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"According to You" (CD single)

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Mixed messages about a messed-up relationship.
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Positive messages

This young female singer stands up for herself in the face of ego-crushing criticism, and gets herself out of an emotionally-destructive relationship. However, the message would have been more positive had she not turned the tables and trashed her former beau in similarly hurtful ways: "According to me, you're stupid, you're useless, you can't do anything right."

Positive role models

Orianthi knows that her identity isn't defined by an overly critical boyfriend, but then she falls right back into letting someone else define her identity by embracing her new man's praise. "But according to him, I'm beautiful, incredible, he can't get me out of his head."

Language

Although there's no profanity, there are some strong negative words used a lot, like "stupid" and "useless."

Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that this emotional roller coaster of a song has some good "stand up for yourself" sentiments, but it also plays around with self worth and seems to promote defining oneself by the standards of others. Words like "useless" and "stupid" are tossed around liberally, which might not be the best thing for kids who have yet to become aware of the power of words. Orianthi's strong vocals and guitar presence do make this a bit of a female anthem for leaving a bad relationship, but where she goes from there can be a bit iffy.

What's the story?

Orianthi is no stranger to the verbal abuse being doled out on her debut single, ACCORDING TO YOU. Having experienced bullying as a child, the singer was forced to change schools to escape her tormentors. That move would ultimately prove successful for the young Australian, who subsequently focused on fine-tuning her guitar skills and, as a result, wound up jamming with the likes of Carlos Santana. Michael Jackson chose her as his guitarist for the "This Is It" tour, and Orianthi has been appearing at numerous tribute performances. With this, her debut single on her freshman album, Orianthi sings about dissing a disrespectful boyfriend in favor of an admiring suitor.

Is it any good?

QUALITY

One listen to this single and it's obvious that this is a girl that can rock! With a guitar style all her own, Orianthi moves from the backing band into the spotlight. For a guitarist, her vocals are sharp and confident, and she doesn't back down to level off the emotional intensity of the song. It would've been nice for Orianthi to show girls that they don't need to find a guy to celebrate their qualities, but maybe next time, as it's a sure bet that audiences will be hearing more from this multi-talented artist. 

Families can talk about...

  • Families can talk about bullying. How does it feel when someone says something mean to you? Do you understand responsible communication and the power that your words have?

  • Talk about relationships and keeping things in balance. What are some ways to keep perspective while being in a relationship? Do you think it might be better to wait until you are older and know yourself better before trying to have a romantic relationship?

  • What do you think of Orianthi's image as a respected guitar musician? How do you think this persona compares to other female singers? Do you think a woman who can play instruments gains more credibility in the music world than one that just sings and dances (and looks pretty)?

  • Why do you think the narrator stays with her unsupportive boyfriend for so long? Is it ever okay to be disrespected in a relationship? What would you do, and how would you feel, if someone said mean things to you?

Music details

Artist:Orianthi
Release date:January 1, 2010
Label:Geffen Records
Genre:Pop
Parental advisory:No
Edited version available:No

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Parent of a 6 year old Written bymadsmooney1214 July 7, 2012

according you cd single

older and know yourself better before trying to have a romantic relationship? What do you think of Orianthi's image as a respected guitar musician? How do you think this persona compares to other female singers? Do you think a woman who can play instruments gains more credibility in the music world than one that just sings and dances (and looks pretty)? Why do you think the narrator stays with her unsupportive boyfriend for so long? Is it ever okay to be disrespected in a relationship? What would you do, and how would you feel, if someone said mean things to you?
What other families should know
Great messages
Great role models
Too much swearing
Kid, 11 years old November 14, 2011

Really good!

I'm 11 and I think CSM is just way wrong. The only "bad" words are "useless" and "stupid." When it said "According to him," my little sister thought it said "according to h-ll" but it didn't so it's fine.
Teen, 16 years old Written byMysterious_ballerina April 24, 2011

This is such an awesome song with an awesome message!!! :D

Ok so before i start when I was reading it's review According to you came on the radio and I was like lol. Either way its a great song about a girl who leaves a terrible relashinship for a good one. Whoever reviewed this you need to get your facts staright since so what if she goes back at her boyfriend once when he hurt her all the time in my book and most peoples books thats fine.
What other families should know
Great messages
Great role models