents, out of your phone forever. Passwords can be changed, new accounts can be created and phones can be hidden. Please, keep a close eye on your child.
Teen, 15 years old written by hockey153

I first got a used iPhone 4 when I was 12 and I couldn't call or text because I didn't have a phone number. When I was 13 and in 8th grade, I got my dad's old iPhone 6. I still didn't have a number. I got Snapchat and Instagram. A lot of my friends weren't very good influences and I started to use drugs and do things I definitely shouldn't have on Snapchat. I got blackmailed for 6 months by a guy and the threats were getting worse, so eventually, I realized that the only way to get that to stop was to get in trouble. My cousin told my parents about what I did and they obviously got really mad. I thought I would have my phone taken for around 2 months and also have to be supervised while using social media in the future. But it's been 9 months and I still don't have a phone number, any social media, the ability to look things up, or the ability to take pictures on my phone. And my dad reads all my text messages. I am going to try to buy my own phone but I still doubt that my dad will ever give any of the privileges back. I understand what I did was very wrong but not having any access to anything but music and workout apps on my phone is really starting to take a toll on my mental health, especially in the shutdown. I haven't talked to any of my friends in 4 months and a lot of the friends that I had in different states I haven't been able to talk to in almost 10 months. My dad still doesn't hink that I ever got a punishment. I think that it's really important to talk to your kids about what to do and what not to do on social media I also think that you should respect their privacy. Also I think that if you are a parent you should try not to overdo the punishment because it won't teach your kids how to be more responsible and trustworthy if you take away their privileges for too long.
Teen, 13 years old written by Brownbear1

I am thirteen and I got a smartphone. I think the right age is around my age like 13 or 14 because these can get highly addictive. When given too soon, all people's eyes will see are the screens of their phones. Do not say that you want a phone because your friends have them, that could even be a good thing because you didn't get exposed too early. Just keep your grades up, your maturity levels up, and you phone will be around the corner.
Teen, 14 years old written by Kindagay88

Okay, since it is just gen z here, I might as well comment. I understand why parents don't want us to have phones. Example: sexual predators, viruses, pedophiles. Also, who said our generation is not responsible enough, look at us make valid points, and be mature about this. We understand safety on the internet, not only does school shove it down your throat, so do parents. To the parents: WE UNDERSTAND MORE THAN YOU THINK. WE AREN'T DUMB. In my opinion, a good age to get a phone is 12. The times are different now, it's not the 1990s anymore. Communication is a large part of our generation. My family is anti-technology, I could get in so much trouble for this. I am not purposefully trying to make my parents mad by doing this, I just want adults to see that we are human beings too. I own enough money to buy a phone, I am not allowed to have one though. Honestly, I kinda gave up trying until I saw this. I was looking up good ages to give your kid a phone so that I could have a mature debate with them. I was even going to back it by facts. All I want is a flip phone, I currently have to write my friends' letters because I don't have a phone. Writing letters is not bad but it takes forever. In one sentence that sums the whole paragraph. Can I have a phone now?
Teen, 16 years old written by brebre1570

I am 16 years old and I still don't have a phone! My dad gave me one just for emergencies but I can't use any social media or anything. Not going to lie, but a 16 year old should have a phone because how else are we suppose to have a social life? My boyfriend can literally only talk to me for 5 minutes a day because of my screen time limits. I am getting a job soon and my dad hasn't even said anything about getting a phone with my own money! He said, "I don't trust you with social media." But what he doesn't understand is that I have excellent grades, I hardly ever get out of the house...what in the world am I going to do on social media? Talk to boys? Nope...that was four years ago! I'm grown up now, and I should be able to talk to my friends... At this point I think I am going to buy my own phone that he doesn't know about because if I can't leave the house even when people weren't getting sick, why is there any reason I can't have a phone?
Teen, 13 years old written by DoggySlobber

I am 13 years old. My family is the "You can have a phone when you het a job and can pay for it" kind of family. I think getting a phone before 13 years old would a "oh HELL no!" I don't have a phone and i don't even come close to wanting one. I am fine how i am and i do not want a phone until i am 16, get a job, and make the funds to pay for the damn thing.
Kid, 12 years old

Is all of this comment section just braindead like a phone is necessary for calling your mates and parents like i just dont get why you should get a phone at 16 like at 16 you can already work how can you work and not have a phone?????? Sorry to all that I dare to offend but now srsly.
Teen, 13 years old written by Dog and Cat lover

And do you having work experience, Mr. or Miss everyone who doesn't agree is BRAINDEAD P.s to make you feel better scroll down farther, lol
Teen, 13 years old written by Dog and Cat lover

Ok anyway why are all these whiny 11 and 12-year-olds complaining, "Oh I don't have a phone" "My life is ruined, blah, blah blah." Some of you probably don't even have decent grades. No one should have a PHONE IN THIRD GRADE! Kids now days have ay too much internet access. Why does everyone want to grow up so freaking fast. Some people just want to have a phone to be popular or impress boys and girls. Face it, in the real world nobody will give a Cheeto about how popular you are or how many followers you have. It won't matter! I get it we live in a modernized society and all that. It's not like I can't afford a phone, but I don't need one. Stop trying to grow up so fast. you know how many girls at my school wear revealing or Hoochie clothing, A lot. Children are age are constantly targeted by predators and stalkers. Most of these overprivileged kids aren't even paying their phone bills. What is the point of having a phone that isn't really yours. Kids are not mature enough, they will send inappropriate pics and look at YOU KNOW WHAT. They will also spend all day on their dumb phone doing Snapchat, Tiktok, and stuff. When you search up stuff the Government will see it. When you go and look up inappropriate stuff and then try and delete it, it will still be there, you can get into A Lot of trouble. I have a lighter side when it comes to a 16 year old getting one or someone who lives in a VERY DANGEROUS place or lives with a kid or adult that has health issues. But for the the other ones, be lucky you even have a life or a house, many people don't have that. Also you say that getting a phone will make you feel better, Social media does not make you feel better about yourself. DO NOT put yourself at risk, pls don't. OK anyways I think that is enough for an essay so...
Teen, 14 years old written by woolymoose1

I got my first phone at age 12. I was in 6th grade towards the beginning of the year. i only got one because i rode the bus from school and then walked the rest of the way home and my parents wanted to be able to reach me. it was an iphone 5s and it was a used one from it had limited storage so i didn’t get to have a whole bunch of apps. that christmas, i asked for a new phone because of battery and charging issues with the 5s. my parents got me a iphone 6s and gave my sister who was in fifth grade at the time my old one. previously, she had been using one of my parents old ones with no data or sim card. she could only text apple users and only on wifi. my sister last year got an iphone 6s like mine, but with more storage. i have had the same phone for almost four years,and the battery life is really bad. i can’t take it off the charger without it dying, and i still have only 16 gigabytes of storage so i can’t take pics or anything like that. it’s quite annoying because my parents offered to give my sister a new phone, and hers is newer and better quality than mine. my friends get new phones pretty much every year, and they even ask me when i’m going to get a new phone. i think around junior high age would be a good time because they are more independent. if you aren’t going to be able to keep the phone working and usable, there’s not really a point. money isn’t an issue in my family, just they believe in using things until they need to be replaced.
Teen, 13 years old written by Dog and Cat lover

I am in middle school but I don't have a phone, I'm not dead though! What some of you parents need to understand is that not every child will want to commit suicide if they don't have a phone. I have an iPad and I'm doing real fine. Kids shouldn't have phones until they are at least 16 because of their maturity level. Any older parents should know that their kids don't really NEED a phone because they survived quite fine without one. People should focus more on family time and less on Snapchat, Tik Tok and other social media. Giving a child a phone, even at the age of 13 is putting a child in a great risk. There are online predators that lure kids in and dangerous things on the web. In the end, it's your decision.
Teen, 13 years old written by jameshenrytroot

Earlier this year, I got a hand-me-down Samsung S5 from my mother, but the battery of it is TERRIBLE. Just a few days back, I was listening to some 2007-15 music when I'd noticed that the battery of my phone was decreasing FAST, to the point that it would randomly shut off whenever the battery landed between 50%-90%! Yesterday, my phone was over-heating so badly that it had a chance to shut off and end its life. As someone whose family follows the ''New brand phone after board exams'', I felt attacked. My father works in the U.A.E, away from my country, so obviously he wouldn't give me his old iPhone 5S as a replacement. Also, my maternal side of my family is very, I mean VERY JUDGEMENTAL- My 11-year-old cousin got a RealMe 5 and my family started to criticise her and her parents, saying that ''You guys are weak enough to give your child anything before she completes her board exams!'' Now I don't want my mother to experience the same fate as my cousin's parents by giving a new phone to me as a replacement for my old one. But if I were an adult of a kid, I would recommend giving a phone to your child when he's/she's 13, because that's when the child explores the net and follow various medias such as Instagram, Snapchat, etc. So yeah :p
Teen, 13 years old written by jameshenrytroot

Earlier this year, I got a hand-me-down Samsung S5 from my mother, but the battery of it is TERRIBLE. Just a few days back, I was listening to some 2007-15 music when I'd noticed that the battery of my phone was decreasing FAST, to the point that it would randomly shut off whenever the battery landed between 50%-90%! Yesterday, my phone was over-heating so badly that it had a chance to shut off and end its life. As someone whose family follows the ''New brand phone after board exams'', I felt attacked. My father works in the U.A.E, away from my country, so obviously he wouldn't give me his old iPhone 5S as a replacement. Also, my maternal side of my family is very, I mean VERY JUDGEMENTAL- My 11-year-old cousin got a RealMe 5 and my family started to criticise her and her parents, saying that ''You guys are weak enough to give your child anything before she completes her board exams!'' Now I don't want my mother to experience the same fate as my cousin's parents by giving a new phone to me as a replacement for my old one. But if I were an adult of a kid, I would recommend giving a phone to your child when he's/she's 13, because that's when the child explores the net and follow various medias such as Instagram, Snapchat, etc. So yeah :p
Teen, 16 years old written by 16amberf

I don’t have a phone and I’m 16 years old. Since I was 13, I have asked for a iPhone each birthday and Christmas but my mom did get me a iPad, for a Spanish field trip to Costa Rica so it’s not money it’s a matter of want . I’m a average student in school A’s and B’s maybe a couple of C’s. But besides my grades, I’m mature and responsible. Last year, I started babysitting and then this summer I was suppose to lifeguard so I think if I’m a junior in high school, babysitting and I’m supposed to lifeguard both of these jobs do involve mature, responsibility and safety. Plus a person life. I think I should get a iPhone. Nobody bullies me about it, they just always are like your parents are crazy, your going to be graduating next year. I really hope this year for my birthday I get one. In my family birthdays are like Christmas you make a list of things you want and then you meant to get most of them, this year I asked for an iPhone 11 mint green and a protective clear case so it doesn’t break because it’s a glass phone and that’s it. I think that responsible.
Teen, 16 years old written by 16amberf

I don’t have a phone and I’m 16 years old. Since I was 13, I have asked for a iPhone each birthday and Christmas but my mom did get me a iPad, for a Spanish field trip to Costa Rica so it’s not money it’s a matter of want . I’m a average student in school A’s and B’s maybe a couple of C’s. But besides my grades, I’m mature and responsible. Last year, I started babysitting and then this summer I was suppose to lifeguard so I think if I’m a junior in high school, babysitting and I’m supposed to lifeguard both of these jobs do involve mature, responsibility and safety. Plus a person life. I think I should get a iPhone. Nobody bullies me about it, they just always are like your parents are crazy, your going to be graduating next year. I really hope this year for my birthday I get one. In my family birthdays are like Christmas you make a list of things you want and then you meant to get most of them, this year I asked for an iPhone 11 mint green and a protective clear case so it doesn’t break because it’s a glass phone and that’s it. I think that responsible.
Kid, 11 years old

dog_lover6376, most people complain for like 2 hours about not having a phone when they have an ipad. Honestly, and ipad is 1000% better than nothing.
Kid, 11 years old

I think that people are based around grades way too much. Grades are not an accurate depiction of intellect. is a quote i think but anyways parents, don't not get your kid a phone because they have bad grades. It is about maturity and age, and I recommend 11-12 as a general rule for the first smartphone. The average amount of screen usage per day for a kid my age is 4:44 [yes, hours], so don't set limits below 2 hours for screen entertainment. I am a straight Bs student, but I don't have a phone because "every family is different". I get bullied for not having one, but parents of my classmates are literally asking my parents when I will get a phone, and my 12th birthday is soon, and I am hoping to get one then. I also want a gaming pc/ laptop, but that will take about 2 years to save up for. I have a nintendo switch though, so I can wait. Anyway, get your kid a phone at 11-12 or they will be bullied and might even miss out on school work [when lockdown ends].
Kid, 11 years old

I do not have a phone, which was alright for a while. I have been in i think 8 different schools, which means that it is really hard for me to make friends every time that I move. I used to be in a school with really nice kids where nobody had a phone, but then we moved again and then it was only me and 1 other person out of our 200 person year group who didn't have one. Then he got one, and I have been bullied so much for not having one, and I can't keep in touch with my friends from previous schools. I suggest that you get your kid one when they go to secondary school [in uk] or 11-12 in the US because that is around when most people get one.
Teen, 13 years old written by dog_lover6376

I was bullied constantly before I got a phone. I was left out and could not relate to many of my classmates. When I got a phone, it was the start of this year and I have stopped being bullied and now I can have fun online. I suggest getting a second hand iPhone 6 because they are cheap and are of good quality. Also, if u r reading this and are a parent, DO NOT I repeat, DO NOT put a screen time limit on it. and if you do, make sure they know the password because sometimes it can stop you from having fun with their friends. Also, I think that a good time for them to get a phone is when they are sometimes walking to and from school also if they are helpful at home and are not addicted to their iPad. Also, around 10-11 is a good time to give them a phone. Parents, if you are reading this and you have a sensible child, pls give them a phone if they are around that age especially because of the times now with COVID 19 and when everyone goes back to school your child might have to work harder at keeping up with relationships because many of their friends are phoning but thx for reading this and don't be stupid and go outside, stay inside and don't catch COVID 19! Hope u r well, from dog_lover6376 :)
Kid, 12 years old

I’m in 6th grade, and I dont have a phone myself (just an iPad and an iPod) but I personally think around the middle school years is fine as long as they are responsible.
Teen, 13 years old written by jbug360

hi your kids might get bullyed because they don't have a phone they might deside to do suisisde or hurt them selves for it so in my perspective get them a phone around 12 13 please stop suiside
Teen, 13 years old written by stellav1129

I am in 7th grade and I do technically have a phone, but I'm not sure what I have qualifies. One, my parents have very strict rules about it, I can't take it to school with me, etc. They go through it quite often and I can't have it in my room alone. Also, it is an old android that does not work that well anymore, and I understand that my parents are "Samsung people" But because I have an android it makes it hard to communicate with friends who have iPods and I feel left out a lot. I don't even need a nice phone, I would just like to have an iPhone that works decently and my parents are not as strict with it. I'm going to be going to highschool in almost a year, and they say that I might not even get a new phone before then, which stinks. I feel like I have been responsible, I don't get into much trouble, I get mostly As and even though I have my moments (as every other teenager) I'm overall very respectful and responsible. I'm just very frustrated because I'm showing plenty of maturity for my age and everyone I know thinks that, but I'm not even guaranteed one before high school. If you are a parent reading this please understand the social disadvantages that come with not having a phone. Try to understand that the world you grew up in is a lot different than the one that we are growing up in.
Kid, 11 years old

I'm in 7th Grade and most people do have phones with SIM cards in them. I do have a phone but it is an iPhone 6 without a SIM. And I'm not allowed to take it too school. Whilst I don't get bullied about it I know of others that do. If you are a parent who is debating getting their kid a phone with a SIM I think you really should. Having a phone allows kids to connect with their peers and have fun. I know kids feel left out sometimes while others are talking about something on Instagram last night or that thing they were texting to someone. Just make sure your child is responsible about it. Maybe you can know the password to their phone just to check in on what they've been doing. Having a phone makes a kid feel responsible so they will be less likely to break the rules because otherwise they won't have a phone again. But anyways. Yes. Get your kid a phone if you think they are mature enough. Ps. Don't set screentime limits or anything just knowing their password and filtering inappropriate content is enough
Teen, 15 years old written by bebo123

I am 15 years old. I have been bullied in school since i was 10 because i didn't get a phone. I begged my parents to get me one, but they promised me i'll have one by 16. My birthday is almost 1 month from now and they are changing their minds and they said i won't get it till 18. I think kids under 14 shouldn't have a phone because it really does affect their school level, and also affects them socially. I really turned out to be a good student and i used my spare time in doing activities, but after 14.. i mean seriously your children grew up by then, and it is really a very serious thing at school if you don't have a phone after 8th grade. I really think my parents have made good decisions when i was little, but now i'm a full grown woman, and i have no friends at school or a social life because i don't have a phone. Please, don't just think about a child's future by marks, please think about his or her social lives. Many kids are quiet and don't talk about school to parents but that doesn't mean they aren't suffering. When i give birth to my baby and he or she grows up, i think i'll let them have a phone based on their maturity level, not by age, but in general i think 14-16 is a good time. I am almost in college and i do not have a phone. it upsets me deeply :(
Kid, 10 years old

IMO kids should get a cell phone at age 10. I don’t even have one, but all of my friends do. I get teased about it at school. I had begged my parents for a phone, even when I was 6. I finally got an iPad for my 8th birthday. I just played games and took pictures on it for about a year. My parents made sure I was SAFE on it. When I turned nine, I was expecting a phone. But it turns out I got an iPod. I was pretty disappointed, but I had at least something. I didn’t start texting until over the summer. The Apple account was at first under my dad’s account. And I didn’t like that, so I tried to change it. I did, and then I asked my friends for their phone numbers. I never told them about my iPod. Then they asked me if I got a phone. And I told them it was an iPod, and they laughed at me. I actually just started a new school in January of this year. I’ve pretended I had a phone, because everyone else did. No one knows it’s an iPod. When I turned 10, all I only received clothes :( the only cool thing i have is a Youtube Channel. But I’m very responsible about it. I told them I wanted to show responsibility. But, at school there is this girl in the grade above me who also has one with 20 less subscribers than mine. But people think hers is cooler. She also has a phone. I know kids who are younger than me who have one. But I always get compared to six and seven year olds bc they have iPods. I don’t think they are responsible for a phone yet. Idk y my parents won’t let me have one. My parents even say I act a lot more mature than most kids my age. I think that if you think your kid is responsible enough for one, let them have one. Because seriously, bullying does go behind the scenes of not having one. Sincerely, a 10 year old girl
Kid, 12 years old

I totally agree I'm 12 and all i have is an ipod and I get made fun of all of the time. I totally agree. Parents, the bullying is behind the scenes. If your kid is 10-12, you should get them one. Make sure it's a 7 or above.
Adult written by cookieoreo18

I believe that kids should buy a cell phone when they get 16 years old. I bought a cell phone when i got 18 years old and i am grateful that i didn't buy it earlier because i would get addicted with it, like with my computer. Some kids might be more responsible even if they are less than 16 years old but you don't if they will be responsible with the phone. Buy them after they get 16 years old
Kid, 11 years old

I think that kids should only get newer phones, for example, the iPhone 8 or newer, if they do something to deserve it. Getting expensive phones is a privilege, not a right. They should earn it, by saving up money for it or getting all A-pluses on their report card. If their parents think they need a way to get in touch with them, they should get their kid(s) an older or hand-me-down phone. Even a flip-phone will work. Parental controls should be set on kids' devices until they become 13. The controls shouldn't be strict, like 1 hour a day of phone time, but for example, no more than 5 hours and not past 10 pm. Kids should be doing better things than living on their phones all day and night when instead they can find a new hobby. Many other kids in my school have new phones, and most of them don't care very much about their grades, only worrying about their Tik Tok followers, reading all their messages, etc. Phones have made kids get FOMO (fear of missing out), and they focus on their phones more than more important things. Only get your child a phone if you know they can properly handle it, and they know when to stop.
Teen, 13 years old written by jledoux

I am just getting my first phone, and I think kids should get a phone when they are mature, responsible, and need it! I do, and I proudly qualify. And that horrible parental controls thing? *Shudder* Don’t use that! You gave your kid their phone, so you can trust them with it! It’s their’s!
Kid, 11 years old

I just got my iPhone 8 with service this last Christmas. I had an iPhone 5 with just an email, and no service which I got in maybe in 3rd grade. I think a kid should get a phone and service when they are 10-11.
Kid, 12 years old

The best age to get a phone is RIGHT after 5th grade or in the end of 5th grade. If you get a phone, you should get a 11. It's new and cheaper than the XR when it came out. If you can't then do the XR or 8. I think ios is better because they have stricter screentime policies.
Kid, 11 years old

So. I think, if you're 13 and over, it would be fine to ask your parents to get one for you. But if you're under that age, i think parents should let them save up for their own. I don't understand how some of my friends have these expensive iPhones that they didn't even buy themselves!! I still don't have a phone, but I'm currently saving for a IPhone X. It may take a while, over a year, but kids should be taught to get it themselves if they want it that bad.
Kid, 12 years old

In my opinion, the age you should get a phone is over 11. If you give a phone to a child under that age, they may get too caught up with it and it can become an overwhelming factor of their lives. In primary school, the central focus is for children to learn and grow before they move on to their older years. If a phone is required at that stage it should be a basic but usable device to take calls and do essential actions. I got my phone only a few months ago, at the start of year 8. I didn't need one before that point, instead I was given a regular laptop during year 7 to do homework and research. I don't even really need a mobile phone at this point but it is a convenience item at this point. It was given to me as a reward for doing well over the previous year and not for the sake of it. A phone can be used for incredible things but should be limited. So I recommend that if a parent buys a phone for their child they should put restrictions on screen use at first to see how the child handles it and if they adhere to the rule. Over time let them do their own thing but monitor them occasionally. I was never given these rules myself but I enforced them out of my own will. I am happy I have because it lets me set limits on what I do day to day and not be submerged in a screen constantly. Also if you give them a phone as a reward, they will be more likely to cherish it and take care of it, I know that from experience. Thank you for reading my contribution.
Adult written by MomOf2020

