Hey, Soul Sister (CD single)

Music review by
Jacqueline Rupp, Common Sense Media
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Popular with kids
Passionate pop single is OK for older tweens.

Parents say

age 6+
Based on 3 reviews

Kids say

age 9+
Based on 28 reviews

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Positive Messages

The lyrics speak positively about a love affair, and although there are references to physical beauty, the infatuation moves beyond just a sexy appearance. "Hey, soul sister, I don't want to miss a single thing you do...you see, I can be myself now finally, In fact there's nothing I can't be."

Positive Role Models & Representations

The idea that love is the only drug someone needs and the fact that with this love the narrator feels empowered to be himself doesn't present the healthiest attitudes or expectations about relationships. However, sweetly romantic lines like "I want the world to see you'll be with me" make up for the mild dysfunction.


There's no outright explicit lines, but there are lusty metaphors, like "Your lipstick stains on the front lobe of my left side brains" and "I knew when we collided you're the one I have decided, who's one of my kind." There's also the line: "I believe in you like a virgin, you're Madonna."

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

"Watching you is the only drug I need."

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that this is a tame love song that adolescents can listen to (along with their parents!) A few mature bumps in the road make it iffy for younger listeners; love is compared to a drug, and there's a reference to virginity. These aren't major parts of the song, though, and don't really have negative messages associated with them. The general vibe of passion for a woman might also make this single best for kids who understand the basics of relationships.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Adult Written by9spaceking March 10, 2018

An underrated song

a lot of people hate Soul Sister because it used to be overplayed and it uses love-song lyrics along with four chord progression. However, the ukulele is admira... Continue reading
Parent of a 2, 10, 14, and 17-year-old Written bySystemOfANintendo November 6, 2010

Train was good in 2002. Look at them now.

Train was good back in 2002, but look at them
now. They've sold out and ruined themselves. This is crap. I can't stand it.
Kid, 11 years old September 13, 2020

Hey, soul sister! Give this a listen!

This is primarily a sweet, innocent song--other than a few vaguely iffy comments, it's all about loyalty to an intimate friend or lover. It sends the messa... Continue reading
Kid, 11 years old November 22, 2014


It is not the best song but it is appropriate for kids!!!

What's the story?

Viewers of the supernatural TV thriller Medium might've been introduced to HEY, SOUL SISTER when it was originally released in the fall of '09. It was featured prominently in one episode. But the popularity of the release really didn't catch on until several months later, thanks to increased radio play and an uptake in digital sales. The song marks Train's first single in three years; it's been a while since the San Francisco band's ballad heyday of hits like "Drops of Jupiter (Tell Me)" and "Meet Virginia" at the turn of the millennium.

Is it any good?

Train chugs away from their typical overly sentimental sound on this daring track that combines elements of doo wop and soul into the band's innocuous pop-rock formula. It's an experiment that pays off. No doubt the lyrics still speak to the listener who sports his heart on his sleeve, but there's an edgy tone to this hit. Although the lyrics can become a bit nonsensical at times, it's hard not to walk away singing "Hey, soul sister, ain't that mister mister on the radio, stereo." Besides, any band that can incorporate the line "Some gangster I'm so thug" into a pop love song deserves major props.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about sexually-charged lyrics and how they apply to the real world. How are relationships portrayed differently in songs and movies than what they are in real life? Do you feel pressured to do what everyone else seems to be doing?

  • Talk about how music is marketed in movies and on TV. This single was played on an episode of Medium. Do you think that helps make a song more popular? How else is music marketed today?

  • Do you think there is some music that parents and teens can enjoy together? If your parents like a band that you enjoy, does it make that band less cool? Can music be a way to connect? Have you ever tried listening to artists that your parents enjoy?

Music details

  • Artist: Train
  • Release date: January 1, 2010
  • Label: Sony Music
  • Genre: Adult Contemporary
  • Parental advisory: No
  • Edited version available: No
  • Last updated: November 11, 2020

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