The Secret Life of Bees (PG-13, 2008)

common sense media says

1960s-set family drama tackles weighty issues.


parents & educators say
  • 33% say there are positive messages

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that this emotional, 1960s-set drama includes multiple scenes of a man reacting violently toward his wife and daughter. The child witnesses her father's assault on her mother (resulting in off-camera gunshots and death); as a young teen, the same child is the victim of heartless physical and mental punishment. The unexpected discovery of a beloved character's dead body is intense and may be disturbing to some young viewers. African-American characters suffer at the hands of prejudiced white Southerners in many scenes. Racial hatred is illustrated by ugly name-calling (including use of the "N" word) and two beatings. But in spite of all of the above, the filmmakers don't exploit or maximize the action. They show only as much as necessary to provide the desired impact.

Positive messages: The ugly nature of racial prejudice is depicted several times. Some white residents of "The South" in 1964 are shown to be inhumane and brutal, their actions based on ignorance and irrational fear. A violent, cruel husband/father ultimately pays the price for his behavior.
Violence: An abusive husband assaults his wife (repeated in flashback), forcefully slaps a teen, and is menacing and threatening in many scenes. Gunshots are fired, resulting in an off-camera death. Racial intimidation results in severe physical beatings of two African-American characters. A dead body is revealed in an intensely emotional scene.
Sex: Gentle kissing and embracing between two adults on several occasions; teens share one innocent kiss.
Language: Fairly minimal mild cursing: "goddammit," "damn it to hell," "bitch," "bust his ass." Multiple uses of racial epithets, including the "N" word, used to humiliate and threaten African-American characters.
Consumerism: Wonder Bread, Coca-Cola.
Drinking, drugs, & smoking: A father drinks beer in one scene, whiskey in another.

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Families can talk about the movie's messages. More than 40 years have passed since the events in the film took place. How have racial politics changed? How haven't they? Families can also discuss what Lily was looking for when she left home. Why did she take Rosaleen with her? How did Lily's innocent acceptance of her African-American friends get them in trouble? Do the filmmakers show that Lily's father learned a lesson? Parents and teens who've read the book the movie is based on can compare and contrast the two. Which do you like better? Why?

What's the story?

What's the story?
Running from a cruel and ignorant father -- as well as the uncertainty and guilt surrounding the death of her mother years earlier -- 14-year-old Lily Owens (Dakota Fanning) rescues Rosaleen (Jennifer Hudson), a nanny who's become a fugitive, and sets out on a journey to find a place for herself in the world, as well as answers to questions about her mother's love. It's South Carolina in 1964: The president has just signed landmark Civil Rights legislation, and racial tensions are running high. Guided by some of Lily's mother's mementos, Lily and Rosaleen find their way to the home of the Boatwrights, a family of African-American women who run a thriving honey farm. Matriarch August Boatwright (Queen Latifah), takes the runaways in and, along with an assorted group of family and friends, provides them with a home, a heart, and answers.

Is it any good?

Is it any good?
 
Director/writer Gina Prince-Bythewood is nothing if not earnest in her attempt to bring Sue Monk Kidd's heartwarming novel to the screen. The visuals in THE SECRET LIFE OF BEES pay tribute to the beauty of the South, its warm "honey" tones and thick, sweet air. The music is particularly wonderful and enriches the film's emotional core.

But it's not a fully successful dramatization because the movie's heroes are almost all saintly and perfect, speaking in timeless homilies and maxims. The villains, on the other hand, are unrelentingly bad. Only Lily has the nuance of character that makes a movie more a work of art than a lesson to be learned.

Movie themes & details

Movie Details
Studio: Fox Searchlight
Director: Gina Prince-Bythewood
Cast: Dakota Fanning, Jennifer Hudson, Queen Latifah
Genre: Drama
Run time: 110 minutes
Theatrical release: October 16, 2008
DVD release: February 3, 2009
MPAA Rating: PG-13
MPAA explanation: thematic material and some violence.
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Based on 3 parent & educator reviews:
  • 33% say there are positive messages

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Very emotional...
One of my favorite movies! It's extremely emotional & intense, but realistic which is refreshing. Dakota Fanning is excellent. I love Alicia Keys! I think the storyline is too powerful for young ones, the violence bothered me somewhat & the journey to find more about her mother was very sad & depressing. The whole concept of race/racism was a lot to breathe in but that's why this film is so great. Even older adults will cry, so make sure you have extra kleenex around! I rate this 5/5 stars.