My thoughts are that there is no certain age to get a phone. Instead of looking at the age, look if they are a good student, and they won't use the phone irresponsibly. I wouldn't let them get social media if they are under 12. My daughter got her phone at age 11, but she's a good student, and never used her computer irresponsibly. Your child might really want a phone because they want to connect with their friends. Maybe start them off with a Tracfone.
Teen, 15 years old written by Wiggles04

I got a smart phone with data when I turned 15. My parents told me when I started driving I could get a phone with data. That makes total since. My brother has had a flip phone since he was 10 or 11 years old because of his job so if he has issues he can call someone. That also makes total since. I don't think any kid under 12 years old needs a smart phone with data. Flip phones are fine for kids that go to school and aren't allowed to have a smartphone yet. I know flip phones aren't trending, but they can be a great alternative option for a kid that needs to have something in case of an emergency. When kids start driving or get a job, I feel like that would be a good time to get them a smartphone with data. So, in my opinion, 10 and under: no smart phone with data, kids 10-13: it's okay, kids 14 and up: should be just fine (especially if they're driving or working).
Teen, 14 years old written by iPhone Guinness

Hi I’m very experienced with smart phones, and the right age to get your kid a phone all depends... if they’re getting bullied at school for not having a phone, definitely get them one, at least above the iPhone 7, and as long as they are over ten years old, because I think getting your kid a phone under ten is nonsense. I got my dads old tablet when I was two, then got a iPhone 4 when I was six, but it didn’t work, I just wanted one, so, hey... I GOT ONE. But all I could do was play music and take pics on it. I got my first REAL phone when I was finished with fifth grade, like a congrats gift. I think that’s the best time of year to get them one, and make sure their report card is good, and see how responsible they are with their other belongings. My first phone was the iPhone 7, and got the iPhone X when I was thirteen. I currently have the same phone, and I am saving up for the iPhone 11 Pro Max. When your child first asks for a phone, which is usually at age eight or nine, don’t get them one until they are at least over ten, and are responsible. I think that’s the right age to get a phone, since there is no law that tells when your kids HAVE to get a phone, but if I could, I would stop kids from getting phones until sixth to seventh grade, but I can’t, so just stick to the ages of 10-12. Make sure there first phone isn’t an expensive, newer model, but at least get them an iPhone. If they start asking you for a phone at age six, just get them an iPod touch, that’s like a less expensive and more safer phone for kids. That’s all I have to say.
Teen, 14 years old written by Cherrypopsicle1

Get them a phone. I 13 and I got my first phone when I was 12. Get them the phone for their elementary into middle school graduation
Teen, 13 years old written by B3NDYdeath

You should just get your kid a phone. It doesn't have to be an smart phone, maybe the $15 ones at Kroger, but just get them a phone. It makes them fell better about them self. The age should be 12-13 IMO.
Adult written by em_j13

I received my first phone when I was in 4th grade so Iphones weren't really as big as it is today. I had a Motorola flip phone and was content with my new device. Now as a 18 year old I have a Iphone 11. In today's age kids should receive phones at a later age like 15-16 or a age where they can manage a cell phone. Since social media has gotten so big kids are extremely influential and a phone could harm them. I know parental control is a thing but kids can find a way to get pass that.
Kid, 12 years old

No! I highly disagree. Kids should get a phone as soon as they are mature, have good grades, and are going to middle school!
Kid, 10 years old

Hello. I'm still a kid but I think a kid should get a phone at age 10-11 even though my parents won't let me get one until I'm 11 or 12. But it also depends on how mature your kid is. Do they lose expensive things like glasses easily? Or do they take good care of them? These are 2 things to consider. Thanks for reading uwu!!
Adult written by Jennifer L.

As a parent, my plan was to give my children a phone when they were about 16-18. As they began to get older, I realized that l should maybe get them a phone around the age of 11-12. When my youngest (12) turned 11, I got him an iPhone 8. I got my other child and iPhone 7. I used to use the Kids Plan (Verison), but as my kids got older I let them access the internet. Unlike most parents I know, I am very strict about technology and I suggest getting your child an iPhone 7 or 8 at the age of 10 or 11.
Kid, 10 years old

I'm just a kid of course, but I know a lot about Technology. My mom works at Common Sense and I learn a lot from her. I think a kid should be able to have a phone in the age range of 10 or 11. Of course it's the parents choice but my recommendation is around age 10 or 11. Here are some things to think about before you get your kid a cell phone. -Do they often loose things -Are they easily forgetful about where there stuff is -And lastly, are they careful with expensive items around the house Think about that to make sure your kid is ready to have their own phone.
Teen, 15 years old written by persona21

My parents got my siblings and I iPhones at the end of elementary school right before middle school, around ages 10-11. We never had flip phones or anything before that. I think this was a great age because even though I wanted a phone when I was a lot younger, I had the responsibility to handle a phone when I got it. Going into middle school required me to be home before my parents were, so it gave me a reliable way to contact them. If this is the case with a much younger kid, I would reccommend getting them a cheaper phone with less function so they can contact you but not get into trouble either. As with iPhones and other phones with a lot more capabilities, it really depends on their age. I would say no younger than 10 personally because there is no need for it earlier than that. After, I think it really depends on if your kid can handle such an expensive device and make smart choices. i can talk to my parents about a lot, so having an open relationship with your child can really help if they do make a bad choice and need help, or are being bullied, etc. When I was a lot younger, my mom checked my phone a lot. Now, she doesn't anymore because she trusts me to make good decisions. If your kid does get a phone, keep tabs on them but allow them to earn their privacy. I think that has been really good for me to have as I get older. Anyway, phones are not inherently but social media can be if used improperly so be careful until they can make good choices with that.
Parent of a 6 and 10-year-old written by Common Sense Me...

Thank you so much for your thoughtful note! I think it will help a lot of parents (and kids!) struggling to make this decision. Thank you! JM
Teen, 13 years old written by m___y

same... :( I've come here to vent out my frustrations and I finally found someone under the same circumstance as me! I recently turned thirteen and have been asking my parents for a phone since I was 7. At first, they said when I was 18 but my dad later said when I could drive. Literally, all my friends have a phone except for me! I go to a private school and a couple of my classmates have the iPhone 11! *sigh* I could never relate. It's so embarrassing when I tell someone that I don't have a phone. Most of my peers have the x or xr and my dad still has the 6. Just yesterday I cried about this when my dad told me that I couldn't have a phone. I know that it sounds childish but I couldn't help it. I get pretty good grades and am pretty responsible but ARGGHH
Kid, 11 years old

Maybe save up if you want it early. That's what I'm doing and i might get it by the time i turn 12. If you aren't sure if you could save enough to get a 11 or something, go for the X! It's a good phone that is still new. And i know how you feel not getting a phone. But don't worry!
Teen, 14 years old written by winterbear

Honestly, it all depends on the timing. Whether you are responsible, grades, or activities that are necessary in need to keep in touch. I feel like kids should start getting flip phones around 5-6th grade and earn a quality phone in 8th grade to high school. (14) Some might feel pressured to get phone because everyone around you (friends) might have one, but you shouldn't let that effect you. I got my iphone XR when I was 14 even though I was supposed to get it later. It's understandable that you might want a phone to keep in touch and playing games. ~
Teen, 14 years old written by Cooper7272

Omg plz do not tell me u r getting ur kids a flip phone they will be the laughing stocks of the school I was 11 when I got my first IPHONE NOT FLIP PHONE flip phones r for old school people not kids of this era
Kid, 12 years old

Oh my Gosh yesssssssssss you are so right!!!!!!!!!!!! My dad said That ill get a flip phone but hen i argued ad he dropped it. But u r so right.
Teen, 13 years old written by Funbunny456

I think age 11 ( high school ) if they are responsible if they will not just play on it all day or text and only give when they need if like a sleepover with a friend, school( if they go there on there own ) if not they don’t need one or going out on there own or with a friend and if they tend to lose things don’t give them one or give them a £10 nothing expensive otherwise if they are not very responsible age 14 is the right age to give them a phone and tell them about the dangers of holding it too close to there head all the time so don’t hold too close to your head all the time say like keep it in your backpack when your not using it and a phone is a big responsibility I have a cheap £15 phone now which I only use when I go places on my own or with a friend if any adults around take me or me and my friends places I don’t need to bring it and I think that’s the right thing to do if they are getting made fun of at school for not having a phone tell the teacher or just tell the kids please stop makeing fun of me or I’ll have to tell the teacher and at my school we have to give our phones to the teacher at the beginning of the day and get them back at the end and I think that rule is good to make sure no one plays on them and if we need to phone our parents we use the resepsion phone and I think if they are going to use if for games and just un sensible stuff age 16 is the right age and buy your kids a camera if they like takeing photos of stuff and I think even for iPads or tablet youngest age should be 8
Teen, 14 years old written by katemiller16

I am currently 15 and I still have an Ipod touch, 5th generation. I'm involved in many outside of school activities like volleyball and drivers ed while also in school activities like band. I'm constantly on the move, from school and other places, and I constantly need to text my parents where I am, but I can't because most places don't have free wifi. My grades are decent and I've given my parents tons of reasons why I should get a phone. Nothing works. Please help!
Teen, 13 years old written by I_cant_sleep

I'm 13 years old and I have a galaxy a10s. My parents decided to get me one as my school dismissal time is later and I'm taking cca's that last very long. For me, the best age would be around 13-14, not 10-12. But, other than age, parents should also count their kid's maturity level. For example, if their child is doing well in school, has good remarks from their teachers and is doing their chores well. Also, for those whiny 12 year olds there, be thankful you have a home, food and clothes, because there are many other kids suffering from lack of these in the world. Just remember, if you ever get a phone, it is a HUGE responsibility.
Teen, 13 years old written by

I am 13 years old, and I think that I deserve a phone. I do 2 theatre programs for school and town, so I stay after school a lot. Also, my friends want to go into town after school, and I use the school phone, and my parents don't answer so I have to go home:(. Also, I am very responsible at home,too. My grades are pretty good especially because I am in regents classes in 8th grade. I always get home at like 5:00pm, and I do my chores, homework, eat dinner and get in bed by 9:00pm. I do hvae an ipod touch but my parents keep it in their room, and don't let me use it a lot. I've asked my parents every year since I've started middle school, but they always say no. We don't even have a house phone! Over the summer, I was home with my sister (twin sister) and she passes out. We have cameras in the house but, my parents didn't know what happened until they heard me screaming trying to get their attention. I didn't have any way to call them, and I didn't know what to do! I am very responsible, and my parents always tell me that I am very well behaved and responsible, and I don't know what to do. I'm always busy all the time so it's not like I am going to be on my phone all night. I wake up at 4:30 to finish my homework!! Please help me...
Adult written by galalpozoguy19939

The correct age for you to get your child a phone is probably in Middle School, though it really depends on maturity. If you do, get them an iphone 8, good phone but not too expensive. If you're kid is whining, "ohhhh my god everyone I know has a phone!" Just say, "Ok! I'll get you a phone!" And toss them an old Nokia.
Teen, 14 years old written by NeymarSoccer11000

I am 11 years old and in 6th grade. I do not have a phone and I am fine with it. I am also a little sad because 90% of the people in my grade have a phone. I have my own IPad, though. My brother is 5 and has his own IPad. If your children are really bugging you for a phone from the ages of 8-11, give them a flip phone, so you see how well they are handling it. I would say the best time to get your kid a phone is 13 or 14 years old. By then, they should have at least an IPhone 7S or greater. That's what I would do. Thank you for reading this and have a good day.
Teen, 14 years old written by NeymarSoccer11000

I am 11 years old and in 6th grade. I do not have a phone and I am fine with it. I am also a little sad because 90% of the people in my grade have a phone. I have my own IPad, though. My brother is 5 and has his own IPad. If your children are really bugging you for a phone from the ages of 8-11, give them a flip phone, so you see how well they are handling it. I would say the best time to get your kid a phone is 13 or 14 years old. By then, they should have at least an IPhone 7S or greater. That's what I woul do. Thank you for reading this and have a good day.
Adult written by Connerss

iPhone 7Ses don’t exist, I believe you refer to the 6S (which is perfect for the point you try to express).
Teen, 13 years old written by YeezysChild

My mom does not see a reason to give me a phone. She either says to use one of your friends or just use the house phone.
Teen, 13 years old written by jledoux

I’m so sorry, man. Tell her you can use it for safety and that if you have your own phone, everyone could have more time with the house phone. And believe it or not, some research shows that phones can have a POSITIVE INFLUENCE on children and teens! She’ll also be impressed that you ‘did the research!’
Teen, 17 years old written by Lauren17

There is no reason to get your child a phone until they are in high school. I got my first phone at 14, which is still young. If you are going to get a child a phone who is 8-13 you need to give them a flip phone. They should only be able to call their parents and 911. Young children online are some of the most inappropriate and uneducated people on the internet, and they usually just get themselves in trouble. If you’re worried about them being “bullied” because they don’t have a phone, don’t be. Most of them are made fun of by all of the high school-aged people when they try to add us on apps they shouldn’t even have. Social media is not for young children. Keep that influence off of them for as long as you can, and keep them outside with their friends. Social media causes little kids to grow up way too fast, and they end up being influenced by things they shouldn’t even know about/ have an opinion about. Most of you posting on here are 10-12. You had to have some sort of electronic device to post on here so just be grateful for what your parents did buy you, it’s more than you should have.
Kid, 12 years old

I don't see the reason why all these people are whining that "That person has a phone and I don't!" or "That person has a better phone than me although I have better grades! I deserve a phone!" See, some families are just richer than yours, or it could be vice versa. People have different opinions, some parents think that giving their child a phone is unnecessary. Others think they should have a phone by third grade. So for the people who don't have a phone, just stop whining. You can do one of three things: 1. Make a very good reason for your parents to get you a phone. 2. Make enough money to buy a phone yourself. 3. Deal with it. I think that a phone should be given to your child from at least 5th or 6th grade. But then again, I know some High Schoolers without phones and some 3rd graders with phones. For what phone you should get, it is really up to you, but I recommend a phone that is no older than 3 years. A Galaxy S8 or S9 would be fine, as well as an iPhone 7 or 8. DO NOT GIVE YOUR CHILD ANYTHING THAT IS OVER $1000. If you are thinking of that, make sure you think long and hard. Get your child an iPhone XR or 11 if you so choose. My iPhone 8 already seems like its 4 years old, which is quite strange for a phone that has been out for only a bit more than 2 years. Probably gonna save money to buy an 11. But make sure that you know what you are doing. And like many others are saying, it doesn't always need to rely on age. If you feel that your child is mature enough to have a phone, then you should do it. Have a nice rest of your day! =)
Adult written by Connerss

I’ll deconstruct some of your points. 1. It is genuinely fair to say to stop whining, I’m not disagreeing on that. 2. I’d make the argument 55% or so of parents who refuse to get their kids a phone are Karens who believe 5G will cause your brain to fry. Those people are self-centered and you can not convince them unless you know how to deal with one (I had a similar ex-wife and it took me about 2 years to even get 1% closer to sanity). Expecting a child who whines to reason properly is just like asking world hunger to not exist. Doesn’t work. 3. Those are blanket statements. “No older than 3 years” indicates you should go on the lower spectrum of that. Both Samsung and Apple slow down older devices, so phones are subscriptions, not products. This is basic market capitalism. The best products are the ones you need but never last. For phone choice, pick a phone from OnePlus. They are less than $1000, don’t slow down easily, and are decent.
Teen, 13 years old written by Ihaveaphone

It really depends on the kid you have if you have a well behaved kid I would see why not . If you have a kid that does not turn his homework in on time maybe you should not get him a phone. Let my tell you my story. I got my very first phone in 3rd grade the phone I got was the Iphone 5c when 4th grade came along I upgraded to the Iphone Se all the way threw 6th and a little bit of 7th grade I was using that. There were a lot of screen issues with it but I still ended up using it a few weeks before Christmas in 7th grade I got the Iphone 8 plus. The phone I would reccommend to get your kid would be the Iphone xr!
Teen, 13 years old written by EliEndar16

I like how everyone here is crying over not being able to have their self-esteem crushed. I felt exactly how you all feel before I got a phone, when I got one, (Which I paid for myself) for the first month or so it was pretty great. Until I fell down the rabbit hole of social media like Insta. ITS NOT WORTH IT. I think that parents should give their kids phones around high school, where they are more responsible.
Kid, 12 years old

I still haven't gotten a phone yet. My parents want me to wait until high school, but I don't want to. If you are in my situation, you know how frusturating it is. You will just have to wait it out like I am.
Teen, 13 years old written by Robotic Reaper

The right time to have a phone I think is not based on age. It should be based on following: 1. grade. If someone gets below B, giving them a phone will seriously make them focusing on their phone all day instead of try to get a better grade. 2. knowledge about possibilities of what could happen when having a phone. If that person knows barely anything about technology and internet, then maybe it's time for their parents to teach them. Teach stuff such as spam, fraud, suspicious link, and dangerous virus and how to avoid them. I think for people at my age (13) I know a lot of stuff about phones and applications. I know what people's purpose based on what they say to me. So security isn't an issue for me. 3. whether treating their stuff carefully. If most stuff are broken in less than half year, then no. at most have a crappy phone.
Adult written by Connerss

Deconstructing this argument. 1. You claim that it’s based on “grade”. Grades are arbitrary letters that don’t determine anything until you get in high school (by then, you learn how vital a GPA is). 2. Most parents don’t know the latest viruses or anything of the sort. There’s no solution other than watch them. If they’re appropriate enough, they should consider watching SomeOrdinaryGamers or at least parents should transcribe what he says and understand viruses better. 3. You don’t understand people as well as you think you do. 4. For the “broken” argument, it’s important to note cases and screen protectors exist. Nothing more I can add.
Teen, 13 years old written by Falisha Smith

I am 13 and I do not have a phone. My twin sister, however does. She is on it all the time, and it's really annoying. We aren't with each other most of the time, and it's frustrating when no one can contact me. I have to use my mom's phone or the family computer to call and text, and I never know whats going on in my friend group. I don'y mean to sound whiny but it is really stupid when every single person in our eight-person friend group is hanging out at school during free time and I have no idea where to find them. I really want a phone, and even offered to pay for most of it. No luck. It's really embarrassing when people want my number, and then they're confused because, why would my twin have a phone and not me? I am a straight A honor student who loves the outdoors, and I am an athlete. I hate it when people are on they're phone 24/7, and I know how it feels when people say "You don't have a phone? What a loser." I just want to say that I get really nervous when I can't call my mom or dad, or even my friends. Sometimes I don't know where anyone is, and that's hard. I think that once you get into Middle School it would be helpful to have a phone.
Teen, 13 years old written by Wendy Madeline

Why does your twin but not u? I totally feel u tho. I’m in grade 8 and I get straight A’s. I do have an iPad but that isn’t helpful when u need to text ur parents and there’s no wifi.
Teen, 13 years old written by malc.ol_m7

“OH! I don’t have a phone! I’m so sad! I’m getting made fun of!” seriously, shush up. You’re lucky if you live in a country without war, with access to clean water and nutritious food. If you’re like me, I got my first phone, a Samsung Galaxy S7 when I was 9, but for several reasons. We were moving away from our family and were not going to be having a home phone so my parents got me a phone so I could text and call family, friends and them when I went out places alone or with friends. So grow up and stop whining. You’ll get a phone when you’re parents find it suitable for you.
Teen, 13 years old written by ipd_dior

I am 11 and everything in my grade is based on social media. Plans are made online, and not having a phone sucks because I don't know what's going on. My brother who is in 4th grade has an I-Pod but I don't even have an iPad. It is very frustrating to not know and it is going on and is very hard to keep in touch with people. My friends text me through my mom's phone which is embarrassing and uncomfortable for me and other kids that want to text me. Please reconsider your response because you don't know the situation others in. I am a multi athlete and are in many activities where if we get out early or late I have to ask someone for there phone.
Teen, 13 years old written by ipd_dior

I am 11 and everything in my grade is based on social media. Plans are made online, and not having a phone sucks because I don't know what's going on. My brother who is in 4th grade has an I-Pod but I don't even have an iPad. It is very frustrating to not know and it is going on and is very hard to keep in touch with people. My friends text me through my mom's phone which is embarrassing and uncomfortable for me and other kids that want to text me. Please reconsider your response because you don't know the situation others in. I am a multi athlete and are in many activities where if we get out early or late I have to ask someone for there phone.
Teen, 13 years old written by Falisha Smith

BTW I've moved 6 times, been to 6 different schools, and I still don't have a phone. I miss my friends like crazy.
Teen, 13 years old written by You wish

Breh, your just flexin on kids who don't have phones. I don't feel like you got any business on this site unless ur a kid without phone, or a parent. You got a phone, so be happy with it and keep your insights to urself. Have a nice life.
Teen, 13 years old written by Caker123

I don't have a phone yet and I'm 13! My parents say "you have to think about the problems you might face after that." All my friends have phones but my role model cousin got his phone when he was in the summer before his first year of college! My older friends say you NEED IT in high school, I don't know who to listen to.
Teen, 15 years old written by Solothekid123

