When should parents intervene in a cyberbullying situation?

Many kids don't tell their parents that they're being cyberbullied. Kids might feel embarrassed or ashamed to let you know they've been targeted. They also might be afraid your involvement will make things worse. But, if you find out your kid has been cyberbullied, it probably means the issue is major enough for you to get involved.

Try this: Collect more facts by talking the situation through with your kid. Work out a plan of action together. Make sure you and your kid agree on what the outcome should be.
 Ramp up your efforts as the situation demands.

Another reason not to rush to a solution: Research indicates that peers sticking up for each other is a very effective defense against bullies. Bullies work by trying to isolate their victims. When kids rally around the target, it thwarts the bully. Encourage your kid to reach out to friends for support.

Of course, if there are any real threats to your child's safety, you should contact the authorities immediately.

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Kid, 12 years old

As said in the blog, a lot of children are emberrased about it. I know a lot of parents may be thinking "What have they got to be embarrased about?" but it is embarrasing to a lot of kids and I can't really explain it. If it starts becoming serious such as death threats I would recommend try and get your child to avoid that person as much as possible, if not possible I would recommend just going to a different sight or changing IP (If they know your IP) and if it is serious delete your current accounts and create a different one, you can also report them. For when a parent should intervene is mostly up to the parent, but I would recommend if you don't want to directly confront your child about it you can just find out what sites the bully is at and try to limit access to that area, for example if it is on skype you could just limit your child's contacts to only people you know you can trust won't cyber bully him or her. If it is on a website or server or gaming commnity I would recommend reporting that person as almost every place online that has rules has a cyber bully rule if that website is more official or is a buisiness/proffessional place.
Kid, 12 years old

As a cyber-bullying victim I have learned you need to seem like a happy camper when someone is teasing you, but ignore them. Cover up your webcam and only talk to people you TRULY trust. :-)
Kid, 11 years old

This topic gets mixed up a lot, I recommend monitoring the child and guiding the child. Do not ever, EVER intervene telling the bully that you are an adult (unless it is a voice chat situation). Cyberbullies even at age 9 can create and track down your child's website account/user. And at worst, slow your internet to a halt. Please consider my words, these will prevent your child from being humiliated by the cyberbully(s).
Teen, 14 years old written by LostInPLace

Immediately. DO NOT let it get bad. It's important to report it to the school, and keep them with there friends to stop isolation. Stop it as soon as possible. Do not Delay.
Kid, 12 years old

I think that if your child is being cyberbullied that there are many ways to prevent that. 1. Block the user 2. Stay off the site 3. Ignore them 4. Report the user 5. Act like it doesn't bother you, maybe the bully/bullies will stop