What can I tell my kid to do if he or she is being cyberbullied?

Kids may not always recognize teasing as bullying. Some kids also may be too embarrassed or ashamed to talk to their parents about it. That's why it's important to talk about online and digital behavior before your child starts interacting with others online and with devices. To prepare your kid for going online or getting a cell phone, or, if you know he or she has been bullied online, offer these steps he or she can take immediately:

Sign off the computer. Ignore the attacks and walk away from the cyberbully.

Don't respond or retaliate. If you're angry or hurt, you might say things you'll regret later. Cyberbullies often want to get a reaction out of you, so don't let them know their plans have worked.

Block the bully. If you get mean messages through IM or a social-networking site, take the person off your buddy or friends list. You also can delete messages from bullies without reading them.

Save and print out bullying messages. If the harassment continues, save the evidence. This could be important proof to show parents or teachers if the bullying doesn't stop.

Talk to a friend. When someone makes you feel bad, sometimes it can help to talk the situation over with a friend.

Tell a trusted adult. A trusted adult is someone you believe will listen and who has the skills, desire, and authority to help you. Telling an adult isn't tattling -- it's standing up for yourself. And, even if the bullying occurs online, your school probably has rules against it.

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Parent of a 4 and 7 year old written by Kurai K.

Unfortunately this happens all to often online, but that does not mean you should disallow your kid to go online. I am 19 and have had my share of trolls and haters online, they are all just really pathetic wimps that can't seem to cope with their own problems and so they bully people online, like bullies in real life. Best you can do is empower your kid and make sure they know not to let it get them down. Karma will do her job and they will get theirs, so no point to get upset about it, just ignore it. That is the best advice I can give.
Kid, 9 years old

This was a great article to post because, sadly enough, cyberbullying is a common thing. I have never experienced cyberbullying myself, but I have been a target of real life hurtful, mean teasing and found this helpful. This is a great resource for kids to use if they are being cyber bullied.
Teen, 14 years old written by Cahpoewn

Ignore the bully, you can't control the fact that he/she is too weak to face his/her own problems and cope with it by hurting others. If bullying continues, block him/her. Shouldn't go out for revenge because you never know who is behind their screen. He/she could be dangerous, and you wouldn't want to escalate the conflict.
Kid, 11 years old

I think this is what should be done. I think that you/your child should stand up for themselves. I think they should deal with it themselves. It says in the article to not respond/retaliate to the bully. i think that you should get him/her back. It says that cyberbullies want a reaction from you, which may be true in some cases,but, if you can get them back good, it'll teach them a lesson. It says you might say something you regret,but, you have to remember, your dealing with someone who is completely and entirely out to get you. Also, about telling a trusted adult, well, you/your child should try to handle it himself. But do remember, these are just my opinions which just happen to be correct.
Teen, 13 years old written by stopworrying

There are mean people in the world and on the internet. There's nothing you can do if somebody tries to hurt or upset you online. I just ignore the haters. There's no point in feeling upset or hurt because that's their goal.
Kid, 11 years old

I've been cyber bullied some many times I can't count it I just laugh at it or don't listen to it
Kid, 12 years old

I'm not sure if I already got cyberbullied yet, but I'm sure I may experience that soon since I'm in a maured age already. But here's what ypu can do when you are being cyberbullied: 1. When they start to cyberbully you, block him or her immediately. Do not answer him or her anymore. You are using Skype to talk to him, for example, and he or she starts to do that. There is a block option so that he or she cannot see you in Skype anymore. 2. Before you block him or her, show it to your parents first. That's pretty hard to do sometimes. But you don't want the problem to become worse, right? So you should show it toyour parents or a trusted adult with you and if you know who is the one behid this cyberbullying, tell them who did it so that your parents or trusted adult can inform the bully's (if he is a kid or teen) parents about his or her behavior towards you. 3. If I am missing some more and if this situation is happening now, talk to a friend or your parents or guardian about what you should do in this bullying situation. That way, they can help you Hope that helpsl ;)
Teen, 13 years old written by tionnalovesbooks

I know how it feels to want to respond to reach down to their level and say something just as spiteful!!! But your better than that . Don't respond don't read into it.
Teen, 13 years old written by coolcreativekid

Cyber bullying is part of life, and we need to know how to deal with it. If someone does start bullying you on social media you should leave the computer and/or block them. Whatever you do don't send anything hurtful or mean back. If you do you are making matters worse. Also, tell an adult you can trust. These are just a couple of my tips.
Adult written by MichaelDu

As someone who was cyberbullied a lot and at school. Disconnecting from the internet for me when I was cut off actually made the bullying worse 1.Follow Facebook's age guide line 13+ age is there for a reason 2. For twitter I recommend a pseudo-account just to be able to get tweets from their favorite star or game and not talk to anyone. 3. If your child "must be in the in crowd" let them make a Facebook account or Twitter and put heavy parental block i think i saw in privacy settings that they can only get friend request and people can't see their page or write on it. 4. Tell them if they want a Facebook page they have to add family. more eyes on the kid their isn't as much bullying 5. Talk to child about practicing anti-bully tactics that I think works best from experience such as ignoring them but, it only works so long as your child can handle the stress of peers. I can succeed at that, that is a huge leap of preparing kids for adulthood. If it continues be involved to a certain point. You could tell a teacher your child is bullied and they send them to office to talk to the principle or dean of students. but in reality it upsets the bully more. Believe me I know from experience. I think getting them prepared more to face that kind of drama would be more effective then getting into drama online or at school. 6. know when your child says "I'm doing GREAT" and no reason behind it I'm sure parents know there is something wrong. Don't just come out strong saying "what's wrong." Try to get your child to talk about yours and their interest that are similar or what would they like for dinner. Usually at that point from me being teen. I usually slipped what was wrong because of the distraction or food or go on a rant teen style. 7.You can also go to the cell phone companies to get copy of text if he/she is getting bullied from text messaging. any cell phone company will do that if you tell them you "suspect cyberbullying". 8. block bullies 9. Don't take away the internet! It cause drama between your child and you! Just restrict the sites so they aren't tempted to go on sites with bullies 10. Make a profile on your computer that they can use to play games but not online based ones 11. Try to have fun with your kids online. It may sound weird but joining them on the internet is the best thing a parent could do and to monitor what is said. Learn whats on the internet that interest them. 12.Post on Facebook often to show your active on Facebook your kid wouldn't notice after getting about 30 people. if they think your not active that your not watching. 13. don't talk about issues on the internet...
Teen, 14 years old written by A.Critical.Character

Just ignore it. Some kids have thick skins and can handle it. I always think they don't like me I don't care for them why should I let their opinion have any affect on me. More sensitive kids have a harder time handling it, but I think before you directly intervene as a parent it is important to consult with your kid to make sure they are comfortable with what you are doing. Sometimes if they are being cyberbullied by someone at school all it takes is for them to confront them about what they are doing and politely ask them to stop. Most cyberbullies are just cowards hiding behind a keyboard.
Teen, 13 years old written by Carson3003

Tell them to turn off the electronics or go to a different website. Punish them if they don't listen.
Adult written by mrjudge

I think if we have kids capture an image of the hurtful comments and others know this is a way to fight against it the bulies may think twice about what they post. More and more kids need to capture the "threads" and confront the bully or ask for help. Bullies bully because they get away with it. BUlies ar wounded hurt kids who need help. They will not get the help until they are confronted and asked to change. The 99% of kids who aren't bullies need to stand together so everyone gets the help they need.