"Not Myself Tonight" (CD single)

Music review by
Stephanie Bruzzese, Common Sense Media
"Not Myself Tonight" (CD single) Music Poster Image
Even edited version of party tune is too edgy for tweens.

Parents say

age 16+
Based on 5 reviews

Kids say

age 11+
Based on 8 reviews

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The parents' guide to what's in this music.

Positive Messages

Pretending to be something you're not -- especially when that someone engages in risky behaviors -- is not a positive message for kids.

Positive Role Models & Representations

While Aguilera has created a steady personal life for herself, her music continues to advocate some questionable behavior.


Talks about "kissing all the boys and the girls."


Explicit version drops a few f-bombs.

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Mentions "taking shots."

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that this single describes a girl who wants to escape her good-girl image by going to a club, drinking shots, and kissing "boys and girls." The explicit version of the song includes the f-word in parts, and overall, the song includes a somewhat alarming message about trying to be someone you're not.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Adult Written bytanzhang21988 February 13, 2011

only approperate for adults not even for teenagers

this new single is very creative regarding to her costumes, make up. interesting and unique. but this should not be used by any kids under 18. NOT HIGH SCHOOL... Continue reading
Adult Written bysilimom1 July 15, 2010
The song is the same oversexualized drivel that's been covered a million times by today's pop princesses. Why is it that the only way a woman can be s... Continue reading
Teen, 15 years old Written bymocommonsense June 8, 2019

“Too edgy for tweens” really?!?

I like bionic, but not myself tonight definitely isn’t my favorite, sure, there may be moaning at the end of the song, but that doesn’t mean kids can’t listen t... Continue reading
Teen, 13 years old Written byFlickChick197 June 14, 2010

Must be for anyone over 17

I know you are probably reading this like "Who is she to say over 17?" Well, when I heard that Christina Aguilera came out with a new album, Bionic, I... Continue reading

What's the story?

NOT MYSELF TONIGHT is the first single off the forthcoming album Bionic from power-pop princess Christina Aguilera. The album will be the first collection of new songs from the singer since her 2006 record Back to Basics. In the debut single, Aguilera reverts back to her former wild-child ways, talking about escaping her everyday self by hitting the club. While there's nothing inherently wrong with wanting to blow off some steam every once in awhile, Aguilera's lyrics go a bit beyond just a harmless night of fun, mentioning "I'm dancing alot and I'm taking shots ... I'm kissing all the boys and the girls / Someone call the doctor 'cause I lost my mind, 'cause I'm doing things that I normally won't do / And if you don't like it,f--k you." The edited version of the song bleeps out the f-bombs, but the troubling message about engaging in risky behaviors to avoid problems remains.

Is it any good?

Though it doesn't break any creativity boundaries, "Not Myself Tonight" is an undeniably danceable song, with a catchy beat backed by Aguilera's consistently fantastic vocals. It's this voice that always makes even the more mundane among Aguilera's songs sound just a little different than anyone else's.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about the danger in trying to escape problems through partying and sex. What can happen to your problems when you avoid dealing with them?

  • Instead of acting out, what are five things you can do to try to resolve difficult feelings?

Music details

  • Artist: Christina Aguilera
  • Release date: April 13, 2010
  • Label: RCA
  • Genre: Pop
  • Parental advisory: Yes
  • Edited version available: Yes
  • Last updated: November 11, 2020

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