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Facebook, Instagram, and Social

Is there a downside to keeping my kid off social sites?

In most cases, no. Kids who are exposed to a variety of experiences through home and school, including digital ones, likely will pick up the technical skills they need to interact socially online whenever the time is right.

However, kids may pay a social price within their circle of friends if they're not part of the online world. Kids' online worlds and their "real" worlds are porous. Being in the know about the virtual world means they're part of the group in the "real world." Often kids will plan to meet up online after school. They talk about the games they're playing and may even enact them on the playground. In some schools, there's a certain status attained by being in a particular online world with other kids.

Your kids may not be the only ones whose parents keep them off social sites, but if the groups of friends they want to hang with are all on, they may not feel as involved. Only you can determine how important this is to your kids and how not being on social sites affects them.

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Teen, 14 years old written by juicewrld999

so. I got Instagram in 7th grade and had it up to 9th grade. It was making me super self-conscious. I compared myself to people all the time. I spent over 6 hours on it. It was becoming bad. So I think you should wait until you get social media. But I don't think there are any downsides. It only causes stress and drama. But if they want social media explain why you want it and come to an agreement about it.