Dan in Real Life (PG-13, 2007)

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Love hurts in predictable rom com. OK for teens.


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What parents need to know

Parents need to know that although this Steve Carell comedy is fairly tame overall, it does include some violence, innuendo, and other iffy behavior (Dan and Marie share a shower, they lie to Dan's family, and Dan flirts with Marie inappropriately in front of his whole family). Dan also gets a black eye and a broken nose and is in a minor car accident. A mother's death is mentioned, and a teenager lies to her father about dating a boy (he sneaks up to make out with her on the family vacation). One character makes jokes about "self-love" and "unclogging the pipes," which may lead tweens to ask about sex and masturbation. Language includes one use of "f--k."

Positive messages: Dan gets several tickets and has his license revoked for poor driving. He flirts with his brother's girlfriend. Dan and Marie lie about their attraction. The family makes up a song making fun of how a woman looked in grade school. Cara uses an anti-gay slur in passing. Eventually, Dan learns to be honest and trustworthy.
Violence: Some comic pratfalls, including Dan falling out a second-story window and getting hit in the face with a football. Mitch punches Dan. Dan backs into a police car.
Sex: Cara makes out with her boyfriend. Marie undresses and gets in the shower with a (clothed) Dan (only her bare shoulders are visible). Clay makes veiled references to masturbation. Dan and Marie kiss.
Language: One use each of "damn" and "f--k." Cara says something is "so queer."
Consumerism: Dan mentions the TV show Bonanza.
Drinking, drugs, & smoking: Some wine drinking by adults, but no one gets drunk.

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Talk to your kids
Families can talk about the difference between how love is portrayed in movies and how it is in real life. Why do you think so many movies pair depression and misery with love? Is it funny to watch romantic movies like that? Why or why not? How fun do you think it would be to actually be in a relationship like that? In this movie, Dan and Marie lie about their attraction and end up hurting a lot of people. Remind kids that anyone you have to hide or lie to your family about probably isn't the right person for you.

What's the story?

What's the story?
Four years after his beloved wife's death, newspaper columnist Dan (Steve Carell) is devoted to their three daughters, but the teen girls are quickly moving out of his control. Cara (Brittany Robertson) is in love for the first time and lies to her father about it, sneaking off to smooch her new fella. Parent-ified Jane (Alison Pill) is 17 and ready to drive, and Lilly (Marlene Lawston) is sick of being coddled. As Dan's father (John Mahoney) aptly remarks when Dan says his children hate him, "You must be doing something right." After arriving at his parents' home for a mythically happy family reunion, Dan meets and falls for Marie (Juliette Binoche). The problem? She's already spoken for -- by Dan's hyper, self-involved brother, Mitch (Dane Cook). Will Dan be able to keep his feelings to himself?

Is it any good?

Is it any good?
 
DAN IN REAL LIFE is a romantic comedy convinced that misery and self-abdication are the true signs of love. It's a typical movie message, but maybe not a good one for teens who already make a habit of dramatic suffering. So it's a good thing the movie is well-done and warm-hearted. Yes, it's predictable and unrealistic, but it aims for a kind of "human comedy," as Marie announces on first meeting Dan. The film does have other types of funny as well, including guffaw-worthy moments mostly surrounding some great lines your kids may end up repeating back to you.

Director Peter Hedges uses his cast to great effect: Cook stays occupied with outlandish songs and aerobics routines, and Carell hams it up dancing and gets in a few fun one-liners, too. The young actors all pull their own weight, and Mahoney and the renowned Dianne Wiest provide the perfect backdrop to the film as Dan's content parents. It may not exactly be real life, but Dan in Real Life is ultimately a fun way to spend two hours with your family.

Movie themes & details

Movie Details
Studio: Focus Features
Director: Peter Hedges
Cast: Dane Cook, Juliette Binoche, Steve Carell
Genre: Comedy
Run time: 110 minutes
Theatrical release: October 25, 2007
DVD release: March 10, 2008
MPAA Rating: PG-13
MPAA explanation: some innuendo.
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anonymous3333
teen, 18 years old
 
cute
very cute and heartwarming. dan is the ideal dad in the movie, even if his daughters don't always realize it. very safe, and a good movie to watch for bonding time between parents and children.

 
Thank you for the smile
This anfilm made me smile and laugh. A human story portrayed quite nicely by the whole cast. I felt like I was living life with them and I was at my family reunion. Thank you for that warm feeling. I will recommend this film to all I meet.

 
Steve Carrell in a good role. Shouldnt miss this Romance Comedy
It was a little slow to start but over all pretty good. My wife and I enjoyed it. Pretty good Romance comedy for your teens to adults.

 
"You...are a murder...of LOVE!!!!!!!!!!"
My daughter(a big Office fan)saw this movie at a rental place and we watched it together. It was funny and very, very sweet. I saw the end comming but it was a good comming. It leaves you with a warm feeling at the end.Plus the 1 f-bomb was hidden from us.

 
Fabulous
Lovely Film.

kvance
adult
 
lesson in adult imperfection
I think this movie is very good for kids 10 and up. As for the sexual innuendos, there is nothing these kids have not seen already. In particular, the movie shows that parents have their own problems and that life does not always revolve around the kids. This is why adult movies can sometimes be good for kids to watch with a parent. Movies designed for younger kids usually revolve around kids thus giving them a distorted view of adults.

