It's Not Me, It's You

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Jacqueline Rupp, Common Sense Media
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Excellent singer-songwriter delves into mature topics.

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Positive Messages

Sometimes the subject matter is mature -- sexual frustration, casual sex, etc. -- but Allen usually supplies a well balanced look at the subject matter and provides social commentary on many issues. "it's sad but it's true how society says, her life is already over, there's nothing to do and there's nothing to say, 'til the man of her dreams comes along, picks her up and puts her over his shoulder."


On "Not Fair" Allen sings about a sexually frustrating relationship in great detail: "There's just one thing that's getting in the way, when we go up to bed you're just no good, its such a shame...And then you make this noise and it's apparent it's all over...Oh I lie here in the wet patch In the middle of the bed, I'm feeling pretty damn hard done...I spent ages giving head." Many of the other songs discuss various aspects of sex, like booty calls and affairs.


The word s--t is bandied about through several of the songs. In the song "F--k You" she drops the F-bomb a total of 27 times. But in her defense, the song is about dissing people who hate others based on race or sexual orientation.


Allen satirically discusses consumer culture on "The Fear:" and I am a weapon of massive consumption, and it's not my fault it's how I'm programmed to function."

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

"Everyone's On It" discusses drug use with Allen's trademark nonchalance. "I'm not try'na say that I'm smelling of roses, but when will we tire of putting s--t up our noses." And this, on the prevalence of prescription drugs: "From grown politicians, to young adolescents, prescribing themselves anti-depressants, How can we start to tackle the problem, if you don't put your hands up, and admit that you're on them?"

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that this album is full of smart observations that most young people, particularly girls, will identify with. However, Allen covers some mature topics, especially when it comes to sex. She talks about one-night stands, selfish lovers, and using men for sex.

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Kid, 10 years old February 13, 2020

Fussy review shatters actual music

The 'expert' review is a lie. This is fine for 8+! Lily Allen speaks her mind and sings honestly and talks about life how it is.
Teen, 14 years old Written bydvdemille March 18, 2011
I absolutley love lily allen. she is my favorite artist. she writes her own songs, she speaks her mind, and isnt fake. she is amazing

What's the story?

After making a public blogging plea for fans to buy her album in the hopes of making it to the top of the charts, Lily Allen has achieved her goal. Her second album, IT'S NOT ME, IT'S YOU reached number one in both the US and UK. The album is a collection of a dozen tracks that takes listeners on a slightly serious trip through Allen's musings about love, politics, shopping, religion, and everything in between.

Is it any good?

With lines like "...I'm not a saint, but I'm not a sinner, now everything is cool as long as I'm getting thinner," Lily Allen's clever, irreverent writing takes center stage with her sophomore CD. An appealing mix of edge and vulnerability makes the Brit singer-songwriter sing like that chatty girlfriend who you can always count on for an outlandish remark. "Not Fair" for example, shows what happens when bad sex happens to a good relationship, while "Who'd Have Known," captures the magic of budding love without being overly sweet: "Who'd have known? When you flash up on my phone...There's just the right amount of awkward."

Although most of the songs relate well to the real world, they might be too much for tweens and teens just beginning to come to terms with their own sexuality. The content is more appropriate for college-aged listeners who will probably be able to pick up on the satirical tone and won't take Allen's coy, sometimes controversial ideas to heart.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about how Lily Allen differs from other female pop singers like Britney Spears or Lady GaGa. How does Allen discuss topics of sexuality differently than other pop divas? Do you think Allen rebels against certain pop music conventions or do you think she fits in with what's expected of female singers?

Music details

  • Artist: Lily Allen
  • Release date: February 9, 2009
  • Label: Capitol
  • Genre: Pop
  • Parental advisory: Yes
  • Edited version available: Yes
  • Last updated: July 15, 2015

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