What should I do when other people post pictures of my child online without asking me first?

Sharing photos online has become such common practice that most people don't think twice before posting pictures of their kids -- and yours -- on social media sites. Unless the photo violates the social media site's terms of service, though, there's not a lot you can do to get the photo taken down. You can't, for example, call or email Facebook and request that the photo be deleted. Every family has different rules about posting kids' photos. Unfortunately, when people who see no issue with posting kids' photos post your kid's picture, it amounts to them making a decision to make your kid's image public, which can be frustrating. Don't assume everyone feels the same way about social media -- and don't approach this situation as if your rules are better than theirs. Just be honest that it makes you uncomfortable. The bottom line is: If you don't want pictures of your kids shared, it's up to you to let people know.

It can be tough to manage this situation without alienating friends, relatives, and even teachers who see nothing wrong with the practice. Here are some ways to approach others who post pictures of your kids that go against your wishes:

  • Simply, without judgment, ask the person who posted it to delete it, or crop it so your kid isn't in the picture (easy to do with today's image-editing tools). Say, "I'm not ready for this yet."
  • Ask the poster not to tag the photo with names -- and definitely not location. That will limit exposure.
  • Ask the poster what his or her privacy settings are. If their profile is private and not public, only their friends can view their images which limits the audience for your child's photo.
  • If you're OK with a photo but only want certain people to see it, ask the poster to enable settings that limit who can see the photo to a small circle.
  • Ask the poster to instead use a private photo-sharing site such as Picasa or Flickr that requires a log-in.
  • If you meet with resistance, explain that you're worried about your kid's privacy. Once a photo is online, anyone can share it. 

 

Ask Our Experts
Was this answer helpful?
Sign in or sign up to share your thoughts

Comments

Parent written by Velium

Bit of an old post but wanted to comment as it ranks quite high on search results. Facebook have a specific process to have a picture of your child removed (I am not sure about other social media sites). https://www.facebook.com/help/contact/144059062408922
Adult written by mike m.

FYI im an adult the law will not help you unless the picture is an invasion of your privacy. So if you are at a outdoor concert or indoor it is fine for anyone to take a picture of you as long as the management of the facility of the indoor event does not forbid it. Some do some times and sometimes not it is your responsibility to know. Only one state in the US that i am aware of considers it a crime to take photos of children at any place or event. So if someone snaps a picture of your kid while skateboarding at a public park don't get mad it will do no good. Be kind and simply as the person that you would like the photo of yourself deleted. Typically if they are reasonable they will. Now i can’t say this across the board but given that most adults are kind people and people like to be liked. If asked nicely they will do it most likely. If you threaten them they are more likely to not only not delete it but post it to a social media site and might caption it Jerk or something unkind. So know the law don't tell folks you’re going to call the cops that is not a threat that they will take seriously. If you’re at the beach and you decide to wash off the sand by taking off something i suggest that you go neck deep so that no one can take a picture of you or lying down in neck deep water might work sitting anything that will not expose you to getting a photo taken. Hope this helps
Educator and Parent of a 4, 8, and 15 year old written by Kristen H.

I have three children.... ages, 15, 8, and 4. There are a few very specific and personal reasons I don't want photos of my kids on social media/internet without my permission and on anyone else's profile besides mine- I set my privacy, I don't geotag my photos,or check in-- and I'm responsible for verifying these protections, I can't trust other people to be as diligent with their own practices (simply for my kids' sake)... So, my has to be no posting photos of my kids; ask first. Of course, the issue has come up and has caused problems.... 1st problem began in 2009 with my 15 year old. Her stepmother was posting photos of her, checked in, and geotagged. Surprisingly, knowing the "personal reasons" why I wasn't having it- she stopped! Great! Fast-forward to 2016, my husband and I seperated.... he began dating a woman with teenaged kids. Not a problem, I liked her very much and so did our children. I asked my husband to please make sure she (or her teens) are not posting photos on social media- he hear me and promised it wouldn't happen! Few weeks layer, on my news feed for FB, I see my two babies!!! Photos on the gf's FB, and her 4 kids' FB feeds too!! I was furious, at first. But knowing my husband, I could wage a bet he never passed along my request and reasons. One easy conversation between mothers clarified the entire ordeal and the photos were removed! Advice: Don't get angry 1st... COMMUNICATE 1st. If that don't work, hey I'm still a mom... so, go ahead get pissed!
Teen, 13 years old written by Natalie_Grace_1112

just ask them to take it down if its really bothering you. If its like a nice cute pic then I don't know why that would be a big deal, but if it is a bad or inappropriate pic just ask them to take it down. If they say no you can report the pic and have the site take it down
Teen, 14 years old written by IKnowKidsTheBest

It is up to you! You can politely ask them to take it down or ignore it completely. If they do not take it down when you want them too threaten to alert the authorities.
Kid, 11 years old

Ask them to take it down . If they refuse contact the local authorities . It is illegal to post pictures of someone without them or the parents permission