Hey people. I might be able to explain this better than some of these 6th graders ranting and crying in the comments. Im 14 turning 15 in 10 days and I am currently a sophomore (pretty young for my grade actually, I should be a freshman). And I don't have a phone yet. I think kids should receive a phone once they enter junior high (7th grade and up). This is the point of time when kids start to enter their tweens and teens and start to demonstrate responsibility. Having a phone is very important during these points for a number of reasons. And I think the older generation has trouble understanding the school environment in the 21st century, us being the tech saavy generation and all. Things are different. Yes we communicate person to person in school, but once the child leaves they have nobody to contact or talk to. And nowadays ALL the kids text and call each other to stay in touch and a little social. This definitely leaves kids left out when they are laying in their bed watching t.v, while they know all their friends are laughing it up in the group chat he couldn't be a part of. And the topic of phones is dreadful for a kid who doesn't have one. And to be honest it's embarrassing, especially once high school comes. Imagine the boy or girl you've been crushing really hard on comes up to you and says "Hey can I have your number?" What are you gonna say? And trust me your kids will be too embarrassed to bring that to their parents. And a phone is vital if they are in a emergency where they need to call you or 911. Thier death could be because they didn't have the device to contact help, whatever the case may be. I know this is starting to sound ridiculous but this is reality. And I don;t even feel like writing this anymore. Thanks.
Kid, 12 years old

OK, it's time to let my feelings out!!! I FEEL sUpEr left out at school, and I feel like crying every moment of the day. My parents in fact work for tech and software and they won't get me a phone, even though they could definitely afford to buy me a high end phone like the 11 pro max (Sorry I have to flex, it's the only way it boosts my self esteem in this matter). Every night before bed instead of having "sweet dreams", I cry myself into my pillow until 1:00 a.m. I think about when I will get phone, but then I realize, MY PARENTS SAID THEY WOULD NEVER GET ME A PHONE!!! Even in the 0.00000001% chance they do get me a phone, they will probably find the cheap way out and buy me some cheap used broken old generation samsung, so womp womp womp for the rest of my childhood. As an adult, instead having nostalgically wonderful memories of my childhood, I will only remember the torment of not having a phone and being left out of everything ever!!! IF u read this reply and comment what you think, all my friends have iphone 8 or higher. Have a great day. :P
Kid, 10 years old

I feel you kid. Sometimes, Adults are the most unfair thing ever. Once your 18, knock yourself out and buy a phone!
Teen, 13 years old written by EliEndar16

Okay, first, I think your parents are one of the smartest out there, because after you get a phone, you will be attatched to it for the rest of your life. Its not actually as important as you think it is, and there are some bad things that come with it too.
Teen, 15 years old written by QueenAZ

Allow my username but I'm in year 11 which means I'm 16 and I currently do not own a phone because my parents will not trust me with one. When I was 14 I had my phone taken off me because I went out with a guy and my parents found out and they are not prepared to give me one. I just wanna say I hate not having a phone and I agree with the fact that yes, you do feel left out sometimes, yes I am not able to contact my friends which makes me feel really lonely. The worst thing is they won't even let me go out so I can't every meet my friends. But I genuinely feel like you are over exaggerating a bit and personally I don't if they give me an iphone 6 or even a 5 as long as I am able to contact my friends I would be fine with that.
Teen, 13 years old written by Vesover

Hey child, sorry if what i say affends you but I used to be a nice 6th or 7th grader like you I know that I am still a youngin but still. you DO NOT need a phone to survive, my brother got his first phone when he was 22 years old CHILL, it is something you shouldnt cry about and its cool that your parents wotk for a software company, maybe the reason they wont give you one is because they know what is really going to happen with a phone in your hands.
Teen, 13 years old written by EliEndar16

Maybe because they don't want their children looking at pornography? (Why did your parents let you have a $1000 phone tho?)
Kid, 12 years old

Time 2 let my feelings out again. I WANT A PHONE, it's so unfair that everyone has a phone but me, even the dumb kids, the quiet kids and kids with 0 friends have phones. Here's what would make my world a perfect world. Either I get the iphone 11 pro max, or every kid with a phone gets their phones crushed by a trash compactor and get kicked out of school, oh wait then I'd be the only kid left at school. I hate all kids with phones, even my friends. At school we have "Free phone Fridays", some idiotic idea some fool came up with where your allowed to use your phones all day and lunch. Ima play games on my laptop, and if some teacher tells me i cant and i can only use a phone, I will yell the worst word I know in their face. I have so many regrets. When I visited my stupid 10 year old cousin, she had the iphone xs max, I should buried it in their houseplant or buried it at the beach so she couldn't get it. I hate when someone asks me if I have a phone or for my number, if their someone i trust, I come clean to them and say I don't have a phone. If I don't like them I wussy up and say i have an 8s. Over the summer I went on a tour of someplace, and the guide talked about how no phones were allowed on the tour, and how probably evry 10 year old has a phone, on the way out, I said a bad word in a talking volume and ran away. Evry night instead of having "sweet dreams", I cry myself to sleep with my face planted into the pillow. I wish that idiot Steve jobs and steve Wozniak were never born and then i would be problem-free. If my school admin checks my posting history, you have no right to say anything to me about this.
Teen, 13 years old written by LAYS4LIFE1

hi! I think people should get phones right before middle school. Some schools its 5 grade, others its 6, or 7 grade. you have lots of school dances (espically in 7&8 grade.) usually u get bullied around the time of middle school for not having a phone. but if your in elementary school in like 4, maybe 5 or even 6 grade and you have a lot of extra curricular activities u should have an ipod or iPhone 5,6,6+,6s,6s+. if u work hard in those elementary school at least a 6s. once your in middle school I'd say an iPhone 7 or 8, unless u have great grades, and extra curricular stuff get any phone u want. but definently one before 8 grade. i'm in 7 grade no phone but getting one like November.
Teen, 13 years old written by Vesover

I disagree politley I think a 8th grader and younger should have phones, because if they were young with a phone you can be introduced into porn in their life at an early and you age. WHICH SHOULD NOT HAPPEN! I think kids or teens should get their first SMART phone in highschool.
Kid, 11 years old

Im turning twelve in 14 days and of course I cant get a phone until im in college
Kid, 11 years old

I am constantly left out without a phone. When I was nine I got my phone I had for two weeks taken away. My mom said I was grounded from it. Every few months I ask when I can get it back she always says in a month. But here I am 3 years later and i still dont have one. I finally told her about it and she said in two days. I asked her today because its been two days and she said you can get one when you are in college have a nice job and can pay for it yourself T-T I sit at lunch alone and am constantly left out. My mom wont even let me have a flip phone. Then we moved to another state and I dont have a phone to contact my friends. But My 5 year old brother and four year old brothers both have two phones. I can even pay for my own but my mom still says no. Im now in middle school still without a phone. T-T
Kid, 12 years old

Hello there! This is my second response on this forum. On my last response from last May, I just let my feelings out about not having a phone, but this time I will talk about what the right age to get a phone is. P.S: I still don't have a phone. Okay, from I own personal experience I can tell you the best time to get your kid a phone early or middle 5th grade. Second grade was the first year people in my class had phones, about 75% of the girls got smartphones, but none of the boys, and if your child is in a lower grade like this, getting a phone makes them "popular", rather than just fitting in. By third grade, all the girls and none of the boys had phones. In fourth grade, all the girls and two boys had phones. In fifth grade, Everybody but a friend and I had phones, and at this point I felt really left out of social groups because almost all my friends talked about were phones, and if your child tells you that they are feeling left out at school, get them a phone. For me, being left out is the worst feeling in the world, even worse than pain, sadness, or loss. And for what phone to buy, get your child a brand NEW iphone, either the latest model or one generation back or they will feel sad and left out. GET THEM A PHONE BEFORE 13 otherwise your child will terribly clinically depressed, LIKE MEH. Have a good night Uwu
Teen, 13 years old written by EliEndar16

And if you do let them have a phone, don't let them get social media, or they will be even unhappier than you (LIKE MEH)
Kid, 11 years old

I am 12 years old and in 6th grade and get 95+ on all my grades. I am in the schools gifted and talented program. I am the only person in my friend circle who doesn't have a phone and I feel left out that everybody is texting on their group chat and talking about this stuff while I can't relate to them. I am in a sports team and go to so many extracurricular activities. My dad gave me a fitbit 2 months ago and I don't want to show misery and want for a phone ear him so he doesn't feel bad that he wasted a fitbit on me. That makes me be sad at night which results me in crying in bed and I haven't been able to sleep too well at night because of that. This just throws me deeper in despair. My parents say I will get a phone in 9th grade, which is too late. I am in sixth grade. Most of the schoolwork I do is online and on multiple occasions have had to call my parents but couldn't because I don't have a phone. HELP!
Teen, 13 years old written by ColdCityNights

I'm currently 13 years old and I don't have a phone. The school that I attend is based around a lot of technology. Most of my Homework is on technology too. It's really hard honestly being a middle schooler (I'm in eighth by the way) and not having a phone. I try asking my parents at moments and they always tell me " Kids shouldn't have phones" "Or you don't need it." I know the rest of you have parents like mine most likely. They are still stuck on the fact that they didn't get there own phone until 17 or 18 or until they even left the house. But you see, that was a long time ago. Our environment and society has changed a lot if you haven't noticed. Theses days the world could be dangerous. We need to be in contact with our parents at school in case danger happens. My parents are always saying to borrows someone in case but is someone really going to hand you their phone every time and not get annoyed? It's pretty embarrassing borrowing your friends phone every time. One thing is I'm also not a kid anymore, Okay yes when I was 7 or 8 I was asking for a phone and that was way too young but I'm an eighth grader now which is almost high school and I still don't have one which is quite needed. My grades are not the best but you know why? Because I don't have the right material, and you wanna know why? Because most of it is online. I keep trying to explain it to them but they won't budge. You also don't know what's going on with friends and its hard to spend time with friends when you don' have a device. In my option you should be allowed to have a phone by 6th or 7th because that's when we have certain activities after school and we become busy and should be in contact with our parents. I just pray that I get one this year.
Kid, 10 years old

I think you can have a phone by grade 5, grade 5's are probably ready for a phone because they're mature enough, you should have a phone by grade 7 unless you want ur kid to get bullied
Kid, 11 years old

I am an 11 year old girl. As one of the only kids in my grade who doesn't have a phone, I often feel left out because my friends are talking about new post on social media that they like. I am constantly asking my parent's for a phone, but they are always asking me, "Why do you need one?" If I told them that I wanted a phone because I feel left out of my friend group, they would probably laugh in my face but. I think that a good time to get a phone for your child is when they feel that their child is responsible enough. I think most girls start being more responsible when they start middle school. I feel as though I am a responsible person because I'm in my second year of middle school and have already been nominated for student council twice and babysit 2 days a week after school. I WANT A PHONE!!!!!!!!!
Kid, 11 years old

I know how you feel. Im home alone over night for two weeks watching a bundle of little kids and I always miss school but I still have all A's and yet my mom says I cant get a phone until im 21! Out of over 600 kids in my school im the only one without a phone. When I was 8 my mom said I cant get a phone until im 21 and I thought she would change her mind but here I am 4 years later and she still says I cant have a phone. or ipad. or tablet. or anything except my chromebook for school T-T I feel I am resposible and Im never in trouble but of course my mom does not trust me. I cant ask though because if i do she said she will ground me for 3 months. I dont ask alot but my moms strict. OoFy.
Adult written by Em170

One thing you must consider when it comes to wanting a phone at such a YOUNG age.. is all the awful things out there on social media. I think it's great your parents are waiting and you will soon learn to respect that.. I'm currently 18 and I didn't get a real phone until I was 15.. I didn't get Instagram till I was 16. Your time will come to have a phone.. it's ok and normal to wait and save your soul from this awful world
Kid, 11 years old

I'm in sixth grade about to turn twelve and my mom said I can't get a phone until I'm 17! I'm the only one in my entire school without one. My mom is very strict sh will never change her mind about it. She does not let me go to dances or field trips. Im not aloud to do my homework and she wonders why my grades are bad. Btw apparently As and ONE B is bad. I have a overnight no paying job watching kids and apertinently I'm not resposible. GAWDDD so cunfuzzled XD
Teen, 14 years old written by Grace Anne franks

I am 11 and in the 6th grade. Everyone has a phone.l have had a phone since 3rd grade. But if you kid can not keep Eneything then they should not but your kid should have a phone in 5th grade or 10th birthday
Kid, 12 years old

hi, i am a sixth grader and i am the only one in my big friend-group without a phone. I THINK FOR WHEN YOU GRADUATE FIFTH GRADE AND HAVE GOOD GRADES YOU SHOULD GET A PHONE. Only 5 or 6 other people in my grade of 150 people don't have a phone. none of those people i am friends with. my parents refuse to let me get a phone and are completely against and don't talk or think about it. I get left out of a lot cause at school people are on their phones and i just stand there and at pickup i just wait there in the sun because i don't know if my mom is here. i stand alone because everybody else is on their phones. People talk about instagram and snapchat and it's weird to have that on an iPad. People ask me my number and i say i don't have one. then people ask when i am going to get a phone and i lie and say Christmas but i knew it might be a few years! it makes me feel sad and left out. and i used to love sleepovers and birthday parties and now i tell me mom to say no because people are on their phones talking to each other and stuff and i just sit there and it's awkward and embarrassing you can get bullied for that by your friends too. i am not on group-chats and stuff because you cant be popular or have a social life by not having a phone. i cry every night about this and my parents don't care at ALL. they say to make friends with the people who don't have phones but i have nothing in common with them and its hard to do this in middle school when everyone try's to fit in. I hope to the parent or whoever is reading this that this helps them get an inside view on how it feels to be in middle school without a phone. ps... i go to a private school
Kid, 10 years old

Yes, kids should get phones. A lot of kids nowadays use phones, and it's not shocking. I know people in the 1st grade with a phone. It's best to at least get your kids a phone by 4th grade. Because when you get to that age lots of kids in your child's class will have phones and nobody likes having their kids being bullied. You should probably get them a good phone, like an iPhone 5. Unless they are in the 1st grade or something where it doesn't really matter, but it starts to matter as you get older. Teens should definitely have phones by 8th grade. We aren't all 5-year-olds. Phones will help your kids connect to friends from school and they can also call you if they are in any danger. Plus you can help them use their phones as a homework schedule, especially if they are in middle school or high school. Parents who won't let their kids get phones in 8th grade seriously are slightly overreactive. Like, what kid in the 5th grade is in the street and uses their iPad?
Teen, 13 years old written by Name here

Only give your child a phone when THEY show you they can handle it. Don't give your child a phone if they break stuff easily, barely do any chores, and are lazy and not responsible at all! Make them show you they can handle it. Like getting good grades, Doing chores when no one asked them etc. When they prove that to you.. as a parent you need to set some rules. ( You can't get on the phone after 10:00pm on weekends, 8:00 on weekdays, You have to take one hour break and do homework. If they don't have homework make them read for 30 minutes, and you can print out a worksheet for them. ) Now for ages, It really depends, I'd personally say upperclassmen year in primary IF YOUR CHILD IS MATURE. Because underclassmen might post stupid stuff on the internet lol. I remember when I was 7 I said "Why r u copying ( blank)" on a YouTube comment. I would recommend you get them a Samsung though because mayority will become way to obsesssed with a iphone ( ( Using it during class, texting friends etc. Bringing their phone to recess ) And there's a huge chance that they will most likely break it if they bring it outside with them. Because when I was 10 me and my friends and some other students brought our phone outside. And we had to run laps etc, and it fell out of my pocket and it destroyed my phone. Now for middle school... I would think it's okay to buy them a smartphone. Because usually if they don't have an iPhone they'll get bullied. Status is a big deal in middle school. But the same thing with primary schoolers. They might break their phones while running laps in gym. So you might as well ask them to leave it in their locker, or bookbag. When you give them their phone once in a while check up on them to see what they are doing on the internet. But please don't do it for no reason. If they are getting moody , or seem depressed, or extremely disrespectful you might want to check through their messages and social media for safety. Because they have depression without you knowing! You don't have to listen to my advice. Do what fits for your family the best!!
Teen, 14 years old written by chickennoodlesoup

I think the best time to give your kid a phone is in middle school/high school. A lot of parents think that their kid’s social life will be damaged if they give them a smartphone and that’s far from the truth (usually). It’s the most convenient way to communicate with friends, plus it’s easier to connect with new people. You can also communicate with parents and teachers easier. Now another concern that parents have is the amount of access a kid has to stuff. While it’s true that a phone CAN give them access to internet and social media, you can always put restrictions on the phone and gradually give them more privilidges as they mature. It’s also good to have a level of trust and respect for your child too, becuase that is ultimately the best way to keep them from doing something sneaky! So if you’ve decided to give your kid(s) a phone, you also have to decide which one to get them. If you’re child is responsible and mature, then a good quality phone, such as an IPhone or Samsung, would be the best one. If price is a concern, then you should consider buying a refurbished one, it is wayyy cheaper then a brand new one, but you just need to be a little bit more mindful about where you’re buying it from. However if you believe they cant handle an expensive phone, then go for a “dumb phone.” It’s cheap and does the job, but it is a little embarrassing and they may be teased for it. But in the end you know what’s best for you’re kid!
Kid, 11 years old

When everybody is complaining about their Iphone5 and you're begging your parents for a Nokia. An old Nokia. From 2003. Also, I can't boost my grades, cause I have straight A's and my parents say I have to get a job before a phone. It's illegal to get a job here until the age of 14. I don't get chore money, allowances, or birthday money so I can't pay for the Nokia myself and....yeah. Once I get one, I'll have to pay for the data plan myself, which I can't afford because it is illegal to get a job here. For several years. Great, now I sound like a spoiled brat. I think I'll stop now.
Kid, 12 years old

I just started seventh grade. All my peers are talking about their brand new iPhones and stuff, while I sit there and mope. I really think I need a phone, but my mom won't listen to me. She doesn't seem to grasp that it's 2019 now, where literally 6 year olds get the iPhone 11
Kid, 11 years old

OMG ikr! I just started sixth grade and my mom said I cant get a phone and my 5 yo brother got a phone when he was 3 and my 4 yo brother to. They each have to phones and iphone 8 and like a bunch of new phones along with three tablets and all I have is a school chromebook. My mom grounds me for months for asking so I can like never mention a phone or tablet or anything!
Kid, 12 years old

I live in the UK and I'm so grateful that my parents are finally getting me in a phone. I'm 11 by the way. So my parents are actually quite strict and, since I go to an all-girls school, they think that the girls are going to use social media to cyberbully. They also don't want my phone to distract me from my studies AND they believe that radiation will give me cancer, which my sister told me was very unlikely. I felt a little bit left out when all the other girls were texting their parents during form period/class time and I was just reading a book. Parents don't understand that you're more likely to get bullied without a phone than with one! But then there's the catch... You see, the maturity of the kid in question is a really big factor when picking a phone for them. Are they likely to go searching up bad things on the internet or cyberbully a classmate? And remember, parents, you might think your kid is angel but your child's classmates might have other opinions. Don't just go along with what other parents are doing. Do what YOU feel is right. And don't be really strict. I got both anxiety and depression due to parent strictness. How are they doing in school? Is a phone likely to affect their grades? Make sure you do monthly check-ups and put on parental controls - blacklisting certain websites IS a good idea as well. There's also an invention called private browsing so be careful about that... Yeah, that's a nasty topic for some parents. OVERALL, THERE ARE THREE POINTS YOU NEED TO CONSIDER. 1. The maturity of the child. Is he or she likely to search bad things up on the internet? Or cyberbully a kid? Maybe they might even delete their internet history or use private browsing. You need to build a wall of trust with them. 2. Their grades. It's natural that some kids are slower than the others, but do you think it would be considerate to their learning to give them a phone? A phone might hinder an education. 3. Make sure you aren't too strict. I got my anxiety and depression on strictness. From the girl who is getting a phone.
Kid, 11 years old

I think the right age for a cell phone is 10-12, but i think it really depends on the maturity level of the kid. I've had an iPad to access the internet since I was 6, and i got a flip phone to contact my friends last Christmas. I'm getting an iPhone this year for my birthday, and I think I'm more than ready. Cell phones give kids ways to contact friends and family, entertain themselves, and so much more.
Adult written by Joi Cardinal

how often do you read books all the way through? Do you ever take any long walks, like 4 or 5 miles, outside? Ever seen a Great Blue Heron stalk a fish? There's an amazing real world of nature accessible to everyone for free, but you'd rather sit and stare at a screen.
Adult written by malistertroan

This is what happens when big phone companies like Apple puts out overpriced phones on the market and kids and grown-ups buy them.
Teen, 13 years old written by Bettycooperiswear

