What I Hate About Me

Common Sense Media says

Flaw-fixing reality show could send teens mixed messages.





What parents need to know

Positive messages

While the show's focus is on turning negative feelings about yourself into positive ones, many of the "problems" are superficial (related to one's outer appearance). At the end of each episode, the featured woman reveals her new self ... but she's obviously been coiffed and styled by a staff of professionals.

Positive role models

The host encourages women to recognize their assets and ditch emotional baggage that's been holding them back. The women themselves can be inspiring, too, particularly when they move past their negative feelings about themselves.

Not applicable

Women often talk about a desire to feel "sexy." In at least one case, a woman wishes she were able to have sex with the lights on.


In general, fairly tame. Audible words include "damn," "crap," and "oh my God."


Most solutions include some type of product endorsement, whether it's a specific good or service (such as Dark Circle Defense by Tarte or the cosmetic concealer Dermablend) or an individual and/or business that offers such services (such as interior designer Adam Hunter or the Pampered People day spa).

Drinking, drugs, & smoking

Some women might mention drinking alcohol or smoking cigarettes.

Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that this makeover show is targeting adult women in their 20s, 30s, and 40s, but that doesn't mean that teenage girls won't want to watch. If they do, moms and dads should be aware that a few of the "problems" the featured women mention are superficial, and others aren't age-appropriate for younger teens -- including one woman's inability to have sex with the lights on. That said, other problems (and their subsequent solutions) impart universally positive messages for women of all ages (such as one woman's realization that she should be more assertive when dealing with her male boss instead of constantly apologizing for her perceived flaws). Expect some heavy-handed commercialism in the form of product endorsements and subtle advertising of "experts" who make a living by selling their services.

Parents say

Kids say

What's the story?

Unhappy women tackle the 10 things they dislike most about themselves in WHAT I HATE ABOUT ME, a reality makeover show that challenges you to "learn to love what you hate." In each episode, host Lisa Arch guides one woman through a self-generated list of her biggest "flaws" -- both physical (like "I hate my moustache") or emotional (like "I hate that I'm constantly apologizing") -- and introduces her to various experts who can help her change each perceived negative into a positive.

Is it any good?


This makeover show mash-up gets points for spotlighting a broad spectrum of things in a woman's life that might need "fixing," instead of simply focusing on appearances and giving her a new haircut, a new wardrobe, and a lesson about the transformative powers of cosmetics.

But trying to fix 10 things in a one-hour episode comes off as overly ambitious ... particularly when some of the problems -- such as emotionally complex body image issues -- can hardly be dealt with in a matter of minutes. Having the featured women choose five things they'd like to change about themselves instead of 10 would have produced a show with far more meaningful take aways.

Families can talk about...

  • Families can talk about what message the show is sending women -- and young girls in particular -- about outward appearances and body image. How many of the "problems" are superficial issues that can be easily fixed? How many are internal and more deeply emotional in nature?

  • Do you think that the show's message -- that you should change things

  • about yourself you don't like -- is ultimately negative or positive? If

  • you don't like your freckles, for example, is it better to

  • buy concealer and cover them up, or would it be better to change

  • your perception of what's beautiful?

  • Why are these types of makeover shows appealing? Is there at least some

  • part of us that feels better about ourselves when we see that others

  • struggle with feelings of inadequacy, too?

TV details

Cast:Lisa Arch
Network:Style Network
Genre:Reality TV
TV rating:TV-PG

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Teen, 14 years old Written byEspumaMarina October 16, 2010

This show saddens me...

Oh come on! Like people need any more reasons to hate themselves! In the world we live in, there are either people with incredable low-selfesteam, and people with too HIGH self esteam. This show is not helping, I'm glad they want to 'help' these people be more confident, but they should be helping mentally, not pysicly. Personally, I think everyone is special in their own way, until they think so highly of themselves that they're total snobs about it. I understand how these people feel, but when I look at them when they enter this show, I have to say there was NOTHING wrong with them to begin with! I'm one of those girls with a horrbily low self esteam I admit. I feel stupid at times, hideious, fat, untalented....blah blah blah. (Which hopefully I'll grow out of that) but seriously people, you don't need to go to such desperate lenths to get people to find you attractive, you're FINE. If someone doesn't like you, thats THEIR loss. And what irritates me to the empth digree is that when people say "Beauty is on the inside" and "It's their loss if they don't like me" people will say "That's just what an ugly person would say!" -Who the hell asked you? (Sorry) I mean, lately its all about 'the look' to were you must be super skinny, have a gorgious face, have a dazzling heartmelting smile.. yah yah yah. NO! Hollywood NO! Bad message right there. People can't help the way they were born! So what if we don't all look like Kim Kardashion and Will Smith (Will rocks-by the way) We're UNIQUE. Nobody needs to turn into Barbie dolls because society is a bunch of nosy, judgy, complainy, vain, ignorent morons. My family constantly trys to make me look better by saying I need to change my hair style, I know its from the good of their hearts consittering they ALL look like super models, but I'm still growing into my head, and I'd perfur my hair down until my baby fat is gone... see, I don't want people to be like me. Express yourselves! .... I'm getting a little off topic. Anyway, I do get excited to see their makeovers, but I hate seeing them down on theirselves.
Parent of a 3 year old Written byadrik January 10, 2010

a good show i like it alot im not sure what age group it would fall for i would say older teen to young adult. for now will watch more :)

i presonally like it but im not sure its for kids maybe teens to young adult ppl.
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