How can I know that my teen is being safe and responsible when she's using anonymous/self-destructing apps such as Snapchat?

Snapchat -- the photo-sharing app that lets you text a picture that disappears within one to 10 seconds -- is designed to capture fleeting moments. The app seems like a consequence-free way to share life's little moments. But if kids think the photo will self-destruct, it's not hard to imagine they might send something they otherwise wouldn't.

The trouble is, there's no guarantee that anything they send to someone else will stay private. Once posted, sent, or shared, it's out of their control. Recipients can take a screenshot of the image and share it with others. There are also third-party apps that can be used to save Snapchat images without the sender knowing, and these apps have been hacked in the past and "private" Snapchat" images shared with the public online.

Your kids may view Snapchat as easy, fun, and cool. So long as it's used appropriately, it can be. You know your kids best and probably have a good sense of their maturity levels and levels of impulse control. But anything that reduces the time between thought and action is a risk for kids, whose ability to think through the consequences of their actions isn't fully developed. It's critical that you discuss appropriate, responsible use of the app and why sexting is a giant no-no.

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Adult written by Katay50

Can you record both parties on Snapchat without them knowing ? And how long can you record it ? What’s the appropriate Time a 14 yr old should be on the computer or Snapchat
Teen, 15 years old written by mkv2326

You can't do anything other than trust your child. If you try to sneakily read their texts or track their activity, it's going to backfire if you're caught.
Teen, 13 years old written by Natalie_Grace_1112

Trust. There is no better answer. You can explain to them internet safety, but everything you tell them is already taught in schools today.
Teen, 17 years old written by Thequestionasker

My opinion is that if you trust your kid enough, they should be fine. I have snapchat and my mom never questions who I'm sending stuff to or what I'm sending. It's all about trust.
Kid, 12 years old

Tell them not to let any information they wouldn't want every single person in the universe knowing be traced back to them. Ever.