How do I talk to my kid about Internet porn?

There's no sugarcoating it: It's easy for kids to find porn online, even through completely innocent searches. Many parents find themselves confronting this issue much sooner than they imagined, with kids who may not even understand exactly what sex is. If younger kids are frequent Internet users, it's a good idea to set up content filters or parental controls to reduce the chances they'll be exposed to inappropriate images or video. Once kids are a little older, you can teach them to click away from content that is clearly not intended for kids their age and explain that certain stuff on the Internet is for adults only.

If you think your kids might encounter porn online, either by accident or on purpose, it's a good idea to explain what pornography is in an age-appropriate way.

  • Tell your kids that it's natural to be curious. Avoid saying something that may make them feel ashamed.
  • Make sure they know you're available to talk about any subject -- nothing's off the table.
  • Look for other resources -- books, age-appropriate websites, movies -- that can educate your kids about sex, intimacy, puberty, and relationships.
  • For older kids, explain that pornography typically presents the extremes of human relationships -- and that the people depicted are usually paid actors. It's not representative of real intimacy.
  • For teens, explain your family's policy on viewing Internet porn. One thing to consider: Some porn sites can introduce harmful viruses onto your home computer.
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Kid, 11 years old

Even if you do speak to your child about this, they'll eventually be at least tempted to do it. As of now I have not reached that point and hope I never will, but you should accept that they want to know about this. Tell them the bad things about it if you want them to not do it or stop watching, such as making partners later on in life less attractive and that it will change their idea of sex in a bad way. And saying it will give them a virus mostly likely wont work unless they are gullible or young. If you catch your child doing this then I personally think you should have a talk with them, not punish them.
Teen, 13 years old written by rainbowspidrz

Tell them it's illegal at their and they should wait until they're [age of consent where they are], and/or just say to not look at it as it as they'll probably give some sort of virus.
Adult written by Manish A.

Mate, if I were you, I would just blacklist the websites but that seems like a bit extreme. An alternative is just setting up a parent account on the kid's device. Then monitor their actions.
Teen, 15 years old written by Common sense LST

Just explain to them without going into a criticizing lecture, that it is like a drug, that those kinds of websites can introduce harmful viruses onto your computer, or any mobile device, and it is not normal to watch it at all. If you or your kids are addicted to porn, get them to go through a rehabilitation center or what else.
Teen, 17 years old written by Stop Hacking

What exactly is wrong with a kid watching porn? Just explain it is as realistic as sci fi to actual science, and that it should not be viewed in anyone else's presence.
Teen, 16 years old written by Kittykat12219419

Ok,this is from a kid .children at school can talk about things you might not know about yet making it temping to go on these sites and explore some of the things they said and or they might just be curious and want to know about sex.screaming at your child may make them ashamed and if you take there device it may make them hot want to use it all together and they will think your mad or disappointed in them,yes they probably won't do it again but they will feel upset and worried. Talking to them will help but shunning them will only make things worse by making them rebel and do it again to make you upset when they don't realize that they are really hurting themselves instead
Kid, 11 years old

Have advice from a kid: Just tell your child that some websites can be bad and you shouldn't go on them and these websites are called Porn websites. It works