I’m 13 and I don’t have a phone. I live in Canada in Ontario and everyone at my school has an iPhone. Luckily I have an iPad so I can still text people, but only on wifi. All my friends have phones, and they don’t tease me about it because they know who my parents are (and cuz they’re the best) actually nobody at my school is mean to me because I don’t have a phone. The reason my parents won’t get me a phone is because they don’t understand why I would need one, even though in countless situations I have needed to call them but couldn’t because I didn’t have a phone, and then they got mad at me for it. They always say to use someone else’s phone, but nowadays, you can’t rly do that. Now let me explain a bit more about my parents. They are amazing most of the time, but they are also very (VERY) concerned about the environment (to the point where I can’t do stuff I need to do) , and about screens. They have very strict rules about devices including a 30 minute limit per day (which they usually let slide) and also that they don’t want me to get a phone because of the “radiation” of cell service. They think we are all going to get cancer and die bc of phones. Also my mom has an old iPhone 5 and my dad keeps trying to get her a new phone (an X) but she won’t accept it until her 5 doesn’t work anymore. Sooo basically there is no “old” parents phone to get passed down (my dads phones are technically owned by his work, so he doesn’t get to keep them when he’s done). My family has the money to buy me a high end phone, but they won’t even give me a 6 or something. I’m going into grade 8 this year, and before the summer, I didn’t really mind not having a phone bc my friend and I were in the same boat with nothing but an iPad. But this summer she got an iPhone so now all my friends have iPhones but not me. Idk how to get my parents to get me a phone. Whenever I make a new friend, do u know how embarrassing it is for them to ask your number and you have to say you don’t have one? My one friend stopped talking to me after she found out I wasn’t getting a phone. I won the academic award this year have straight A’s and I’m in the gifted program, so I can’t rly boost my marks, and idk what to do. For high school I’m pretty sure u have to have a phone to keep up. Can someone pull my parents out of the 17th century? Thanks Uwu guys
written by joyatnasious

it sucks so much ! i am 13 and i don't even have a phone!! all my friends have one and i am the only et unique one who doesn't have one !! it sucks to see everyone holding one in their hands . My parents have the money to buy me realy good phone , i am responsible , i draw ,sing,play instruments,play basketball ,and i am a sraight A's students and still refuse to buy me one!! i stay 2 hours to 3 hours a day on my laptop ! my parents think i am too young to have one and dont even care if everyone have a phone because they think that all the parents are wrong and that they think they are right! I am going to midle school next year i don't know what to do! I tried to convince my dad that i need a phone and how can i use it... like i need to use my phone to cominicate with my friends , to listen to music when i am in the bus ,take selfies ,call my friends , call my parents when i need help and use it for studying !! but he told me that i can use a MP3 IN 2019 to listen to music , to use an unknow adult phone too call for help !! ooh and to use the really old phone of my house to call my friends and to use real camera to take selfies !! and to study i have to find a way to study on paper without any device! it really sucks !!!! help pls my dad and i are fighting non stop over this!!
Adult written by malistertroan

Your laptop/computer is good enough for you don't complain about not getting a phone. A laptop/computer has more value than a little phone.
Kid, 11 years old

Yeah. I have a chromebook but im not aloud to download apps and i just moved to a whole new state and my mom says I cant download any apps to talk to them and she refused to put there number on her phone. Even my 3 4 and 5 year old brothers have a phone but im never aloud to use them. Even though all my grades are higher than a A I watch three children over night for four days in a row but nothing ever seems to please her and let me talk to my friends. Im already about to turn twelve but she refuses everything. XD
Teen, 14 years old written by UnbakedPuma1130

I think the age you should get a phone is 12. Most kids I know got a phone when they were 12 and being the only kid without one makes me feel like a piece of crap every day. I felt like a loner everyday of Grade 8 because everyone was talking about Snapchat and instagram and than I was sitting their like a loser cuz I’m the only kid without a phone. To make things worse for kids without a phone is that once u reach high school you need a phone for most classes. I am a responsible kid who gets ninety percent in all subjects except art and drama and I am what you would call a responsible student. I start school in a month and I am asking for a phone so much but my parents don’t believe me that everyone else has one and that I’ll feel depressed because I didnt get a chance to meet friends in grade school. I don’t expect for a 10xr or whatever but I at least think I should have a 8.
Teen, 15 years old written by yeehaww

i think the best ages for your child to get a phone are from 11-13 but mostly 12 because your child is now at junior high and will need a phone in some activities. example your child's teacher could ask the class to download something on their phones to study with and your child will have to sit there with no phone which is quite embarrassing and could start to get bullied. if your child is 11 and is asking for a phone, you could buy them a phone, not to big or too small that will make them start complaining or start asking for a new one already. but I think 13 is a bit to long in 2019. i mean if you were 13 and you had your first phone in 2010 and stuff it would be fine cause there weren't that many good phones but now there's a lot of good phones out there. Here's a list of iphones hat are best according to your age in my opinion: Ages 10-11: iPhone 6 or 6 plus. Probably the best out there for this age. It's the best size and way cheaper now. Ages 12-15: iPhone 7/ 7 plus/ 8/ 8 plus. Like I said before, your child is in junior high school now and will need it, trust me. These phones might be expensive but it's worth it. Most kids these ages want these phones because of the size. If you buy them these phones at this age, they would love it! It can probably last them 5 years and they shouldn't be asking for a new phone so quickly Ages 16+: They're probably good for any phone at this age. If you're thinking you're child is going to get distracted in learning, believe me they will think you bought them a phone so they can make you proud. This will make them want to start learning more so you will start thinking you made a right decision and would do it again if they asked. Parents, please buy your 11+ children phones. 11 and below is too young in my opinion but yea, hope it helped :)
Kid, 11 years old

I'm in sixth grade. My mom said the earliest age she would ever let me get a phone was 15 but she said either that or you pay yourself when your 16 and have good grades and a job XD
Teen, 13 years old written by lilpapatherapper

I’m 12, starting 7 grade. So I have an older brother who has a phone and just graduated from 8 grade. I hated that I didn’t have a phone. Especially on the last day of school, I was buy myself, because 8 grade leaves school in May, and everyone else June. I was stuck waiting for an hour and a half, and when the teachers said call your parents with ur cell phone, I had to use the school phone, and ppl were laughing at me cuz of it. My friend got an iPhone XR for her birthday and ever since then she’s been acting spoiled. She’s bragging, and being rude to me. And on field trips, I’m bored cuz everyone’s on their phone, once we had like a 2 hour drive and I was bored like crazy. I might get a phone when I go to 7 grade, and my parents are buying me like an iPhone 3g, when I have a lot of extra curricular activities, and I need a phone that has a good battery. I have almost all straight A’s and my brother who gets like 4 b’s and 3 A’s has like a 10s max. I think the right age to get a phone is ur first year of middle school, especially when u start 7 grade. Because at my school 6 grade goes to 2 school dances and 7&8 grade go to at least 9. Some kids in my grade had a phone since 3rd grade and that’s way to early. But 6 grade bc u have extra curricular activities.
Teen, 17 years old written by EricaArnold

For me probably 14 year old. i'm thirteen and basically being honest i'm really sneaky although I have mainly A's and B's in class. and In sixth grade my parent took away my tablet. But I'm definetly more mature than I used to be. So high school would be safer to have a phone. But although it's important you have a device like ipad or laptop because you can focus on school work and also know what other game kids your age are playing. or social, text online. Because in my opinion, if you don't have devices in middle school, It's very easy to get bullied and have no friend. Also if you are like a person that cares what other people think of you, you'll probably have depression and stuff. I don't think middle school you need a phone to fit in. but for parent that give their kids no online rights, it's really unfair and most of the teen world today is online like Instagram, snapchat and blablabala. The best way is give your kids a phone in freshman year because I think at that time teens would understand what's right or wrong. If you're like fifteen and you don't have your online social circle , you can be "REALLY LEFT OUT." Also high school don't provide you chromebook or ipad, it's hard to learn, hard to social, hard to fit in. Even though you have friend.Also back then if you have a flipphone when you are like thirteen, I get teased a lot and even my best friend teased me about it and other girl would gossip about me . And my parent just told me not to care and I developed depression through it. if your kids is twelve year old and responsible, please get them a phone, because you don't want your kids sit alone at lunch.
Teen, 14 years old written by ThePoshOne

I am 12, turning 13 in a week. I think the youngest you should have a phone is 12. I have been asking my parents for a phone for a couple months, and they refuse to buy me one. I get almost al A's Participate In two school sports, and am overall resposible. Parents if you are reading this you should get your kids a phone. By 8th grade all of my friends have phones, and only like 5 people, of my grade of a 140 students, dont have them. It would be nice to have one to text my friends and patents. I fell excluded sometimes because all of my friends text and hang out all the time.
Kid, 12 years old

I have not yet received a phone, but soon i will since tomorrow is in fact my birthday (July 5th). I may receive my Dad's old Samsung Galaxy S8, so i'm quite happy about that! Anyways, the cons of not having a smartphone could be feeling mentally emotional; depression and anxiety from bullying, mental issues with feeling left and shut out of social, technological and "phone" conversations, embarrassment from borrowing other people's phones and having to dial your parents or family. Depression, anxiety, and feeling left out is some of the main reasons of not having a phone- you may be thinking, kids will just use phones for gaming and social media, but they can use it to check school portals, for assessments/assignments, connecting, socializing and communicating with friends and family, safety reasons like contacting parents or if they get lost or maybe in an dangerous situation, listening to music to relieve stress, and even creating "sticky notes" reminders so kids can't forget important things like handing in an assignment or studying on a test, etc. Smartphones are now a very common thing in our technical generation and just because smartphones or really phones didn't exist back in the old days doesn't mean that children shouldn't be able to receive a phone. Parents may have not have any technology at all but that doesn't deny that fact that a child (12+ recommended) shouldn't have a smartphone. Honestly, i recommend 12 year olds and over depending on their maturity, independence, responsibility and marks on tests, etc. And i recommend maybe iPhones for quite mature kids, iPhone X and over may be a bit too much for just a phone so if you want a simple yet smart phone you should think about the Samsung Galaxy phones- like the S8 or S7, or less could be the J2 Pro which is a quite simple phone. If you want a plain old phone to give like a Nokia, it may not be the best idea as children can be bullied and get severe depression/anxiety because they have a old generation phone instead of a cool new modern smartphone, but honestly, it's your choice over your child's technology life. But overall in conclusion in my opinion i think that 12 year olds over shall have smartphones :)
Kid, 12 years old

THIS MAY TOUCH ON SENSITIVE SUBJECTS INCLUDING MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES I, am 12. My parents have refused to let me have a phone. Great you, a mom or just some random person scrolling through parenting advice think: what an entitled kid. [back in my day]. Guess what this is not your day. I feel like [bad word] everyday because I feel excluded. Everyone has a phone. I feel like a burden, they have to [bad word]ing email me if they want to talk. Do you have to tell a new friend when they ask your phone number, that you don't have one. I don't want a phone to ignore my parents, I don't want a phone to have a secret life. I want a phone because I don't want to be the black sheep. I don't want to worry about my friend in a bad place and I can't text her. Don't be an [bad word]. Phones before 6th grade. P.S. nobody calls its all text
Adult written by teresatoth

So I am a parent. I resisted getting oldest daughter a phone for a while, but finally got one for her (free with new number activation at metropcs) at age 13 at beginning of 8th grade year. And boy, am I glad I did. I originally got it because in one summer I lent her my phone 3 times for extended periods: when she stayed a week with grandma, when she flew to CA by herself for relative's funeral, and when she was invited to the Shore by classmate. But what I learned is that there is a whole social life open to her once she had a phone, and closed to those without phones. A big get together was planned via text for some girls in her grade. Only those with phones included, as girls won't call a home number using the voice call feature--they ONLY text. If they have to call a girl on a home phone number, that girl just gets excluded. I saw this happen, and they admitted it was because she had no phone and therefore was unreachable (in their teenage minds, not having a phone was unreachable, as they refuse to make regular phone calls to family home phones). Thru the year, lots of these get togethers were planned via text. I am so happy I got her a phone so that she is not excluded from the social life at school. She also uses it to check on assignments, have other kids forward her school materials and notes, etc.
Kid, 11 years old

Im twelve (My thing says im 11 idk why) And my mom saw me getting bullied because I did not have a phone and all she said was "That sucks i guess you will have to stop getting bullied once your 17 and can get your own phone." I can buy my own phone and my grandpa said he will pay for it every month but she still said no.
Teen, 17 years old written by Hernamewaslolas...

I got my phone before I started 7 grade. When it comes to getting a cell phone it matters about age difference of kids and maturity. If u have a sibling that’s in like 8 grade and your in 6 grade, like me. The 8 grader should have a phone since the 6 and 8 grader activities are the same. My brother got his phone when he started 6 grade (middle school) since he was the only middle schooler in my family at that time. Also the 8 grader has more activities than the 6 grader so the 8 grader should have it. But I also brought his phone with me when I went to hangout with friends, and he was at home. U should get a phone on ur first year of middle school, unless u have another sibling in middle school. When the older middle schooler graduates then u can get a phone. But also if ur kid gets all A’ then they deserve a phone. But normally just get a cheap phone. If the older sibling isn’t responsible than just get them like an iPhone 5, but on average just get an iPhone 7 or 8, unless ur kid worked really hard u can get them one of the x models, or any phone they want. But 6 grade is a good year since there’s more activities and school dances ur child should have a phone, just Incase there’s something bad going on.
Kid, 12 years old

I am 12. My parents refuse to get me a phone until I turn 13. I am probably one of the only kids in my grade who does not have a phone, and I feel left out when people talk about group chats and things that I can’t be included in. I believe that kids age 11-12 should have a phone, because that is around the age where people start to have cell phones. Kids should not be left out of things because their parents won’t get them a phone.
Teen, 14 years old written by md1020

I am 14. My parents still haven’t gotten me a phone, for whatever reason I do not know. I strongly believe children should get a phone at the age of 12/13, when they are just entering middle school. It is a crucial part of this new generation, and everything involves technology now! Children need some sort of contact to their parents at all time, and getting them a phone will solve this. When they are entering middle school, children start to change, so it is better for them to get a phone. Having contact to a parent at all times is very very important. I feel very left out and quite frankly, embarrassed, when everyone is on their phone but me. I am entering high school in a couple months (I just graduated last night) and think it is completely unfair that I still do not have a phone. I retain my high B’s and A’s all throughout the year, despite having struggled in many of my classes. I do all my school work, I do all my projects, while getting almost all A’s on tests, quizzes and homework grades. I have been bullied multiple times in multiple years, 5th , 6th, 7th and 8th grade for not having a phone, and I wouldn’t want anyone else to endure that. So, I think children should be able to get a phone at the age of 12/13.
Kid, 10 years old

I had my first gadget when I was 2 years old. It was an iPad and I was sharing it with my sister. It may seem too young for one but the first phone that I owned for MYSELF was when I was 5. It was an android phone and I loved having a gadget I knew I would use everyday. Now I’m 10 and I have an iPhone XR, just know that whatever age the parent’s child is completely uncontrolled and is up to them to decide. That’s all of my opinion. Thanks for reading!
Teen, 13 years old written by Carolcat

I first got a phone around March in sixth grade because my church was going on a trip to the other end of my state so my parents wanted to make sure that I was safe. I was not addicted to my phone, but some kids I know are. The first grade of middle school is a good time to get your children a phone. By now, only two people in my grade don't have phones and I feel very bad for them because they always look so left out when all of their friends are talking to their parents about pickup and they can't communicate with their parents. Parents who don't give their children phones at the beginning of middle school are just being very overprotective in my opinion. If you don't want to spend lots of money on your child's phone then get them a cheap Andriod, some of my friends who have Androids got them for $99.00 dollars. If you get your child a phone with a small screen just know that people I know who have phones with small screens started getting issues with their eyesight because of how small their phone screen was. I have a used Samsung Galaxy, and I am just happy that I can keep in touch with my parents and talk to my friends and not feel so distant from them when school is out. My parents tell me that they are sooooooo HAPPY that they made the decision to get me a phone because they said communication is WAY easier since I got a phone. My parents were a bit skeptical about them getting me a phone but now they are happy that they decided to get me a phone. Hopefully, some parents read this see my side of the story.
Kid, 12 years old

I agree I'm 12 I've skipped three grades have a GPA of 4.o and am the captain of my debate team but my parents say I have to wait until I'm in 10th grade its so unfair once my teacher bullied me and lowered my grade!!!!!!!!!!!! because I didn't "communicate with my teammates" as if.... I did all the work. lesson get your kids a phone either in 9th grade or 12 years old generally
Kid, 12 years old

I'm twelve and about to go into 7th and probably 99% of the kids have a phone and I don't. But, I don't even want a phone! I don't see how all the other kids my age seem peer pressured or just NEED a phone. I don't think kids should get phones till their mid teens 15-18 years of age. My last thing is you can get your kid a phone whenever but just realise if they're responisble enough to handle a phone.
Teen, 13 years old written by MelanieGrace_19

The right age to get your child a phone can be a touchy subject. Many teens who received their phone later than their friends often say that you should get your child a phone due to peer pressure. I’m 13 with no phone, and yes sometimes you may be the only person in the room without a phone and EVERYBODY else is on their phones, but if you have real friends they won’t make fun of you. The age that you will receive your phone should be completely your parents decision, based on your actions. I do believe though that to get through today’s modern day schooling, you must need some type of device, whether that is a computer,tablet, or phone. In my classroom, we are constantly in front of a device. We need devices for almost all of our classes. On the other hand though, devices can be used for things besides what your parents intended you to use them for, like social media.Many parents get their children devices for safety reasons, and to make sure that they can reach their child at any time. Although, their are many different methods of technology you can use to get in touch with your children, like the old flip phones or children’s smart watches. I know that my friend for example, had a smart watch for children that had 3 numbers on it, her mom, dad, and grandpa. She could communicate with them, and them only. This provided a method of communication that was impossible to abuse. Now if you don’t want to wear a children’s smart watch (which I get), then you could always just use your friend’s phone. Both of my friend’s closest friends both have both of parents’ numbers saved on their phones, and I use their phones constantly. Now out of all this I don’t want you to think that I’m against phones and don’t want a phone. To be honest, yes I want a phone, but my parents have put a stop to every time I ask because they don’t believe I’m ready for a phone. Although, I’ve never made a any less than an A, while juggling playing 3 sports, volunteering at the church every week, and babysitting, so I believe I’ve proved my responsibility. In conclusion, children 10 and under should not have a phone, they are not ready, but once you reach the age of thirteen you should be given a phone.
Kid, 12 years old

i am the only one in my whole class with no phone. it makes me feel really left out. at the end of most lessons and in homegroup, our teachers let us go on our phones and i am the only one who just has to sit there and read. if you are a parent, i suggest you get your child a phone if they are older than 12. it also depends on how mature they are and how good their grades are.
Kid, 12 years old

I am in sixth grade and don't have a phone. I understand my parents concern about inappropriate stuff and "giving into society" but I also know that they should know that I can show restraint and do the right thing. I was never asking for a $1,000+ phone, just a smartphone i can use to contact friends, family and use the "amazing" (according to my mother) internet. So, for any parent on the fence about getting your child a phone, know you can get apps to limit screen time, internet and game use and social media use. This way, you can make sure that your kid can handle the responsibility, or just understand the device, before they take it all the way. I know from personal experience that It's annoying and frustrating when everyone in your grade, including your close friends, have smartphones and your parents won't get you one even if they have no good reason. Even if I cant get a phone, I hope you can see why your kid should be able to get a phone. (Trust me, they will appreciate it. I know I would)
Adult written by Parentquestions

Parents, listen to me. If your child is 12+, you should get them a phone. Not doing so can put them at risk for severe bullying, feeling left out, or not being invited to fun social events that could also help them in the future. Depending on your age, you might have grown up with very simple phones with basic features such as calling, texting, a few other things. Nothing much besides things to help you out. But teens/preteens these days have a lot more. Online shopping is very helpful, posting selfies can help your children gain confidence from compliments which helps if they are already being bullied. They are less clunky than tablets, I mean, what child is walks down the road and casually pulls out a IPod Touch? Get them a phone.
Kid, 12 years old

I'm in 6th grade and I don't have a phone, but I definitely deserve one. I have been in the gifted program in my school district since 2nd grade. Since I am in a gifted program, there are only 124 kids in my classes in total, and I know for a fact that every single one of them but me has a phone. So that puts me in 0.00806451613% (roughly calculated) who don't have phone in my grade. Recently, my school had a skills personalization activity for empathy, and one thing our teacher told us would be a nice thing to do was texting a friend. At this point, my heart and spirits just sunk down because I'm the only one among my 8 close friends who does not have a phone. Every morning in the school library they're always on their phones, and don't even take time to talk to me because they're just texting each other. In class, the only thing that they can even talk about at all is something to do with their phone. I always feel so left out and sad when people use their phones in front of me. It's kind of like how eating in front of someone you know is kind of rude. Every day, I get questions like, "When are you even getting a phone?", and I have to lie to them or else I'll feel embarrassed. Even one of my own friends makes fun of me for not having one and it frustrates me so much, and I know that they talk about me behind my back. This whole story of being left out because of phones starts in second grade, and at this time no one has a phone. In third grade, all the girls get their phone. In fourth grade, all the girls and one boy has a phone. In fifth grade, one friend and I are the only ones who don't have phones. See that progression? In sixth grade, I'm the only one who doesn't have a phone. These days even the teachers expect you to have phones and when I said I didn't have a phone my teacher was shocked, and looked at me like I was a different species of human. If I leave something at home which I needed to bring to school, I usually email my mom because it is MORTIFYING to ask a classmate to borrow their phone, and my teacher will probably just feel sorry for me. Some time ago I went on vacation and saw my cousin. She got into the gifted program in sixth grade and her parents got her a iPhone XR (She lives far away, and she is 2 years younger). My mom added her to her chats, and my dad congratulated her on the phone even when he knew phones were a touchy subject for me. My mom was being a hypocrite when she decided to text a 10 year old with an iPhone XR when she said no child should have a phone, and this made me feel really angry. I blocked her chats on my moms phone, but it got unblocked. Anyway, on my trip my mom told my cousin not to bring her phone so I don't feel sad, and guess what she did? She brought her phone just to get on my nerves and her excuse was "Oh I want to text my friends". I couldn't enjoy my vacation at all thanks to her. Personally, my parents work in the tech industry and they won't get me a phone, while kids whose parents work for random companies have phones. Maybe my parents are right, but I still hate every other kid with a phone and their parents, so I wish I could smash their phones with a hammer, shred the pieces, and burn the rest. Sometimes teachers or counselors give us advice on how to avoid and deal with cyberbullies on phones and social media, and I feel left out by my own teachers even just for this. Some of those kids deserve to be cyberbullied because they make fun of kids who don't have phones. Every day I cry myself to sleep knowing that I don't have a phone. Tell me how I can feel better.
Teen, 13 years old written by EPICMOMO8

