The Kind of Friends We Used to Be

 Review

Common Sense Media says

Accurate and heartwarming story about tween friendship.
greenON: Content is age-appropriate for kids this age.
yellowPAUSE: Know your child; some content
may not be right for some kids.
redOFF: Not age-appropriate for kids this age.
not for kidsNOT FOR KIDS: Not appropriate for kids any age.

Find out more

Quality
 
Sometimes media can be age appropriate but a real waste of time. Our star rating assesses the media's overall quality.

Find out more

Parents say

Not yet rated

Kids say

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that there isn't much to worry about here. Some parents are divorced, and there's some religious discussion, but there's nothing inappropriate.

  • There are some mean girl tendencies in this novel, but they are counteracted by acts of kindness and true friendship.
  • Not applicable.
  • Boy/girl relationships typical of this age.

What's the story?

Marilyn and Kate are trying really hard to be friends again. They used to be best friends, but last year things changed. Marilyn thinks life for Kate would be a lot easier if she just took her advice on fashion, and Kate thinks Marilyn spends too much time thinking about her hair and what other people think of her. Will they ever get on the same page and get their friendship back on track?


Is it any good?

 

In this sequel to The Secret Language of Girls, Author France O'Roark Dowell does a great job of capturing the ups and downs of tween friendships, as well as the way friendships can naturally change as kids discover their own interests and passions. Marilyn and Kate are wonderful, warm characters that girls can really identify with, and the middle school situations they find themselves in are common and very well written, with a nice touch of humor.

Kate's fascination with guitars and huge black boots are completely opposite from Marilyn's love of cheerleading and fashion, and there doesn't seem to be much common ground. The novel does an effective job of showing how much work friendships can be, but also shows how important friendships are, and that the effort is worthwhile.


Sign Up Message
Sign up for our weekly newsletter
Each week we send a customized newsletter to our parent and teen subscribers. Parents can customize their settings to receive recommendations and parent tips based on their kids’ ages. Teens receive a version just for them with the latest reviews and top picks for movies, video games, apps, music, books, and more.
Please enter an email address.
Please check your email address for possible typos.
Sorry, you must be 13 or older to subscribe to our weekly newsletter.
Sign me up!

What families can talk about

Families can talk about the difference between dreaming about what will make you happy versus what will actually make you happy. Marilyn had the perfect 7th grade school year in her mind, but she finds that she's not totally happy once she begins to live her dreams. What does your perfect school year look like? Is it realistic? How does your vision fit with the friendships you currently have?


This review was written by Terreece Clarke
Kid, 13 years old
August 21, 2010
 
Recommended for girls entering middle school.
This book was very good especially for rising 6th graders or middle schoolers. It has a very helpful message and is easy to relate to.

Flag as inappropriate 
Teen, 17 years old
June 10, 2009
 
pretty good for this genre
for the best-friends-are-growing-and-changing-and-also-ditching-each-other-or-being-ditched genre, this book is pretty good. the author is just funny. i haven't read the secret language of girls, which this is a sequel to, so i don't know how it compares. but it stands on its own okay. i'd recommend reading the secret etc first, though, because it probably gives you a clearer understanding of marylin and kate's relationship. there were two things i thought weren't done very well. one was marylin's abrupt decision to stop being a cheerleader and start being her own person, which seemed a little too glib, quick and easy. also, the boy kate sort of has a crush on- i can't recall his name- comes out seeming kind of like a jerk even though he clearly isn't supposed to be. other than that- it's really good. i love kate.

Flag as inappropriate 
Teen, 14 years old
August 30, 2010
 
i

Flag as inappropriate 
Teen, 15 years old
November 18, 2010
 
PERFECT for girls
I think that it is very helpful to children that need help but just can't find help that is good for them.

Flag as inappropriate 
Teen, 15 years old
February 17, 2011
 
Dislike

Flag as inappropriate 
Teen, 14 years old
September 19, 2011
 
Very Good!
The book really shows what goes on in a 7th grader's head about what their friends will think of them if they hang out with certain people.

Flag as inappropriate 
Kid, 13 years old
February 24, 2011
 
Yay! It's a good book
It's a really good book. I like how the author follows both of the girl's lives instead of just one girl's life.

Flag as inappropriate 
Kid, 13 years old
July 28, 2010
 
A wonderful story for ages 8 and up
I think this book is a wonderful story about good and bad choices of friendship and the issues some may have going on in school.

Flag as inappropriate 

This review was written by Terreece Clarke
Author:Frances O'Roark Dowell
Book type:Fiction
Genre:Friendship
Publication date:January 6, 2009
Number of pages:240
Hardcover price:$16.99
Publisher's recommended age(s):9 - 12

This review was written by Terreece Clarke
 

Review It

Share your review with others

Hang on! You need to be a member to post your review.
A safe community is important to us. Please observe our guidelines.

Register now to save reviews and advice articles to your personal lists!


About our rating system
ON: Content is age-appropriate for kids this age.
PAUSE: Know your child; some content may not be right for some kids.
OFF: Not age-appropriate for kids this age.
Learning ratings
BEST: Really engaging, great learning approach.
GOOD: Pretty engaging, good learning approach.
FAIR: Somewhat engaging, OK learning approach.
NOT FOR LEARNING: Not recommended for learning.

 

vote now

Will you read The Kind of Friends We Used to Be?


Already read it? What do you think?

 

Been There? Tell us about it