Well, first off, this is a war movie, so you should expect violence and language to be present, and for the most part, considering the amount of violence in this movie, most of it is not over the top graphic or disturbing. There are a few moments where it does become that way however, such as when a man is burned alive and it shows most of his skin being burned. There is also a lot of blood in this movie, but it's not over the top, just present. But it is not mindless violence either. This film shows how much of a tragedy war is, on both sides not just on the American side. The language is present, with several uses of f-ck, a dozen or so sh-ts, and a mild spattering of b-tch,b-stard, and 1 or 2 uses of p-ssy. This film is also unite emotional and sad, with an excellent performance by Mel Gisbon. His character, Hal Moore, is the embodiment of what a good leader should be. He is the "first on the field and the last off of it", refusing to leave his men and acting bravely to protect them and serve his country. This film also has many good messages about courage, selflessness, and patriotism. It's up to each parent to decide if your kid can handle the sometimes graphic violence and the language. If they can, this is an amazing movie I recommend it.