"Birthday Sex" (CD single)

Music review by
Jacqueline Rupp, Common Sense Media
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A very frank proposal for the guest of honor's special day.

Parents say

age 14+
Based on 6 reviews

Kids say

age 13+
Based on 18 reviews

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Positive Messages

The song is sprinkled with innuendo about sexual positions and oral sex with direct references to sexual pleasure.


Although there's no profanity, the explicit sexual content is enough to make this song inappropriate for young ears.

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What parents need to know

Parents need to know that this song is ALL about sex. Jeremih sings about how he treats a woman on her birthday and it's a far cry from cake and ice cream. The sexy talk isn't misogynistic, instead focusing on catering to a female companion's every desire. Not kid-appropriate, but not insulting either.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Parent of a 2 and 9-year-old Written byKidsAndMommy September 2, 2011
Parent of a 13-year-old Written byohya August 13, 2010
Kid, 12 years old July 20, 2011


This song is not so bad because its so cheesy and stupid. Worst song ever!
Teen, 16 years old Written byallstar1 July 13, 2011

What's the story?

Newcomer Jeremih has one thing on his mind with his debut single, BIRTHDAY SEX. The song, supposedly inspired by a real-life experience for the singer, discusses treating a woman to a sensual (and sexual) birthday experience with lyrics like: "Birthday sex...Birthday sex/ (It feels good feels good lemme hit that g-spot g-spot, girl)."

Is it any good?

Birthdays generally make you think of nicely wrapped presents, cake, and getting older. But apparently Jeremih has other ideas about how to celebrate. This song's easy hooks and off-the-wall concept make it actually kind of sweet. The lyrics are dirty, to be sure, but the relationship described is loving and consensual. "You close your eyes as I improv between your legs" is about the worst of it. Jeremih looks to be on his way to cornering the sexy singer niche.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about why sex sells. Do you think this song would be as popular as it is if it was about a tamer subject? What do you think when you hear the song played on the radio? Is it the type of song you want to listen to with a group of friends? If so, does the frank sex talk make the subject matter acceptable?

Music details

  • Artist: Jeremih
  • Release date: April 7, 2009
  • Label: Def Jam
  • Genre: R&B/Pop
  • Parental advisory: No
  • Edited version available: Yes
  • Last updated: July 15, 2015

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