If Only You Were Lonely

Music review by
Kathi Kamen Goldmark, Common Sense Media
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Dramatic teens may enjoy, but not for everyone.

Parents say

age 15+
Based on 3 reviews

Kids say

age 13+
Based on 4 reviews

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A lot or a little?

The parents' guide to what's in this music.

Positive Messages

These guys are pretty depressed and a little obsessed with death. They do provide a good example to teens, though, by writing out their dark feelings.


Some death imagery, overly romanticized.


Some sexual innuendo.

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that these songs are filled with depressed-teenager themes and are heavy on the death imagery.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Adult Written byxxmyanguishmyde... April 8, 2011

powerful, emotional, throughout great!

i actually own this album and this was amazing their second album just as good as their first casey's screams are amazing throughout each song. dead in the... Continue reading
Adult Written bymthschick2006 April 9, 2008


This is for all the rockers out there if you aren't really into rock and screamo you won't like this, but other words you would it relates to teenager... Continue reading
Teen, 15 years old Written byMCRsaveslives November 22, 2011


Stop. Just stop. Some of the reviews on this website are borderline slander. Just stop.
Teen, 16 years old Written bytaymomsenfan April 11, 2010
Hawthrone Heights equal AMZING!!

What's the story?

Despite occasionally imaginative songwriting and occasionally clever musical arrangements, Hawthorne Heights' second CD, IF ONLY YOU WERE LONELY, sounds like a retread -- more self-conscious teen angst, more self-conscious death imagery, more self-conscious vocal acrobatics, more self-conscious in general. Using every rock cliché in the book, the CD lacks the spark and fire of the band's debut, The Silence in Black and White. Nearly entirely hook-free, the songs meander around the usual depressed-teenager themes. Heavy on the death imagery, light on the wit and charm, this sophomore effort falls flat on nearly every song.

Is it any good?

Screaming guitars fight for attention while lyrics don't say much and wallow in self-absorbed self-pity. The songs may be repetitious and predictable, but they do deliver a strong and worthwhile subliminal message. If it's true -- and we do believe it's true -- that artistic expression is a terrific alternative to hurting yourself when you're feeling really bad, then Hawthorne Heights sets a fine example. Their songs might not be great, but writing about all that loneliness and misery and moving on to tell the story in apparent good health sends a peculiarly positive message all its own.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about the fact that this band is a living example of songwriting being a really good outlet if you're feeling terrible about your life. What else can kids do when they're feeling depressed?

Music details

  • Artist: Hawthorne Heights
  • Release date: February 28, 2006
  • Label: Victory
  • Genre: Rock
  • Parental advisory: No
  • Edited version available: No
  • Last updated: June 20, 2019

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