Dan in Real Life (PG-13)

Love hurts in cute (if predictable) rom com.

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Movie details
  • Studio: Focus Features, Focus Features
  • Directed By: Peter Hedges
  • Cast: Steve Carell, Juliette Binoche, Dane Cook
  • Running Time: 110 minutes
  • Release Date: 10/25/2007
  • Video/DVD Release Date: 03/10/2008
  • Genre: Comedy
  • MPAA Rating: PG-13
  • MPAA Explanation: some innuendo.

Parents need to know

Parents need to know that although this Steve Carell comedy is fairly tame overall, it does include some violence, innuendo, and other iffy behavior (Dan and Marie share a shower, they lie to Dan's family, and Dan flirts with Marie inappropriately in front of his whole family). Dan also gets a black eye and a broken nose and is in a minor car accident. A mother's death is mentioned, and a teenager lies to her father about dating a boy (he sneaks up to make out with her on the family vacation). One character makes jokes about "self-love" and "unclogging the pipes," which may lead tweens to ask about sex and masturbation. Language includes one use of "f--k."

Families can talk about the difference between how love is portrayed in movies and how it is in real life. Why do you think so many movies pair depression and misery with love? Is it funny to watch romantic movies like that? Why or why not? How fun do you think it would be to actually be in a relationship like that? In this movie, Dan and Marie lie about their attraction and end up hurting a lot of people. Remind kids that anyone you have to hide or lie to your family about probably isn't the right person for you.

Message

Social Behavior:

Dan gets several tickets and has his license revoked for poor driving. He flirts with his brother's girlfriend. Dan and Marie lie about their attraction. The family makes up a song making fun of how a woman looked in grade school. Cara uses an anti-gay slur in passing. Eventually, Dan learns to be honest and trustworthy.

Consumerism:

Dan mentions the TV show Bonanza.

Drugs/Alcohol/Tobacco:

Some wine drinking by adults, but no one gets drunk.

Violence

Some comic pratfalls, including Dan falling out a second-story window and getting hit in the face with a football. Mitch punches Dan. Dan backs into a police car.

Sex

Cara makes out with her boyfriend. Marie undresses and gets in the shower with a (clothed) Dan (only her bare shoulders are visible). Clay makes veiled references to masturbation. Dan and Marie kiss.

Language

One use each of "damn" and "f--k." Cara says something is "so queer."

Common Sense says

What's the story?

Reviewed by Heather Boerner

Four years after his beloved wife's death, newspaper columnist Dan (Steve Carell) is devoted to their three daughters, but the teen girls are quickly moving out of his control. Cara (Brittany Robertson) is in love for the first time and lies to her father about it, sneaking off to smooch her new fella. Parent-ified Jane (Alison Pill) is 17 and ready to drive, and Lilly (Marlene Lawston) is sick of being coddled. As Dan's father (John Mahoney) aptly remarks when Dan says his children hate him, "You must be doing something right." After arriving at his parents' home for a mythically happy family reunion, Dan meets and falls for Marie (Juliette Binoche). The problem? She's already spoken for -- by Dan's hyper, self-involved brother, Mitch (Dane Cook). Will Dan be able to keep his feelings to himself?

Is it any good?

4
DAN IN REAL LIFE is a romantic comedy convinced that misery and self-abdication are the true signs of love. It's a typical movie message, but maybe not a good one for teens who already make a habit of dramatic suffering. So it's a good thing the movie is well-done and warm-hearted. Yes, it's predictable and unrealistic, but it aims for a kind of "human comedy," as Marie announces on first meeting Dan. The film does have other types of funny as well, including guffaw-worthy moments mostly surrounding some great lines your kids may end up repeating back to you.

Director Peter Hedges uses his cast to great effect: Cook stays occupied with outlandish songs and aerobics routines, and Carell hams it up dancing and gets in a few fun one-liners, too. The young actors all pull their own weight, and Mahoney and the renowned Dianne Wiest provide the perfect backdrop to the film as Dan's content parents. It may not exactly be real life, but Dan in Real Life is ultimately a fun way to spend two hours with your family.

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Parents and kids say

All Reviews

There are 27 reviews.

