"If I Were a Boy" (CD Single)

 
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Beyonce wears the pants in this soulful ballad.

What parents need to know

Positive messages

The song is about stepping into another person's shoes to see things from their side, but it could also promote some gender stereotypes.

Violence
Not applicable
Sex

References to flirting and being unfaithful, but nothing explicit.

Language
Not applicable
Consumerism
Not applicable
Drinking, drugs, & smoking

One reference to beer: "Drink beer with the guys/And chase after girls."

Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that this contemplative, somewhat cynical ballad is the first single from Beyonce's album scheduled for release in November 2008. The song references stereotypical "guy" behavior, and there are some references to cheating and infidelity (and one reference to beer), but overall the lyrics are age-appropriate for kids.

What's the story?

IF I WERE A BOY is a departure from Beyonce's typical big, sassy sound. She's in a contemplative, wistful mood as she considers all the things she'd get up to if she were a guy -- like rolling out of bed and throwing on any old thing, drinking beer with the dudes, flirting, pulling the \"my cell phone wasn't working\" excuse. Then she muses about the fact that she'd make a better man because she's been on the other side and knows how it feels to be hurt.

Is it any good?

QUALITY
 

Beyonce fans more into booty-shaking dance floor tracks might find this a little delicate; there's a hint of cynicism and bitterness here. But it's good to see the Queen Bee doing something different, even if "If I Were a Boy" seems a tad bland as a stand-alone single. It's sweet, the vocals are strong, and it might be a perfect foil for some of the other stuff on the new album.

Families can talk about...

  • Families can talk about the issue at the heart of the song. If you could put yourself in a guy or girl's shoes for a day, do you think you'd treat members of the opposite sex differently? Do you think the song promotes gender stereotypes? Are boys that different than girls when it comes to relationships? Families can also talk about how this song is different from Beyonce's other music. Does this understated song seem like an unusual choice for an album's first single?

Music details

Artist:Beyonce Knowles
Release date:October 9, 2008
Label:Columbia
Genre:R&B/Pop
Parental advisory:No
Edited version available:No

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Kid, 11 years old August 8, 2009
 
Near the ending of the video the man says It's not like I'm sleeping with a girl and Beyonce says It's not like I'm sleeping with a guy. But that was the only thing I found semi-innaproppriate. Beyonce is amazing. This song is very good.
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Adult Written bythebigboss February 4, 2015
 

Nice song and message, but somewhat sexist

"If I were a boy" is a song by beyonce that tells of one stepping into the other gender's shoes. It has a nice beat, but I think that it promotes gender stereotypes as it shows men in women's shoes cheating and flirting and being unfaithful. She also says "But your just a boy" implying that boys don't understand and treat women like they should.
Parent of a 6 year old Written bymadsmooney1214 September 25, 2012
 

if i were boy cd single

Families can talk about the issue at the heart of the song. If you could put yourself in a guy or girl's shoes for a day, do you think you'd treat members of the opposite sex differently? Do you think the song promotes gender stereotypes? Are boys that different than girls when it comes to relationships? Families can also talk about how this song is different from Beyonce's other music. Does this understated song seem like an unusual choice for an album's first single?
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