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Cyberbullying, Haters, and Trolls

What is cyberbullying?

Cyberbullying is the use of digital-communication tools (such as the Internet and cell phones) to make another person feel angry, sad, or scared, usually again and again. (Learn about the different roles kids play in a cyberbullying situation.)

Examples of cyberbullying include sending hurtful texts or instant messages, posting embarrassing photos or video on social media, and spreading mean rumors online or with cell phones.

If you're trying to figure out whether your kid is being cyberbullied, think about whether the offender is being hurtful intentionally and repeatedly. If the answer is no, the offender might simply need to learn better online behavior. If the answer is yes, take it seriously.

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Adult written by Momma316

Wow, I didn't read all these comments, but I am not a social posting person and do not have any social media accounts. Thank God! I don't have any of this drama in life. I usually don't post anything like this and probably won't check back for comments. It's pretty easy not to do these things, I know kids wanna do what everyone ones else does, but when you grow up you see how toxic that is. Being different and not always going with the crowd is better. I've sat back for years and watched this whole world go to poop, because of the internet. I seen how rules about life has changed and not for the good. The internet to me is good for shopping or looking something up, that's it, and no I'm not that old. Social media is all gossip. It's not important in life to be talking about everything on the face of the earth. I'm too busy with real life to be gossiping all day. Values in the world have changed. Where are all the adults that all letting this stuff happen. The internet has created more harm than good when all people care about is themselves and basically gossip. One day all this will pass and people will look back and say wow, we looked so stupid running around with our phones so important looking and we really weren't doing anything but gossiping, backstabbing and hurting people. For what?? Even making any comment or critizing people you don't know applies. Yes cyberbullying is real, but shut it off for awhile and do some soul searching, sit back and watch everyone, it's ridiculous, it's not the way I was brought up, against everything I was taught, doesn't anyone remember life before 10 or 15 years ago?? In reality I do have to deal with all of this cuz I have kids, but I don't rely on the internet for anything, neither should you. My happiest day would be if satellites went down, and we lost it, life would be simpler. Computers were suppose to make life easier, remember? Its also made alot of things harder, people depend on it too much and it comes at a high price that I'm not willing to pay for me or my kids. Truth is you don't have to do any of it to prove anything to anyone. Mark my words, one day this will be an embarrassment in history. It's created alot of needy people, you don't need "likes" to get through life. Kids, don't get too caught up in this, like this is all there is, NO, there is a whole world out there to be a part of instead. You don't NEED any of this. Remember that!
Teen, 15 years old written by Kiarra123

I’ve had a lot of drama in my life but when I did me and the person that was arguing we was both the victim but most of the drama I had mostly they all started with me with mean comments but I always said something back I try to do better but I always get hated on or people would say mean things and I lost a couple of friends and all they do is say mean stuff and I also been threatened by kids most of the time but other than that I’m really nice and I try to fix my mistakes but more and more people always have something to say about me
Teen, 15 years old written by Parisian Parrito

I also had to deal with this and it was because of an embarrassing profile photo of me and I was very hurt. It was a guy who did that. I dealt with it but not caring about it but in the end, it will always go back to haunt you. It is very scary. I really do not like it. It sucks
Teen, 14 years old written by Dreona Stinson

I had to deal with this and it was horrible i tried to kill myself our something so dumb it didn't even make sense but when this does happen please talk to someone you trust. Nobody is your friend if they don't try and help you out in life .
Kid, 12 years old

Cyber bullying is basically bullying online. It can be sending mean texts, targeting posts etc.
Parent written by Abraham D.

Cyber bullying is a form of pain relievers for someone who have suffered some infliction from a family member,strangers,or parents.
Adult written by Tylah v.

CyberBullying not only happens to children, it happens to everyone. in the form of Doxxing, Sextortion, Dogpiling and a whole lot more. we need to see it for what it is, and that is harmful, hurtful, destructive, unnecessary & Deadly.
Kid, 11 years old

