"Can't Remember to Forget You (feat. Rihanna)" (CD Single)



Forgettable She Wolf and RiRi duet has super sexy video.

What parents need to know

Positive messages

The song is about perpetuating the same mistakes and being with someone who clearly isn't right for you, which isn't a very positive message: "I go back again / fall off the train / land in his bed / repeat yesterday's mistakes."  

Positive role models

Although Shakira keeps a pretty low profile, Rihanna often makes headlines for her revealing outfits, feuds with other artists, and on-and-off violent relationship with Chris Brown, making her a poor role model for kids. 


Though the lyric "I rob and I kill to keep him with me" isn't used in the literal sense, it still has a violent connotation and could be confusing to kids. 


The music video shows Shakira and Rihanna in very little clothing (butt cheeks are fully shown) writhing around on a bed and against a wall, splashing in water, and touching each other. The lyrics also talk about "kissing in the moonlight" and "landing in his bed."

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Drinking, drugs, & smoking

The music video shows both Shakira and Rihanna smoking cigars.

Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that "Can't Remember to Forget You" is a duet by Shakira and Rihanna about how love can make you do things you know aren't good for you -- like stay with someone you'd rather forget. Although the song doesn't have any iffy language or references to drugs or alcohol, it has mature references to sex and relationships and a very sexy video featuring the scantily clad pop stars. This is a song most appropriate for older tweens and up. 

What's the story?

Columbian singer Shakira and Barbadian performer Rihanna pair up on the track CAN'T REMEMBER TO FORGET YOU, the lead single from Shakira's self-titled album. The ska-influenced song is about the kind of intense magnetic connection that keeps bringing you back to the same person, even though it's not a healthy relationship. The steamy video shows the two pop stars in very little clothing writhing suggestively on various surfaces.

Is it any good?


Pairing two extremely talented performers can set expectations pretty high, and, unfortunately, they're just not met here. "Can't Remember to Forget You" is a fairly forgettable tune. Although the reggae-style beats are frothy and fun, and Shakira and Rihanna sound as good as ever, the song is predictable and kind of boring after the first verse -- and the overly sexy video is pretty corny. 

Families can talk about...

  • Families can talk about the theme of the song. Why do people stay in bad relationships? Why would someone repeat the same mistakes over and over again?

  • Why do you think the video is so sexual? Does it add anything to the song, or is it just sensational?

Music details

Release date:January 14, 2014
Parental advisory:No
Edited version available:No

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Teen, 17 years old Written byrebma97 April 17, 2014

Catchy song, but sensual

I'm not a big fan of Shakira or Rihanna, but this song is pretty catchy. It's not my favorite song, but it is definitely catchy. The messages are about not being able to get out of a relationship that's unhealthy for you, though, so that's a negative. Parents also should know that there is some innuendo, but it's not too bad.
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Too much sex
Kid, 12 years old March 26, 2014

OK for kids 13+

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Too much violence
Too much sex
Too much drinking/drugs/smoking
Adult Written byRosebud95 April 16, 2014

I don't know what I think of this..

It's catchy when you here it, but it doesn't really stick with you like a good song should. Sex: The music video is pretty provocative
What other families should know
Too much sex


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