4


Posted on 11/10/08 by i love dogs Kid contributor, age 15

This movie was very heart-warming

Good for ages 10+ -i love dogs
1


Posted on 11/09/08 by oniongirl Kid contributor, age 12

TERRIBLE!

i hated this movie!!!!!!!!! the family is rude and in each other's face all the time, and there was nothing funny or unique about it! nothing innapropriate; just a bad movie!
4

Posted on 07/25/08 by Anonymous Kid contributor, age 15

cute

very cute and heartwarming. dan is the ideal dad in the movie, even if his daughters don't always realize it. very safe, and a good movie to watch for bonding time between parents and children.
4


Posted on 07/11/08 by Brawl master Kid contributor, age 11

Good movie

Very funny, but gets a little wierd. Still it's totally worth watching!
5


Posted on 07/09/08 by lovem247 Kid contributor, age 15

worth your time

This movie is one of absolute favorites. Its a great story of a dad who has to raise 3 girls on his own. There are sad parts, funny parts, serious parts.Some parts were so funny they had me in tears and other parts were so sad it made you laugh Overall this movie is fantastic. The producer was able to pull of a fantastic movie without an excess of swearing( 2 words), sex ( there wasn't any). I recommend this movie to all you enjoy a good laugh every now and then:) It'll cheer ya up trust me :)
4

Posted on 06/30/08 by Anonymous Kid contributor, age 16

Could have been PG

The review said the f bomb was used once. I did not hear it used. if it was it was whispered under someone's breath. And I didn't hear the d word either. Usually i flinch when I hear bad language. Sorry I'm a prude. But I think it could have been rated PG. Take out the 2 words I didn't hear and Marie's bare back (OMG how awful, kids see worse on ABC Family) and this movie could be a solid PG. Loved it anyway. Big 8 Simple Rules fan so i liked this too.
5


Posted on 06/26/08 by crazyinlove13 Kid contributor, age 12

I wanted to cry but kept laughing...

I went to see this movie with my bf for our first date... i teared up a little but could not stop laughing... my bf and i were talking about it afterwards and we bot thougt it could have been funnier but i was glad it wasn't... i reated it iffy on the ex part because of the shower thing... the thing i liked most about this movie ws that lots of dads around the world would things dan(steve carrel) did in this movie so it was easy to relate to... I loved it mainly just because my bf and i are still dating after 10 months which means something clicked on that first date...
4

Posted on 06/25/08 by Anonymous Kid contributor, age 14

ha.ha.

pretty good.
3


Posted on 06/08/08 by NCsuperstar10 Kid contributor, age 11

A Good Movie But Is a Little Boring

It is a good movie but in some parts i wanted to snore!
4


Posted on 04/19/08 by pitpens9091 Adult contributor

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Adult Reviews

There are 8 reviews.

4


Posted on 04/19/08 by pitpens9091 Adult contributor
4

Posted on 01/13/08 by Anonymous Adult contributor

Fabulous

Lovely Film.
3


Posted on 01/09/08 by kvance Adult contributor

lesson in adult imperfection

I think this movie is very good for kids 10 and up. As for the sexual innuendos, there is nothing these kids have not seen already. In particular, the movie shows that parents have their own problems and that life does not always revolve around the kids. This is why adult movies can sometimes be good for kids to watch with a parent. Movies designed for younger kids usually revolve around kids thus giving them a distorted view of adults.
5

Posted on 11/17/07 by Anonymous Adult contributor

wonderful adult comedy without raunch

If you want to get in a lot of laughs without having to squirm because of the vulgarity or crudeness, then this film is for you!!! This is a lovely older teen / adult comedy that is full of terrific laughs and lots of real emotion. You will burst out laughing and cry, all in the same film. It's not a chic flick. Go see this movie!
3


Posted on 11/16/07 by bethinva Adult contributor

Dan's Fantasy LIfe

As a native New Englander and fan of Steve Carell (who's also a New Englander, BTW), I thoroughly enjoyed seeing Steve against the backdrop of New England scenery and interiors. (They got those right: we native New Englanders are a practical, non-ostentatious lot, even when we have money.) Some of the movie made me laugh; some of it made me cry. But, disappointingly, most of it made me roll my eyes. Contrary to its title, the film is a far-fetched fantasy about a middle-aged widower meeting a soul mate at his family reunion. In at least my real life, most 40-something fathers of 3 are not treated like children by their 60-something parents. Most children aren't wiser than their parents, nor do they instantly bond with a stranger at a family reunion. Most husbands don't happily help their wives make dinner and do the laundry (sorry, it's true). Most extended families don't put on a talent show, have a crossword puzzle solving contest, do aerobics together in the yard, and travel in a large pack to the bowling alley to find a family member--at least not all in one weekend! ;) And, sadly, most people don't meet their soul mates while running out for the morning papers--and then immediately pour our their hearts to them over breakfast. We may all want these things to be true, but they're not. So, if you're looking for an escape from reality--look no further--but don't expect to come away from this movie with any profound insights about the real human condition.
4


Posted on 11/02/07 by LisaHopes Adult contributor

I almost split my seams laughing so hard!