I feel u dude. Allow me to let it all out: I am goin to be completely honest with u. I am 13. My parents are super strict and boring. I know this is only about havin phones and stuff but I'm goin to tell u everythin. I'm in grade 8. I can't have a phone. I can't have videogames. can't go outside with my friends. I can't go to sleepovers. ABSOLUTELY NOTHING I CAN DO!!! School is the only place where I usually feel happy. But people still make fun of me for not having cool clothes, no phones, iPads, videogames or anything. I hate it whenever someone comes upto me and asks me "Hey, can I get ur number?" I just tell the truth saying I don't have a phone or anything and I just walk away. whenever I use the school phone to call my parents, everyone looks at me and starts giggling.I feel really bored because everyone sitting around me is on their phone or talking about stuff like videogames and I can't relate to that since I don't have anything. I always feel like crying somewhere in a corner or smashing someones device to make them understand how I feel. All I do when I get home is eat, do my homework, eat again, go to sleep. I take forever to do my homework so that I don't have to do anything else because my mom and dad make me do the lamest things for work. I sometimes go to bed crying in my pillow like any other kid would do if their life was messed up. When I was little, I asked my parents when I could get a phone. They said I can get it in Grade 10 or after I graduate from highschool. ITS SOOOO UNFAIR. ALL the kids in my class have a phone or another device like a NINTENDO SWITCH or somethin and I have NOTHING. Although my marks are mostly Bs and a few As, which is pretty good, no matter how responsible I am, no matter how mature I am, well I'm not so sure about the MATURE part. But I'm doing ok for an 8th grader. And yet, my parents won't get me anything. I have the lamest birthdays. All we do is eat cake and say happy birthday to each other. I get no gifts or presents. A few of my friends are so dumb and yet they have everything. I, the SMART, INTELLIGENT ONE have NOTHING. My life is trash. I don't know what to do. Whenever my parents do something lame for me, I try to act happy so that they are not sad about doing something so useless for me. I'm glad to know im not the only one is is feeling left out(not saying I want other kids to suffer like me.Just in general). THIS IS MY LIFE. THX FOR READING. IM JUST GOING TO GO GET ON WITH MY BORING, MISERABLE LIFE AND SEE HOW IT ENDS. SEE YA...
Kid, 12 years old

I am in 7th grade and i have the same problem as you. Everyone has a phone, even if it is not that expensive. My friends secretly look down on me and i feel really bad knowing that i am the only one in my class that doesn't have a phone. I'm planning to ask my parents at the end of the term to get me one. I have always been well behaved and i get good grades, if not the best. The kids who don't do anything have all the luxuries while i have to do a lot of work, even at home. It really is unfair.
Kid, 12 years old

I'm glad to know I'm not the only one out here who is feeling left out. I also do well in school, maybe better than some of my friends who have phones. All my friends have either the iPhone 7, iPhone 8, or iPhone x. I feel super bad in class, because I am actually one of the oldest, and even last year in 5th grade there were only 3 kids including me who didn't have phones. If I am offered a phone, it'd better be an iPhone x, because my cousin who isn't particularly rich has one for no reason and most of my friends have one, I'm not being spoiled, because I don't have any electronics to my self at home other than a computer. If your parents ever volunteer for a field trip or come to your school during the day for something, point out the number of people with phones and how long they spend each day on their devices, and how it compares to how you deserve a phone and your current electronic usage, I hope you get a phone! :)
Teen, 13 years old written by Liza T

I am a kid in a public school, and it seems that every other kid on the planet has a phone but me. I am given EXTREMELY LIMMETED TIME on and electronic no matter what time, reason or place. Kids in my grade in school and even younger than me have phones. In the morning they laugh and pick up on conversations they started on their phones. I feel socially awkward around everyone. In the morning i have no reason to talk to anyone, so i slump, and use my hair as a curtain and barrier around my book in my lap. Everyone thinks of me as a socially awkward and shy, small girl, one with 17th centerery parents. My parents have made it clear that would rather die than buy me a phone. I will have to buy myself when i am in collage. I have some friends, but they all have access to the internet when ever. All I can say is they probably have their own private conversations about my social problems. I feel like a different species of human most of the time. After school I feel very lost and sometimes I don't know how to get home. It is absolutly MORTIFYING to have to ask a grown up if i can use their phone to call my parents. They look at me, asking with their eyes "why on earth do you not have your own phone to call your parents?????????" I am a social outcast and am writing this to attempt to save other children from a terrible fate like mine.
Kid, 11 years old

It really depends on their age and need to communicate. My sports practices get canceled all the time and it’s kind of mortifying asking somebody else to use their phone, especially if you look older than your age. People have refused to lend me their phones because i look like I am 14. Not only do your child’s peers pressure them into getting one, teachers actually expect them to have phones to take pictures of the white board or take online surveys. Just don’t get them games or social media on their phones because they will use it in class. Use parental controls so they can’t spend to much time on browsers. Even though I can afford the phone I want and pay the phone bill, my parents still hesitate when I ask them. I start to feel left out on the school bus where everyone has a phone and uses it. My parents are old and don’t let me and my siblings use technology very much. Even though they work in the tech industry they somehow hate it. I go to a GT magnet school where most of the kids already have phones so I have to ask my friends to use theirs. Once on vacation I got lost and cried a lot but worked up the courage to ask a worker to borrow their phone. I skipped meals 6 times because I did not want to see the worker again. My parents say they did not get phones until college but i guess my generation is completely different.
Kid, 11 years old

If you save YOUR OWN money and ask your parents, there is a %95 chance that you'll get your own phone, and any model you like (and can afford)! The plus side is the device will feel better because you earned it, you'll be smarter when you make decisions when you buy things, you will understand why parents say no, aaaaaand your parents will be proud! I'm currently saving for the new Google Pixel Chromebook! It cost $1,299 and I so far have pulled out a lot of money! Really hope I can get it!
Kid, 11 years old

I have been saving for years! Theres a phone I can pay for and pay for it each month for at least a year and a half but nope my mom wont grasp
Kid, 11 years old

I'm a kid in 5th grade and I have an iPhone 5s, the thing is, I didn't ask for it. Not that I'm complaining, I'm very grateful for everything my parents surprise me with, especially my phone. I don't agree that "parents don't know the pressure" or they "don't live in the modern era", but I do think something else as well. A phone isn't just for safety and gaming, a phone can be really helpful sometimes. For example, finding the weather for a SPECIFIC time and place. Or writing reminders that buzz in your pocket when you forget and a sticky note won't work. Newer models can even check your current state of health! To me, a kid with a ( kinda outdated, not complaining!) phone, I think the ideal age is whatever age you start dressing yourself up in the morning and when you make your own daily decisions. That is the time when you're going to need some help you can't always rely on your parents for. Obviously, parents are wiser, but still, NOBODY can know the same peer pressure as someone else. Oh yeah, when people start bragging about their phone is a great time to take it away (not speaking with experience!)
Teen, 16 years old written by itz_el

I think 14 (first year of high school) is perfect. Before that you can just use your parents phone to contact your friends, and if there is an emergency, borrow a phone from a friend.
Teen, 15 years old written by IlluminatiKille...

What if everyone takes your method?That means no one will have a phone and your emergency plan will fail.I hope when you're a parent you don't tell them this.
Teen, 17 years old written by hedwig49

I got a phone when I turned 16. Honestly, it's a big problem not having a phone in high school so I'd say getting a phone at 15 is alright. But there are a lot of kids running around with phones at like 11 or 12 (I've even seen 8 year old kids with phones) and that's a bit too much. All these kids say they live in the modern century and whatnot so they need a phone in middle school but what guarantee can you give your parents that you won't text in class, for example, or won't procrastinate when you're supposed to be studying. I know it feels like your parents are being too stubborn or "old-fashioned" and you fully believe that you're ready to handle it responsibly, but trust me, you're not. I used to have so many arguments with my parents at 13 because I wanted to have a phone, but I'm glad I didn't get one then. When children get phones at a young age, they tend to become overexcited and use the phone 24/7. You need to socialize face to face instead of spending all your time on the screen.
Kid, 12 years old

If you are a parent and think your child might be exposed to bullying and depression on social media, rethink that thought. I can tell from my own experience, that bullying your child may receive for not having a phone which is face to face, feels way worse that online bullying, because you can't ignore it.
Kid, 12 years old

Parents reading this, not getting your kid a phone makes them feel left out and depressed at school. At school I feel like crying all the time because I feel left out. Just because you won't buy your kid a phone doesn't mean other parents will not as well. When kids are in middle school and they don't have a phone, they are at huge risk of bullying, depression, and feeling like outcasts.
Parent of a 10-year-old written by MCR1028

I also didn't get my first cell phone until I was 16 and driving. My parents saw no need for me to have one before that and I tend to agree with them. For the kids complaining that we don't understand the peer pressure to have phones, believe me we do understand, but peer pressure is not a reason to give someone something before they are ready. Unfortunately there will always be peer pressure, if it isn't about having a phone it will be about something else. Instead of worrying so much about fitting in concentrate more on being your own person and not letting the opinion of other kids effect you. There will always be someone who has something you don't. There is something much deeper at stake here than simply having or not having a phone. As far as what age I feel kids should have a phone my personal opinion is it depends on the activities of the child. If they are constantly away from thier parents for after school activities and may need to contact them than I can see how a phone could be helpful. However there is nothing that says it needs to be a smartphone, 'regular' cell phones work just fine for making calls and are still available. Smartphones tend to hand kids a world at thier fingertips that they are not emotionally prepared for. My son is almost 11 years old and due to after school activities we found he was often in situations where he needed to call us or we need to contact him so we purchased a watch for him that acts as a phone, it can call and receive calls from 10 preprogrammed numbers and text anyone listed as caregivers. It also has GPS enabled to help locate him if needed. It does exactly what a phone is made to do, nothing more. For his age that seems to be the appropriate middle ground as I was strongly against handing him a smartphone at such a young age. He does have a tablet, with parental controls enabled, to use for email, playing games, doing research for school, etc. With all the bullying, online harrassment, and pedophiles that abound I would personally rather be too cautious than not cautious enough. Kids you may not understand or appreciate your parents reasons now but try to understand where they are coming from and why.
Teen, 15 years old written by IlluminatiKille...

Amazing thought,but personally I think 12 is the perfect age for your kid to get a smartphone.Otherwise he'll feel left out and might even get bullied,and depressed.When your son turns 12,I hope you give him some more privacy and respect his wishes and not control what he can see,do,or watch.Why don't you just get your kid a normal drug dealer/cellphone instead of that Watch?By age 9 most kids understand not to get trapped by pedophiles,well(atleast I did.)your kid must be feeling sad when all of his friends have a phone and he doesn't. I'm no parent and you know better than me,disclaimer.
Adult written by SnowyAshton

I didn't have a cell phone (flip phone) until 10th grade when I started driving. Smartphones weren't really a thing yet and Facebook was still relatively new. I had no need of a cell phone until I had a reason to contact others in the event of an emergency. I stayed on my parent's plan for a while until I switched providers and paid my own way. My first smartphone was about 4 or 5 years ago, and I don't buy iPhones or Galaxys because I don't have the money to pay $1500 for a phone that won't last but maybe 2 or 3 years. All you kids under 12 saying you need a phone and parents SHOULD buy you phones? This is proof you don't need one. You have no use for a cell phone except to browse social media sites (which you should not be using at your age) and play multiplayer games (which you shouldn't be playing at your age). Pedophiles still exist and are still looking for children. And I also remember a couple years ago, some of the pioneers of social media and technology were expressing their concerns about the addictiveness of smart technology and its repercussions on our youth and culture today. My 11-year-old nephew just got his phone taken away yesterday because he was answering name/age/sex/location questions some random person on a (battle royale 1st person shooter) game was asking. Never mind the damaging aspects of shooter games at this age; my nephew could very well have been talking to a child predator...and yet he doesn't understand this and was crying himself out because he had his phone taken away. It's time to rethink your child's cell phone privilages, parents, and just how much access they have to apps and games.
Teen, 13 years old written by ten_twentynine

Simple: If his friends got a phone, buy him also, do not make the kid feel embraced. Also depends on the age. A kid under 10 should not have a phone. I got mine when I was 10. Just because in your times you got a phone when you was 20, DOES NOT mean that your kids should so. WE LIVE IN MODERN CENTURY. Technology is everything. If your kid uses his phone too much, DO NOT PUT PARENTAL CONTROLS, just punish him by banning his phone for a set period of time (for example, 3 days). Not too long.
Teen, 13 years old written by sipsip

um... you're kidding, right? I regret asking for a phone when I was 8 or whatever. I ended up being socially awkward, low grades, and I ended up buying illegal stuff. so I think getting a phone when you start HIGHschool is better. Oh and get Grammarly while you're at it
Kid, 12 years old

i think that what you just said every parent thinks did yall meet together to plan this way of thinking of phones?
Kid, 12 years old

I got my phone when I was 11. My parents talked and decided that would be a good age because the school bus stop (the closest one) was a while away from my house, so I had to walk a long walk from the stop to my house. I didn’t get the modern iPhone X or something like that. Just a normal phone. It just depends on your child’s maturity level and needs.
Teen, 13 years old written by OD1205

No phone. I have done guitar for 6 years, Rep L3 soccer for 5 years (better league, travel farther) all the school sports, and I am the MC at assembly’s and I am the lead clarinet in my school band. I get the best grades in my class, and super respectful, and never fight with my parents. I don’t have a phone because parents didn’t grow up with phones. It’s not their fault, they just don’t realize what classes and schools are like nowadays. They didn’t get bullied and felt super left out when they didn’t have something, all that has been rising drastically in the past few years. If you want a phone badly, try to educate them and talk to them. I have a tip. Find the more vulnerable parent, the one that you think would get you a phone more easily, and start crying and telling them that you feel so left out and people bully you. They can’t say no you can’t get one ever unless they are cruel, and if they do, ask them why. Try to work on why they said you can’t get one. If it’s your too young, then try and be more responsible and act really mature for your age.
Kid, 11 years old

Im not aloud to get a phone or play sports or go on feild trips or go outside unless i need to take out the trash because my mom said I need to help her with my brothers and focuse on school. -_-
Teen, 13 years old written by cassy.__

It's true, when i ask my parents they tell me how they got their phones at 17 and had no problems. But this is a new century! And i'll feel embarrassed if i enter highschool with a tablet, and i have to call my parents through my friend's phones....
Teen, 13 years old written by A GIRL1234

Hi there! I have been asking for a phone for a long time I am 12 im turning 13 like in 2 weeks and I am really hoping to get a phone but my parents always deny everytime i ask for one. Right now I have a really laggy tablet and it sucks I can't do anything on it. My mom once said you can get a phone when you turn 17! I took it as a joke but im not sure. All of my siblings have one and got one in grade 9 or 10 but i need one because when im out with friends my mom always has to call my friends phone its really annoying and most of the time i can't even go out with friends because my parents are overprotective , I always feel left out because like on breaks or weekend they are always planing stuff like going to the mall or sleepovers. Even everyone in my class has one, even grade 4s, 5s, 6s I just sometimes feel left out because my friends are always on their phone talking about social media and i'm just sitting there trying to fit in. I' just wishing that i can have a phone for my bday!
Kid, 12 years old

As a 6th grader to an adult, it is ultimately your choice to get your child a phone. But know I’ve recently gotten a phone mainly to contact my parents after soccer and swim. There have been many cases where I could not contact my parents to pick me up . My mom used to day just to ask to borrow someone’s phone, but honestly it’s mortifying asking someone. like this one time soccer ended early and by the time I had worked up the courage to ask someone if I could use their phone, no one was left that I could ask. So about 15 ish minutes later my mom came, she was super sorry, but it wasn’t her fault I just couldn’t contact her. The breaking point was when I was at my school’s carnival and my mom and I couldn’t find each other to pick me up, Once we found each other after 20 minutes we went inside the car. My mom said she was gonna text my friend and aqquantince (she and he both had phones and I was hanging out with them) but we both agreed that could come across as maybe a bit stalker-ish. That night, my mom and I both agreed that it was time to get me a phone. Now that I have it, there are a few rules and guidelines. Like how I should always prioritize schoolwork(keep up all As!)first and not my phone. I’m also not allowed to have social media, except Pinterest and no using my phone at the dinner table. But these are just my reasons, it’s different for every kid. Just trust your parents and don’t nag them about it.
Kid, 11 years old

Im twelve not aloud to get a flip phone until im 15 and Im always home alone. Its pretty scary to be sitting there not knowing how to contact anyone if anything goes wrong.
Kid, 11 years old

Now, I hear you all. I understand, I'm in 5th grade, and 11. I don't have a phone. Maybe you should be more grateful for what you already have. If you have a computer, USE IT. If you have a tablet, USE IT. I like the people that are talking about how they already appreciate what they have. I hope you don't nag your parents about it, I won't lie, I did in elementary as soon as everybody started getting them. But I moved on. Learn to accept facts or you will just hang to them, not living your own life. Don't call me out on this, but think about your parents. Do you love them? Do they love you? Then think about what they are prohibiting you from. Maybe they are worried about you. Maybe they can't afford it. Think about them. A phone is a big responsibility and sure, while I may have nagged my parents too, doesn't mean it is right. Now, I hope all the people in my age group hear this, cause it is important. While other kids might flaunt their new iPhone X, Galaxy S9, etc., what do they use it for? Games, social media, seconds that are wasted away. They are too immature to understand that, but I hope this clarifies it for some people. Use this time to study, exercise. Show your parents that you have the responsibility, maturity, and control. I am so glad that my parents didn't give me a phone, and now I am an accomplished 11-year-old. Parents don't need to be pushy, and phones are only a distraction. You might need a phone at this age because both your parents work, you have a family situation, etc. But don't let it get control of you. Cut down on screen time. Read a book. Do things you love. A phone isn't bad but in limits. Children have gone crazy without a phone. It is a constant topic in middle school (In my town, 5th grade is part of a middle school). I am repeating this, but gosh darn it, it is so important. Don't get hung up on your phone. It is the only way to be a better person. :) Hope you have a great day, and don't forget it.
Teen, 13 years old written by dazza360

i am 13, but the thing is im in year 8 and in year 7 when i was 12 i was a little sad about not having a phone but since some others didnt i was ok. in year seven i tried to show my parents my responsibilty and i also earned 90's for all my tests. After the summer break everyone came back to school with a phone. My parents are indian and i know im being steryotyical here but indian parents love comparing their kids to others kids who dont have phones even though the statistics show most indians in my class have phone may it be an iphone 5 or x they stll have one. My dad had promised to buy me a phone on my bday but sadly i go to a tutor outside of school and they gave me a test in that test i got 80 and all the others i got 90 and because of that i believe i didnt get a phone. Instead i got a 20 dollar Hurley top on my 13th bday which is meant to be special. This is really frustrating as i feel left out when i am with my friends on the bus when there listening to music and i dont have a phone, if your asian and your reading this you will probably know what i mean(not all asians) but most will.
Kid, 11 years old

i have a tablet now. had it for a year and im fine. i use it for everything
Teen, 16 years old written by my name is jeff 1

Should kids younger than 13-14 have cell phones? Kids younger than 13-14 should NOT have cell phones. Kids that are younger than 13 or 14 should NOT have phones. Electronics have done a part in killing many people because they were not ready for their phones. Therefore nobody should have phones until they are at least 13 or 14. An article on the internet says: “A couple months ago, I turned 12. A few months earlier, I had been nagging my parents about a phone, obsessing over it, and throwing tantrums when my mom said I couldn't have one. I thought I would be the only one in 6th grade without a smartphone. I was not ready for one, and my reactions proved this to my mom. As the school year began, I pointed out many inconveniences about not having a phone in middle school to my mom, and she would pretty much ignore them every time, and rightfully so. We talked about having a flip phone, and I was scared I'd get bullied for having one. It was better not having one, but my mom said that the basic purposes are necessities for someone my age in modern times. Late October, my birthday. I didn't ask for anything, wanting a "surprise", although internally hoping for a phone. I had no birthday party/trip, but I did have an amazing birthday dinner and got 4 presents from my parents. The first a board game. The second a trinket that I'd wanted for a long time. Third was one of those fancy illustrated Harry Potter books, and the fourth a flip phone that was from the 1990s, but I didn't know this. I thought it was my new phone. I tried my best to smile, and I said thank you and hugged my mom and dad. It was a test. If they got a reaction out of me, (my mom was looking forward to this result) I would get a flip phone. But if not, I'd be getting an iPhone when my older sister, and my mom did. So, I got the iPhone 7. While I'm confident almost anyone who knows me well will say I'm responsible, my weakness is technology. I can't control myself. It's addicting…” This shows how bad the internet can be it is extremely addicting. Most people can’t control themselves on the internet. People spend so much time on the internet that not only do we have bullying, but we have cyberbullying too. Another one from this website says: “...I think it is sad to be in class and see everyone on their phones. There is less socializing, and students just emerge in their devices. Apps such as Facebook/ Youtube even cut off the time and battery power when you binge watch videos so you easily get distracted and start procrastinating. It's addicting…” People are so attached to their phones that at school they sneak it in and text and play games. During class! In fact here is a chart showing how much time is spent on Video Games: Another website says: “A new study found that teenagers are increasingly depressed, feel hopeless and are more likely to consider suicide. Researchers found a sudden increase in teens' symptoms of depression, suicide risk factors and suicide rates in 2012 — around the time when smartphones became popular, says Jean Twenge, one of the authors of the study. Twenge's research found that teens who spend five or more hours per day on their devices are 71 percent more likely to have one risk factor for suicide. And that's regardless of the content consumed. Whether teens are watching cat videos or looking at something more serious, the amount of screen time — not the specific content — goes hand in hand with the higher instances of depression…The idea that they're under an increasing amount of academic pressure, and they're spending more and more time on schoolwork doesn't turn out to be true when you look at these large, nationally representative surveys. For example, there's a large survey of entering college students, so that's exactly the population you'd expect would feel a lot of pressure to have spent a lot of time on homework and extracurricular activities. Among that group, when they report on their last year in high school, homework time is about the same as it was in the '80s, and the time they spend on extracurricular activities is also about the same ... The other thing is, we also found that teens who spend more time on homework are actually less likely to be depressed. think ideally, 14. Beginning of high school is a good age to aim for because there's some other data suggesting that the links between, for example, social media use and unhappiness are the strongest for 8th graders versus 10th or especially 12th graders. By the time they're at that age they're better able to handle the demands of social media. And some of the mental health trends are the most pronounced for the youngest teens, as well...” This shows that are younger than 13/14 are not old enough to control their phones. Many bad things have come from the internet for instance, fortnite all it does is teach kids how to kill. People learn to KILL from doing fortnite. And during class if you look many people instead of typing and working on stuff guess what they play. Video games. We need to control the internet not have it controls us. People spend so much time on phones, internet, video games that they can no longer control themselves. So it’s better to wait until kids are old enough to control themselves before you think about getting them phones, so that when they’re old enough they know how to control themselves. Google says that “The average American spends 24 hours a week online. We're using the internet far more than we used to. So says new data from USC Annenberg (PDF) about the digital lives of Americans. Nearly always on: Since 2000, time spent online every week by an average American has risen from 9.4 hours to 23.6.” According to google the amount of time people spend on phones is: “It might be difficult to nail down an exact figure, but roughly 90% of our mobile time is spent using apps. According to comScore, American adult smartphone users spend an average of 73.8 hours a month on apps, which comes to a little under 2 hours, 30 minutes a day.” Searching the internet there are a lot of sad things how much time people spend on phones or internet. Such as this chart: Google search also says that: “The mysterious connection between cell phones and cancer. ... Long-term studies take time, after all, and in 2016 the results of a 7-year, $25 million study brought up concerns about just what long-term exposure to cell phone and radio radiation will do.” Another website shows how addicting it is: “You check in to say good night to your son only to find he is playing "Fortnite" in bed. Or your daughter is busy texting when she is supposed to be studying. Children and their phones are inseparable today, and all that reading and playing games on their handheld devices may be harming their vision. To reduce screen time, some parents ban phones at the dinner table. This applies to both adults and children. And in some homes, playing games or texting must stop two hours before bedtime. To put a hard stop on screen time, some moms, and dads set time limits on their children's daily device use. For example, when a total of two hours of screen time has been reached, no more texting, game playing or YouTube watching.” This chart shows that throughout the years people use electronics a lot more than they used to: With the rates of using electronics increasing so has suicidal rates. Just like this chart shows: So this is why you should wait until your kid is older to get them a phone. So please don’t get them a phone until there older.
Kid, 12 years old

