"Obsessed" (CD Single)

Music review by
Stephanie Bruzzese, Common Sense Media
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Smackdown on mystery heckler is edgy but radio-friendly.

Parents say

age 17+
Based on 1 review

Kids say

age 11+
Based on 16 reviews

A lot or a little?

The parents' guide to what's in this music.

Positive Messages

As an answer to a mystery heckler, Carey delivers a somewhat troubling message that it's OK to engage in public, verbal sparring, rather than ignoring her detractors or attempting to mediate problems. She also brags that she's better than someone else.

Positive Role Models & Representations

Carey hits below the belt by dissing someone for drug problems.


A couple of references to sex, with lyrics like "sexin' me" and "Last man on the earth still couldn't hit this."

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

A line that talks about "weed" and "E" (ecstasy).

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that though this track doesn't include a lot of foul language or references to sex and drugs, its premise of a vendetta sends a message that public, verbal sparring is an acceptable way to solve problems, when in reality this will probably escalate the drama.

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  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Adult Written byJitty July 18, 2010

Don't buy this song.

Mariah Carey wishes she could have what Eminem has. She's so far gone, very few people still care about her. While the song is catchy, that's about as... Continue reading
Kid, 10 years old January 23, 2011

Get over it

There are some words in there that are inappropriate but if you are like 10 or 11 you can grow up and stop saying oooooo she said a bad word.............
Teen, 14 years old Written byweezy4everurheardme May 3, 2010


she is dissin eminem ok.

What's the story?

OBSESSED is the new single from R&B/pop diva Mariah Carey that's rumored to be her response to past heckling from Eminem. While Carey hasn't confirmed (or denied) that rumor, the song is clearly aimed at someone whom she feels has done her wrong. The singer spends half of the tune asking why this someone is so "obsessed" with her that the person is spreading apparent falsehoods: "All up in the blogs, sayin' we met at the bar / When I don't even know who you are." In the other half, Carey proceeds to cut the mystery person down so badly that it begins to sound more like a bragging session than a response to a wrongdoing: "You a mom and pop, I'm a corporation / I'm the press conference, you a conversation."

Is it any good?

You know when a longtime star like Mariah Carey succumbs to the auto tune, as she does in this single, the music landscape has changed. Despite the distortion brought about by this uber-trendy equipment, Mariah's vocal mastery still shines through on the track. The catchy music itself is a bit of a departure for Carey, with the beat sounding less like her typical radio-friendly pop and more like many of today's rap/hip-hop tunes. 

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Is it better to be the bigger person and not respond to taunts from others? What are the possible repercussions of creating a war of words with someone, and what's the best way to solve disputes?    

  • Could someone who talks badly about you be trying to mask their own low self-esteem?

Music details

  • Artist: Mariah Carey
  • Release date: June 16, 2009
  • Type: Single
  • Label: Island
  • Genre: R&B/Pop
  • Parental advisory: No
  • Edited version available: No
  • Last updated: July 15, 2015

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