Cyber bullying and cyber safeness includes these 9 elements. If cyber bullying is happening, then that means that these 9 elements are being broken. If you want to not cyber bully or stay safe online, then a good first thing to do is follow these 9 elements to help you stay safe online. (: 1.   Digital Access:   full electronic participation in society.  Technology users need to be aware that not everyone has the same opportunities when it comes to technology.  Working toward equal digital rights and supporting electronic access is the starting point of Digital Citizenship. Digital exclusion makes it difficult to grow as a society increasingly using these tools. Helping to provide and expand access to technology should be goal of all digital citizens.  Users need to keep in mind that there are some that may have limited access, so other resources may need to be provided.  To become productive citizens, we need to be committed to make sure that no one is denied digital access. 2.   Digital Commerce:   electronic buying and selling of goods.  Technology users need to understand that a large share of market economy is being done electronically. Legitimate and legal exchanges are occurring, but the buyer or seller needs to be aware of the issues associated with it. The mainstream availability of Internet purchases of toys, clothing, cars, food, etc. has become commonplace to many users. At the same time, an equal amount of goods and services which are in conflict with the laws or morals of some countries are surfacing (which might include activities such as illegal downloading, pornography, and gambling). Users need to learn about how to be effective consumers in a new digital economy.   3.   Digital Communication:   electronic exchange of information.  One of the significant changes within the digital revolution is a person’s ability to communicate with other people. In the 19th century, forms of communication were limited. In the 21st century, communication options have exploded to offer a wide variety of choices (e.g., e-mail, cellular phones, instant messaging).  The expanding digital communication options have changed everything because people are able to keep in constant communication with anyone else. Now everyone has the opportunity to communicate and collaborate with anyone from anywhere and anytime. Unfortunately, many users have not been taught how to make appropriate decisions when faced with so many different digital communication options. 4.   Digital Literacy:   process of teaching and learning about technology and the use of technology.  While schools have made great progress in the area of technology infusion, much remains to be done. A renewed focus must be made on what technologies must be taught as well as how it should be used. New technologies are finding their way into the work place that are not being used in schools (e.g., Videoconferencing, online sharing spaces such as wikis). In addition, workers in many different occupations need immediate information (just-in-time information). This process requires sophisticated searching and processing skills (i.e., information literacy). Learners must be taught how to learn in a digital society. In other words, learners must be taught to learn anything, anytime, anywhere.  Business, military, and medicine are excellent examples of how technology is being used differently in the 21st century. As new technologies emerge, learners need to learn how to use that technology quickly and appropriately. Digital Citizenship involves educating people in a new way— these individuals need a high degree of information literacy skills.  5. Digital Etiquette:   electronic standards of conduct or procedure. Technology users often see this area as one of the most pressing problems when dealing with Digital Citizenship. We recognize inappropriate behavior when we see it, but before people use technology they do not learn digital etiquette (i.e., appropriate conduct).   Many people feel uncomfortable talking to others about their digital etiquette.  Often rules and regulations are created or the technology is simply banned to stop inappropriate use. It is not enough to create rules and policy, we must teach everyone to become responsible digital citizens in this new society. 6.   Digital Law:   electronic responsibility for actions and deeds  Digital law deals with the ethics of technology within a society. Unethical use manifests itself in form of theft and/or crime. Ethical use manifests itself in the form of abiding by the laws of society. Users need to understand that stealing or causing damage to other people’s work, identity, or property online is a crime. There are certain rules of society that users need to be aware in a ethical society. These laws apply to anyone who works or plays online. Hacking into others information, downloading illegal music, plagiarizing, creating destructive worms, viruses or creating Trojan Horses, sending spam, or stealing anyone’s identify or property is unethical. 7.   Digital Rights & Responsibilities:   those freedoms extended to everyone in a digital world. Just as in the American Constitution where there is a Bill of Rights, there is a basic set of rights extended to every digital citizen. Digital citizens have the right to privacy, free speech, etc. Basic digital rights must be addressed, discussed, and understood in the digital world.  With these rights also come responsibilities as well.  Users must help define how the technology is to be used in an appropriate manner.  In a digital society these two areas must work together for everyone to be productive.  8.   Digital Health & Wellness:   physical and psychological well-being in a digital technology world. Eye safety, repetitive stress syndrome, and sound ergonomic practices are issues that need to be addressed in a new technological world.  Beyond the physical issues are those of the psychological issues that are becoming more prevalent such as Internet addiction.  Users need to be taught that there are inherent dangers of technology. Digital Citizenship includes a culture where technology users are taught how to protect themselves through education and training.  9.   Digital Security (self-protection):   electronic precautions to guarantee safety.  In any society, there are individuals who steal, deface, or disrupt other people. The same is true for the digital community. It is not enough to trust other members in the community for our own safety. In our own homes, we put locks on our doors and fire alarms in our houses to provide some level of protection. The same must be true for the digital security. We need to have virus protection, backups of data, and surge control of our equipment. As responsible citizens, we must protect our information from outside forces that might cause disruption or harm. Respect, Educate and Protect (REPs) These elements have also been organized under the principles of respect, educate and protect. Most everyone understands that to keep a healthy body it is beneficial to be active, and one way is to begin a workout routine. Often work- outs have the person go through several repetitions, or reps, to strengthen muscles. With the increase in technology in the hands of everyone, especially your kids, parents are in the need of a new workout, and new REPs. There are two aspects to each of the REPs: one focuses on an individual’s use of technology, and the other is users’ responsibility to do the same for others (which helps users to focus on empathy for others as well). The principles of respect, educate, and protect each include elements to help parents and children discuss the issues and ideas that are happening with respect to technology. Respect Your Self/Respect Others - Etiquette - Access - Law Educate Your Self/Connect with Others - Literacy - Communication - Commerce Protect Your Self/Protect Others -Rights and Responsibility - Safety (Security) - Health and Welfare
Adult written by Amanda E.

Read India Ortega's story on PureVPN's blog. You can find it in Stephanie Nilva's interview featured on the "Stop Cyberstalking" page. She was a 14 year old who was bullied by her ex-boyfriend after she left him for his abusive behavior. He started Abusing and shouting at her before she decided to leave him, just to find herself being bullied by him. He posted naked pictures of her online. The case was eventually reported by her mother and the cyberstalker was caught, but there's a great learning lesson you can take from this story!
Parent written by Hugh M.

