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Dan in Real Life

  • Is it age appropriate?

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    Not age appropriate for kids under 11, age appropriate for kids over 13; suggested age 13.

  • Is it any good?

    4.0
  • Common Sense says

    Love hurts in cute (if predictable) rom com.

Why We Rated This on for Ages 13 and Up

What to watch out for

  • Messages:

    Dan gets several tickets and has his license revoked for poor driving. He flirts with his brother's girlfriend. Dan and Marie lie about their attraction. The family makes up a song making fun of how a woman looked in grade school. Cara uses an anti-gay slur in passing. Eventually, Dan learns to be honest and trustworthy.
  • Violence:

    Some comic pratfalls, including Dan falling out a second-story window and getting hit in the face with a football. Mitch punches Dan. Dan backs into a police car.
  • Sex:

    Cara makes out with her boyfriend. Marie undresses and gets in the shower with a (clothed) Dan (only her bare shoulders are visible). Clay makes veiled references to masturbation. Dan and Marie kiss.
  • Language:

    One use each of "damn" and "f--k." Cara says something is "so queer."
  • Consumerism:

    Dan mentions the TV show Bonanza.
  • Drinking, drugs, & smoking:

    Some wine drinking by adults, but no one gets drunk.

What Parents Need to Know

This review of Dan in Real Life was written by Heather Boerner

Parents need to know that although this Steve Carell comedy is fairly tame overall, it does include some violence, innuendo, and other iffy behavior (Dan and Marie share a shower, they lie to Dan's family, and Dan flirts with Marie inappropriately in front of his whole family). Dan also gets a black eye and a broken nose and is in a minor car accident. A mother's death is mentioned, and a teenager lies to her father about dating a boy (he sneaks up to make out with her on the family vacation). One character makes jokes about "self-love" and "unclogging the pipes," which may lead tweens to ask about sex and masturbation. Language includes one use of "f--k."

Families Can Talk About

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  • Families can talk about the difference between how love is portrayed in movies and how it is in real life. Why do you think so many movies pair depression and misery with love? Is it funny to watch romantic movies like that? Why or why not? How fun do you think it would be to actually be in a relationship like that? In this movie, Dan and Marie lie about their attraction and end up hurting a lot of people. Remind kids that anyone you have to hide or lie to your family about probably isn't the right person for you.
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What’s the Story?

Four years after his beloved wife's death, newspaper columnist Dan (Steve Carell) is devoted to their three daughters, but the teen girls are quickly moving out of his control. Cara (Brittany Robertson) is in love for the first time and lies to her father about it, sneaking off to smooch her new fella. Parent-ified Jane (Alison Pill) is 17 and ready to drive, and Lilly (Marlene Lawston) is sick of being coddled. As Dan's father (John Mahoney) aptly remarks when Dan says his children hate him, "You must be doing something right." After arriving at his parents' home for a mythically happy family reunion, Dan meets and falls for Marie (Juliette Binoche). The problem? She's already spoken for -- by Dan's hyper, self-involved brother, Mitch (Dane Cook). Will Dan be able to keep his feelings to himself?

Is It Any Good?

DAN IN REAL LIFE is a romantic comedy convinced that misery and self-abdication are the true signs of love. It's a typical movie message, but maybe not a good one for teens who already make a habit of dramatic suffering. So it's a good thing the movie is well-done and warm-hearted. Yes, it's predictable and unrealistic, but it aims for a kind of "human comedy," as Marie announces on first meeting Dan. The film does have other types of funny as well, including guffaw-worthy moments mostly surrounding some great lines your kids may end up repeating back to you.

Director Peter Hedges uses his cast to great effect: Cook stays occupied with outlandish songs and aerobics routines, and Carell hams it up dancing and gets in a few fun one-liners, too. The young actors all pull their own weight, and Mahoney and the renowned Dianne Wiest provide the perfect backdrop to the film as Dan's content parents. It may not exactly be real life, but Dan in Real Life is ultimately a fun way to spend two hours with your family.

Movie Details

Studio: Focus Features, Director: Peter Hedges
Run time: 110 minutes
Theatrical release: 10/25/2007, DVD release: 3/10/2008
MPAA Rating: PG-13 for some innuendo.

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  1. I rate this title on for age 11 and give it 4.0
    • My concerns are:
    • Inappropriate sexual content
    • My highlights are:
    • Good role models

    "You...are a murder...of LOVE!!!!!!!!!!"

    My daughter(a big Office fan)saw this movie at a rental place and we watched it together. It was funny and very, very sweet. I saw the end comming but it was a good comming. It leaves you with a warm feeling at the end.Plus the 1 f-bomb was hidden from us.

  2. I rate this title on for age 9 and give it 5.0

    This is HILARIOUS and barely deserves it's PG-13 rating.

    Take away some language and it's be PG. I really love this movie. I saw it when I was 9 and it was totally fine.

  3. Parent Reviewer
    I rate this title on for age 8 and give it 4.0
    • My highlights are:
    • Positive messages
    • Good role models

    Appropriate for all ages, better for 10 and over

    This was a good movie. The overall message was good. The conflict resulting from the two brothers unwittingly falling for the same woman is a sophisticated subject for kids, but is tastefully handled. Their is a lot of humor and family fun and togetherness in the movie. Some teen rebellion between the main character who is an overprotective widow and his teenage daughters. The movie depicts positive family relationships that in the end are what help to reslove the conflict.

  4. Teen Reviewer Age 14
    I rate this title on for age 12 and give it 4.0
    • My concerns are:
    • Inappropriate language
    • My highlights are:
    • Positive messages
    • Good role models

    There's no swearing a kid is in most every scene, the only scene where they talk with a double meeting is once, but it will go over most kids heads.

  5. Teen Reviewer Age 14
    Lives in California
    I rate this title on for age 10 and give it 4.0

    This movie was very heart-warming

    Good for ages 10+ -i love dogs

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