Karluveva13
teen, 14 years old
 
The Secret Life of Bees is a movie thta will make you cry and laugh.It shows how you have to stick together and never turn away from family.

iluvzmoosyk
teen, 16 years old
 
It was a very touching movie that left me teary-eyed
This movie takes place in the time of unequal rights for colored people. It is about a girl named Lily who runs away from her neglecting father to find out the truth about her dead mother. She travels with her house-keeper, a black woman named Rosalina, and finds a link between a family of black woman and what she is looking for. They take her in and care for her and Rosalina. This is a very touching movie that I recommend for all people 11 and up. A must see. Hope my review helps you! -i love dogs

EmilyB123
teen, 15 years old
 
I really liked this movie and it delivered a powerful message at the end. Good acting too

ParamoreFan09
teen, 15 years old
 
This site doesn't have the book. Only the movie.
I'm reading the BOOK right now. WHY DOESN'T THIS SITE HAVE THE BOOK?! ONLY THE MOVIE! That's sad. The book has language, sex, and suicide. But the characters are not afraid to stand up for what they believe in. The BOOK is really good.

calliegallie2
teen, 15 years old
 
The secret like of this review.
Well I loved this movie. I thought it was al little sad because someone does kill them selves. There is just a gentle kissing and there is some abuse. Also this is when there was segregation in it so that isn't a positive message.

Lupinta
kid, 11 years old
 
Older kids
Dakota Fanning is the main character she goes to a house and learns a lot of life lessons.

pink_penguin_g ...
kid, 12 years old
 
Iffy for kids, better for young adults.
I am a kid ten years old, and maybe you think I shouldn't have seen it. But I read the book and saw the movie and I think they were both copacetic for kids 12+. There is a lot of violence, especially to African Americans, but not too graphic. There is cussing, words really NO ONE should use, but definitely not young adults or children. Lily, the main character, kisses a black boy once, and June and her boyfriend kiss a lot, but nothing more then that. Lily is treated badly, and she has to sit on grits, so her knees have a little blood on them but not a lot. On the whole, I recommend this movie for 12+ and maybe if a parent is with them, 10 is the youngest. You choose. Great movie, great book (by Sue Monk Kidd)!

MillyMolly
teen, 15 years old
 
Great Acting
This is a great movie, it teaches valuable lessons, and it shows what happened in those days. I cried so much at this movie, but it was great acting :)

taylorlaunterluver
teen, 14 years old
 
a sad but learning story
the positive message iz that every little thing can b loved

bubbles323232
teen, 14 years old
 

angel6757
teen, 14 years old
 
Great movie with mature themes
Secret Life Of Bees is a very good movie starring Dakota Fanning. The movie is about a 14 year old girl who is haunted by the memorie of when she accidently killed her mother when she was four. She also has a very abusive father. Finnally she thinks her dad has crossed the line with saying and doing bad things to her. So she runs away and takes an older family memeber with her. soon they find a place to stay with a kind family who makes honey and works with bees. Lilly the 14 year old girl lies and doesent tell them why she really needs a place to stay. But as lilly becomes closer and closer to the family through love, honey, friendship, tragedies, and bees she has second thoughts about keeping everything about her life a secret from them. The movie is very sad and somewhat ilont. But secret life of bees i recomend for all kids 12 and up. But keep in mind the movie does have mature themes such as: Physical abuse, death, tragedies, and more....

9hemmatip
teen, 14 years old
 
Great but violent movie that may disturb younger children. But good for 12+

ResidentEvilPotter
teen, 13 years old
 
Wonderful, Heartfelt, Touching Story - Does the Book Some Justice
Amazing movie. Some racial issues, including a character being falsely accused and beaten. The most intense scene of the movie is when one of the characters commits suicide. You see her body and the reaction of all the characters. It's very sad and has an effect for pretty much the remainder of the movie. I highly recommend you give it a chance.

 
Great Movie with a great sense of reality

ClearastheSea
teen, 16 years old
 
Perfect for 13+
This movie is an exellent film representation of the book by the same name by Sue Monk Kidd. The movie portrays important issues like racial prejudice, bad family situations, and suicide, while keeping an overall positive message of finding yourself and beauty in unexpected places. Lily, the main character, finds a true family in the beekeeping Boatwright sisters, and learns much about herself and that 'she is enough.'

emniki422
kid, 12 years old
 
The Secret Life of Bees was a really great movie. The scenes with Lily's abusive father are pretty scary, but not too horrible. Also, a woman's dead body is revealed, in an extremely sad scene. There are also fighting. There is some mild curses, and the N word is targeted to hurt African Americans (this movie takes place in the 60's). This movie teaches a very valuable lesson of friendship and love. Lily's father is a terrible role model, but there are many good ones, like August. All in all, I would really recommend The Secret Life of Bees.

skyrebel
teen, 15 years old
 
Awesome movie
This movie is extremely powerful. It shows viewers the effects of racial discrimination in the 1960s. the leading female roles are very strong, but why in the world are most of of them singers? Jennifer Hudson, Alicia Keys, even Queen Latifah did some rap back in the day. And they got Sophie Okonedo to play Miss May. And she's a singer. Mind you, they are all strong women. But overall, an extremely inspirational movie. p.s Zach and Lily's kiss was so adorable!!!

Dripping love
teen, 16 years old
 
I loved it but think its to intense for young crowds

shanno15
teen, 16 years old
 
My review
This movie is sad,rascist,and abusive. The father abused his wife, and his daughter. The daughter accidently kills her mother when she was little with a gun. A girl May is shown drowned in a lake, and dead. A colored woman is beaten, and so is a colored man.

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