Cyber bullying is not real, You can simply close the screen, or google come-backs to respond with. My kids have been Cyber-bullied many times, and they simply laughed at the hater, then responded with a killer comeback that they found on the internet. You see, the reason that the internet was created, was for YOU to have full control. The hater can't beat you up, or effectively threaten you when you are hundreds of miles away. If you disagree, respond with three reasons why these tactics are ineffective
Teen, 14 years old written by LetsAllUseSomeC...

They can hurt your reputation by posting inappropriate photos of you, spreading lies and rumours about you, and many other things. If you don’t believe me, look for Amanda Todd, a girl who was cyber bullied and harassed online, and who eventually killed herself over it.
Adult written by Gail C.

Cyberbullying IS REAL!!!! Im really sad for you. Im glad your kids were able to just scroll down or switch off the screen. Iv seen to many kids try to just ignore it and ended up hurt or worse. Cyberbullying is no joke and it pains me to see people treating it as a joke. My son was cyberbullyied to the point were we had to keep changing his emails and other stuff to keep him away from all the bullying. The police got involved and it was a mess. I just pray everyone can just dismiss it as easily as you do and I hope your kids never get hurt from it. YES it is a very real issue.
Kid, 11 years old

Cyberbullying, put simply, is just another kind of bullying, but through the internet.
Kid, 10 years old

Question: Would it be cyber bullying if you built something awesome in minecraft but some one destroyed it? That Happened to me one time. It was on. A server
Adult written by Movies_Life

Cyber bullying is another form of bullying just not face to face. Usually with technology. Children send mean, rude and hurtful messages to other children who have no control over it but can only just ignore it. Commonly this happens on social media site (ex. Instagram, twitter, snapchat, etc.) People write mean comments and gossip about children who don't know about it. This mostly happens through school or areas where children are socializing. Some kids find it funny and cool IT IS NOT. Make sure to contact the school or even police if it is major.
Teen, 14 years old written by phiatastic

Cyberbullying is another terrible form of bullying. It is basically a way to bully kids via online. People can be hurtful and not be able to see how the receiver of the message is acting. It has lead to many deaths and is becoming more and more frequent. I was a victim of cyberbullying let me tell you one thing that was absolutely horrendous. I was sad so much and so hurt by what people were saying. I eventually confronted them which made it whole lot worse. I lost a lot of friends during that time but it was so worth it when i told the teacher and principal what was happening. Now i am in middle school 7th grade and things have gotten a little better. Although there are some really rude and mean people there i now have a few friends to help me through it. ADVICE: Talk to someone let them know what is happening. IT WAS NOT FUN. I went through it alone cause i thought i could handle it. Now it just made everything a whole lot better when i finally told someone. PLEASE even if you want to talk to me DO IT. I can help.
Adult written by flunky

Even site moderators can be bullies and misuse their positions. In open encyclopedia -like projects, they can allow other people to make edits and delete other people's edits. In one forum, there was a member, who bullied and libeled other members for years and finally had to leave. He returned later and was even given administrator rights. The other moderators seemed to have turned blind eye to his actions and allowed him to re-enter for his expertise. The misuse of high position is one form of Internet-bullying we need to take in account, too.
Kid, 11 years old

Makes Sense I've Seen TONS of people online and tell the bully to stop. It's Not cool or funny or cute it's WRONG and they KNOW it. I try to help if I'm playing a game or see it. Cause no one wants their feelings hurt by some jerk or idiot that uses bullying as a key tool online.
Teen, 17 years old written by melissa1441

Cyber bullying is when someone/people being hurtfull to another person that is not doing anything wrong. I had to deal with this when I was 13. No-one deserves to be bullied/abused/being threatend/sexual abuse/neglected/cyberbullied etc. If your wondering how I know these types of bullying/abuse, when I was 10 my class in school had a lesson on abuse and bullying, I have no idea why btw. To avoid Cyber bullying don't let your child in online chatrooms and don't let them text. Did this help? Melissa xx
Kid, 8 years old

Cyber bullying is bullying,taunting,harassing or/and threatining other innocent people.
Kid, 11 years old

Cyberbullying is when people make fun of, tease, taunt, harass others ,online and it is against the law
Teen, 13 years old written by johnl621

cyberbullying are people how bully others on line or haras i think i spelled it right and be mean and call you names
Kid, 8 years old

Cyberbullying is the use of electronic communication to bully a person, typically by sending messages of an intimidating or threatening nature.
Adult written by Kaguas

Cyberbullying is basically when your kid is being bullied online. Except in text. Make your kid be involved in only safe online environments.
Kid, 12 years old

Cyberbullying (from my view), is being hurtful on the internet. Cyberbullies spread hate on and through social media because they don't usually have the courage to say it to someones face. It's something that is cowardly, but very affective. Talk with your children and make sure they know it's not okay to bully back