What Chilli Wants

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Melissa Camacho, Common Sense Media
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Reality show about finding Mr. Right feels a bit desperate.

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Positive Messages

The show reinforces the idea that a woman needs a man to be complete. It also sometimes reduces men to meat -- talking about how big their muscles or genitals are.

Positive Role Models & Representations

In contrast to some other reality show characters, Chilli seems relatively tame. She wants to get married and even though she sometimes seems a little desperate to do so, she maintains high standards for her match -- asking for someone who doesn't drink or smoke, who is spiritual, and who doesn't have kids by more than two women.


Sometimes things get slammed across tables and thrown on the floor during heated arguments.


Contains lots of flirting and strong sexual innuendo. Tionna occasionally touches men in subtly inappropriate ways to check their muscle build and size of their genitals. There are frequent (and often crude) conversations about a man’s penis size. Chilli will only date someone who has had children with two or less women. Scenes of Chilli’s music videos, photo shoots, and publicity moments sometimes feature her in tight fitting and midriff-bearing clothing.


Words like “damn” and “ass” are audible, while vocab like “dick” and “f--k” are bleeped.


Chilli consults with dating advice columnist and author Tionna Tee Smalls, who promotes her book, Girl, Get Your Mind Right! Local Atlanta, Georgia establishments like Intermezzo and Lola are prominently featured.

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Chilli does not want to date someone who drinks or smokes. People are shown drinking wine and cocktails at bars and over dinner.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that this series -- which focuses on R&B singer Chilli’s efforts to find a man to marry -- contains lots of strong sexual innuendo, including some crude references to male genitalia, most of which is bleeped) and strong vocab (“damn,” “ass”; words like “dick” and “f--k” are also bleeped). Chilli references her belief in God often. Cast members drink wine and cocktails during meals and at bars. Arguments sometimes lead to things being roughly shoved off of tables. The dating advice book, Girl, Get Your Mind Right! is featured.

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Parent of a 14-year-old Written byemprezz60 May 24, 2010

What Chilli won't get

I hate this show and if I were you I would not waste my time watching this show. It seems that the only thing Chilli really wants is television time. She cont... Continue reading

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What's the story?

WHAT CHILLI WANTS is a reality show that features former TLC member Rozanda “Chilli” Thomas as she tries to find her future husband. The R&B singer, who is known for her previous relationships with Usher and record producer Dallas Austin, now finds herself looking for the man who will meet her very high standards and ultimately marry her. She enlists the help of dating advice columnist and author Tionna Tee Smalls, who doesn’t hold back from telling her what she needs to do to get her man. Friends like Missy Elliott and professional boxer Floyd Mayweather, Jr. also offer their advice. As she meets new people and experiences new things, Chilli has high expectations, especially when she discovers that she has strong feelings for one of her closest friends.

Is it any good?

The series offers a look at some of the challenges celebrity (and even some non-celebrity) women may face when hitting the dating scene. Unfortunately, Chilli’s focus on finding a husband seems a little bit desperate, especially when she is pursuing him in front of a camera. Her need to find one also reinforces some common stereotypes about women needing men to be happy.

It’s definitely voyeuristic, but the overall show is milder than other reality shows that deal with similar subjects. Chilli’s personal boundaries, which motivates her to date men who do not smoke, drink, and who have a sense of spirituality, help make it a bit more positive. Chilli fans will definitely be drawn to it, while others who like this sort of thing will probably find it reasonably entertaining.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about dating and marriage. Why are some women anxious to find men to marry?  Do you think dating men specifically to find a husband is a good thing? Why or why not? What kind of stereotypes exist about women and marriage? Do you think this show perpetuates these stereotypes? If so, which ones?

  • Why do you think Chilli has opted to look for “Mr. Right” in front of a reality audience? Do you think it’s just to create some entertaining reality TV? Or do you think there are other reasons for doing so? 

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