It's Not Me, It's You

Common Sense Media says

Excellent singer-songwriter delves into mature topics.





What parents need to know

Positive messages

Sometimes the subject matter is mature -- sexual frustration, casual sex, etc. -- but Allen usually supplies a well balanced look at the subject matter and provides social commentary on many issues. "it's sad but it's true how society says, her life is already over, there's nothing to do and there's nothing to say, 'til the man of her dreams comes along, picks her up and puts her over his shoulder."

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On "Not Fair" Allen sings about a sexually frustrating relationship in great detail: "There's just one thing that's getting in the way, when we go up to bed you're just no good, its such a shame...And then you make this noise and it's apparent it's all over...Oh I lie here in the wet patch In the middle of the bed, I'm feeling pretty damn hard done...I spent ages giving head." Many of the other songs discuss various aspects of sex, like booty calls and affairs.


The word s--t is bandied about through several of the songs. In the song "F--k You" she drops the F-bomb a total of 27 times. But in her defense, the song is about dissing people who hate others based on race or sexual orientation.


Allen satirically discusses consumer culture on "The Fear:" and I am a weapon of massive consumption, and it's not my fault it's how I'm programmed to function."

Drinking, drugs, & smoking

"Everyone's On It" discusses drug use with Allen's trademark nonchalance. "I'm not try'na say that I'm smelling of roses, but when will we tire of putting s--t up our noses." And this, on the prevalence of prescription drugs: "From grown politicians, to young adolescents, prescribing themselves anti-depressants, How can we start to tackle the problem, if you don't put your hands up, and admit that you're on them?"

Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that this album is full of smart observations that most young people, particularly girls, will identify with. However, Allen covers some mature topics, especially when it comes to sex. She talks about one-night stands, selfish lovers, and using men for sex.

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What's the story?

After making a public blogging plea for fans to buy her album in the hopes of making it to the top of the charts, Lily Allen has achieved her goal. Her second album, IT'S NOT ME, IT'S YOU reached number one in both the US and UK. The album is a collection of a dozen tracks that takes listeners on a slightly serious trip through Allen's musings about love, politics, shopping, religion, and everything in between.

Is it any good?


With lines like "...I'm not a saint, but I'm not a sinner, now everything is cool as long as I'm getting thinner," Lily Allen's clever, irreverent writing takes center stage with her sophomore CD. An appealing mix of edge and vulnerability makes the Brit singer-songwriter sing like that chatty girlfriend who you can always count on for an outlandish remark. "Not Fair" for example, shows what happens when bad sex happens to a good relationship, while "Who'd Have Known," captures the magic of budding love without being overly sweet: "Who'd have known? When you flash up on my phone...There's just the right amount of awkward."

Although most of the songs relate well to the real world, they might be too much for tweens and teens just beginning to come to terms with their own sexuality. The content is more appropriate for college-aged listeners who will probably be able to pick up on the satirical tone and won't take Allen's coy, sometimes controversial ideas to heart.

Families can talk about...

  • Families can talk about how Lily Allen differs from other female pop singers like Britney Spears or Lady GaGa. How does Allen discuss topics of sexuality differently than other pop divas? Do you think Allen rebels against certain pop music conventions or do you think she fits in with what's expected of female singers?

Music details

Artist:Lily Allen
Release date:February 9, 2009
Parental advisory:Yes
Edited version available:Yes

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Teen, 13 years old Written byluv2sing0723 July 29, 2009

Clean Versions are Fine For 13+

I am 13 and I listen to Lily Allen songs but the only way my mom lets me listen is if they are the Clean version. I agree with Common Sense, 16+ if they listen to the explicit version but most songs like Littlest Things (which is perfectly clean), Smile, and The Fear are fine. I find Alfie very catchy but it mentions drugs and smoking a lot so that one is a bit iffy. But otherwise, if you listen to the clean versions of her songs it's fine for 13+!!
What other families should know
Too much sex
Too much swearing
Kid, 11 years old February 24, 2009

Lily Allen brings back her talent again

After the hit album "Alright, Still" her new album has a much more fresh taste. It is more mature in not just topics but in vulgarity. Lily Allen is still the bad mouth that made her stand out. The album definitely has some stand out tracks such as "F*** you" and "The fear". I would highly recommend this album if you like Lily Allen's previous work or if you are in the mood for a good album. While the album has explicit content you can purchase it clean. How bad is the content? Mrs. Allen drops the f bomb a total of 14 times (12 were uttered in F*** you), 1 scatological term and 1 mild obscenity. In the song "Not fair" she makes 7 sexual references. For sexual content, Not fair talks about the shame of not having an affair. For violence Allen makes about 2 violent references in The Fear.
Teen, 14 years old Written bySpongebobelmodude July 28, 2009


Although "Not Fair" is super innapropriate, the other songs are great. She really talks about what is happening truthfully, and not singing about tons of relationships and stuff. "22" is about how society glorifies women in their early 20s (Paris Hilton), and "F You" may be a little overdone with the F-bomb, but she is hating on people who hate on others for their sexual orientation or race, so she is telling them off in a good way. "Everyone's at It" says that we can't stop the flow of drugs unless people admit they are on them. Sex is overly sung about on "Not Fair" and "F You" is explicit in terms of language, but Lily is one of the few singers who sings about things in the world and really is fantastic!
What other families should know
Too much sex
Too much swearing
Great messages


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