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Facebook, Instagram, and Social

How do I keep up with the latest social apps and sites teens are using?

Take a little time to do your research. Our reviews and parenting advice can be an excellent starting point. Other parents also can be great resources. Ask around, and keep your ears open during parents' night at school for any cell phone or social media issues the school is dealing with.

Most importantly, talk -- and listen -- to your kids. They might tell you everything you want to know or at least drop the name of an app or a website you can check out on your own. Even if you can't stay on top of every new app, concentrate your efforts on keeping the lines of communication open so kids will come to you if a problem arises. Make sure kids know it's OK to make mistakes and that they don't need to hide these from you -- that you can actually help them through tough spots.

Beyond that, here are a few more ideas:

  • Have your kid use your app store account or an account linked to your email, so you'll be notified when an app is downloaded. Consider making a rule, at least until they're older, that they can't download an app or sign up for an online account without asking you first.
  • Ask which apps and sites are popular with your teen's friends. Kids may open up more when they're talking about someone else.
  • Share what you're using. Show them your Facebook page, favorite videos, or a game you're obsessed with. They may be inspired to reciprocate.
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Teen, 13 years old written by strangerthingsl...

If you keep asking them it gives them a feeling that you don't trust them. If you are stalking them, than they think that you don't trust them. Online/Social media is another place to communicate with friends, not with your parents. No one wants to open up their Instagram in front of their friends and have them see that their mom was their most recent DM. Or most recent SnapChat.
Teen, 13 years old written by Amb46

I know the feeling when youre asked what apps you use. Its horrible. Teens dont like having a social media account where theyre friends with their friends AND parents, trust me. Also dont stalk your child online, because if they catch on they'll get freaked out and wont go on the internet again.
Kid, 12 years old

Please don't. I agree. We can become depressed if you stalk us. We go online to be ourselves. And if you stalk us then we just go into a paranoid state and just shut everyone out
Teen, 15 years old written by arianagrapes

If you're a parent, for the sake of your child, don't. Admit the fact that you're not hip and if you don't know the latest social networking, don't do it. Stay within your age. Your child can become paranoid and depressed if you stalk them like it seems you should be. It's their life.
Kid, 12 years old

A lot of parents get told about these things by their kids, and then totally forget. My dad asked my about a game I was playing on my computer over 10 times, each time denying having previously asked it. Write this stuff down, if you are concerned.
Teen, 13 years old written by emmygirl

You can go on social networks and look their name up. Maybe there is someone that is clearly him/her.
Teen, 13 years old written by AllCanadian

Take your teen's phone and look at their app history. I know for a fact that Vine, Reddit, Tumblr, Facebook, Twitter and Whisper are very popular. Personally I have a wattpad account and that's it .