The Perfect Man (PG, 2005)

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Lighthearted comedy deals with serious issues.


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What parents need to know

Parents need to know that this movie is premised on the idea that a daughter lies to her mother, an ostensible shortcut to making them both feel better. After she first makes up "the perfect man," Holly finds she has to continue the lies, to the point that she and her mother exchange emails, with Holly posing as the idealized lover; this makes for some sweet conversations about dreams and goals, but also an awkward situation for adults in the audience, as parent and child are, after all, flirting. This movie includes briefly strained family relationships, as mother and daughter argue, and mother tells the story of the daughter's missing father (though she oddly never discusses the birth circumstances of a second, seven-year-old daughter). This movie also includes repeated references to sexual desire and play, primarily in the form of a gay bartender who makes wisecracks about various men. There are also jokes about breasts and 5th graders losing their virginity.

Positive messages: Daughter lies to her mother throughout, learns a lesson.
Violence: Not applicable.
Sex: Male bartender flirts with men. Jokes about breasts and 5th graders losing their virginity.
Language: Not applicable.
Consumerism: Focus on restaurant business; Mac computers figure prominently.
Drinking, drugs, & smoking: Not applicable.

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Families can talk about the difficult relationship between mother and child, as each wants to support the other, but neither is able to speak openly at first. How might open communication about basic concerns (daughter's upset by the family's repeated moves, mother's worry about being single) resolve tensions between them? How does the Internet/email both allow communication and limit it? How does the daughter's budding romance complicate her concerns for her mother and sister's well-being?

What's the story?

What's the story?
THE PERFECT MAN centers on 16-year-old Holly (Hilary Duff), who worries that her mom, a baker named Jean (Heather Locklear), keeps moving their family from place to place. Apparently, mom only dates louses and cheats, whom she escapes by literally running away. When they move to New York City, Holly devises a plan to keep the family in place: she invents a "perfect man," based in part on romantic advice she solicits from Ben (Chris Noth), a handsome restaurateur who also happens to be the uncle to her new best friend Amy (Vanessa Lengies). Soon Holly is sending her mom flowers and writing her letters from the made up "Ben" to distract her from lumpy, well-meaning bread-baker Lenny (Mike O'Malley). Things get complicated when Jean finds out that Holly is having her own romantic troubles with a nice boy and comic book artist named Adam (Ben Feldman), and writes him emails while pretending to be Holly. The mixed-up identities are eventually sorted out, but not before some difficulties arise and both Jean and Holly endure some sadness and disappointment in one another.

Is it any good?

Is it any good?
 
A mostly lighthearted, double-layered romantic comedy that deals with serious issues, The Perfect Manresembles previous Hilary Duff movies in tone and resolution. To grant Holly some space to express herself, the movie uses the Internet: she keeps a blog (called "Girl on the Move") and starts writing emails to Jean, supposedly from "Ben." This leads to a partly comic, partly strange situation where she's essentially flirting with her mother. While kids won't likely think much of this, the visualization of the idea -- mother and daughter at their computer screens, writing romantic notes to one another -- is at least odd.

Movie themes & details

Movie Details
Studio: Universal Pictures
Director: Mark Rosman
Cast: Heather Locklear, Hilary Duff
Genre: Comedy
Run time: 96 minutes
Theatrical release: June 17, 2005
DVD release: November 1, 2005
MPAA Rating: PG
MPAA explanation: some mildly suggestive content

This review was written by Cynthia Fuchs
 
 

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EricaKnowsBest:)
kid, 11 years old
 
It was ok...
Eh, ok? 6+.

Sillver
kid, 13 years old
 
I can't describe how awesome this movie is!! Its great. This review sucks, though. That's what I don't really like about this site, some of the reviewers only point out 'bad things' and never focus on the good things. Like- how this movie encourages woman to believe in themselves, and that they don't need a man to do that. And she said SKIN virginity. Ugg.

ht3696
teen, 15 years old
 
Great Movie for the Family.
Best Movie Ever! Great For The Whole Family! (: ?

heymondayfan
teen, 16 years old
 
cheesy but cute
its a cute movie for tweens, but its kind of stupid at the same time lol. good for when you're bored, i suppose.

 
Hilary Duff you rock!
this is a really good movie Hilary Duff i think she does a great job as a teenage girl trying to please her mother and make her happy for well The Perfect Man this is a splendid movie way to go Hilary!

lozzie98
kid, 13 years old
 
it's an awesome movie

tjstar
teen, 14 years old
 
It shows true relations ships between adults (and younger people)

Liz Perle
parent of 17 and 19 year old
 

jay5
kid, 13 years old
 
A love comedy
Looking for the perfect movie I think you have found it.Be sure to get it before some one else takes it.You will fall in love with it*e on dont turn it down it is waiting for you to pick it up.Be sure to buy it on dvd it is realy good you will love it.

Hannah K.
teen, 18 years old
 
A Really Good Movie
This was a really good movie. It says the daughter flirts with her mother but when they IM each other it's nothing bad and I didn't see it as flirting. I think this would be a good movie for a mother and daughter to watch. I loved it. See it for yourself it was really good.

Johanjwalker
teen, 18 years old
 
Its OK, better than most chick flicks, but I still didn't enjoy it.
Aghhh! Why do people even make movies like this? Just to get a buck to buy a soda I guess. I didn't like this movie very much, but it was better than most chick flicks. Parents, listen up: Most girls will want to see this eventually. This is OK for 11 and up, but if you know your kid, then you be the judge. It has some jokes about kids losing their virginity, and there is some kissing and its all about a woman who is trying to find a husband and her daughter who lies to her the whole time trying to make her happy by creating an imaginary "Perfect Man". Boooo!!! Kids will eat it up, but I will never like it.

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