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"Not Myself Tonight" (CD single)



Even edited version of party tune is too edgy for tweens.

What parents need to know

Positive messages

Pretending to be something you're not -- especially when that someone engages in risky behaviors -- is not a positive message for kids.

Positive role models

While Aguilera has created a steady personal life for herself, her music continues to advocate some questionable behavior.

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Talks about "kissing all the boys and the girls."


Explicit version drops a few f-bombs.

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Drinking, drugs, & smoking

Mentions "taking shots."

Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that this single describes a girl who wants to escape her good-girl image by going to a club, drinking shots, and kissing "boys and girls." The explicit version of the song includes the f-word in parts, and overall, the song includes a somewhat alarming message about trying to be someone you're not.

What's the story?

NOT MYSELF TONIGHT is the first single off the forthcoming album Bionic from power-pop princess Christina Aguilera. The album will be the first collection of new songs from the singer since her 2006 recordBack to Basics. In the debut single, Aguilera reverts back to her former wild-child ways, talking aboutescapingher everyday selfby hitting the club. While there's nothing inherently wrong with wanting to blow off somesteam every once in awhile, Aguilera's lyrics go a bit beyond just a harmlessnight of fun, mentioning "I'm dancing alot and I'm taking shots ... I'm kissing all the boys and the girls / Someone call the doctor 'cause I lost my mind, 'cause I'm doing things that I normally won't do / And if you don't like it,f--k you." The edited version of the song bleeps out the f-bombs, but the troubling message about engaging in risky behaviorsto avoidproblems remains.

Is it any good?


Though it doesn't break any creativity boundaries, "Not Myself Tonight" is an undeniably danceable song, with a catchy beat backed by Aguilera's consistently fantastic vocals. It's this voice that always makes even the more mundane among Aguilera's songs sound just a little different than anyone else's.

Families can talk about...

  • Families can talk about the danger in trying to escape problems through partying and sex. What can happen to your problems when you avoid dealing with them?

  • Instead of acting out, what are five things you can do to try to resolve difficult feelings?

Music details

Artist:Christina Aguilera
Release date:April 13, 2010
Parental advisory:Yes
Edited version available:Yes

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Parent of a 5, 8, 12, 14, 16, and 17 year old Written byMissBridgette July 3, 2010

16 and up this could fly, 15... ehhh, 14 definitely no.

I like the song as a song, definitely not for children's ears though. The line, "and if you don’t like it f@&k you" pop up twice. Also the line, "I’m dancing a lot and I’m taking shots I’m feeling fine I’m kissing all the boys and the girls" Very Skimpy. I would not allow my kids to hear this kind of behavior, as it represents drinking and then later "feeling fine" which is giving kids a bad idea about alcohol. "Cause I’m doing things that I normally won’t do the old me’s gone I feel brand new" These lines represent that alcohol and doing risky things is okay. Which is a bad idea for children.
What other families should know
Too much sex
Too much swearing
Too much drinking/drugs/smoking
Adult Written bytanzhang21988 February 13, 2011

only approperate for adults not even for teenagers

this new single is very creative regarding to her costumes, make up. interesting and unique. but this should not be used by any kids under 18. NOT HIGH SCHOOL KIDS Especially! kids now days in high school love to believe they are adults and be about to sleep with each other and take drugs. but some kids are til innocent in a way. this beats, most kids in dance team will use the song. the lyrics and scene is too proactive, plus make out with women as well? Kids should only know hetero attraction between male and female so the CD should be sold only for adults. kids buying this CD should bring their ID.
What other families should know
Too much sex
Adult Written bysilimom1 July 15, 2010
The song is the same oversexualized drivel that's been covered a million times by today's pop princesses. Why is it that the only way a woman can be seen to be powerful and confident is if she's willing to dress, sing and gyrate like a porn star? Just LOVE the message that she's sending to young women who are allowed to listen to this. The video is pornography. Plain and simple. And unfortunately, VH1 is airing it during the day. I'm not a prude, really I'm not. But we have to start drawing a line as to what is socially acceptable behavior. This "Whatever you want, go for it" attitude is damaging our society. Everything in moderation, folks.
What other families should know
Too much sex
Too much swearing


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