"Gentleman" (CD Single)

Music review by
Angela Zimmerman, Common Sense Media
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K-pop phenom is gleeful and lewd in crass viral parody.

Parents say

age 10+
Based on 4 reviews

Kids say

age 12+
Based on 15 reviews

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Positive Messages

Psy's mean-spirited, disruptive behavior in the video and sexually charged lyrics mock the notion of being a "gentleman," but they could be used to teach a lesson about manners and respect. The empowered woman Psy meets in the video serves him back the same kind of behavior, which could provide an opportunity to share the notion of "treat others as you want to be treated."

Positive Role Models & Representations

Because it's a parody, Psy's behavior in "Gentleman" is anathema to the very idea of being a positive role model. In the song, he lewdly sings about a sexy lady, and in the video, he degrades women, taunts a man in an elevator, invades a kids' soccer game and kicks the ball away from them, and dances suggestively and acts inappropriately all over Seoul.


At the beginning of the video, Psy makes a gesture like he's shooting a gun. Rough play abounds throughout as Psy torments various people he encounters, yanking chairs out from underneath women and making one fall off a treadmill.


In the song's video, women are shown in extremely revealing outfits and swimsuits, and in one scene Psy unties a girl's bikini top. Psy's signature dance in "Gentleman" is a pelvis thrust that could be interpreted as sexual, and he ends up rubbing and kissing all over another girl on a date. The lyrics are sexually graphic, as he sings "Damn girl, you're so sexy" and "Gonna make you sweat / Gonna make you wet" and the more explicit "Your head, waist, legs, calves / Good! Feeling feeling? Good! It's soft / I'll make you gasp and I'll make you scream / Damn! Girl! I'm a party mafia!"


In addition to the lyrics' sexual innuendo, Psy sings "damn" twice, in the context of "Damn girl, I think you're sexy."


Psy wants to project the idea that he's living a decadent lifestyle, and at the beginning of the song's video he is in a high-end clothing store being catered to by staff and making lots of purchases.

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Psy makes it clear he's all about partying, through the lyrics and in the song's video. When he's at dinner, he cracks open a beer, and that quickly devolves into an all-out party scene where Psy sprays beer all over the room. He sings "I don't know if you know but we like to party" and "I'm a party animal!" in the English interpretation of the lyrics.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that "Gentleman" is a single by K-pop sensation Psy, whose song "Gangnam Style" became the first YouTube video to reach 1 billion views. "Gentleman" has also broken multiple YouTube records, including the most views in 24 hours and the fastest music video to reach 100 million views. "Gentleman" finds Psy gleefully singing over a thumping electro beat about his party-hard lifestyle, and the lyrics are sexually charged and suggestive. The music video is an over-the-top parody of just how "un-gentlemanly" Psy can be, as he ridicules women, taunts children, and acts inappropriately to everyone he encounters -- until he meets his match in a female who serves his kind of behavior right back to him.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Adult Written byCornholita November 27, 2013

I friggen love this song!

Though not a billion hitter like Gangnam Style, PSY has done it again with Gentlman! Lyrics are more edgier, like "D# nm girl, you're so friggen sexy... Continue reading
Parent of a 3, 3, and 5-year-old Written byjonallypugliese1023 October 23, 2013

Love Psy

I love this song. I love Psy. By the way he says mother father gentleman not mother f***ker gentleman read the lyrics they even said it under what's the st... Continue reading
Teen, 15 years old Written byRidiculousBox January 23, 2019


Ama aama ama mavefave gentle man ama aama ama mavefave gentle mean
Teen, 14 years old Written byTom2004 November 17, 2018

So disgusting

I was saw that video shows the man has very much swear, and the PSY is taking women's bra off, and he is drink too much, he is dance with clear body woman.

What's the story?

Riding high off the global success of \"Gangnam Style\", K-pop sensation Psy embraces a lavish and outlandish lifestyle in \"GENTLEMAN.\" He seems intent on promoting himself as an obnoxious, sneering jokester, out to ridicule everyone he meets, including women he's presumably interested in. Psy sings suggestively about a sexy woman and his love of partying over a thumping house beat, with the \"I'm a mother-father-gentleman\" chorus up for interpretation. Though much of the song is in Korean, Psy sings a few choice phrases in English, and those coupled with his ridiculous antics in the video make listeners understand that being a gentleman is actually the last thing on his mind.

Is it any good?

It's hard to deny the infectious energy of "Gentleman," and Psy unleashes here the same gleeful enthusiasm that made "Gangnam Style" a global phenomenon. The house beat and synthesized sound may be common among dance music, but the electro-pop hook of "Gentleman" is instantly catchy and distinctive. This song will no doubt be a popular mainstay in clubs around the globe.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can discuss Psy's use of parody. Why did he name the song "Gentleman"? Discuss how his over-the-top behavior in the video acts as the antithesis to the song's title.

  • How does Psy's massive popularity speak to the shifting paradigm in the music industry? Discuss how artists today are reaching new audiences through digital media. Do you think Psy will prove to be an enduring artist?

  • Why do you think Psy chose to sing a few select lyrics in English? Check out the English interpretation of "Gentleman." Do you like the song more or less now that you understand what he's singing about?

Music details

  • Artist: Psy
  • Release date: April 12, 2013
  • Type: Single
  • Label: YG Entertainment
  • Genre: Dance/pop
  • Parental advisory: No
  • Edited version available: No
  • Last updated: November 11, 2020

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