In My Own Words

Common Sense Media says

Sensual songs for older teens and adults.





What parents need to know

Positive messages

Some lyrics could be considered sexist -- others adoring of women. Your mileage will vary.

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Very sexy, though Ne-Yo carefully avoids the most explicit words.


A few strong words, but more restrained than many other albums.

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Drinking, drugs, & smoking
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Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that there's a lot of sexual innuendo -- of the "let's get naked and get it on" variety.

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What's the story?

Ne-Yo who? Just the guy who wrote Mario's mega hit, "Let Me Love You," and many other chart-toppers (by Mary J. Blige, B2K, Faith Evans, and others) -- all before his 22nd birthday. Tender, romantic, and sexy, the songs on IN MY OWN WORDS are well-crafted gems worthy of a veteran songwriter. Ne-Yo (aka Shaffer Smith) pays loving tribute to 1970s and '80s soul music with an original, modern twist. The language is a little stronger, the flirty longing more explicitly sexual, but more than anything, In My Own Words evokes romantic late-night makeout records and soul classics of previous decades.

Is it any good?


Ne-Yo uses his versatile voice effectively on his own songs, and seems comfortable stepping up into the spotlight after being the "other guy" -- the writer of other people's hits –- over instrumental tracks that bring out the best in both the songs and his performances. Tastefully and lovingly produced, the songs shine. Despite Ne-Yo's impressive music industry connections, there are very few celebrity cameos on this album, and that ends up being kind of nice ... we get to hear this young performer sing his own creations in his own strong and confident voice, impressive and promising.

Families can talk about...

  • Families can talk about the reasons why a successful young songwriter might want to shift gears and start performing.

Music details

Release date:February 28, 2006
Label:Def Jam
Parental advisory:No
Edited version available:No

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Teen, 16 years old Written bytia987 July 22, 2009

just come to mi place ill invite u to mi crib

u can do watever on mi page cause im a bad girl /bbbbb.iiiiii.tttttt.ccccc.hhhhhh
Kid, 12 years old April 9, 2008
AGENot rated for age

Great cd

I think dis song was filled wit hits (although they were love songs) u have to be responsible and appreciate his mind set for this i didnt think there was anything bad in dis cd terrible job guys
Teen, 17 years old Written byMrs.Moore April 9, 2008
AGENot rated for age

love it

Ne-Yo wasn't trynna b nuthin but a good singer, and his hits was great although they were love songs.people now and days love listening to love songs.


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