Finally a comedy that lived up to my expectations. I almost split my seams laughing so hard! My girlfriend and I went to a Sunday matinee and really enjoyed it. Yes, some parts are typical "Hollywood" scenes, but Steve Carrell is so funny and in times like ours, who doesn't need a good laugh?
2


Posted on 10/27/07 by durban1 Adult contributor

Good grief

Maybe it was the great reviews I saw that built me up...at any rate, my wife and I were both disappointed. The movie, while it had a few good scenes, generally seemed contrived, predictable, and "good grief, they're not really doing that/saying that, are they?" eye-rolling scenes. I'm surprised the "heroine" wasn't an astronaut in addition to all her other attributes. Can't they EVER make a (relatively) clean movie that's actually good?
5


Posted on 10/26/07 by cpayneaz Adult contributor

Thank you for the smile

This anfilm made me smile and laugh. A human story portrayed quite nicely by the whole cast. I felt like I was living life with them and I was at my family reunion. Thank you for that warm feeling. I will recommend this film to all I meet.
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Kids Reviews

There are 19 reviews.

4


Posted on 11/10/08 by i love dogs Kid contributor, age 15

This movie was very heart-warming

Good for ages 10+ -i love dogs
1


Posted on 11/09/08 by oniongirl Kid contributor, age 12

TERRIBLE!

i hated this movie!!!!!!!!! the family is rude and in each other's face all the time, and there was nothing funny or unique about it! nothing innapropriate; just a bad movie!
4

Posted on 07/25/08 by Anonymous Kid contributor, age 15

cute

very cute and heartwarming. dan is the ideal dad in the movie, even if his daughters don't always realize it. very safe, and a good movie to watch for bonding time between parents and children.
4


Posted on 07/11/08 by Brawl master Kid contributor, age 11

Good movie

Very funny, but gets a little wierd. Still it's totally worth watching!
5


Posted on 07/09/08 by lovem247 Kid contributor, age 15

worth your time

This movie is one of absolute favorites. Its a great story of a dad who has to raise 3 girls on his own. There are sad parts, funny parts, serious parts.Some parts were so funny they had me in tears and other parts were so sad it made you laugh Overall this movie is fantastic. The producer was able to pull of a fantastic movie without an excess of swearing( 2 words), sex ( there wasn't any). I recommend this movie to all you enjoy a good laugh every now and then:) It'll cheer ya up trust me :)
4

Posted on 06/30/08 by Anonymous Kid contributor, age 16

Could have been PG

The review said the f bomb was used once. I did not hear it used. if it was it was whispered under someone's breath. And I didn't hear the d word either. Usually i flinch when I hear bad language. Sorry I'm a prude. But I think it could have been rated PG. Take out the 2 words I didn't hear and Marie's bare back (OMG how awful, kids see worse on ABC Family) and this movie could be a solid PG. Loved it anyway. Big 8 Simple Rules fan so i liked this too.
5


Posted on 06/26/08 by crazyinlove13 Kid contributor, age 12

I wanted to cry but kept laughing...

I went to see this movie with my bf for our first date... i teared up a little but could not stop laughing... my bf and i were talking about it afterwards and we bot thougt it could have been funnier but i was glad it wasn't... i reated it iffy on the ex part because of the shower thing... the thing i liked most about this movie ws that lots of dads around the world would things dan(steve carrel) did in this movie so it was easy to relate to... I loved it mainly just because my bf and i are still dating after 10 months which means something clicked on that first date...
4

Posted on 06/25/08 by Anonymous Kid contributor, age 14

ha.ha.

pretty good.
3


Posted on 06/08/08 by NCsuperstar10 Kid contributor, age 11

A Good Movie But Is a Little Boring

It is a good movie but in some parts i wanted to snore!
3


Posted on 04/07/08 by smada96 Kid contributor, age 11

I love Steve Carrel but this wasn't his best

Steve Carrel played a real life dad in this family comedy. The story was about a man who falls in love with his brothers sister. I found this movie could have been a little more funny. Not saying it wasn't funny. Anyone would enjoy this film, i certainly did.
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