It doesn't matter how old they are what matters is if they are mature enough to handle having a phone
Teen, 17 years old written by BestTeenEver

Hey. I am 17 and live with my dad and he says that I cannot have one 'till I move out. NONE OF U DESERVE 1 EITHER
Kid, 11 years old

LOL maybe you don't need one. I don't have one, and I accepted the fact I will not have one for a long time. This section is full of stupid monkeyheads that really need a lesson. Having a phone is a good thing, with bad things. Maybe not act so spoiled and think about what your parents are thinking? Spoiled brats.
Teen, 13 years old written by hiufil02

When I was in 6th grade, my eldest sisters old LG as she got an iPhone X, and I was happy at first since that was my first phone. I've always been a responsible child and have been in the Gifted Program since 1st grade and have had all A's since. My parents had no troubles trusting me with any electronic device, so no rules were put in place. But I have two older sisters in high school who weren't exactly responsible, so whenever any boundaries were placed on them were placed on me as well. I was required to have the phone downstairs every night and I didn't have a phone line. I was disappointed since I couldn't access much when not at home, and since it was around 2018, the phone was literally falling apart. It got the point where it stopped working in the summer, and the only electronic I have is an actually very new laptop. As 7th grade started, every single I knew had a phone and a line, except me. All the teachers expected us to have phones, making us do online quizzes and researches. I also did many in-school activities, asking to use my friends phones every time to reach my parents. About a week ago, I was stuck waiting in 30 degrees in a rain storm for my mom to pick me up from school until 9 pm because she forgot what time to pick me up. I do feel left out and always at some kind of risk at school, and my parents also understand I need a phone and can trust me with one. They say by 8th grade I will get one, but they said I will get one 7th grade last year. Because of my siblings, I wouldn't be allowed of any social media, which sucks for different reasons. Personally, that is a easier way to communicate with friends and family. If you like the way your child behaves, then that's probably how they will behave online. Plus, its fun to have something to look up to, like taking nice photos for your Instagram. Even though not having a phone is affecting my grades and my access to much sucks, I never really complained, although I do hint it often. Many parents on here are saying teens don't need phones, but we live in a different generation than you grew up in that revolves around modern. It is your decision to give a child a phone, but I say they should get one 7th grade, as that is when I began struggling without one. It depends on what kind of community you live in, but if your child is trustworthy, I suggest you get them one. :)
Teen, 13 years old written by OneHitWonder

I honestly think it depends on certain parents' view on phones. In my opinion, you should be at least 13 or older. Now, I understand if your child is about 11-12 and wants a phone, it might be a bit too early. But as they grow, they become more and more independent. What if they needed to call you for something very important instead of always going to the school phone? What if something terrible happened at school and they had to use a friend’s, but you never responded to the ¨stranger’s¨ call? Not trying to think on the negative side, but when you say no, think about those things. I have a 6th generation iPod touch, and it’s a starter for a tween. Teens, try to go with the iPhone 5/6.
Adult written by overprotectivep...

Now that, is wrong. As long as your child doesn’t misuse it, it is necessary to communicate if they need to be picked up from school, upcoming assignments, and notification if they need to be somewhere after school. I’d say 10 is a good age if they are responsible.
Teen, 17 years old written by Ithinknophoneti...

kids under 14 aren't very good at controlling themselves and if you look many have had to much time on the internet and commit suicide. so if your a parent please don't get your kids phones until they are responsible enough and are at least 14 years old. I didn't get my phone until 16 I was frustrated at first but now I understand that they just want to keep me safe.
Kid, 12 years old

A couple months ago, I turned 12. A few months earlier, I had been nagging my parents about a phone, obsessing over it, and throwing tantrums when my mom said I couldn't have one. I thought I would be the only one in 6th grade without a smartphone. I was not ready for one, and my reactions proved this to my mom. As the school year began, I pointed out many inconveniences about not having a phone in middle school to my mom, and she would pretty much ignore them every time, and rightfully so. We talked about having a flip phone, and I was scared I'd get bullied for having one. It was better not having one, but my mom said that the basic purposes are necessities for someone my age in modern times. Late October, my birthday. I didn't ask for anything, wanting a "surprise", although internally hoping for a phone. I had no birthday party/trip, but I did have an amazing birthday dinner and got 4 presents from my parents. The first a board game. The second a trinket that I'd wanted for a long time. The third was one of those fancy illustrated Harry Potter books, and the fourth a flip phone that was from the 1990s, but I didn't know this. I thought it was my new phone. I tried my best to smile and I said thank you and hugged my mom and dad. It was a test. If they got a reaction out of me, (my mom was looking forward to this result) I would get a flip phone. But if not, I'd be getting an iPhone when my older sister and my mom did. So, I got the iPhone 7. While I'm confident almost anyone who knows me well will say I'm responsible, my weakness is technology. I can't control myself. It's addicting. Now, I really wish I'd gotten an Apple Watch instead. I wouldn't have been made fun of, I could have called & texted, and I wouldn't be wasting my life away. I regret the fact that I got a smartphone, but I don't think a flip phone is a good idea either, anymore. Get a smartwatch, and your child will be safe everywhere, without distractions or emotional harm. Eventually, you will need to get them a smartphone, but I suggest waiting until 8th-9th grade for this. 5th-7th is a good age for a smartwatch, and 4th and below is a good age for a flip phone, if they have any reason to use one.
Adult written by Aidanwade223

I’m now literally 18. When I first got my phone, I was 10. I think the best age is 10 if you just wanna get your phone a cheap one like a cheap & mediocre. I used to have an LG slide phone & that was my first smartphone. At the age of 13, they can any phone they want like an iPhone X or Samsung Galaxy S9. Some parents need to stop buying cheap phones for 13 year olds. They need good cameras & high end screen quality & a fast processor so they can browse web, watch videos , social media, etc etc
Adult written by overprotectivep...

If your child uses a console, it’s not necessary, and cheap phones can sometimes be good phones. They also don’t need a 1000$ phone, because you can get by on a IPhone 7/8 if the parents need an expensive phone.
written by CoolUsername

I think a child should receive their first phone during late seventh grade. (Usually 12 or 13) But only if they work hard for the phone before you do buy them a phone, make sure you educate them on their rules and boundaries and make sure they are responsible enough, but even if you do trust them, monitor your child's activity. (What apps they use, who they are texting, check their history. Create an age for your child when they can use social media.) I received my first phone when I was 12, which was a hand me down from my sister(It was an old iPhone). My phone didn't have a sim card/plan, which kinda makes it like an iPod. I really only used it when I was out since it was small and easily fitted in my coat pocket, and only used it to listen to music and read. I didn't really do anything else with it. Around that age, you shouldn't buy them a sim card/plan. If you are worried about them, they could still contact you via text messages with an internet connection. You can watch how your child treats their phone and if you can trust them with it. Assuming they have the same phone, I suggest you buy them a plan or a new phone around the start of the senior year of high school as they are planning for college that year. Once your child receives a job, you should let them start paying their plan.
Kid, 12 years old

I think that you are being a little too harsh. I'm 12 yrs old, I got my phone November 9, 2018, and it was an iPhone 8, with a sim card/plan. The only thing my parents talked to me about was giving out my phone number out too easily, and social media. My parents upgrade every 1-2 years. Same for the kids. If you have kids, which I assume you do, they will rebel against you with this stone-hard rules. Taking out the sim card would be bad if they needed to call/text you, and upgrading when they're 17-18 would be stupid because, as everyone knows, the older your phone is, the laggier it gets. The only thing I agree with you on is to start paying their own phone bills in college.
Teen, 13 years old written by adevanath1

I think the right age for a kid to get a phone is at the age of 12. I am thirteen and I got my first phone at the age of 12.
Kid, 12 years old

I've waited so many years and I don't have a phone, and what I've been thinking if I ever get kidnapped by some stupid idiot and I don't have a phone and there aren't any around, my parents will never see me again, I can at least call 911, but nope, "Your too young to have a phone!" Then I'm at a slumber party or something, and some crazy criminal is in the building, I can't call 911 or my parents when something like that happens. Or at a party without my parents, the party's over and my parents don't know that, then a ton of kids have a phone and I look for someone who is willing to let me call my mom or dad, and do you know how hard that is?!
Parent written by Jennifer S.

My seven year old has been asking for an iphone the past few months. At first, It caught me off guard, as cell phones just were coming out right about the time I started driving. So, it worked out great for me, but it was the old basic bo bo nokia phones with nothing but ability to contact people and text. However, That was then and this is now.. As parents, sometimes we need to realize what history has taught us so that we do not repeat mistakes that our parents did, even though im sure they were looking out for our best interests in perspective of the culture that they grew up in.. I am still on the fence at his age, but I have many reasons why he will most likely get one very soon: 1: His entire life has been nothing but smart everything devices. Smart TVS, tablets, ipads, youtube, chrome notebooks used at school for tests, you name it. That is all he knows and he can use my phone just as good as I can. With that reality and the future that only hold more of it, It would be smarter for me to get him the new age culture way of being able to get in touch with me in any circumstance, as our culture is obviously getting pretty scary when it comes to our children: this includes not only school shootings, but also sexual abuse like I have never even know about until my eyes were open wide due to the fact that his own father is one of them. Yes, sexual abuse in the home and at school is nothing new, but I trust myself to control and monitor what phone he gets, what hes doing on it, etc, in order for him to have a way to call for help or text a code word or something, vs trusting others in school and especially his own father.. Yet his father hasn't been deemed convicted yet b/c well, you know how unjust things are now of days.. With that being said, that phone will be traced and monitored when he visits his father also.. His father would immediately take that phone, and either deprive him of it, and/or try to put a tracking device or record stuff, etc with it.. So, Ill just beat him to it and hopefully my son will end up learning its for protection and try to hide it, but ya know, he is seven so im sure that wont happen.. Regardless, if my kids needs to call me, he has every right and I will not let a school decide whether he can or not, and he has to rely on them, whom you just can't trust, bottom line.. Sure, I could and probably still will do what they did with us: in kindergarten, we were required to learn our parents full names, both of their addresses, and all phone numbers for emergencies or what not... Now, teachers do not do that so again, the school or afterschool or coach or babysitter or crazy day is the one my child has to rely on to get that information and that is not safe or smart on anyone's part.. He needs to know all of that info and a safety plan in case of something and code words, or what have you.. He needs to be a bit more mature but I can get him one cheap on a multiple plan that connects with my, showing gps info, parental controls, you name it. I do the same thing with his tablet. So, phone it is with limitations plus old school back up way.. and I do agree with these teens. If my first grader is required to use chromebooks for his testing, then im pretty sure he is gonna need to have whatever he needs for school and the culture that we live in.. I hate it but at the same time, I can't survive without it b/c that is what our world is.. If my child has to do an online class group project and he has to use something like a phone or tablet or email or what have you, he will have that, and I will monitor it.. Its safe too.. Accidents.. When my child drives, his car will be tracked for sure b/c I want to make sure he is safe and if he gets stuck in a situation socially and doesn't want to be embarrased but knows he wants to leave and needs to leave a party that is not safe , he needs a phone to call me, knowing he can trust me, say a code, and i will come get him.. Safety is key and I won't limit my child in a culture where he is demanded to use these things b/c these old phones will be obsolete anyway.. Its the same thing as when I took pre cal and calculus in highschool with a very expensive calculator needed and I did well. B/c with math, we all use calculators. Adults use them and are encourage to b/c we have them and its easier and usually extremely accurate.. So why sense does it make for my algebra teacher in college to not let us use any calculator what so ever but to do the problem the longest and least efficient way possible, which did nothing b/c at my job being a mortage banker, we use calculators... Can ya believe that? That teacher should not have been a teacher b/c you dont teach college age kids to not be efficient and she should be using what we have and know to help prepare us to be a work smarter, not harder employee. So parents, we are going to have to accept that their is a balance and by hindering your child from using what the culture uses for every thing in our lives, you are hindering them from life.. It used to be bad to say pregnant when my grandmother grew up in the 30s... yeah, she still believes that.... are ya getting my point here? Kids need to know body parts, the names of them, and boundaries, to protect themselves from predators... Ex: can you believe my ex mother in law couldnt have the nerve to say the correct name of her sons's private areas, so out of all names, she told them its called their "tickle thing" ... Dumb... So when a predator says they just want to tickle her kids b/c God forbid she uses the medical term for it, gasp.... and they are not told about sexual abusers, well that is defintely giving your child a way to trust those people... teach your kids things so they will be smart... dont let them find out when it is too late or from another kid who may not teach them the right thing or you just fail at telling them at all and then they do not like you very much nor do they trust you as much or feel comfortable telling you things as such or talking to you about them b/c you made that very clear when you kept silent... too many parents do this... We all need to have common sense, know the world, the culture, your child and use commons sense discernment to help, not hinder them
Teen, 13 years old written by tiaknight123

my name is Tia and i don't have a smartphone because my parent think I'm irresponsible .I never had phone because one of my dad friend Daughter was doing really inappropriate thing on her smartphone.So my parent think that i would do those thing too so they decide not to give me a phone until I'm older.
Teen, 17 years old written by Kaylee012

Hi guys, my name is Kaylee. I am currently a High School Senior studying to become an IT support specialist. I am doing an essay on why technology is addictive and stumbled upon this site. I personally have a weird outlook on technology because I was born right before smartphones and computers started to BOOM. I grew up without a phone and never needed one until 7th grade. I would agree that 7th or 8th grade is a perfect time to get your first smartphone. But now that I am older I have a different view on it than I did 4-5 years ago. I think it is sad to be in class and see everyone on their phones. There is less socializing, and students just emerge in their devices. Apps such as Facebook/ Youtube even cut off the time and battery power when you binge watch videos so you easily get distracted and start procrastinating. It's addicting. But I do believe that there is just the right time and place to be on your phone or play video games. And that is when all responsibilities are finished.
Kid, 11 years old

I agree you should wait until your older. My mom said I cant get one until im 21. Im not aloud to go on feildtrips or go play outside though either because my mom wants me to focuse on school on my chromebook. But i cant get a ipad tablet or phone because Im to busy watching all my brothers.
Kid, 10 years old

If your a parent wondering if u should get your kid a iphone, you SHOULD. I'm in 5th grade, and 50 percent of my class has a phone. And the 50 percent that doesn't have a phone is probably either getting one for christmas or for their birthday. basically every kid where I lives gets a iphone in 5th grade or 6th grade or even younger. I really hope i get a iphone 8 lol!!!!!!
Teen, 13 years old written by H.R.H

At your age level I would be pretty reluctant to get you a phone. Yes lots of kids get a phone in elementary, but I guarantee that a late 7th or 8th has somewhat more responsibility, And me reading your comment just proves your irresponsibility, because you specifically State a name brand acting if you would not be happy if you got a Android or any other phone. I'm sure a lot of kids at your school either have a cracked or broken phone that's because they are irresponsible you should really turn it down a little maybe if you ask your parents for such expensive phone as your first phone and you lose it you are going to be stuck with a cheap phone. I mean not all parents are like that but most stop you lose an expensive phone then you're going to get a cheap one
Kid, 10 years old

If your a parent scrolling down these comments, wondering if you should get your kid a phone, you SHOULD.
Teen, 13 years old written by Swordlily

Personally, it's up to the individual conscience of the child and their parents. I got my first phone(a flip phone) from my grandmother as a gift when I was around 8. I didn't ask for it, I didn't tell any of my friends about it, nor did I use it very often, outside of occasionally sending things like birthday wishes to my family. I got my first smartphone around the age of 10, it was a hand-me-down from my mum after she got a new iphone. I didn't use that much either. This year I turned 13, which in Australia is when you start high school. My smartphone wasn't the best of quality, so after a while its battery started to fail. Even if I charged it for the whole night, it would go down to critical level as soon as I took it off. Throughout the end of last year and all of this year, I've been essentially without a phone. My parents know that I am a mature person, I am a very dedicated student, and I know how to handle myself online and to avoid the dangerous side of the internet. However, they still prefer to protect me. This year is the first time they've allowed me to take the bus (they still prefer to drop me off and pick me up) and go out with my friends to the park or shops(once or twice). They also decided that I didn't really need a new phone. I'm not complaining, I completely understand their thinking. Nonetheless, phones are something that becomes normal as soon as your child progresses into their teen years. I am the only one in my class, and one of only a few in my whole year level, to not have a smartphone or any kind of social media (aside from a gmail and hangouts account). I am one of the lucky few who are supported by their peers rather than bullied. My class has an instagram chat where they talk to each other and help each other out with class things. I don't have instagram, so I can't see this. My friends are kind enough to email important information to me, so I don't miss out too much, but it's really inconvenient, and even though they don't tease me at all, I can't help but feel a little left out. Recently we went on an excursion to the zoo, and we were actually encouraged to bring our phones so we could take pictures of the animals or look up information that we couldn't find. At this point, my mum started to realise that as I get older, I AM going to need a phone, and we've started looking for one together. Long story short for people who didn't want to read that huge chunk of text (sorry!): Some parents may not feel like their child needs a phone, and I completely respect that. But just be aware, that as they get older, not having a phone is going to get increasingly inconvenient, restricting, embarrassing, and in some cases dangerous. People start to automatically assume because of your age that you must have a phone. I think that, it's up to you, you are the only one who knows whether your child is mature and responsible enough or not. If you have not bought or given them a phone yet by the time they reach their teens, now is the time to start seriously considering it.
Adult written by [email protected]

I admire your parents. They are raising you well - you are very mature and reasonable for your age. I was impressed with your comments. Your patience will pay off - you are getting a phone. Thank you for taking time to write this.
Teen, 13 years old written by Jinelover01

Hey swordily im in the same situation and I am about 13yrs old(aussi3) ad i still don’t have a phone but I act as I do. And I 100% agree with what u said
Kid, 11 years old

I’m going to be 12 in a couple weeks. I still do not have a phone. (I don’t want to sound spoiled, so please don’t take it that way.) I’m in sixth grade, middle school. There are 96 kids in my grade, and only around 9 out of those 96 do not have a phone. I am one of them. Everyone just assumes that I do have one, seeing as I’m honestly very mature and responsible, but I don’t have one. I can’t talk to my friends outside of school, unless we meet up somewhere (which I’m not allowed to do). I can’t text friends. I can’t contact my father, should there be an emergency. I know there are lots of mothers in the comments on this that say that they were perfectly happy growing up without phones, but this is a new generation. (I’m a proud GenZennial.) I personally believe I’m ready for a phone. I got High Honors, I’m good in school, I haven’t ever misplaced my father’s phone, which I’m using right now. To the kids reading this, I’ll tell you this: if you want a phone and you aren’t in middle school yet, be prepared for a no. I have experience with that. But parents these days have to understand how tweens and teens are nowadays. It’s very different from when THEY were young, and they might just not be used to it. If you’re still reading this, I thank you for reading it. I know it was long.
Teen, 14 years old written by lil_remde

I'm 14 and still don't have a phone. It Sucks! My friends are always asking why I don't have a phone and keep "teasing me". It was just my birthday, I tried to make a deal with my parents, in which I would buy the phone and pay for half of the data plan, which I think is reasonable. I have all As I play two sports and do the most chores at my house. Every weekend I go out and hang out with friends, so having a phone would be good to stay in contact with my parents. Why are they not budging?
Adult written by chickn.soop

