If Only You Were Lonely

Common Sense Media says

Dramatic teens may enjoy, but not for everyone.





What parents need to know

Positive messages

These guys are pretty depressed and a little obsessed with death. They do provide a good example to teens, though, by writing out their dark feelings.


Some death imagery, overly romanticized.


Some sexual innuendo.

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Drinking, drugs, & smoking
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Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that these songs are filled with depressed-teenager themes and are heavy on the death imagery.

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Kids say

What's the story?

Despite occasionally imaginative songwriting and occasionally clever musical arrangements, Hawthorne Heights' second CD, IF ONLY YOU WERE LONELY, sounds like a retread -- more self-conscious teen angst, more self-conscious death imagery, more self-conscious vocal acrobatics, more self-conscious in general. Using every rock cliché in the book, the CD lacks the spark and fire of the band's debut, The Silence in Black and White. Nearly entirely hook-free, the songs meander around the usual depressed-teenager themes. Heavy on the death imagery, light on the wit and charm, this sophomore effort falls flat on nearly every song.

Is it any good?


Screaming guitars fight for attention while lyrics don't say much and wallow in self-absorbed self-pity. The songs may be repetitious and predictable, but they do deliver a strong and worthwhile subliminal message. If it's true -- and we do believe it's true -- that artistic expression is a terrific alternative to hurting yourself when you're feeling really bad, then Hawthorne Heights sets a fine example. Their songs might not be great, but writing about all that loneliness and misery and moving on to tell the story in apparent good health sends a peculiarly positive message all its own.

Families can talk about...

  • Families can talk about the fact that this band is a living example of songwriting being a really good outlet if you're feeling terrible about your life. What else can kids do when they're feeling depressed?

Music details

Artist:Hawthorne Heights
Release date:February 28, 2006
Parental advisory:No
Edited version available:No

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Teen, 15 years old Written byVeeViolin April 9, 2008
AGENot rated for age

I Love This... Sometimes.

Every now and then, when I need something quiet, I'll listen to "If Only You Were Lonely." It's not my absolute favorite, but it's what got me into Hawthorne Heights. It's got a neat concept, but the the sound seems almost pre-packaged, not all that original at all.
Adult Written byem-tabulous April 9, 2008
AGENot rated for age
Teen, 16 years old Written bytaymomsenfan April 11, 2010
Hawthrone Heights equal AMZING!!


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