"Thinking of You" (CD single)

Music review by
Caroline Knorr, Common Sense Media
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Heartfelt ballad from pop's naughty girl OK for tweens.

Parents say

age 10+
Based on 3 reviews

Kids say

age 9+
Based on 20 reviews

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A lot or a little?

The parents' guide to what's in this music.

Positive Messages

One line, "He pulled me in, I was disgusted with myself"expresses a feeling of self-loathing in harsh terms.


While it's not graphic, the lyrics do discuss a mature relationship: "What would you do if you were the one who was spending the night?"

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that this power ballad shows off Katy Perry's formidable range, and contains none of the bad-girl themes she's become known for. The video for the song is likewise fairly clean, although it does show Perry and her lover wrestling and kissing in bed (clothed).

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Parent of a 10-year-old Written bygoodgirladvice December 11, 2009
great fun for kids
Parent of a 4, 8, 10, and 11-year-old Written byayeshaq June 29, 2009
I loved Katy song HOt 'n' cold! I loved it!!!
Kid, 11 years old February 28, 2015

Sweet balled is like the kid friendly version of the one that got away

Katy Perry did such a great job with this song I wish I can rate it with a 10 star rating.But make sure you have a box of tissues handy.
Kid, 10 years old March 11, 2012

A Pretty Relationship Song OK for All Ages

This song is kind of boring to me, but I still love it. It has some mature lines that yet aren't bad. If you think the song is sad, watch the video, but I... Continue reading

What's the story?

Katy Perry caused quite a stir with singles like "Ur So Gay" and "I Kissed a Girl," but THINKING OF YOU represents a departure both in lyrics and tone from those sensational, yet unique releases. This is a love song that's both raw ("He kissed my lips, I taste your mouth") and girlish ("'You're like an Indian summer in the middle of winter, Like a hard candy with a surprise center"). The song deals with some grown-up stuff -- the heartache of being torn between two lovers, regret, and the difficulty of moving on.

Is it any good?

With her low growls, high falsettos, convention-busting lyrics, and retro 40s glamour, Katy Perry is a true original. Her brazen style is unapologetically quirky, and holds a certain fascination among tweens and teens who enjoy watching her thumb her nose at society. In her choice of material, her blog, and in interviews Perry makes a point of characterizing herself as a girl who just wants to have fun -- and if that includes a bit of playful anarchy, then so be it. But "Thinking of You" shows off a romantic side of the artist that demonstrates her emotional range. For teens and tweens interested in the artist's persona, this song adds some depth to the mix -- and proves that you don't have to cause a stir to get some artistic recognition.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about the song's lyrics, which deal with the difficulty of moving on from a break-up and living with a heart-wrenching choice. Have you ever given something up (a friend, a book, a toy?) only to pine for that thing and regret your decision? How long did it take you to feel better? Do you think writing about your regrets helps you get over it? Older kids: What do you think of the image Perry has created for herself and the order in which her singles have been released -- sensationalistic songs followed by tame ones? Do you think the marketing was designed to create a buzz (however negative) about the artist, only to later "prove" she can really sing?

Music details

  • Artist: Katy Perry
  • Release date: January 13, 2009
  • Label: Capitol
  • Genre: Pop
  • Parental advisory: No
  • Edited version available: No
  • Last updated: June 19, 2019

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