That's Not Cool

Website review by
Susan Yudt, Common Sense Media
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Tackles digital dating abuse with videos appealing to teens.

Parents say

age 13+
Based on 4 reviews

Kids say

age 12+
Based on 2 reviews

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Educational Value

Kids can learn skills for developing healthy relationships in the digital age. That's Not Cool tackles common teen dating issues, like a partner who pressures you to send racy photos or demands that you share social media passwords. The site stresses the importance of respecting others, setting boundaries, and communicating clearly. With clever and creative content, That's Not Cool helps teens learn to identify unhealthy behavior and develop strategies to deal with it.

Positive Messages

The site gives kids an excellent vocabulary for discussing boundary issues.


The site discusses the problems associated with sharing sexual or revealing photos.


No bad language on the site, but comments link to users' YouTube profiles, where anything goes.

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What parents need to know

Parents need to know that this ad-free site helps teens recognize when digital dating behavior becomes dangerous or abusive (stalking, violating privacy, pressure to send nude pictures) and how to deal with it. That's Not Cool's content is right on target, but there are a few iffy comments that link to users' YouTube profiles, where anything goes.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Adult Written byDiverseAppreciator December 12, 2019

Lacks autism tailoring

I have approached Futures Without Violence (who is behind That's Not Cool and Coaching Boys Into Men) regarding tailoring of their programs for people with... Continue reading
Parent of a 14 and 18+-year-old Written byBobV01 March 16, 2014

Thats not cool is misandric

That’s not cool dot com still has a Public Service Announcement airing on American television depicting a male texting his girlfriend in the morning and calling... Continue reading
Kid, 11 years old August 11, 2011

give it a chance

this is a good thing for teens and other ages to look in to it changed my life just by reading it changed my brothers to,give it a chance and you will see what... Continue reading
Teen, 14 years old Written bydd123 October 17, 2009

What's it about?

A project of the Family Violence Prevention Fund, the Office on Violence Against Women, and the Ad Council, THAT'S NOT COOL aims to educate teenagers about digital dating abuse. The site features videos that deal with issues like excessive texting and pressure to send risqué photos, and there are lots of "callout cards" to email or post to social networking sites ("Thank you for your thoughtful text every 10 seconds"). Teens who have a YouTube account can post responses about common dating dilemmas, and Need Help? includes guidelines for determining when relationships cross the line.

Is it any good?

With digital violations on the rise -- from nude photos leaked to blogs to a murder sparked by a "single" Facebook status -- That's Not Cool is a much-needed resource for teens and for parents who could use a little help understanding this very 21st-century issue. The videos are cool, clever, and interactive; teens see a scenario from the perspective of both partners and choose the best way to deal with the situation. The guidelines for recognizing abuse are right on target, and the additional resources included are reliable.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about what is and isn't appropriate with online and mobile communication. What does having constant access to another person mean?

  • What do your kids think is the line between caring and controlling? Parents can encourage teens to come talk to them or another trusted adult if they're ever in a dating situation that feels uncomfortable or abusive.

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