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"Damned If I Do Ya (Damned If I Don't)" (CD single)

Music review by
Stephanie Bruzzese, Common Sense Media
"Damned If I Do Ya (Damned If I Don't)" (CD single) Music Poster Image
Edgy title, mild lyrics make this tune all bark and no bite.
Popular with kids

Parents say

age 13+
Based on 2 reviews

Kids say

age 10+
Based on 28 reviews

A lot or a little?

The parents' guide to what's in this music.

Positive Messages
Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

One reference to tequila shots.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that this is a pretty tame song, aside from the "police scene, chalk line" analogy to feeling hurt by the object of your affections -- and the reference to drinking tequila shots as a way to cushion the blow.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Adult Written byKeatonxRondelli December 8, 2009

great song, catchy. Weightless and Stella are among the better tracks on the "Nothing Personal" album

wow, you gotta be a fan to know what the song is about, lol how can you rec. this to a child? they will be singing it and not even know what it means, damned if... Continue reading
Parent of a 11 and 13 year old Written byblahblah blahbl... July 7, 2009
Kid, 11 years old January 10, 2012

One of the best songs on Nothing personal

i dont get why it says 14+ im 11 now but i started listening to it when it first came out ive always known that Alex is talking about sex if you think that thi... Continue reading
Teen, 14 years old Written bysocietychangersxxx March 24, 2012


best band ever awesome song. come on let you kids have fun and listen to good things vs. crappy bieber all the time.

What's the story?

This summer, thousands of teens around the country will hit the Vans Warped Tour, a festival-style collection of various punk-oriented bands including All Time Low -- a group of four guys whose single DAMNED IF I DO YA (DAMNED IF I DON'T) is climbing the charts. Though the song contains an eyebrow-raising title and a few lyrics about crime scenes and tequila shots, it's largely punk-lite, avoiding any seriously deranged messages in favor of a recurring young adult theme: the inability to end an unhealthy romantic relationship. Despite the touchy subject, the band steers clear of slander in describing the ups-and-downs of this theme: \"How was I supposed to know / That you were oh, oh, over me? / I think that I should go / Something's telling me to leave, but I won't / 'Cause I'm damned if I do ya, damned if I don't.\"

Is it any good?

Lyrically and musically, this track is much less hardcore than traditional punk, with a pop-friendly tone that gives it a more broad-based appeal. It offers some catchy hooks, including a fun "oh-oh-oh" refrain and a combined drum-clap vein throughout, that should make for an entertaining live performance on the Vans Tour this summer. Yet as the summer dies down, so, too, should this fairly run-of-the-mill song's popularity.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about how drinking to try to numb painful feelings never truly succeeds. Since alcohol is ultimately a depressant, is it a good thing to try when you’re already feeling down? What are five other ways to try to make yourself feel better besides drinking?

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