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It's Not Me, It's You

(2009, Pop, by Lily Allen, Label: Capitol)
  • Is it age appropriate?

    About our ratings

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    Not age appropriate for kids under 13, age appropriate for kids over 15; suggested age 16.
  • Is it any good?

    5.0
  • Common Sense says

    Excellent singer-songwriter delves into mature topics.

Why We Rated This on for Ages 16 and Up

The good stuff

  • Messages:

    Sometimes the subject matter is mature -- sexual frustration, casual sex, etc. -- but Allen usually supplies a well balanced look at the subject matter and provides social commentary on many issues. "it's sad but it's true how society says, her life is already over, there's nothing to do and there's nothing to say, 'til the man of her dreams comes along, picks her up and puts her over his shoulder."
 

What to watch out for

  • Violence:

    Not an issue.
  • Sex:

    On "Not Fair" Allen sings about a sexually frustrating relationship in great detail: "There's just one thing that's getting in the way, when we go up to bed you're just no good, its such a shame...And then you make this noise and it's apparent it's all over...Oh I lie here in the wet patch In the middle of the bed, I'm feeling pretty damn hard done...I spent ages giving head." Many of the other songs discuss various aspects of sex, like booty calls and affairs.
  • Language:

    The word s--t is bandied about through several of the songs. In the song "F--k You" she drops the F-bomb a total of 27 times. But in her defense, the song is about dissing people who hate others based on race or sexual orientation.
  • Consumerism:

    Allen satirically discusses consumer culture on "The Fear:" and I am a weapon of massive consumption, and it's not my fault it's how I'm programmed to function."
  • Drinking, drugs, & smoking:

    "Everyone's On It" discusses drug use with Allen's trademark nonchalance. "I'm not try'na say that I'm smelling of roses, but when will we tire of putting s--t up our noses." And this, on the prevalence of prescription drugs: "From grown politicians, to young adolescents, prescribing themselves anti-depressants, How can we start to tackle the problem, if you don't put your hands up, and admit that you're on them?"
 

What Parents Need to Know

About It's Not Me, It's You

Parents need to know that this album is full of smart observations that most young people, particularly girls, will identify with. However, Allen covers some mature topics, especially when it comes to sex. She talks about one-night stands, selfish lovers, and using men for sex.

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Families Can Talk About

  • Families can talk about how Lily Allen differs from other female pop singers like Britney Spears or Lady GaGa. How does Allen discuss topics of sexuality differently than other pop divas? Do you think Allen rebels against certain pop music conventions or do you think she fits in with what's expected of female singers?

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  1. I rate this title iffy for age 12 and give it 5.0
    My concerns are:
    • Inappropriate language
    • Negative message
    • Negative role models

    Fantastic album, better then the first. Obviously, language is an issue (eg. F--K YOU) and the content is also inappropriate, but she harnesses this to create a catchy tune that has you singing along to her outrageous lyrics. What drives me insane is where music stations change the lyrics to censor out the swear words (eg. F--K YOU). The whole song is inappropriate, so why bother?!

  2. Teen Reviewer Age 14
    Lives in Florida
    I rate this title on for age 15 and give it 3.0
    My concerns are:
    • Inappropriate sexual content
    • Inappropriate language
    • Drinking, smoking, or drug use
    • Negative message

    its average.

  3. I rate this title on for age 10 and give it 5.0
    My concerns are:
    • Inappropriate language

    Most amazing album this year!

    Amazing album that is ruined by Lily's constant swearing. I love the song f--- you but it's not really acceptable to say it 27 times. I think her songs are amazing but the languge is sometimes too much

  4. Kid Reviewer Age 12
    Lives in Pennsylvania
    I rate this title on for age 13 and give it 5.0
    My concerns are:
    • Inappropriate language

    • My highlights are:
    • Positive messages
    • Good role models

  5. Teen Reviewer Age 15
    Lives in Washington
    I rate this title off for age 17 and give it 2.0
    My concerns are:
    • Inappropriate sexual content
    • Inappropriate language

    Really not appropriate

    Okay, so I actually haven't listened to this cd, but I am basing my review on the one from Pluggedinonline.com. (Thanks guys!) Honestly, I don't think hearing the f-word repeated obsessively is really appropriate for anyone! The fame is a good song, though it can be taken out of context and be considered bad too!

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