"According to You" (CD single)

Music review by
Jacqueline Rupp, Common Sense Media
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Mixed messages about a messed-up relationship.

Parents say

age 8+
Based on 1 review

Kids say

age 9+
Based on 16 reviews

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Positive Messages

This young female singer stands up for herself in the face of ego-crushing criticism, and gets herself out of an emotionally-destructive relationship. However, the message would have been more positive had she not turned the tables and trashed her former beau in similarly hurtful ways: "According to me, you're stupid, you're useless, you can't do anything right."

Positive Role Models & Representations

Orianthi knows that her identity isn't defined by an overly critical boyfriend, but then she falls right back into letting someone else define her identity by embracing her new man's praise. "But according to him, I'm beautiful, incredible, he can't get me out of his head."


Although there's no profanity, there are some strong negative words used a lot, like "stupid" and "useless."

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that this emotional roller coaster of a song has some good "stand up for yourself" sentiments, but it also plays around with self worth and seems to promote defining oneself by the standards of others. Words like "useless" and "stupid" are tossed around liberally, which might not be the best thing for kids who have yet to become aware of the power of words. Orianthi's strong vocals and guitar presence do make this a bit of a female anthem for leaving a bad relationship, but where she goes from there can be a bit iffy.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Parent of a 9-year-old Written byboofer2634 February 24, 2010

Finally new young talent that can ROCK!

I just saw the video on VH1. I loved it. At first I was a bit thrown off by seeing a young woman playing a Satriani signature guitar. But this girl can jam.... Continue reading
Kid, 11 years old November 14, 2011

Really good!

I'm 11 and I think CSM is just way wrong. The only "bad" words are "useless" and "stupid." When it said "According to hi... Continue reading
Teen, 16 years old Written byMysterious_ballerina April 24, 2011

This is such an awesome song with an awesome message!!! :D

Ok so before i start when I was reading it's review According to you came on the radio and I was like lol. Either way its a great song about a girl who lea... Continue reading

What's the story?

Orianthi is no stranger to the verbal abuse being doled out on her debut single, ACCORDING TO YOU. Having experienced bullying as a child, the singer was forced to change schools to escape her tormentors. That move would ultimately prove successful for the young Australian, who subsequently focused on fine-tuning her guitar skills and, as a result, wound up jamming with the likes of Carlos Santana. Michael Jackson chose her as his guitarist for the "This Is It" tour, and Orianthi has been appearing at numerous tribute performances. With this, her debut single on her freshman album, Orianthi sings about dissing a disrespectful boyfriend in favor of an admiring suitor.

Is it any good?

One listen to this single and it's obvious that this is a girl that can rock! With a guitar style all her own, Orianthi moves from the backing band into the spotlight. For a guitarist, her vocals are sharp and confident, and she doesn't back down to level off the emotional intensity of the song. It would've been nice for Orianthi to show girls that they don't need to find a guy to celebrate their qualities, but maybe next time, as it's a sure bet that audiences will be hearing more from this multi-talented artist. 

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about bullying. How does it feel when someone says something mean to you? Do you understand responsible communication and the power that your words have?

  • Talk about relationships and keeping things in balance. What are some ways to keep perspective while being in a relationship? Do you think it might be better to wait until you are older and know yourself better before trying to have a romantic relationship?

  • What do you think of Orianthi's image as a respected guitar musician? How do you think this persona compares to other female singers? Do you think a woman who can play instruments gains more credibility in the music world than one that just sings and dances (and looks pretty)?

  • Why do you think the narrator stays with her unsupportive boyfriend for so long? Is it ever okay to be disrespected in a relationship? What would you do, and how would you feel, if someone said mean things to you?

Music details

  • Artist: Orianthi
  • Release date: January 1, 2010
  • Label: Geffen Records
  • Genre: Pop
  • Parental advisory: No
  • Edited version available: No
  • Last updated: November 11, 2020

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