"Birthday Cake" Remix (CD Single)

Common Sense Media says

Raunchy duet about sex sends an iffy message.





What parents need to know

Positive messages

Inviting your ex-boyfriend, who assaulted you, to sing on a song with you that is explicit and sexual does not send a positive message at all. Forgiveness is a good thing, but there are better ways to show it.

Positive role models

Rihanna is a strong woman, but with this song, its sexual implications, and the fact that her abusive ex sings with her, she's sending an iffy message to young fans.

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Lots of innuendo through "birthday cake" references, groans, and lyrics that imply and talk about sex: "I wanna f--k you right now, been a long time, I've been missin' your body," "I know you wanna bite this," and "You wanna lick this icing off, blow my candles out." 



"F--k" once and "bitch" a few times, including the S&M-flavored lyric "Imma make you my bitch," sung by Rihanna.

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Drinking, drugs, & smoking
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Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that this track, a remix of a previous single, features Rihanna and her ex Chris Brown, who pleaded guilty to felony assault on her, his then-girlfriend, in 2009. The song has lots of sexual innuendo, some explicit language, and little purpose other than to compare a female body to a birthday cake (and garner publicity). Not for younger fans.

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What's the story?

On her 24th birthday, Barbados bad girl Rihanna released a remix of her single "BIRTHDAY CAKE," from the album Talk That Talk. The single features singer Chris Brown, the ex-boyfriend of Rihanna who was vilified by the press and public after he assaulted Rihanna in 2009. Produced by The-Dream, the single, which compares the female form to a birthday cake, is controversial because of its sexual content and the couple's complicated history.

Is it any good?


It's obvious that Rihanna is trying to make her image darker, sexier, and harder, but she may have gone too far with this track. The song has a biting beat with thumping bass and hand claps that are catchy, but it's hard to listen to a song where a former abused girlfriend is singing to her former abuser about having him "bite this" (Brown bit and choked her in the 2009 assault) and saying, "Remember how you did it, if you want it come and get it." Forgive and forget, fine. But do it with a song that isn't so demeaning to yourself, women, and abuse victims.

Families can talk about...

  • Families can talk about the fact that Rihanna has asked her abusive ex-boyfriend to sing with her on this raunchy song. What do you think they are trying to say, if anything? How does it make you feel to see someone still involved with another person who hurt them physically?

  • What kind of message is Rihanna sending by collaborating with Chris Brown after their tumultuous past? Do you think it's a good idea? Why or why not? How could this affect young fans?

  • Has Chris Brown been rehabilitated? Has he shown any maturation or remorse in the last few years? Should Rihanna or the public forgive him?

Music details

Artists:Chris Brown, Rihanna
Release date:February 20, 2012
Label:Def Jam
Parental advisory:Yes
Edited version available:No

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Parent of a 6 and 10 year old Written byTheReviewMom May 8, 2012

A Iffy song

Since the couple is getting back together---well, horrible message. As for the song, I has f**k and b***h and many sex references.
What other families should know
Too much sex
Too much swearing
Parent Written byCooldee May 8, 2012

Rihanna should stay away from Chris Brown!

Normally I love to listen to Rihanna' songs, but this song makes me sick! She should stay away from Chris Brown!
What other families should know
Too much sex
Too much swearing
Adult Written byBirthdayCake22 April 6, 2012

Birthday Cake? Yum!

It's not sexual, it's literally about birthday cake. Wow, CommonSenseMedia, you're gross!


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