 
I nearly teared up a few times but it was also funny
Unlike lots of movies this movie is actually about Real Life. It's about an average guy with average problems. It's a refreshing change from some other movies out there. For the most part it's a great family movie with decent messege although there are a few problems for younger kids. There are a few awkward situations. Sex is mentioned in different ways. Out of the few times that have to do with that most of them are things that little kids shouldn't hear but aren't bad for everyone else. There is only one part of the movie which really should not have been there. In other words, I would have felt awkward at that point if my female friend sitting next to me had been paying any attention to the movie at that moment.

 
I almost split my seams laughing so hard!
Finally a comedy that lived up to my expectations. I almost split my seams laughing so hard! My girlfriend and I went to a Sunday matinee and really enjoyed it. Yes, some parts are typical "Hollywood" scenes, but Steve Carrell is so funny and in times like ours, who doesn't need a good laugh?

 
Good fun for the family!
I saw this with some friends and we were laughing a majority of the movie. It's just funny. Probably the best "feel-good" movie since Little Miss Sunshine. I also don't understand why it was PG-13. I never heard anybody say "f--k".

lovealwayskelly
kid, 13 years old
 
This is HILARIOUS and barely deserves it's PG-13 rating.
Take away some language and it's be PG. I really love this movie. I saw it when I was 9 and it was totally fine.

 
Appropriate for all ages, better for 10 and over
This was a good movie. The overall message was good. The conflict resulting from the two brothers unwittingly falling for the same woman is a sophisticated subject for kids, but is tastefully handled. Their is a lot of humor and family fun and togetherness in the movie. Some teen rebellion between the main character who is an overprotective widow and his teenage daughters. The movie depicts positive family relationships that in the end are what help to reslove the conflict.

 
wonderful adult comedy without raunch
If you want to get in a lot of laughs without having to squirm because of the vulgarity or crudeness, then this film is for you!!! This is a lovely older teen / adult comedy that is full of terrific laughs and lots of real emotion. You will burst out laughing and cry, all in the same film. It's not a chic flick. Go see this movie!

holly525
teen, 16 years old
 
Great Family Movie
Love it! I think it's good for any age with a little editing by parents. Love the family relationships in it.

Plague
parent
 
Dan in Real Life
One of the greatest rom coms i've seen in a long time. Very funny and touching at the same time.

 
Could have been PG
The review said the f bomb was used once. I did not hear it used. if it was it was whispered under someone's breath. And I didn't hear the d word either. Usually i flinch when I hear bad language. Sorry I'm a prude. But I think it could have been rated PG. Take out the 2 words I didn't hear and Marie's bare back (OMG how awful, kids see worse on ABC Family) and this movie could be a solid PG. Loved it anyway. Big 8 Simple Rules fan so i liked this too.

 
Dan's Fantasy LIfe
As a native New Englander and fan of Steve Carell (who's also a New Englander, BTW), I thoroughly enjoyed seeing Steve against the backdrop of New England scenery and interiors. (They got those right: we native New Englanders are a practical, non-ostentatious lot, even when we have money.) Some of the movie made me laugh; some of it made me cry. But, disappointingly, most of it made me roll my eyes. Contrary to its title, the film is a far-fetched fantasy about a middle-aged widower meeting a soul mate at his family reunion. In at least my real life, most 40-something fathers of 3 are not treated like children by their 60-something parents. Most children aren't wiser than their parents, nor do they instantly bond with a stranger at a family reunion. Most husbands don't happily help their wives make dinner and do the laundry (sorry, it's true). Most extended families don't put on a talent show, have a crossword puzzle solving contest, do aerobics together in the yard, and travel in a large pack to the bowling alley to find a family member--at least not all in one weekend! ;) And, sadly, most people don't meet their soul mates while running out for the morning papers--and then immediately pour our their hearts to them over breakfast. We may all want these things to be true, but they're not. So, if you're looking for an escape from reality--look no further--but don't expect to come away from this movie with any profound insights about the real human condition.

durban1
adult
 
Good grief
Maybe it was the great reviews I saw that built me up...at any rate, my wife and I were both disappointed. The movie, while it had a few good scenes, generally seemed contrived, predictable, and "good grief, they're not really doing that/saying that, are they?" eye-rolling scenes. I'm surprised the "heroine" wasn't an astronaut in addition to all her other attributes. Can't they EVER make a (relatively) clean movie that's actually good?

Christopher K
teen, 16 years old
 
"This corn is like an angel."
At first glance this may seem just like the typical film portraying a charming father, his 1-3 children, and the effort to return to normal after the death of a much-loved mother--the father insisting all the while that true love only happens once, while the forces of love act on him and eventually convince him to let go of the past and focus on the future. Actually, that's exactly what this film is. But a combination of Steve Carrell's hilarious performance, a great cast, and a soundtrack filled with music by Norwegian singer/songwriter Sondre Lerche manage to make this a successful film. Steve Carrell is funny in a quieter, more subtle way than he is in his other movies, and the result is that he has no trouble fitting right into this family-oriented romantic comedy, which is not his typical film. Yes, it's predictable, but it's also heart-warming and filled with laugh-out-loud moments. Sometimes there's nothing more refreshing than a movie like Dan in Real Life, which ends just how you think it should end, although with surprises along the way.

EricCarrRulez
teen, 14 years old
 
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