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"S&M" (CD single)

Music review by
Stephanie Bruzzese, Common Sense Media
"S&M" (CD single) Music Poster Image
Violent sexual behavior is the topic of mature R&B track.
Parents recommend

Parents say

age 12+
Based on 8 reviews

Kids say

age 14+
Based on 56 reviews

A lot or a little?

The parents' guide to what's in this music.

Positive Messages

Promoting violence in any form, let alone in the bedroom, is a troubling message for people of any age.

Positive Role Models & Representations

Promotes potentially harmful behavior.

Violence

Lyrics refer to violence in the bedroom: "Sticks and stones may break my bones / But chains and whips excite me."

Sex

The song is about extreme sexual behavior.

Language
Consumerism
Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that, as its title suggests, the song "S&M" is about violent sexual behaviors. Though Rihanna doesn't use graphic language in the tune, its extremely suggestive lyrics are way too mature for kids. For example: "Oh, I love the feeling you bring to me, oh, you turn me on / It's exactly what I've been yearning for, give it to me strong."

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Adult Written byclarence August 5, 2015
Parent Written byMomma K. June 27, 2017

Very sexual song is all about sex

In S&M, Rihanna sings all about sex, lyrics like 'Sex in the air I don't care I love the smell of it' and 'Sticks and Stones may bre... Continue reading
Teen, 15 years old Written byangelabovedemonbelow March 10, 2011

Bad

And people wonder why kids are growing up too fast. Horrible message and horrible song.
Teen, 16 years old Written byRosebud95 May 5, 2012

Really...?

It's sorta catchy, but too inappropriate. And it's sad because Rihanna sounds so good on this....:(

What's the story?

"S&M" is the fourth single from Loud, R&B star Rihanna's fifth full-length record. The song's title says it all: These lyrics are all about violent behavior in the bedroom. While there's no explicit language or super-graphic references here, the suggestions are strong enough to make this tune too mature for young audiences.

Is it any good?

Though "S&M" starts out with a cheesy synthesizer hook, it gains steam when its solid beat and Rihanna's powerful pipes kick in. Questionable lyrics aside, the infectious musical arrangements in this track make it a good candidate for club rotation and the inevitable remix.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about why Rihanna would release a song about violence when she has been a victim of abuse (by former boyfriend Chris Brown) in her personal life.

  • This song combines sex and violence; is it ever OK to glamorize violence?

Music details

  • Artist: Rihanna
  • Release date: February 11, 2011
  • Label: Def Jam
  • Genre: R&B
  • Parental advisory: Yes
  • Edited version available: Yes

For kids who love to dance

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