I didn’t have a phone until I graduated high school and moved out of my parents house. I faced the same issues when I was in high school and middle school. I personally don’t thing that kids under 18 should have a phone because I think kids have knowledge to do and say stuff, but not the wisdom if it’s right or appropriate. Keep being a kid, there will be plenty of time for a phone.
Teen, 13 years old written by haileighxgresham

I'm 13 and I only just got a iPhone. I have been asking for one since the iPhone 10 came out, but my parents gave me two options. I could have gotten the iPhone 6s on the spot a year ago, or wait one year and get whatever iPhone I want. In the meantime, I had to make do with a Samsung galaxy which was like a punishment for me loosing my iPhone 7. It was really annoying, especially as I couldn't sync anything with my iMac, my MacBook and my iPad. I think that parents should stick to one brand when buying tech for their kids because switching from a iPhone to a android was a big change, and the worst thing was that my beats wouldn't connect so I had to use my cable 24/7 :( so... get a iPhone for your children and stick to it!!! I've lost so many files and have been inconvenienced so many times by owning useless Samsung phone.
Kid, 12 years old

I am 12 years old and in the 7th grade. Most of my friends got their first phone in about 5th grade and I feel left out. My parents don't think I should have a cell phone because we have a home phone and they think if you give a kid a phone you are automatically creating an addicted zombie. I find calling people awkward and uncomfortable, texts are a lot easier. Parents, if you are unsure about the age to give your child a phone, I would say about 6th grade, middle school. Make sure you frequently check their phone and add parental controls.
Adult written by metroatm

It's really not that difficult of a decision. Don't let your kids have phones!! HERE IS WHY: -They don't need them -You already know where they are. Kids are either at school or at home or at a friends house. -Cell phones /snapchat are ADDICTING and don't help foster real relationship skills -They are expensive -Kids don't have the brain development to use cell phones properly. I.E. crossing the street while looking down at their phone -Kids need to fit in because of their personality, not because of a device. If your kids hate you, then it just means your doing your job! -Are you really prepared to discuss with your kids about online sexting, predators, bullying, self worth. Do you even know how these apps work?
Teen, 13 years old written by Carolcat

You know, I don't particularly enjoy when adults say that about kids, you make it sound like us kids are stupid (Or that's at least how I took it), you seem to be only focusing on the negatives about getting your child a phone rather than the positives, I have gained more since I got a phone then lost. If my parents think I have been on my phone too much then they will let me know. Even though my parents did not let me get a phone until about March of 2018 my love for them never changed and I never felt hatred towards them when they told me they would not let me get a phone, but now since they gave me a phone they even told me they are very happy that they made the decision to give me a phone. If you have a child just test out giving them a phone, you can buy an Android for $99.00 and they work just the same as an iPhone. If your child does mistreat their phone privileges then you can take away their phone, but just first test out giving your child a phone before you are certain you do not think they can handle a phone. (I mean testing out a phone worked for me)
Kid, 12 years old

I agree that there are dangers that come with social media and phones. And you have the power to decide if you want to get your child a phone or not! But, at least talk to your kid, find out why they REALLY want a phone. I am in a situation where I feel really depressed and lonely because I don't have a phone. That could be going on with your kid as well; they just aren't saying it. Like I said, you can control if you want to get your child a phone or not, but they may feel really strongly for a legitimate reason. I am living proof! So talk to them, and at least make them feel like you understand. Express YOUR desires and wants for them as well, but at least give them a chance to get their big reason off their chest.
Adult written by jar81

I'm a parent of a soon to be 15 year old. Our son became addicted to pornography at a very young age (10). We found it on his tablet. We took the tablet away and 2 years later thought we would try again by getting him a brand new phone when he was 12. A $700 Samsung phone, but he was super ungrateful and complained that it wasn't an iPhone and once again we caught him viewing pornographic adult content. So, we took the phone away. Since, we have gotten him an iPod for music (which he lost) and have allowed him to use our phones for social time with his friends, but monitor his conversations, etc. Once again, he made a wrong choice and so now here we are, he's almost 15 and I so desperately want to try to give him a chance again, but he has consistently shown us over and over that he can't be trusted. Thinking maybe we can motivate him to save up to get his own phone of his choice then put certain blockers on it or monitor his internet activity. Being a parent of a teenager is so difficult. I know he wants to "fit in" and be "cool" with a brand new phone, but it scares me how addicted he is to porn and how many expensive things he's lost. :-(
Adult written by chickn.soop

I personally think your son shouldn’t have a phone until he’s an adult and can legally watch whatever he wants at that older age. But when he is 18, I would let him buy his own one and pay for the bill so he gets an understanding of what the costs look like.
Teen, 14 years old written by krozycki

I am 14 1/2 years old and my first smartphone was given to me at the age of 11, right before I entired middle school. Now as a teenager and in highschool, I do find that giving your child a smartphone at young age might not be the best possible case. As you give your child/chrilden a smartphone it gives them a lot of responsiblities. 1 of the top most responsiblities is to be able to keep track of your phone. Now if you give your child/children an iphone for example, you have to remember that an iphone isn't cheap. Yes you may have find my Iphone connected to another iphone device but, you are still have the chance of not being about to find it ever again. If you give your child an old fashion flip phone not only is it cheap but it is also a lot more confusing to use. A flip phone is one of the cheapest phones you can get your child/children some only cost 40-60 dollars. Compared to an iphone or an other smartphone, thats cheap. The only problem with a cheap phone is that, its not easy to use and will be able to break very easily. Many flip phones have the keypad for number and letter placed together. Trying to teach a 6 year old how to use a flip phone may be challenging and if the child isn't paying attention, they will not be able to use the phone properly. Now if you are a parent who is still not ready to give your child a smart phone or flip phone try an Ipod touch designed by Apple. Ipods touch is pretty much an iphone without the celluar data and phone in it. The only way to get on the internet is to be hooked up/linked to a wifi spot. It has Imessage on it which allow the child to contact a parent with wifi. They only problem is if a emergency happens or a parent must get in contact with the child, they have to guess if the child is connected to wifi in order to recieve a message. The chance of the child being connected to wifi is 98%. The 2 precent is if the child is at home since my resturants, attraction park, schools, etc.. dont have free wifi to connect to. If places do have wifi to connect to the chance of the wifi being good is 5%. Finally its all up to the parents decision on when the right time is to get their child/children a phone. My idea would be, start the child off with an Ipod Touch, this gives them the ability to contact a parent or someone with wifi but not have the parents pay so much money in the beginning. Also see how they take care of the Ipod, do they throw it, treat it like garbage or do they put a lot of care into it even though its not an actual phone. Next, move on to a flip phone, yes it may be cheaper than the Ipod touch (depending on what generation of ipod you got) but now your child has the ability to contact you at any point in time or place. With the flip phone since it now has data, you can watch if your child pays attention to how much data they use. Once you have seen your child have the responsiblities it takes to have a phone I would try a smartphone with them. Now you may think oh no, they could drop it or lose it well for me when I got my first iphone the rule was if I drop it or lose it I wouldn't get a iphone from my parents and would have to pay for a new one with the bill. Once you have purchased the smartphone, you should set some boundries on it. Some may be, no using it after a certain time (I had this with my first smart phone after 9 I had to put it downstairs), since you aren't paying for the bill of it as the parent, I (you) can take it away anytime I feel you need a punishment, etc.. If your child doesn't agree on these boundries you have set try to explain to them more in depth why you feel they need these boundries and maybe try a compromise. For example on the weekdays beside of Friday ever night before 10 or whatever time you set the phone must be downstairs while on Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays the phone can be upstairs till 12 or all night (whatever you want). Now that you have given your child a phone, they should be able to contact you if needed at anytime. Some reason why you should get your child a phone: 1. Contact easily 2. Know where they are 3. Emergencies (School shootings have become a big issue and having a phone a student can contact 911 and their parents or guardians very quick). 4. Stay in touch with friends or other family members such as uncles and aunts
Teen, 13 years old written by Moviegirl700

I am 13 and my parents still have not gotten me a phone. I had a flip phone when I was 9, which, in my opinion, is still pretty young. 11 is a great time. But yet, I am not allowed to have one for loosing my one I had 4 years ago! I'm really depressed. If parents don't want their kids to feel left out, get one at the start of middle school or by the time they are 11
Kid, 12 years old

Get your kid a smartphone (not a fliphone, they might get bullied) when they are starting middle school. If their birthday is in August or September, your lucky and should get them one for their birthday. If not, just get them one around the start of middle school. Kids will start having more responsibilities in middle school and will start taking more risks. I don’t have a phone yet and I’m in 7th grade. I feel really left out all the time because of that, and no kid should feel that way.
Teen, 13 years old written by naomiabiah

I think that Parents should get their kids a phone when they are in middle school. I was in middle school and I felt really depressed and left out just because I had no phone. And I everyone else had a phone and everything.
Kid, 11 years old

I personally think children should get a phone at the beginning of middle school. I started middle school about 9 weeks ago, and yet, no phone. Why should kids get a phone at the time I recommended? It's because, at this time, they are growing up and embracing the pressure of fitting in. If you don't do this, someday, your child may come home crying because they were bullied or teased because of this! Do you want this to happen? Of course, you don't! Also, DO NOT get your child a phone before this time because they may misuse it or lose it. Only do this if your child is extremely mature. But don't go to the store to buy the latest iPhone for them! Remember, don't spoil your child! Just get them an iPhone 5s or a touchscreen LG with parental controls. Or get a Windows phone with the same features. Now, it's on to me. I'm a very responsible tween, I help around the house, I do sports, I get straight As, and my Pre-ap ILA teacher has recommended me for GT spring testing. So what do you think of my thoughts?
Adult written by Caffienepls

I'm a parent, 27, and I may have a controversial opinion. I'm a millennial with a 4 and 7 year old. The oldest is a girl. Shes highly independent and bold, and this year asked to ride the bus home instead of me picking her up. I was mortified honestly. I dont trust people, and after all the weird stuff that has happened in this world I get nervous. But despite my fear, my husband and I had a talk and decided to let her ride the bus. My only stipulation: she needed a phone. I did consider a crappy flip phone, but that is not the phone of this time. And smartphones have built in security features that help parents and kids stay connected. So we chose the Samsung j3 star as her first phone. We aren't an iPhone family, husband and I have a note 8 and galaxy 9. Anyway, shes does fantastic with it so far. Doesn't bother with it at school and no complaints from the teacher. I work from home, and when she gets off the bus, she calls me to let me know shes walking back. This makes me and her feel more comfortable. We do live in a gated community, but I dont know everyone around us, and even if I did, I have a responsibility to keep my child safe. She uses it to do research for projects and homework, and in her downtime plays games or watches videos. Husband is a techie and works for the mobile phone industry, so he set it up for her. So far so good. I didn't get my phone until I was 14, but cellphones were still kind of new.I never damaged or lost any of my phones. Also, it came in real handy. I think school-aged kids should have phones. Just having the peace of mind is enough of a reason for me. Plus, embarrassing your kid with an outdated phone or not letting them have one when their peers do is a recipe for...well...a lot of not so good stuff. Get them a cheap smart phone to start, monitor their use, have a conversation with them about the responsiblity of owning their phone, and call it a day. Parents might be surprised how maturely their child could handle the responsibility.
Teen, 16 years old written by Rainingpastelles

I got my first phone for my 10th birthday but I used to always forget it at places and I would drop it and crack the screen. I was not ready for a phone at 10 years old when I first got it. I don’t think kids should really be getting a phone or are responsible enough to get a phone until 12 or 13. This is just my opinion and of course every kid is different I am 16 years old in high school and definitely more responsible and able to have a phone.
Adult written by sullisaints

I think children should have a cellphone (note I did not say smartphone) or at least a phone that only contacts their parents when they start school, just for safety reasons. They can just hold it for school and the parent can take it back after class if they are so concerned. As for smartphones, as long as you limit a child's screen time it should be okay for any child who is mature enough. However I do believe it is important for children sixth grade or higher to have a smartphone to be able to be connected with their peers. I'm not saying that parents should run to the apple store and get the latest iphone for their sixth grader, but at least get them an LG touch screen that they can quickly check their grades on or use the calculator. If parents are really concerned about it ask for the phone before bed time and explain to them why you are doing so. It's important for kids to feel connected. I feel that if you have a good talk with your child and explain to them why or why not they should do certain things then they should be able to get a smartphone. I understand the whole "back in my day" nostalgia. However it is 2018! How did you feel when you were grounded and all of your friends got to go to the park to have fun and you couldn't. Imagine being able to watch them all having fun right outside your window? That is what you are letting your kid experience and they didn't even do anything wrong. Honestly, if you treat a child in middle school with respect, they should be mature enough to handle a smartphone.
Teen, 15 years old written by Marin2018

I am a 15 year old freshman in high school. I think that by around 8th grade you should be allowed to have a phone unless you have really screwed stuff up somehow. I was told I would be getting a phone for my 15th birthday and I was looking forward to it. On my birthday morning I wake up to find that I got a crappy flip phone. I wanted to cry, but I didn't want to be rude because my parents would have been pissed. Does anyone else think that I should at least be able to try to prove I am responsible enough for a normal phone? I am a fairly responsible teen, and mostly want a phone to snapchat my friends and keep in touch with people easier. Everyone else has a normal phone, and by that I mean EVERYONE. I feel like I miss out on a lot because of this issue. At school I am too afraid of taking out my phone because it gets on my nerves when people tease me. It's like "I get that my life sucks, but you don't need to point it out". Having an iPhone is in no way a necessary part of life, but it makes things easier. I know that parents care a lot about screen time and want to protect their kids, but if your kid has shown that they can make good decisions then by around 8th its a good idea to get them a normal phone. My parents argue that since I fight with them it shows I'm not responsible enough, but in my case the majority of our fights are related to this. My parents are full on screen-haters so things might be a little more extreme for me than for most people, but please parents, hear me out; listen to your kids. Making them an enemy in your life will only make life harder and more miserable for everyone. The more I feel ignored the more angry I get. If you want to make a peaceful compromise and find a solution for you and your teen, you need to realize they have feelings and ideas too.
Teen, 15 years old written by bubble_tea

Before my mini rant truly begins, I just wanna say, kudos to all you folks who grew up without cell phones in your life. You managed to survive, but times have changed. So, I just turned 15 and yet, no cell phone. I'm not complaining, I can see exactly why my parent's won't let me have one. If I'm out somewhere I'm always with another person and they have a phone, so I can ask them to use their's. The reason I so badly want a phone, it because I'm starting my freshman year of high school, and I know I'm going to get involved in clubs, events for art and choir, and go to parties like prom and homecoming! Some people are rude, and don't let others use their phone, so I would just like to have a way to contact my parents if necessary. Also, before I get a reply from anyone saying "If you have no phone, how are you typing this out for the internet, the most brutal place for criticism to be thrown, for everyone to see?", my school gives us Chromebooks for assignments, that's how. Anyways, back to my main point. I know how much my parents love me and want me to be safe, but if they really wish for my safety, I personally think it would be best for me to get a phone. Not only is it important for my high school life, but in March of next year, I get a driving permit, and then soon after that, my license! A phone is a vital part of a teenagers life in the modern age, especially since there's more danger than ever with the advancement of technology. I just hope I get my own phone soon so this little scrawny Asian girl with no muscle whatsoever can at least stay in touch with her parents and feel safe when she's by herself.
Teen, 13 years old written by supernova789

Finally I found someone in the same situation! My parents won't get me a phone even though everyone else in my grade has a phone, and people mock me for not having a phone. On the bus I can't talk to anyone, and I can never talk to my parents when I need to. I have all A's and I am more mature than most people in my grade, but they will not trust me to use a phone because apparently I will be "addicted" and "irresponsible".
Teen, 13 years old written by naomiabiah

I agree with you my, mom is doing the same thing but my father lets me do whatever. He would let me get a phone but my mom said no. And at home, I have NO TECHNOLOGY whatsoever it's awful.
Teen, 13 years old written by supernova789

Finally I found someone in the same situation! My parents won't get me a phone even though everyone else in my grade has a phone, and people mock me for not having a phone. On the bus I can't talk to anyone, and I can never talk to my parents when I need to. I have all A's and I am more mature than most people in my grade, but they will not trust me to use a phone because apparently I will be "addicted" and "irresponsible".
Teen, 17 years old written by SucksToSuck

Well after reading this I can assure you that you won’t have to worry about being invited to any parties. It’s pretty sad that you still don’t have a phone, lol, but if you only want it to “stay safe”, then you don’t need one. Typed up on my iPhone 8 and not a school chrome book
Teen, 13 years old written by Turquoise3

I have had an iPod since 4th grade (I’m in 7th now). It really does stink. I see what the adult are saying about how they grew up without them, but we grew up with technology around us, and we use it. Parents, when you were little, wasn’t there that one item that everyone else had, that you really wanted. Did you ever feel left out, until you got that item. For our generation that item is iPhones. Now I’m very socially involved. I can start a conversation with anyone, even an itrevert. But what hurts me is when, some one says “your really nice, do you have a Snapchat or a phone number so we can stay connected.” Nope. My parents say iPhones are expensive and distracting, and they are not wrong. But I’m not that kind a person who is going to post a picture of myself on Snapchat in underwear and a bra. I ave done school soccer, a school play, ballet, soccer for a wrec league, multiple summer camps, and cross country. And I’m very responsible. Once I was at school soccer parctice. Everyone had left and I was waiting there on the field. For my mom. The school had already locked up for the night, so I could use the phone. And my coach had left for home. My mom was an hour late. If I had had a phone that situation would worked out better. I have to save up for my own iPhone but I would like to bargain with my parents a deal of 1/2 and make a deal. I have to save up for my iPhone by my self now. I still like going on walks or runs with my dog, I like being outside. I just really want an iPhone.
Teen, 17 years old written by SucksToSuck

Reading that was the worst time of my life. Sounds like an isYOU. No one is even reading these, why are you writing this. Typed on my iPhone 8
Adult written by ZTABB

Hello! I would like to share my opinion with you kids as an adult. First off, I was a child in the 80s, and cell phones, tablets & all other technology didn’t exist. I had an amazing, fun childhood & didn’t have to feel the pressure of having a cell phone to fit in! I really feel bad for this generation of children. My kids are 11&7, and I have made sure to limit their screen time & step out & enjoy the world!! My heart breaks for you youngsters who think a phone is the only thing important in life. You guys are being robbed of your childhood & it’s really sad! You should all be out playing outside & using your own imaginations to create things other than sitting on YouTube, video games & musically all day. Many of you may think I sound old school, but hey, old school rules!! I’m in shock st how many of you under the age of 13 are allowed an IPhone. To the kids between 10-12, you don’t need a cell phone!! You should be out playing and having a childhood! You have the rest of your lives to sit on the useless black box all day! To those of you who are teens: I understand the need of a cell if your using it to get in touch with your parents or something really important . Although when I was young, we had to call our home phone. We all managed to survive!! Life was much more fun and relaxed. We lived very happily without iphones and ipads. I was 20 when I got my 1st cellphone after 911. Nobody really used them before that, and life was much more simple. People actually spoke more and interacted in person rather than a phone or other electronic device. I feel very sad for all of you including my own kids. My 11 year old daughter doesn’t even care much about having a cell except for the fact all of her friends do. She rather go rollerblade, bike ride & dance. I will tell you having a cell phone is not that exciting. The novelty wears off. You kids have the rest of your lives to stare at the thing. I think the parents who really care for their children don’t let them have IPhones. At such a young age. Good job mom & dad! Keep teaching your kids that a cell phone is not that important. It really isn’t. I wish we could go back to land lines & be done with all this texting & facetiming crap. Everyone is glued to the phone all day. Really annoying! Your all missing out on the beauty of our Earth. There are so many other wonderful. & exciting things you guys could be doing other than texting in the cell or tablet. If you want to see your friends , call and go over to their house like we did as kids! We had so much fun in the 80s & 90s! I hope reading this from an adult perspective will help you kids to realize that a cell phone isn’t a necessity. Many problems of our world today is because a dramatic increase in technology & kids becoming addicted to cell phones and other devices. To those kids who “ don’t think it’s fair” that your parents won’t let you have a cell phone, your should thank your lucky stars that they care enough about your childhood happiness over a cell phone!! Social media is the cause of bullying, addictions, obesity, and many more health problems and psychological issues. I’m frightened to see how your all going to grow up. I will be honest with you all. I actually was much happier before cell phones & other technological devices took over our world. It really is shame. Hopefully, there are some of you out there that will really think about what I have written from an adult perspective & reflect on your own childhood. All of my 11 year old daughter’s friends love me because I actually talk to them & they are fascinated hearing stories from my childhood.! So kids please don’t waste your time worrying about having to get a phone & what others think. Real friends will care about you regardless if you have an iPhone or not. My advice to you all is to get out of the house & off your electronics and have some fun before your childhood is over!!! I hope my response will help alleviate your worries, and get you to think deeply about the important things in life. Please just have fun & don’t hurry to grow up. You will regret it later.
Teen, 17 years old written by SucksToSuck

Thanks for the novel, I didn’t read any of it. The only reason you didn’t have a phone is because they hadn’t been invented yet, otherwise you would’ve grown up like us. Stop trying to live in the past, I feel sorry for your kids. I wrote this on my iPhone 8 at 1 in the morning, but that’s how life is.
Teen, 13 years old written by Turquoise3

I’m the article above you, you should read my opinion. Not to be Rude, just saying you might wanna check it out
Kid, 10 years old

I think that dependingon the maturity of the kid, he/she should be able to get a phone at any age! You (the parent) can decide when if you are personally paying for the device , but id the kid is paying for the phone, they should decide when they get it, and what phone they get. As the article says, make sure you allow your child to do all this stuff.Except purchasing the cell phone. If it is indeed their own money, then they get to decide about it. You may TRY to stop them from making foolish decisions, but ultimately, as the parent, it is not your decision to make. I hope I was helpful as you make your decision.
Kid, 10 years old

