"You're a Jerk" (CD single)

Music review by
Stephanie Bruzzese, Common Sense Media
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Anthem of jerkin' dance craze is ode to playing the field.

Parents say

age 10+
Based on 5 reviews

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age 10+
Based on 14 reviews

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The parents' guide to what's in this music.

Positive Messages

Sends a message that it's OK to love-and-leave someone on a whim.

Positive Role Models & Representations

Anyone who condones treating people disrespectfully makes for a less-than-positive role model.


References casual sex: "Like the new iPod / Just touch it and turn her on / And when the bass start beatin' and the waist I'm beatin' / Done I got on my way, I'm leavin'."


One use of the word "s--t."

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that while the jerkin' dance style isn't particularly risque, this song itself includes some mature content, including swearing and sexual references. 

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Kid, 11 years old November 12, 2011

you're a jerk if you don't like this song

A good preteen song although there is some sexual referencing in the music if you listen close enough, along with one salty use of language. A great anthem to t... Continue reading
Teen, 13 years old Written byjazzy-j November 20, 2010

what jazz-j think'ss

i love it cuz you can meet people for all around the world nd they can teach you no think'ss but i really dont got nun to say but about it

What's the story?

YOU'RE A JERK is the debut track from New Boyz -- an L.A.-based rap/hip-hop duo consisting of teens Ben J and Legacy. The Boyz created the tune to correspond with "jerkin'," the street dance craze that combines a little bit of footwork with a lot of knee bends and jerky movements. The song's title is a double entendre, referring to both the dance style as well as the main character: a guy who acts like a player by repeatedly loving and leaving his girl. In the typical style of many rap and hip hop songs, the lyrics in "You're a Jerk" make it seem cool for guys to treat girls disrespectfully: "So I did it, it was good / And I quickly got dressed / She was like, 'Where you goin'?' / And I had nothing to say but sorry that it hurts."

Is it any good?

"You're a Jerk" is undeniably danceable: the drum machine and synth-line make for a strong hook that's great for jerkin' (or plenty of other dance styles). Ben J and Legacy give good performances, delivering their rhymes with a smooth lilt that fits with the track's "I'm a player" message. The downside to this song is the "you're a jerk" refrain that repeats throughout in a high, fast-forward tone that becomes seriously annoying after a few listens. 

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Must music that is especially good for dancing also include risque lyrics in order to appeal to young people? Is a catchy beat enough to draw dancers in, or do tunes also need to offer mature lyrics that describe sex, substances, and other mature content?

  • For advice on how to manage your kids' music choices, read our tips on Music and Your Kids.

Music details

  • Artist: New Boyz
  • Release date: April 22, 2009
  • Labels: Atlantic, WEA
  • Genre: Hip-hop
  • Parental advisory: No
  • Edited version available: No
  • Last updated: November 11, 2020

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