It is important to consider that kids might get addicted to their phones. While a simple parenting lock can help with this, you might still not need to buy your kid a phone. If they are mature and in the 6th or 7th grade, you might want to consider it. However, if your children are younger but still in need of a means of communication, a simple iPod or iPhone SE/5s will do. If you have an old, but working phone, please think about it too. Now, parents, just because your child says, "All my friends have phones too" (I'm sure parents always heard this, am I right?), do not spoil them with the gift of a small box with immense power. Also, if your child is involved with many extra-curricular activities, talk to your child about. Edit: Shout-out to that other person that liked my language. Just-sayin
Kid, 10 years old

I need to get all this FAKE NEWS Out of my head. If kids feel out of place and are even losing friends or getting bullied becauss they dont have a phone, then you should probably give them the gift of that “small box sith immense power.” Also, are you a child prodigy? You used very good language in that comment :p just sayin
Kid, 10 years old

OH, THANKS. I dunno it just came into my head like that. (yes, maybe I am a child prodigy)
Teen, 13 years old written by Lizzie13

I am 13 and got a phone 6 months ago for my birthday. Before that I was so jealous it consumed my every thought. I felt so left out I would constantly be sad and was never included in stuff. My parents just didn’t understand I felt! So I finally got one for my birthday and I honestly have never been happier. It’s helpful to communicate with my parents, im not obsessed, and I finally feel like I got in. I say that a good age for smart phones is the start of middle school for girl’s but with boys I would give them a flip phone until high school because with my experience, middle school boys are extremely immature and use their phones for a lot of dirty things. Everyone is different but that’s just my experience^^
Teen, 14 years old written by Bob123abc

Most friends own iPhone 8, iPhone X, iPhone 7, iPhone 6s. A few kids have SE and others have Galaxy S8, S7, Essential Phone, Galaxy S6 Edge. I personally have an iPhone 5s, which very few people have. The area I live in is very wealthy. Most kids get iPhones in 5th grade. I got a little button phone in 4th grade, then iPhone 4, then 5s. The 5s is still a pretty useable phone in 2018. I don't think kids should get the iPhone right away, and work up to an iPhone from a cheaper phone.
Teen, 13 years old written by firebirdx1

Okay. This is a pretty tough question. It honestly depends. Most of my friends got their phones in 4th-5th grade. They were pretty nice phones. I do live in a suburban area where most people are pretty well off. I got my phone when I was 12 and in 7th grade, It was an iPhone 8. Yes, I do realize that that is really expensive, but I take good care of it and mostly use it for emergencies. My parents bought it for me for safety purposes since I do go around a lot, For other people, it might be different. Maybe your child isn't careful with their things, tell them that. Then if they're responsible you'll buy one for them. Money. Money is a huge issue. Most (smart) phones today are pretty expensive, around $400-$1000. A lot of people can't afford that. Maturity. If your child isn't mature, or if you know they'll goof off or use it in class, you probably shouldn't give it to them. I'm not going to say "Buy your kid a flip phone at age 10" or something like that because it all depends on the family. If you can afford a nice phone and think they are ready, go for it. It honestly depends on the child and your budget.
Teen, 13 years old written by evelyn_mac13

In my opinion, it is all related to responsibility and trustworthiness. These definitions vary per family but I remember asking for a phone at 10 or 11 and hearing the word no ring in my ear. I always asked informaly and soon enough, at the end of the 6th grade, I sat down with my mom gave her all of my reasoning and I got a maybe (meaning in a couple of weeks)! I started out small with a Samsung Tab 3 moved up to an Ipod touch which I had for around 3 yrs and then finally got a maybe for a phone. I asked my mom why and sje said because I showed responsibiliy and that I was older too. To all those 5th graders and younger, you want a phone, but you don’t need one! It is not a bare nesccesity but an opportunity for you to be exposed and sucked into the blue lights. I needed one because somedays my transportation changes, I get to school an hour early, and for other private reasons! Thanks for reading!!
Adult written by ZTABB

Hey Lillymaix! I have been reading all the responses about you kids not being able to have a cell phone. I’m an adult, and I can tell you sweetie that having an iPhone isn’t as great as you imagine it to be. When Inwas your age, they didn’t exist. I had a very happy teenage life without the darn cell phone!! I understand that there is an immense amount of social pressure to fit in with your peers and have a phone. Let me tell you something. You have great parents who care about you being able to live your childhood before it’s too late. Soon you will be out on your own, and then you will miss your childhood. Cell phone, iPads, and other devices are ruining our children. Before I got my cell phone at 20 years old, we all lived just fine, and I was so much happier!! Please enjoy the last couple years of your childhood! It doesn’t matter what friends think. Real friends love you unconditionally. There is so much fun to be had, and a beautiful world to explore! I strongly believe in fast increase in technology is destroying our lives , and is the cause of much unhappiness. I just felt compelled to respond to you because I can see from an adult perspective that smartphones are ruining our youth. Kids & teens should be out having fun instead of staring at a screen all day. It saddens me that you young ones have to grow up with all the drama that phones & technical devices cause. When I was 16, I was driving with my friends to the beach, shopping, camping, and other fabulous places. All without a cell phone! It was wonderful to not have to be distracted by the cell!!! I hope you will think about wia I’ve texted you. You seem like a wonderful person, and you don’t need a cell phone to fit in! You have your whole life to have one when your older. It’s not as great as you think. So please go out and be happy! Enjoy your childhood before it’s over! Hope I’ve helped:)
Teen, 17 years old written by SucksToSuck

Actually you do need a cell phone to fit in. Just saying. Only losers with no friends don’t have phones, just speaking facts.
Kid, 12 years old

“Only losers with no friends don’t have phones” man that hurts, but I don’t have a phone and I still have a group of good friends and I still fit in. So what you said aren’t reall facts
Kid, 10 years old

I don't really believe you have to be a certain age to receive a phone; it depends on the responsibility your child has obtained over the years. Before everyone judges me because I have an iPhone 8 plus, Let me tell you what I have done. First I am ten in the 6th grade. I have skipped 2 grades and I am doing high school level math in the 6th grade. I have straight A's but I could always do better. I do lots of afterschool programs, and sometimes I stay at my friends houses, and most of the time I have to take the bus home. I have learned to be responsible by taking care of my little siblings, and I mow people's lawns, and saved up $400 to buy the first half of the price of the phone. I know that I might seem like I am bragging, but I am not. I am not rich whatsoever and i have been a spoilt brat EVER. All these whiney teenagers should find better ways to talk to their parents. It did kind of suck without one, but I wasn't dying.
Kid, 12 years old

I'd say there isn't a deffinative age to get a phone. I think it's a good idea to get your child a simple mobile phone (like a basic nokia) so they can text/phone their parent in an emergency or text how there day at school was. After 5/10 months of that, I'd say that would be a good time to get your child a entry level android phone (or iPhone if your rich). I got a pixi 4 as my first smart phone, it ran android and could do smart phone things, it just was really cheap (£30 to be exact) and wasn't amazing, but was a nice upgrade. Then when another 7-12 months have past I recommend getting a proper £200 ish phone (mine being a Samsung j3). If your child is desperate for the apps and stuff of a smart phone but couldn't care less about actually calling/texting people then maybe get them a tablet (a kindle fire for example).
Kid, 10 years old

I’m 10, and I got an IPod Touch 5 when I was 8. My parents felt I was responsible enough but not enough for a phone. My older brother who at the time was 10 but now 12 doesn’t have one yet but will get my moms old one for middle school. I feel like 12 is a good age. Maybe younger if them kid is in clubs and needs to let the parent know that’s they are done ect.
Adult written by Austinboa937

I wouldn’t say there is a specific age at which a child should get a phone. I believe it should go by how responsible and mature the child is. That being said there is no reason a 13-14 year old should have an iPhone X. A cheaper smartphone could be awarded and once they are old enough to get a part time job use their own money to upgrade their phone. I am having trouble with my little brother right now sending inappropriate pictures to girls and he is only 13, this is why it should go by maturity level not age.
Teen, 16 years old written by Lolcats

I’ve got an iPhone 8 it’s nice, really fast and iOS 11 is cool. I like being able to have social media and friends unlike everyone else in the comment section
Teen, 13 years old written by Fiona3206

im 12 and i only have an iPod touch. well i was really excited after getting one for christmas. but then i realized that the battery was really bad plus i had to have wifi or internet to text. but what about the calling. my mom lets me walk to places as long as she knows where I'm going. but sometimes i need to call my family. so I'm always looking for wifi to connect to but can't. help!!!!i don't know whens the right time to tell my parents I'm ready to have an iPhone 7. my mom knows that I'm become more and more responsible.
Teen, 16 years old written by Lolcats

Did my first comment get deleted? No one cares if you’re “ready” for an iPhone 7 because your iPod touch isn’t good enough. Sounds like someone is a little entitled
Teen, 13 years old written by mxlky

I got my first 'actual' phone when I was 9. But only to draw, animate, watch stuff and post art on the internet. I would say about 8-13 years.
Teen, 13 years old written by nic22

In my class of 35, only another girl and I do not have a phone. The thing about it is that I really need a phone because my school is very academically inclined and there is often not enough time to copy down notes. This means that you will have to take pictures of them but I am not able to so more often than not my notes will be half copied and I have to rely on others for pictures of the notes which I do not like because I like to be independent. I feel very left out in my class and many times, my teachers will WhatsApp my class group chat about last minute tests the next day and I would go to school and find out that there is a test. So within30-40mins I have to learn the materials the best that I can and I really hate it. I had a phone last time from 10-11 years old but it has been confiscated since I was 11 for getting a 78/100 for maths. Also I come home from school everyday and 4 times a week, I come back at 6.30-7pm. If i have any last minute matters, I am not able to tell my mum that I won't be coming back for lunch or dinner.
Teen, 17 years old written by rovingbowler

In my family, you are allowed a flip phone at age 16 if you get all As, and then no upgrade until after graduation. Living life without a competent phone is tough. If I were a babysitter, I am certain that kids 10 years younger than I am would have better phones than me. It’s tough trying to stay caught up with peers in the trends and it’s hard to stay connected too. It’s not much fun being left out of every plan and mostly every friend group because nobody can get a hold of you. I had a couple buddies who’s parents didn’t let them have phones, but even they got iPhones eventually. There’s no way around this rule in my family. My oldest brother never had a job, and got his phone after graduation. I work 30 hours a week and am not allowed to buy myself any kind of device.
Teen, 16 years old written by damothehawk

I completely empathize with you here. I'm sixteen with no phone, and I'll be honest and say that I've not respected my parent's decision with it all the time. While growing up in an age when communication, connectivity and accessibility are so fundamental to relationships and just life, it can get hard when you can't easily organize friend meetups can't gain permission for something you want to do from your parents without face-to-face consent. I found that it's left me feeling underdeveloped compared to my friends at school, like my parents consider me not at the same level of maturity or something as my friends. I used to have friends without phones, but they've all got their phones now, leaving me literally at the bottom of the heap of parental leniency in a grade of 80. I understand it's not THAT big of a deal at the end of the day, but that feeling of being the odd one out isn't healthy I feel.
Kid, 12 years old

This is a topic that I have been talking to about with my parents lately. I am personally turning 13 in a few months. When I asked for one, they told me that I could either buy the phone by myself, wait until Christmas or wait until my birthday (I chose to wait until Christmas to see if I have any reasons at school to need a phone). So, I say about 11+ would be good (and for a younger child 10-, an iPod or a flip phone). But, it all depends on the parents, how mature the kid is and if they have good reasons to need one.
Teen, 13 years old written by oof.-.

I'm going to be honest here. I see some kids at my school that are in 4th grade with an iPhone already. I saw a 5th grader with an iPhone X. Crazy, I know. I think that the minimum age to get your child a smartphone is 12 years. At this age, they are in middle school and need to learn the basics such as not posting anything bad on social media, call parents when walking home, etc. I got the iPhone 6 when I was 11 years old. It was a hand me down from my brother. I am getting a new phone in September. Parents shouldn't get their kids phones if they are unreliable, they lose things, or younger than 12. Unless you live very VERY far from school, I'd understand if a 4th or 5th grader had like an SE or a 6. But if you live close and you are not in at least 6th grade, I don't think you need a cellphone.
Adult written by ToriA77

I understand this is a different generation of kids. We didn't have cell phones when I was young like my children are one starting freshman year of high school and the second one starting kindergarten but I did get a pager when I was in junior high school 7th grade. I think a good age for the average kid would be high school now if your child has special needs like it is a diabetic or has any medical problems then I think getting them like a Disney phone for example or something similar where it's not internet and Facebook and all that stuff but just to where they can click a number and call for their parents or anyone on their emergency list for their cell phone and can only receive calls from people that are approved I think that is okay 4 children to have when they start going to school and are away from their parents. Plus it would give the parents peace of mind and the child would probably feel safer knowing that mommy or daddy or Auntie or grandma or whomever is right at their fingertips. In fact for most kids up until a certain age I think all cell phones should be the basic flip phone style that can only make calls to certain numbers and receive calls from certain numbers as the parents add those to the plan as they go along and it's a one set fee. As for smartphones of any kind I think your kid needs to earn that with having good grades and being responsible with their friends and showing Model Behavior and listening good at home. I wouldn't ever get my teenager an iPhone or a Samsung Galaxy there are other smartphones that are a lot less expensive that have the same features. I believe that once your child is 18 and could afford their own smartphone that's when they could decide if they want to buy an iPhone or a Samsung or any type of expensive mobile device so they have the responsibility of caring for something that they worked for.
Teen, 13 years old written by Kayleee419

I feel like children should get a phone at around 11-13. That is usually the middle school age and phones might be needed in middle school for safety purposes. It really depends on how mature the kid is though, I got my phone on my 12th birthday, but I have asked for one many years before that. I now realize how dumb I was asking for one that early because now that I think about it, that’s way to young, though many of my friends had a phone then. You don’t have to get anything expensive, just a phone that will fit their needs. Obviously you should set restrictions on the phone so it doesn’t get out of hand.
Adult written by ToriA77

An emergency phone yes smartphone no. There's no reason why a 13 year old should have a iPhone but a phone that can call certain numbers like parents and relatives an emergency contacts and receive phone calls from only certain people would be a good idea for safety purposes. That's the whole part of having it for safety is not being able to sit there and play Candy Crush or whatever game and text her friends all day long and not interact as a human being. At school kids should feel safe enough to where they can go into the office where phones are made available and there is a sheet of paper that the parents fill out that has emergency contact info so if something were to happen you would be fine without a cell phone.
Teen, 13 years old written by Kayleee419

It really depends on maturity, and what the parent thinks, you can't say that no 13 year old needs a phone because I’m 13, and I have a smartphone phone for school or anytime i’m out with my friends, smartphones can be really useful for middle school and high school in different ways. If you think your kids aren’t mature enough to have a phone, don’t get them one, if they are, by all means, get them one. You can’t say that every kid goes and sits and texts their friends or plays Candy Crush. All restrictions are different, don’t stereotype based on someone’s age.
Teen, 14 years old written by NoahLyles

Listen I'm 14 years old I still don't have a phone in 8th grade everyone was talking to each other and knew a lot about each other don't get me wrong up had friends but everyone had a phone and I didn't I asked my mom when I would get a phone and she said soon. So I didn't know until a couple weeks ago but apparently I had to go the whole summer with a stupid flip phone that I could definitely been picked on just to get a new phone and I had to ride my bike to high school for summer workouts so I turned down the volume on the phone all the way that way nobody could hear it and burried it in my book bag. So I went half 1 and a half of the summer pretty good well I had a church camp and my dad asked me to bring the flip phone but I don't know why I didn't bring it was one simple thing and I didn't do it. Anyway I got back and he said did you bring your phone I told him no and he said how can I trust you with a 700 phone if you can't even listen to me to bring it for 5 days so now I am mad because now I have to go another 2 months just to get a phone I have tried everything I prayed to God I have listened to them been more mature but now I have lost all hope all my friends have phones except me everybody wants me to get a phone but my parents I feel like don't so I just cry at night just wanting a phone hoping and praying that I get a phone but every day I wake up its like a slap in the face no phone all I want is a phone but they don't understand does anybody know what I should do
Kid, 11 years old

I got a phone Chrismas and I’m 11 I think 10 or 11 is a good age because in my town 5th grade is middle school also I live in a safe neighborhood so I’m allowed out alone but I need to have a phone with me also at 11 your already a pre teen so I think you could be responsible at that age I did crack my phone so I’m going to get a new one but my parents still believe I’m responsible enough almost all my friends had a phone so I did feel a little mad but I kept my grades up and kept asking and I got a phone for my Christmas gift and I was so happy
Teen, 13 years old written by Liloandstitch1230

Okay guys...I know its frustrating not having a phone......I get it, I don't have one either. Sometimes you get left out, and it makes you feel kinda lonely. But you HAVE to be nice to your parents or else you won't get one. Me for instance, I am almost 12, and I popped the question around for a whole year before my parents decided to get me one. I am getting one for my birthday in August. But, I really needed one. I am going into middle school, and will be staying home alone after school EVERY DAY. Plus, I will be taking the late bus 4 times a week, and I will be dropped off 3 streets away, on a very large and busy street. I am in all honors classes which are a year accelarated, and math is 2 years accelerated. Plus, I got the highest score on my math final in my entire grade, a 98.8%. My parents did ask me a few times about my peers and if they had a phone and social media. They decided to get me one after being consoled my their friends and neighbors. Bottom line, they were concerned about my safety. Some of your parents, I'll admit, sound REALLY stubborn, so this doesn't apply to you. They also made me work for my phone...if I got terrible grades, I would get a flip phone. But, I worked hard, getting top grades in math and language arts, and As in science and social studies. I am also 3rd chair in my school band, and was chosen to open for the talent show, playing The Star Spangled Banner. I also got my green belt in half the time it takes most people at my dojo to earn. Now, I will get a Samsung s6 or s7. Again, that depends on my behaviour this summer. Most importantly, don't whine about social impacts, that only your parents can understand. I told my parents that if they gave me a smartphone, I could use WhatsApp to call them everyday after school and they could get a basic phone plan. I showed them things that mattered most to them, my safety, costs and grades.
Kid, 11 years old

I'm going in 7 grade this September ( i'm also turning 12 years old this December) and i'm also going to be home alone after school sometimes i have to go at my swimming class alone and i am really good in school a's in math french science social studies etc ( except for gym and art) but i dont have a phone and all of my freinds have phones( iphone 6s,6s plus,samsung s6,7,8 etc)so i dont know what to do
Teen, 13 years old written by Liloandstitch1230

I just have something to add.......4th to 7th grade seems the best age to get a phone. And 7th grade and higher to get social media because before that, having social media is illegal technically. If you are younger, I shame you for thinking that you need a phone for social reasons. Even Bill Gates's kids didn't get a phone until their teenage years. I thing YOU can wait. I swear I am not a mom, however much I sound like it.
Teen, 15 years old written by Greasybacon

13 years old is appropriate. Most kids are approaching middle school and this age is when online communication practically becomes essential. Putting restrictions in place is a good doorstop. Dont expect parental controls to be bulletproof. Bottom line the more your parents trust you, the more likely you will get one!
Teen, 15 years old written by amocooilcan

In my experience, cell phones became almost essential in the classroom starting around middle school. They were used in place of traditional calculators or dictionaries, and checking the online gradebook was much more convenient with a phone available at hand. In terms of social media usage, I'd agree with the majority and say that the child's maturity is far more important than their age. But if phones themselves are encouraged in a school setting, I see no reason not to provide the child with one.
Teen, 14 years old written by ItzGraystripe

I think I'm at the appropriate age for a child to get a phone. A good phone. Beginning of teen. But I also agree that if you are young, at the age of 10, maybe a flip-a-phone is good for you. Nothing too special or expensive. If you are my age though, you should have a better phone. For example, I have an iPhone 4s, which is horrible for my age but whatever, at least it's a phone. Most girls my age deserve a phone such as a iPhone 6., because there is absolutely no need for an amazing phone if you are young.
Teen, 14 years old written by MelliElixir

Honestly, not having a phone when you're about to turn 15 is a nightmare. I try my best to be the way my parents want me to, I do everything on time, I get perfect grades, I'm no nerd I have many friends and all of them, all of them have phones, I'm not rude to my parents at all, and I only fight with my siblings sometimes, its no daily event. you don't understand how left out and embarrassed i feel my parents always tell me I'm too young for a phone but I mean, ok I would be too young for you cuz my father grew up in the 50's and my mother in the 80's and so they always tell me that at my age they didn't have a phone and that my mum would tell me once I finish high school and start university she will get me a phone because she got her first phone when she was in university, what good is that if I can buy my own one then. even if I have enough money there is no way I am allowed to get one. I go walking to school every day, come on isn't that a good enough reason to get a phone? my dad always buys the newest phones and my mum sticks to the same one until it completely dies. I'm being serious my dad has about 6 phones so far and using one of them isn't even an option. When I ask my mum she just laughs at me like I'm joking and when I ask my dad he just looks at me and says "isn't the tv and the laptop enough for or do I have to buy you a whole country so you can be happy?' i asked him once, never again. I try to get people to convince my mum but in the end, my mum convinces them, like COME ON. I'm sorry I just wrote down my life story but I still haven't written enough. btw I'm not trying to brag or anything but please someone give me reasons why I should get a phone so that I can convince my parents. ok i just reread this and i sound like a whiny kid, sorry you just read that, i really couldnt be bothered to edit the whole thing. i only wrote this cuz i needed to let something out i dont want to keep it all in thats all.
Teen, 13 years old written by Liloandstitch1230

Why do you think that people want to hear you rant.....unless you have something nice to say and worthwhile, don't po